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Getting into the lifestyle?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hey you guys, just a little advice wanted.....

As a fairly good looking guy (if I may say so myself) that's never really had a shortage of girls, how do you really make that transition to this sort of lifestyle? I've had d*unk MMF experience with a previous partner but nothing quite as coordinated as this. I read so much bad stuff on here about guys, but I'd hardly regard myself as half the descriptions they get lol!!

So what's the best way to really get into it 100%? Being newly single and wanting to do something new I'm excited for the challenge lol!

Feel free to drop me a PM with any useful chat!

(No aggro, it's an honest question wanting some honest pointers!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Getting married

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Are you wearing a yellow apron?

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By *andd2Couple
over a year ago

The Dungeon

Go to a club maybe? Must be something close enough to you surely.

Read peoples profiles properly, see if your their type and send a message that's tailored to them. Generic messages are easy to spot and will put others off replying. Be patient, be polite, take your time in getting to know them and things will work out. Have face and body shots in your private picture album (or public, it's up to you) , avoid a gallery of just cock shots, 1 or 2 are fine.

Have fun and good luck

X

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Are you wearing a yellow apron? "

No mate it's a gym stringer vest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What do you want from the lifestyle? Do you want to meet couples or single people? Go to clubs and parties or meet in hotels? Decide what you want from it,don't try to fit in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just enjoy it,dont be pushy, and respect peoples intrests Good luck x

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Couples mainly as it's new but if a girl ticks the boxes then that's fair game

Thought about parties but I live in a pretty small area and am pretty nervous of bumping into someone I wouldn't want to :/

I've never struggled with women, this is just a totally different ball game lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First thing is, dont expect anything. Always be polite, and if rather than when you get a message back, saying thanks but no thanks, just move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"First thing is, dont expect anything. Always be polite, and if rather than when you get a message back, saying thanks but no thanks, just move on"

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

This bit is not about the lifestyle, but about managing your expectations - it can take some while for a single guy to become established and successful on fab. You realise there are some dreamers and wasters, so you will eventually stand out, apart from those. Use fab just as a part of your swinging - visit clubs, where you will be able to join in and get to know others. Sometimes knowing great people is really helpful, so look out for people who are decent, genuine and all around great. You never know what or who is around the corner, so friends who understand or who may know others are a big asset. Take your time, have patience and be willing to make extra effort at first, and to overcome any dejection you may feel, if things are slow etc. Tenacity is a virtue to have. Message me if you would like, as I have a profile tip for you. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"This bit is not about the lifestyle, but about managing your expectations - it can take some while for a single guy to become established and successful on fab. You realise there are some dreamers and wasters, so you will eventually stand out, apart from those. Use fab just as a part of your swinging - visit clubs, where you will be able to join in and get to know others. Sometimes knowing great people is really helpful, so look out for people who are decent, genuine and all around great. You never know what or who is around the corner, so friends who understand or who may know others are a big asset. Take your time, have patience and be willing to make extra effort at first, and to overcome any dejection you may feel, if things are slow etc. Tenacity is a virtue to have. Message me if you would like, as I have a profile tip for you. Good luck! "

Done

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Additionally, leap into the paaarrrtyyyy thread and say hello

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Additionally, leap into the paaarrrtyyyy thread and say hello "

Advice taken lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a great regular party in Boston that's a great way of meeting new people send us a message if you want details ...but we've always had great fun there x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"There's a great regular party in Boston that's a great way of meeting new people send us a message if you want details ...but we've always had great fun there x "

Done

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started out by pillow talk which rapidly progressed into going to a club after some careful research on here.

We have made some great friends and have been lucky to have been invited to some great clubs and parties.

Lying in bed after a wild one last night.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

welcome and enjoy

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