FabSwingers.com forum: Not looking to meet atm ?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So if people say they are not looking to meet why are they on here. I thought this site was to meet people ?

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By *rymeplsMan
over a year ago

manchester

Its entirely up to the individual

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By *ouple36DDCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

They might just be wanting a take a break from swinging but intend to meet people when their ready.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

it seems lots of people have thoughts on how others should treat the site

why not let others treat the site as they see fit,if it doesnt match what you are after,move onto the next profile,and the next,and the next

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"it seems lots of people have thoughts on how others should treat the site

why not let others treat the site as they see fit,if it doesnt match what you are after,move onto the next profile,and the next,and the next"

I do find it's generally those that are struggling to meet looking to blame the behaviour of others and the way that others use the site.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just another case of someone assuming all swingers ever do is shag ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often tell people I'm not looking for new meets. Obvs I'm meeting people but it just means at that time I've a few conversations going with possibles and other meets in the pipeline. It just saves wasting your time. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I'm not meeting I'm on here stalking a few men and chatting to prospective meets. I usually say not meeting new men but don't block. Do you see how that works? Men can read my status or profile and come back later when the queue has gone down a bit

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"it seems lots of people have thoughts on how others should treat the site

why not let others treat the site as they see fit,if it doesnt match what you are after,move onto the next profile,and the next,and the next"

It really is this simple!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Me and my master don't meet, we only play with each other

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By *nne CallanWoman
over a year ago

Nothing to see here. Please move along.

I very rarely meet but love the site for chat and the odd social. We all use fab in our own way. Dont knock those of us that use it as a precision instrument of pleasure rather than a big fuck hammer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So if people say they are not looking to meet why are they on here. I thought this site was to meet people ?"

Personal circumstances can change quickly. Maybe they aren't in the right head space for meets but want to stay in touch with people.

Did you think about why someone might say that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest we quite like the social side of things, and with Emma's health not being best at moment that dont mean that we won't me at some point when she bit better

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By *oulou45Woman
over a year ago

Bucks

People make friends on here and maybe like to keep in touch. Or they may like the forums. Its all about choice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So if people say they are not looking to meet why are they on here. I thought this site was to meet people ?"

We didn't look to meet anyone last week as I was working 12/13 hour shifts, should we not be on here because we weren't meeting anyone? S x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own !!!! Some people just like chat and the forums ! Good for them .... least they are honest about it !!!! Why worry if they are not for you then move on !!! Its the ones that don't tell you that till you have been chatting for weeks that I could see as annoying !!! Use the site for your own pleasure and let others get out of it what they choose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it rather funny when they say not meeting ATM then veris pop up saying they have met. Seen a few single ladies do that, kinda think it's attention seeking if I'm honest but it makes me laugh

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By *elma and ShaggyCouple
over a year ago

Bedworth

We don't meet..........so, should we just delete our account and disappear from the site? Should we just forget all the wonderful friends we have made before we became a couple and stopped meeting others?

No, thought not!!

Swinging is so much more than just meeting random people for sex. It is a lifestyle and community of likeminded friends. Even though people may choose not to have sex with others for a while they should not be expected to turn their back on it

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks all. I can understand it now, in fact i am chatting to someone here this morning that said she didnt want to meet. I can now see the social side of it here as well. Sorry if i sounded rude in my original post. Am i forgiven ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it rather funny when they say not meeting ATM then veris pop up saying they have met. Seen a few single ladies do that, kinda think it's attention seeking if I'm honest but it makes me laugh "

Sometimes though you might not be actively looking to meet anyone but someone catches your eye hence the veri....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try using the site as you want to and not worry how others wish to use it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try using the site as you want to and not worry how others wish to use it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i carnt meet atm as the kids are off school.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So if people say they are not looking to meet why are they on here. I thought this site was to meet people ?"

There is more to swinging than just sex. This is something those that view the site as instashag fail to get their head around. The social aspect/being part of the community is very important for some.

We all have the right to run our profiles as we see fit. If that includes taking a break for what ever reason then that's ok.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try using the site as you want to and not worry how others wish to use it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it rather funny when they say not meeting ATM then veris pop up saying they have met. Seen a few single ladies do that, kinda think it's attention seeking if I'm honest but it makes me laugh

Sometimes though you might not be actively looking to meet anyone but someone catches your eye hence the veri...."

Yes I'm afraid if Channing Tatum have me a wink I'd be meeting pretty sharpish.

On a serious note it's personal choice.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"So if people say they are not looking to meet why are they on here. I thought this site was to meet people ?"

Because sometimes life gets in the way. Why does it bother anyone? Just skip over those profiles which say that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it rather funny when they say not meeting ATM then veris pop up saying they have met. Seen a few single ladies do that, kinda think it's attention seeking if I'm honest but it makes me laugh

Sometimes though you might not be actively looking to meet anyone but someone catches your eye hence the veri...."
. I get that and girls get in the que behind me for chaning Tatum. The person I'm thinking about has that on her profile yet a couple of week ago had 4 mees in 6 days so that's hardly not meeting lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

or someone they met a while ago comes back and wants to verify them? One of mine is from someone I met 2 years ago on here. And also they could have met someone they have been talking to for a while and decided to meet but doesn't want to start up a new conversation with someone new. There could be any number of reasons people say they aren't meeting but being active on the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't meet often due to lack if confidence but I enjoy chatting and lurking / posting in the Forums. I don't think I'm breaking any rules by not being available to bonk 24/7

Funny enough, some of us have a life away from the site where jobs, families, personal circumstances don't allow us to be available every hour God sends!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can also deter the people who want a here and now fuck. Some men will message and say I know you aren't meeting at the moment but would you like to chat? I read your profile and I like the sound of you etc.. It says to me they want to get to know me and aren't looking to fuck just anyone. And have patience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks all. I can understand it now, in fact i am chatting to someone here this morning that said she didnt want to meet. I can now see the social side of it here as well. Sorry if i sounded rude in my original post. Am i forgiven ?

Will let you off, don't do it again

I am armed with wet kippers (thread from yesterday

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok thanks for forgiveness, wet kippers hmm never tried that before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me and my master don't meet, we only play with each other"

Hhahahaha your Master is meeting me this weekend, the weekend after and the weekend after and then we are off to New York to celebrate my B'day in style. Didn't you know that? Oh sorry Master doesn't need to tell all his business to his slave

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

Im sure you are.

As you see, loads of different reasons why people are here - trick is finding people who are here for the same thing as you. The rest of them? Just leave them to it.....

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By *uckbunnieCouple
over a year ago

Redcar

We have not looking to meet as mr bunnie is working away. I meet people we have met previously but by putting this up it saves wasting peoples time who are looking for a meet quite quickly

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By *ovely CummingsWoman
over a year ago

Peaky Nipples

It can also be a more gentle way to say 'not interested'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I very rarely meet but love the site for chat and the odd social. We all use fab in our own way. Dont knock those of us that use it as a precision instrument of pleasure rather than a big fuck hammer"

Now there is a quotable sentence !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It can also be a more gentle way to say 'not interested' "

It also helps reduce the number of unsolicited messages looking for a meet.

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

My profile, my rules, my choices. Bugger all to do with anyone else.

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By *cottishsexgoddessWoman
over a year ago

Glenrothes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are not meeting at the moment cause hubby is working away. .. so I should delete our profile then???

I keep my self entertained while he's away chatting to fab friends and reading the forums X

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

too right

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Me and my master don't meet, we only play with each other

Do you have to play this out in the forums? ? ?

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