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By *ilthygorgeous1 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Oxford

Are we alone in thinking its a smidge rude of someone to send a message asking for our face pics but not including any in their message?

We always send face pics when "breaking the ice" seems ridiculous and extremely bad etiquette not to...

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

it is quite cheeky yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it is quite cheeky yes "

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By *ilthygorgeous1 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Oxford

It's an instant turn off for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

the dbl standards of some profiles really do amuse us, we have had the facepics 1 and also received a few friend requests without messages from profiles stating they don't accept requests without messages

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"Are we alone in thinking its a smidge rude of someone to send a message asking for our face pics but not including any in their message?

We always send face pics when "breaking the ice" seems ridiculous and extremely bad etiquette not to...

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it's not too bad - they want to see you before they reveal themselves - is it that awful? Z

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

The thing is you get all sorts on here, teh vast majority are just normal people like us (lol well not like us but normal amyway) but the odd one or two will try it on. Its easy enough to pass them by.

Our favourites are the ones who want to suprise their female partner in a hotel room....so we must keep it secret and turn up five minutes after him...so secret that we can't see what she looks like . They must think we came sailing down the Manchester ship canal on a tea tray.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Are we alone in thinking its a smidge rude of someone to send a message asking for our face pics but not including any in their message?

We always send face pics when "breaking the ice" seems ridiculous and extremely bad etiquette not to...

it's not too bad - they want to see you before they reveal themselves - is it that awful? Z"

its not awful but I do think its cheeky if you're making the first approach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are we alone in thinking its a smidge rude of someone to send a message asking for our face pics but not including any in their message?

We always send face pics when "breaking the ice" seems ridiculous and extremely bad etiquette not to...

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A difficult one, I would send a face pic with emails to people that i approach. Not sure it is rude though. But it is unfair that I show a face pic and not have it reciprocated sometimes. Ideally there would be a way of both parties seeing face pics for fairness.

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"Are we alone in thinking its a smidge rude of someone to send a message asking for our face pics but not including any in their message?

We always send face pics when "breaking the ice" seems ridiculous and extremely bad etiquette not to...

it's not too bad - they want to see you before they reveal themselves - is it that awful? Z

its not awful but I do think its cheeky if you're making the first approach"

lol - cheeky yes but it's not a hanging offence! Z

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are we alone in thinking its a smidge rude of someone to send a message asking for our face pics but not including any in their message?

We always send face pics when "breaking the ice" seems ridiculous and extremely bad etiquette not to...

it's not too bad - they want to see you before they reveal themselves - is it that awful? Z

its not awful but I do think its cheeky if you're making the first approach"

Ditto..

We would never send an initial message without our mug shots first x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think on sending out the initial message (the ice breaker) I personally would not put in any pictures !

If what you would say in the message would warrant a reply .

Then the reply to the reply if that should be worth replying to!

Shall indeed have a picture enclosed with the reply.....

And if the picture was not to your liking

(If I was mingin' or somethin' worse)

A simple no thank you ! Or a no reply!

Would suffice....!

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"I think on sending out the initial message (the ice breaker) I personally would not put in any pictures !

If what you would say in the message would warrant a reply .

Then the reply to the reply if that should be worth replying to!

Shall indeed have a picture enclosed with the reply.....

And if the picture was not to your liking

(If I was mingin' or somethin' worse)

A simple no thank you ! Or a no reply!

Would suffice....!"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we use the chatrooms and see faces on cam. Prevents the need for face pics, or photos generally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we dont always attatch pics to a message, but will use the first message to guage if there is mutual interest before asking for pics and we normally attatch pics to any message that we send asking for pics

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By *ilthygorgeous1 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Oxford


"The thing is you get all sorts on here, teh vast majority are just normal people like us (lol well not like us but normal amyway) but the odd one or two will try it on. Its easy enough to pass them by.

Our favourites are the ones who want to suprise their female partner in a hotel room....so we must keep it secret and turn up five minutes after him...so secret that we can't see what she looks like . They must think we came sailing down the Manchester ship canal on a tea tray."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always attach a face picture on my intial message my only gripe is that in some cases i do.not get a no thanks bugger off you ugly sod reply which i think.is a tad rude as it takes seconds to reply.

Rejection i can handle

ignorance i cannot

sorry rant over

happy swinging

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

If anyone emails asking 'do you have a face pic'? I just reply, I do, but do you?

I always think the person who initiates contact and asks should attach theirs first x

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By *ilthygorgeous1 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Oxford

Agreed it's not a hanging offence but there are a few out there who take the biscuit! Example... We receive a friend request, so we reply explaining that we never accept friend requests from people we A. Have never actually met in person/played with or B. Spoken/chatted with or seen photos of... Then we get a msg asking if we can send photos. Wtf??

I guess we feel if someone is going to express an interest or try attract our attention then they should make the first move.

If the shoe was on the other foot we would be more than happy to try and seduce them with our mug shots

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By *ilthygorgeous1 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Oxford


"If anyone emails asking 'do you have a face pic'? I just reply, I do, but do you?

I always think the person who initiates contact and asks should attach theirs first x"

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By *rsK69Woman
over a year ago

Neath


"If anyone emails asking 'do you have a face pic'? I just reply, I do, but do you?

I always think the person who initiates contact and asks should attach theirs first x"

with you on this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If anyone emails asking 'do you have a face pic'? I just reply, I do, but do you?

I always think the person who initiates contact and asks should attach theirs first x"

agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If anyone emails asking 'do you have a face pic'? I just reply, I do, but do you?

I always think the person who initiates contact and asks should attach theirs first x

agreed "

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I always attach a face picture on my intial message my only gripe is that in some cases i do.not get a no thanks bugger off you ugly sod reply which i think.is a tad rude as it takes seconds to reply.

Rejection i can handle

ignorance i cannot

sorry rant over

happy swinging "

We always try to answer but the rules of the site clearly state that you do not have to reply. I think it's in FAQs. So it is not ignorance if you don't get a reply. It just means they're not interested.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And then they wipe they're cocks on your Yorkshire Terrier, jeez some people, cheeky buggers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always attach a face picture on my intial message my only gripe is that in some cases i do.not get a no thanks bugger off you ugly sod reply which i think.is a tad rude as it takes seconds to reply.

Rejection i can handle

ignorance i cannot

sorry rant over

happy swinging "

I always used to reply but the number of abusive messages I got in return was horrible so now have used filters so only get mails from people I have winked or messaged, much better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Are we alone in thinking its a smidge rude of someone to send a message asking for our face pics but not including any in their message?

We always send face pics when "breaking the ice" seems ridiculous and extremely bad etiquette not to...

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Yes very, I always send a face pic with a first message

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