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Meet difficulties - perhaps Clubs are the answer?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I seem to be having trouble meeting people. Either people will chat quite happily on here until you suggest meeting, or at the last minute they cancel, or something stops things from happening. Is this normal, or am I just not good enough??

I'm beginning to think that La Chambre is the only way forward. No fannying about with emails/text/phone calls.

Get in, get on, get down, get off, get up, get dressed, get out, and if you find a better way pick up the phone and shout!!

(Lyrics by my favourite favourite 80's star)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why am i thinking "Yuck"?

People as objects. No need to bother with normal human contact. Lovely approach to fellow human beings.

OP, have you had as much difficulty meeting people outside the scene?

If so, your prospects are bleak. If not maybe the scene is not for you?

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By *mm_n_ZedCouple
over a year ago

Fareham


"Why am i thinking "Yuck"?

People as objects. No need to bother with normal human contact. Lovely approach to fellow human beings.

OP, have you had as much difficulty meeting people outside the scene?

If so, your prospects are bleak. If not maybe the scene is not for you?"

Playing in clubs can be as impersonal or as intimate as you want it to be. There's no prescriptive 'way' of playing at a club. Some like anonymous group sex, others like a 1-2-1 in a private room. It's a bit unfair to generalise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I seem to be having trouble meeting people. Either people will chat quite happily on here until you suggest meeting, or at the last minute they cancel, or something stops things from happening. Is this normal, or am I just not good enough??

I'm beginning to think that La Chambre is the only way forward. No fannying about with emails/text/phone calls.

Get in, get on, get down, get off, get up, get dressed, get out, and if you find a better way pick up the phone and shout!!

(Lyrics by my favourite favourite 80's star)

"

Try it clubs work well when they have the right people in pick the right night for you both though.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Why am i thinking "Yuck"?

People as objects. No need to bother with normal human contact. Lovely approach to fellow human beings.

OP, have you had as much difficulty meeting people outside the scene?

If so, your prospects are bleak. If not maybe the scene is not for you?"

I was under the impression that true swingers do not judge each other for their individual fetish or "thing" and I feel you have judged me by your own standards because my thing is different to yours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I'm guessing you're not actually a couple, as you seem to be using the pronoun "I" all the way through that post.

In which case that is why you would be having trouble meeting.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So I'm guessing you're not actually a couple, as you seem to be using the pronoun "I" all the way through that post.

In which case that is why you would be having trouble meeting."

I'm married, we meet together and I meet alone, it says so in my profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I'm guessing you're not actually a couple, as you seem to be using the pronoun "I" all the way through that post.

In which case that is why you would be having trouble meeting.

I'm married, we meet together and I meet alone, it says so in my profile."

So here's the skinny..

A lot of guys won't go to swingers clubs due to prohibitive cost. Also, very few of the single guys on here are actually single so won't want to be seen out socially with a couple. And of those that truly are single, very few can be arsed to go to the immense effort it takes to actually converse with a woman. They just want a screw-and-go. So your pool of guys is actually quite small.

There's probably also the fear with the hetero guys that you'll want to introduce your cross dressing hubby into the mix, which scares them off.

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