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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Now I was wondering what sort of messages do you ladies like to receive as your first message is it a description about the guy or what he would like to do with you or something complementary as I always wondered what itis you actually prefer too read xx

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Each person is different. Personally I find the ones that detail what they are going to do to me fairly presumptive, as if the assume I'm just going to meet them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

See that's what I always thought

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally, any message that describes (sometimes in way too much detail) what someone wants to do with me I find crude, unnecessary and warrant an instant delete. You wouldn't take that approach with someone in a bar so read the profile, see if you're what they are looking for and taylor the message to the individual. Introduce yourself, compliments are always good, and make sure you ask something that evokes a response. Things like "fancy a fuck" "how r u" "what u up to" etc are really not going to get a response as they don't really inspire one!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hank you aha just what was looking for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems obvious but tell people about yourself, most won't want to see a one liner with a cock pic attached.

Get your personality across and a face pic instead. Be respectful, show you've read to profile fully rather than gone straight to the pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

man id hate to put what i was gonna do to a woman in a first message, itd probably read...

"ill meet u, be nervous at first but get down to it, last about 1min 30secs and leave you very disappointed"

im so glad i dont have to put THAT! haha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Seems obvious but tell people about yourself, most won't want to see a one liner with a cock pic attached.

Get your personality across and a face pic instead. Be respectful, show you've read to profile fully rather than gone straight to the pictures. "

Oh I know don't get me wrong that's what I try and do aha I don't jump in with the one lines and don't put what I wanna do unless it says tell me what you want sorta thing on the profil first I was just wondering so I could find out what the majority liked aha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as its more than a couple of words, I prefer the message to show that my profile has actually been read rather than just the pictures perved. Humour is always good but not some corny joke

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As long as its more than a couple of words, I prefer the message to show that my profile has actually been read rather than just the pictures perved. Humour is always good but not some corny joke "

Aha thank you I'll be sure to keep all this in mind

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By *issy louWoman
over a year ago

Staffordshire Moorlands

I would want to see your face, along with a polite, well written message showing that youve read my profile

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I would want to see your face, along with a polite, well written message showing that youve read my profile "

Why thank you like your little face you put coming across all innocent and cute aha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Face pic, a little humour, and a simple introduction works for us.

As was said a list of what you'd like to do my Mrs, well it makes me chuckle as I do that to my Mrs, so it makes you no different to the other single males on here

Any old tom dick or harry can do the very same things, we meet with people we can have some banter with

That she is attracted too

And that respect we are a married couple and I exists, even if I am not present

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A face pic and a polite message that shows you've read my profile. Doesn't have to be a long message, short and sweet and maybe a line to make me smile. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A face pic and a polite message that shows you've read my profile. Doesn't have to be a long message, short and sweet and maybe a line to make me smile. Good luck "

Thank you you have a gorgeous pair if legs btw xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A face pic and a polite message that shows you've read my profile. Doesn't have to be a long message, short and sweet and maybe a line to make me smile. Good luck

Thank you you have a gorgeous pair if legs btw xx"

Well thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think i always try and be polite but still get ignored a lot which can b frustrating and a simple no thanks will do x

but i presume its down to the volume of mail most woman get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A bloody good laugh

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if i have a good message with a face pic

and doesnt mention sex it means they may have a brain

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think i always try and be polite but still get ignored a lot which can b frustrating and a simple no thanks will do x

but i presume its down to the volume of mail most woman get "

That and the fact that some people get bitter and send abusive replies to a polite no thanks, sad really.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Each person is different. Personally I find the ones that detail what they are going to do to me fairly presumptive, as if the assume I'm just going to meet them. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You will never be able to please everyone as there is no magic formula,the best one ive had this week was from someone telling me he was nicking something from my profile to put on his....the cheeky bugger has as well

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By *ovemenotWoman
over a year ago

yeovil


"Think i always try and be polite but still get ignored a lot which can b frustrating and a simple no thanks will do x

but i presume its down to the volume of mail most woman get "

I used to send the polite ' thank you but I don't feel we are suited ' message to everyone , but most and yes it was in fact the majority of men thort this was an opening to try to talk me round and some got VERY rude . So after a few days I stopped . Since then I have had a few guys send nasty 2nd messages after I don't reply to there 1st one but it's a lot less than before .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Think i always try and be polite but still get ignored a lot which can b frustrating and a simple no thanks will do x

but i presume its down to the volume of mail most woman get

I used to send the polite ' thank you but I don't feel we are suited ' message to everyone , but most and yes it was in fact the majority of men thort this was an opening to try to talk me round and some got VERY rude . So after a few days I stopped . Since then I have had a few guys send nasty 2nd messages after I don't reply to there 1st one but it's a lot less than before . "

I'm glad I'm not the only one who has experienced this. I take the view that they've just confirmed my decision to not want to meet them as the correct one as clearly they are immature little boys!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Now I was wondering what sort of messages do you ladies like to receive as your first message is it a description about the guy or what he would like to do with you or something complementary as I always wondered what itis you actually prefer too read xx"

Isn't this a no brainer? I mean ask yourself what you would say to a stranger you met in the street, or in a bar and go from there. An introduction without being a crude, dickhead or waving your cock in someones face is pretty normal, right?

Introduce yourself, tell the person something interesting, make them laugh, ask them something about themeselves based around something worthwhile on their profile etc.

Be yourself, and don't try to act like you're something you're not, and for the love of god don't send pictures of your penis. It's dull unless specifically requested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a lot of messages compliments and introductions,then they cock it up by saying I would love to see you fuck a bbc,so all they get is no thanku

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a lot of messages compliments and introductions,then they cock it up by saying I would love to see you fuck a bbc,so all they get is no thanku"

To be fair, given that you have your entire sexual itinerary on your profile, I'm not surprised!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a lot of messages compliments and introductions,then they cock it up by saying I would love to see you fuck a bbc,so all they get is no thanku

To be fair, given that you have your entire sexual itinerary on your profile, I'm not surprised!"

That's true lol but it a diary so friends know where to catch me,or new meets want to find me, works very well for me, I'm not asking for a cuckhold partner

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