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Singles frowned upon at swingers clubs?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I've not been to one yet but am interested to go to a swingers club but have read in a few places single males are frowned upon and not treated the same as couples at swingers clubs. Is this true?

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

by some yes, and depends how you interact...we cant win everyone over

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I think you should visit one and make your own mind up as realistically in my opinion, its more about the behaviour of a single male

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Yer I have read it's about behaviour but what are the main doos and donts?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yer I have read it's about behaviour but what are the main doos and donts? "

no means no...and no..anything else should be discussed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all , we love meeting single guys in clubs .

Just be yourself , and behave in a non pushy way . There are plenty like us , and single girls always looking for single guys

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Anything else should be discussed?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Not at all , we love meeting single guys in clubs .

Just be yourself , and behave in a non pushy way . There are plenty like us , and single girls always looking for single guys "

Thanks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anything else should be discussed?"

well everyone is different...one might not want kissing, etc etc...you cant treat everyone exactly the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yer I have read it's about behaviour but what are the main doos and donts? "

When you approach someone to ask if you can join in, if they say no, thank them and walk away. And ALWAYS speak to a couple not one half of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anything else should be discussed?"

if invited to play find out how far they are willing to let you play,, and always ask to to touch etc

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Anything else should be discussed?

if invited to play find out how far they are willing to let you play,, and always ask to to touch etc "

If they invite me to play surely they will want me to touch? Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging clubs are no different than any other place you would socially interact with other adults...!!

Treat people how you would like to be treated yourself, trying to hard makes people look desperate.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yer I have read it's about behaviour but what are the main doos and donts?

When you approach someone to ask if you can join in, if they say no, thank them and walk away. And ALWAYS speak to a couple not one half of them "

Good advice thank you

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

A lot of it is just common sense. Treat it like the vanilla world:

Don't touch without an invitation.

Don't invade someone's play space without an invitation.

If you've been told no, leave it at that, thank them and either take a step back or walk away (dont be one of those guys who then attempts to wank over them or follow them around hoping they'll change their mind).

Speak to both halves of couples, not just one.

And just smile, be polite and talk how you normally would. Not everything has to be sex-related ALL the time. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go on a night that allows single men and as a general rule of thumb the couples there are open to meeting single guys. Couples that aren't interested will tend to go on couples only nights.

Beyond that it's down to how you interact on the night most of which is common sense.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A lot of it is just common sense. Treat it like the vanilla world:

Don't touch without an invitation.

Don't invade someone's play space without an invitation.

If you've been told no, leave it at that, thank them and either take a step back or walk away (dont be one of those guys who then attempts to wank over them or follow them around hoping they'll change their mind).

Speak to both halves of couples, not just one.

And just smile, be polite and talk how you normally would. Not everything has to be sex-related ALL the time. x"

Thank you

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By *radleyandRavenCouple
over a year ago

Herts

Btw, I think I'm in love with your hairy chest, lol.

- Amy. x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Go on a night that allows single men and as a general rule of thumb the couples there are open to meeting single guys. Couples that aren't interested will tend to go on couples only nights.

Beyond that it's down to how you interact on the night most of which is common sense."

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Btw, I think I'm in love with your hairy chest, lol.

- Amy. x"

Haha you can have it you want :p xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't wank under your towel and don't do drive by groping.

Be sociable and flex a little in the corner. Also do some push ups as many as you can! It impresses us when we see a man who can push up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't wank under your towel and don't do drive by groping.

Be sociable and flex a little in the corner. Also do some push ups as many as you can! It impresses us when we see a man who can push up. "

Seriously? Just start doing a mini work out? Xxx

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

And don't join a conga line.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"And don't join a conga line."

Why not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't wank under your towel and don't do drive by groping.

Be sociable and flex a little in the corner. Also do some push ups as many as you can! It impresses us when we see a man who can push up.

Seriously? Just start doing a mini work out? Xxx"

Yeah you only have a short window to show of your skills.

Or just be sociable and approach couples and chat to them both in the social areas. You will have a great time.

Ps don't wank under the towel.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Don't wank under your towel and don't do drive by groping.

Be sociable and flex a little in the corner. Also do some push ups as many as you can! It impresses us when we see a man who can push up.

Seriously? Just start doing a mini work out? Xxx

Yeah you only have a short window to show of your skills.

Or just be sociable and approach couples and chat to them both in the social areas. You will have a great time.

Ps don't wank under the towel. "

Thanks x

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By *picyminxWoman
over a year ago

Huntingdon

If you go to a swingers club on a single guy night .. I'd doubt they'd be frowning ... If couples are there on single guy nights they obviously don't mind .. or they'd choose a couples only night ..Surely??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Although I've never been to a club I will say take plenty of condoms and if you do find yourself in a position to have sex with more than one woman change it in between. I would also take wipes and wash my hands after using them on a woman. This is probably why I haven't been to a club

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not at all , we love meeting single guys in clubs .

Just be yourself , and behave in a non pushy way . There are plenty like us , and single girls always looking for single guys "

About as near the mark as you can get.

Only one way to find out.

Personally I would prefer an adult erotic party over a club any day of the week.

The OP might like to read some of the club re_iews to get a feel, so to speak.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

respect the rules of the club, if others don't want you there 'fuck em, you paid your money the same as them'....

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By *ittenandthepirateCouple
over a year ago

Manchester


"And don't join a conga line."

hahaha!

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By *1ckeyMan
over a year ago

Camberley

My pet hates are the men that just wank over a couple playing, and if I have my head between my partners legs, having someone's smelly fingers in my face !

Just be polite and relaxed, and always chat first!

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