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is this site full of pic collectors and dreamers ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

well looks like we are going to be stood up for the second consecutive week end ! why is this site full of tossers who seem to take great pleasure in frigging genuine couples about ???? can anyone out there prove us wrong ???

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I've never been stood up that I can recall. If I have its obviously not bothered me much as I can't remember it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a problem with being stood up or with time wasters. There are a great many geniuine people here, far more than time wasters for sure.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"well looks like we are going to be stood up for the second consecutive week end ! why is this site full of tossers who seem to take great pleasure in frigging genuine couples about ???? can anyone out there prove us wrong ??? "

there are genuine people out there... and the site is not full of tossers... something like that is too much of a kop out....

but if you are encountering "timewaster" (I hate that word because peoples defination of that is different... and if someone cancels 24hrs before a meet that not timewasting for me) on a regular basis then at some point you have to take some form of responsibilty... and that has to start with your selection process....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we have been disappointed if someone has cancelled but never so late that its been a let down as such , and we never had a time waster as such, guess we have been lucky or chose well, we dont let it bother us as we always have our own fun, is another reason why we try and meet at home,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were lucky enough to have two meets last weekend

There are many different reasons why someone may have to cancel, wouldn't hold it against them. People do have that thing called "life" , that comes before sexy fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it simple manners to turn up if you say you intend too. Once there you can change your mind ..

So rude to say you will meet and then no show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

YEs I agreee, 99% are dreamers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"YEs I agreee, 99% are dreamers "

I think a lot more than 1% are going to disagree with you on that one !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"YEs I agreee, 99% are dreamers

I think a lot more than 1% are going to disagree with you on that one !!"
Yes I think so to lol.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

I once had a dream about pic collectors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps those who have had a more successful meet history should share their filter techniques with those who are not so succesful.

Privately of course.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We were lucky enough to have two meets last weekend

There are many different reasons why someone may have to cancel, wouldn't hold it against them. People do have that thing called "life" , that comes before sexy fun"

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By *aisy100Woman
over a year ago

wakefield

I once had to let someone down about an hour before meeting due to unexpected monthly cycle...... does that make me a time waster/dreamer?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I once had a dream about pic collectors. "

I once had a picture of some dreamers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well looks like we are going to be stood up for the second consecutive week end ! why is this site full of tossers who seem to take great pleasure in frigging genuine couples about ???? can anyone out there prove us wrong ??? "

We only meet at clubs and parties ...never any time wasted .... its the best way forward for genuine singers in our opinion

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts


"I once had a dream about pic collectors.

I once had a picture of some dreamers "

I once dreamt in picture form. It was very distressing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

we understand what you are saying , but it would be nice to be warned at least a couple of hours in advance ! rather than leaving us sitting in a pub like a couple of lemons !

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By *anny PepperoniMan
over a year ago

Matlock

I'm of the opinion that if this keeps happening you are selecting the wrong people. There are plenty of genuine ones around.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We were lucky enough to have two meets last weekend

There are many different reasons why someone may have to cancel, wouldn't hold it against them. People do have that thing called "life" , that comes before sexy fun"

Yes people do have lives off here. I always try to understand if people cry off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well looks like we are going to be stood up for the second consecutive week end ! why is this site full of tossers who seem to take great pleasure in frigging genuine couples about ???? can anyone out there prove us wrong ??? "

How do you know you are going to be stood up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps those who have had a more successful meet history should share their filter techniques with those who are not so succesful.

Privately of course."

Most of it is common sense. Unfortunately therein lies the problem for some people

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By *portyndNaughtyMan
over a year ago

Nearby Hinckley


"well looks like we are going to be stood up for the second consecutive week end ! why is this site full of tossers who seem to take great pleasure in frigging genuine couples about ???? can anyone out there prove us wrong ??? "

There are plenty of genuine people here. I guess your selection criteria likely to be the cause of the problem.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we understand what you are saying , but it would be nice to be warned at least a couple of hours in advance ! rather than leaving us sitting in a pub like a couple of lemons ! "

That's completely out of order (assuming they didn't have a real disaster) BUT it's only an indication of that person(s) make up and its not indicative of of any greater part of the site. Such things are going to happen occasionally but it shouldn't colour your opinion of others.

I'm free tonight btw if you're still at the bar

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps those who have had a more successful meet history should share their filter techniques with those who are not so succesful.

Privately of course.

Most of it is common sense. Unfortunately therein lies the problem for some people"

If I were the Op I'd find that response pretty insulting.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

id never let someone down

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"well looks like we are going to be stood up for the second consecutive week end ! why is this site full of tossers who seem to take great pleasure in frigging genuine couples about ???? can anyone out there prove us wrong ???

We only meet at clubs and parties ...never any time wasted .... its the best way forward for genuine singers in our opinion "

What if you're tone deaf and can't hold a tune?

Guess you're seriously buggered then!

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I once had to let someone down about an hour before meeting due to unexpected monthly cycle...... does that make me a time waster/dreamer?"

no not at all - xxxxxxx

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"well looks like we are going to be stood up for the second consecutive week end ! why is this site full of tossers who seem to take great pleasure in frigging genuine couples about ???? can anyone out there prove us wrong ??? "

were yu sitting waiting when you posted this?

It must be horrible to be let down twice in a row like that but you can't say the site is full of tossers and dreamers with a sample of two. Also how can any of us prove you wrong?

I don't know how you go about preventing this happening but we find that if people stop messaging or replying before a meet they aren't going to go through with it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps those who have had a more successful meet history should share their filter techniques with those who are not so succesful.

Privately of course.

Most of it is common sense. Unfortunately therein lies the problem for some people

If I were the Op I'd find that response pretty insulting."

It wasn't specifically directed at the OP but if it offends so be it, the truth often does. There is a very, very simple reason why some people are seemingly plagued by timewasters and fakes and many others aren't. But for some it's easier to blame others than take a slightly more introspective look at things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well looks like we are going to be stood up for the second consecutive week end ! why is this site full of tossers who seem to take great pleasure in frigging genuine couples about ???? can anyone out there prove us wrong ???

There are plenty of genuine people here. I guess your selection criteria likely to be the cause of the problem."

what makes you say that?

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By *aul.J.JMan
over a year ago

Sedgley

I have been stood up several times......maybe i have got mug written on my face or too trusting i don't know but you can't tar everyone with the same brush.....there's good and bad whatever site you go on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples just as guilty of messing around as much as blokes in my experience on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Couples just as guilty of messing around as much as blokes in my experience on here."

2 people to piss you about. No doubt actual single women do it too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well looks like we are going to be stood up for the second consecutive week end ! why is this site full of tossers who seem to take great pleasure in frigging genuine couples about ???? can anyone out there prove us wrong ??? "

Send us a picture and I will tell you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never encountered either yet.

But then as we are real meet in person only, we avoid chat, ignore cam veri's, newbies, unverifieds and not recently verified.

Club met in persons are good, we can just arrange to meet at a club.

Also other things, like single male but cant accommodate, (Not that it means they are all married, but 65-80%)

Hundreds of pics, again we are real life only, not interested in being the center of internet attention, dont need our online ego's stroking.

Run their user name through a forum search, see if they have posted, and you can see a lot of opinions from posts.

Check those that verified them, do they seem genuine?

Work on your selection process,

Early phone chat female to female if the couple seem overly perfect, but listen to your instincts and not your sex drive.

If at all in doubt, dont put out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Perhaps those who have had a more successful meet history should share their filter techniques with those who are not so succesful.

Privately of course.

Most of it is common sense. Unfortunately therein lies the problem for some people"

Cant agree more, I have never been left standing for anyone over the last 3 years, a couple cancel beforehand but thats all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I once had to let someone down about an hour before meeting due to unexpected monthly cycle...... does that make me a time waster/dreamer?"

Precisely that has happened to me....being cancelled on that is lol.....and nah, the body does what the body does.....its nothing personal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been let down 3 times in nearly 4 years on my single profile. 2 were socials and one was a hotel meet which I'd paid for so was not best pleased. On that occasion, it was my first ever meet so you could say maybe I was a little naive but I couldn't have done more to satisfy myself he was genuine. Had his e mail with full name, chatted on the phone the day before and even got my cousin's other half who was a copper to check him out. He gave me no reason to think he wouldn't show and I pretty much did everything I could have to satisfy myself he was genuine but at the end of the day you can just never be sure. Sorry this happened OP, I know exactly how it feels. Better luck next time

Miss F

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we understand what you are saying , but it would be nice to be warned at least a couple of hours in advance ! rather than leaving us sitting in a pub like a couple of lemons ! "

At least you where together it's not that bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been let down 3 times in nearly 4 years on my single profile. 2 were socials and one was a hotel meet which I'd paid for so was not best pleased. On that occasion, it was my first ever meet so you could say maybe I was a little naive but I couldn't have done more to satisfy myself he was genuine. Had his e mail with full name, chatted on the phone the day before and even got my cousin's other half who was a copper to check him out. He gave me no reason to think he wouldn't show and I pretty much did everything I could have to satisfy myself he was genuine but at the end of the day you can just never be sure. Sorry this happened OP, I know exactly how it feels. Better luck next time

Miss F"

Fuck meeting you if you do police checks on people !! Is there no such thing as remaining private ????

(No I haven't been in trouble with the law lol)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been cancelled on but never without notice and good reason.......I've had to cancel myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been let down 3 times in nearly 4 years on my single profile. 2 were socials and one was a hotel meet which I'd paid for so was not best pleased. On that occasion, it was my first ever meet so you could say maybe I was a little naive but I couldn't have done more to satisfy myself he was genuine. Had his e mail with full name, chatted on the phone the day before and even got my cousin's other half who was a copper to check him out. He gave me no reason to think he wouldn't show and I pretty much did everything I could have to satisfy myself he was genuine but at the end of the day you can just never be sure. Sorry this happened OP, I know exactly how it feels. Better luck next time

Miss F

Fuck meeting you if you do police checks on people !! Is there no such thing as remaining private ????

(No I haven't been in trouble with the law lol)"

Same thought crossed my mind. If it's true the officer in question must be an idiot to risk his job for that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been let down 3 times in nearly 4 years on my single profile. 2 were socials and one was a hotel meet which I'd paid for so was not best pleased. On that occasion, it was my first ever meet so you could say maybe I was a little naive but I couldn't have done more to satisfy myself he was genuine. Had his e mail with full name, chatted on the phone the day before and even got my cousin's other half who was a copper to check him out. He gave me no reason to think he wouldn't show and I pretty much did everything I could have to satisfy myself he was genuine but at the end of the day you can just never be sure. Sorry this happened OP, I know exactly how it feels. Better luck next time

Miss F"

hope the cousin wasn't on duty when he did this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been let down 3 times in nearly 4 years on my single profile. 2 were socials and one was a hotel meet which I'd paid for so was not best pleased. On that occasion, it was my first ever meet so you could say maybe I was a little naive but I couldn't have done more to satisfy myself he was genuine. Had his e mail with full name, chatted on the phone the day before and even got my cousin's other half who was a copper to check him out. He gave me no reason to think he wouldn't show and I pretty much did everything I could have to satisfy myself he was genuine but at the end of the day you can just never be sure. Sorry this happened OP, I know exactly how it feels. Better luck next time

Miss F

Fuck meeting you if you do police checks on people !! Is there no such thing as remaining private ????

(No I haven't been in trouble with the law lol)"

It was my first ever meet after the loss of my partner so guess I was being over cautious having never done anything like this before. I had his name from his e mail as at the time I didn't have a camera phone to swap pics with. I wanted to tell someone what I was doing and confided in my cousin who's wife suggested she'd check him out for my peace of mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been let down 3 times in nearly 4 years on my single profile. 2 were socials and one was a hotel meet which I'd paid for so was not best pleased. On that occasion, it was my first ever meet so you could say maybe I was a little naive but I couldn't have done more to satisfy myself he was genuine. Had his e mail with full name, chatted on the phone the day before and even got my cousin's other half who was a copper to check him out. He gave me no reason to think he wouldn't show and I pretty much did everything I could have to satisfy myself he was genuine but at the end of the day you can just never be sure. Sorry this happened OP, I know exactly how it feels. Better luck next time

Miss F

Fuck meeting you if you do police checks on people !! Is there no such thing as remaining private ????

(No I haven't been in trouble with the law lol)

It was my first ever meet after the loss of my partner so guess I was being over cautious having never done anything like this before. I had his name from his e mail as at the time I didn't have a camera phone to swap pics with. I wanted to tell someone what I was doing and confided in my cousin who's wife suggested she'd check him out for my peace of mind."

Regardless of the background it is an abuse of power and unjustifiable in my opinion.

Police do not have the power to do random checks on peoples records just to satisfy their own curiousity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been let down 3 times in nearly 4 years on my single profile. 2 were socials and one was a hotel meet which I'd paid for so was not best pleased. On that occasion, it was my first ever meet so you could say maybe I was a little naive but I couldn't have done more to satisfy myself he was genuine. Had his e mail with full name, chatted on the phone the day before and even got my cousin's other half who was a copper to check him out. He gave me no reason to think he wouldn't show and I pretty much did everything I could have to satisfy myself he was genuine but at the end of the day you can just never be sure. Sorry this happened OP, I know exactly how it feels. Better luck next time

Miss F

Fuck meeting you if you do police checks on people !! Is there no such thing as remaining private ????

(No I haven't been in trouble with the law lol)

It was my first ever meet after the loss of my partner so guess I was being over cautious having never done anything like this before. I had his name from his e mail as at the time I didn't have a camera phone to swap pics with. I wanted to tell someone what I was doing and confided in my cousin who's wife suggested she'd check him out for my peace of mind.

Regardless of the background it is an abuse of power and unjustifiable in my opinion.

Police do not have the power to do random checks on peoples records just to satisfy their own curiousity"

She did what she did, I never asked her to so it was entirely at her own risk.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Perhaps those who have had a more successful meet history should share their filter techniques with those who are not so succesful.

Privately of course.

Most of it is common sense. Unfortunately therein lies the problem for some people

If I were the Op I'd find that response pretty insulting."

why?

there are a lot of people who do foresake basically common sense in pursuit of getting their leg over and it is something that we do hear a lot...

not saying the op doesn't... but you do hear things like not talking to a couple on the phone!" or not having a phone number or an address, or not calling before leaving...

the more checks and balances you have, the less likely you are to be caught out....

basic common sense, a healthy dose of cynicism, and being 110% comfortable before even thinking about meeting....

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By *aul.J.JMan
over a year ago

Sedgley

Mine stand ups just no showed. ...its annoying but there's nothing I could of done about it. Just take it on the chin and move on...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been let down 3 times in nearly 4 years on my single profile. 2 were socials and one was a hotel meet which I'd paid for so was not best pleased. On that occasion, it was my first ever meet so you could say maybe I was a little naive but I couldn't have done more to satisfy myself he was genuine. Had his e mail with full name, chatted on the phone the day before and even got my cousin's other half who was a copper to check him out. He gave me no reason to think he wouldn't show and I pretty much did everything I could have to satisfy myself he was genuine but at the end of the day you can just never be sure. Sorry this happened OP, I know exactly how it feels. Better luck next time

Miss F

Fuck meeting you if you do police checks on people !! Is there no such thing as remaining private ????

(No I haven't been in trouble with the law lol)"

my thought too

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol


"Never had a problem with being stood up or with time wasters. There are a great many geniuine people here, far more than time wasters for sure. "

I totally agree, good guys far outweigh the bad 'uns... I simply block anyone that is rude,ignores my msg,or just views my pics..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A single guy let us down the week we joined. About 8pm sat night too. Wasn't happy as wasn't in mood for going out then,or looking for someone else as time was getting on. so went shop for drinks.

It annoys you cos you could have done something eith your free night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we were both stood up once each when solos but not as a couple yet

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

There are a lot, whether you can say most is another matter and it partly depends on category. With the GB scene there are lots of guys who just don't show, one of the reasons I've been losing interest in hosting them, (I must say there are other personal ones too).

Couples who mess around and can't decide on what they're doing do occur and seem to bottle out at the last minute, the ones with verifications aren't as bad so I must say I've learned to be more cautious with those who haven't got them.

Single women, hit and miss, again messing around and being unable to make up their minds about what they're doing, verifications help but still not 100%. TGirls probably more there, but that could be down to individual personalities.

I work most of my life in various forms of sales, marketing and promotion, if you really do not want my product / service I'd rather you said so fairly early on. I go with that philosophy in my 'normal' life, (which includes swinging). Should I, shouldn't I does annoy me, shit or get off the pot.

As for cancellations, I know that non swinging stuff happens, I think you get a feel for genuine reasons and the 'dog ate my homework ones.' As I said I think the biggest problem is with single guys who bottle out.

Personally I think it's probably time for me to re evaluate my wants and therefore my profile on here. Although I think I'll always enjoy group fun, I think I've got bored with GBs.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I've been let down 3 times in nearly 4 years on my single profile. 2 were socials and one was a hotel meet which I'd paid for so was not best pleased. On that occasion, it was my first ever meet so you could say maybe I was a little naive but I couldn't have done more to satisfy myself he was genuine. Had his e mail with full name, chatted on the phone the day before and even got my cousin's other half who was a copper to check him out. He gave me no reason to think he wouldn't show and I pretty much did everything I could have to satisfy myself he was genuine but at the end of the day you can just never be sure. Sorry this happened OP, I know exactly how it feels. Better luck next time

Miss F"

I'm sure it does go on but you know that the police aren't supposed to do that don't you? I really am about this

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I've been let down 3 times in nearly 4 years on my single profile. 2 were socials and one was a hotel meet which I'd paid for so was not best pleased. On that occasion, it was my first ever meet so you could say maybe I was a little naive but I couldn't have done more to satisfy myself he was genuine. Had his e mail with full name, chatted on the phone the day before and even got my cousin's other half who was a copper to check him out. He gave me no reason to think he wouldn't show and I pretty much did everything I could have to satisfy myself he was genuine but at the end of the day you can just never be sure. Sorry this happened OP, I know exactly how it feels. Better luck next time

Miss F

Fuck meeting you if you do police checks on people !! Is there no such thing as remaining private ????

(No I haven't been in trouble with the law lol)

It was my first ever meet after the loss of my partner so guess I was being over cautious having never done anything like this before. I had his name from his e mail as at the time I didn't have a camera phone to swap pics with. I wanted to tell someone what I was doing and confided in my cousin who's wife suggested she'd check him out for my peace of mind."

I can understand why it happened but I can't condone it, I really hope this isn't a common practice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeahh..

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

Actually I can understand why a single woman would be happier with a PNC being done. Depending on the way the meeting was being organised, location etc I wouldn't mind it being done on me. I know the police aren't supposed to do lots of things, however sometimes it's useful when they do.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I love these threads, they always go really, really well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"well looks like we are going to be stood up for the second consecutive week end ! why is this site full of tossers who seem to take great pleasure in frigging genuine couples about ???? can anyone out there prove us wrong ??? "

I think the seven verification you've had in the last six months or so probably prove your own point wrong.

You probably know this site isn't 'full of tossers', you've had two crap experiences and letting off steam is only natural.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually I can understand why a single woman would be happier with a PNC being done. Depending on the way the meeting was being organised, location etc I wouldn't mind it being done on me. I know the police aren't supposed to do lots of things, however sometimes it's useful when they do. "

Seriously???

If a woman feels that insecure about meeting someone, maybe she should give this site a very wide body swerve! In fact, if anyone feels they would be happier with a PNC check being done before hey meet for a drink, they really shouldn't be on here!

What if the PNC check was done and it all came up ok and they were still stood up? Should they then contact the police and get the to open a file on the person with 'timewaster' on it?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Actually I can understand why a single woman would be happier with a PNC being done. Depending on the way the meeting was being organised, location etc I wouldn't mind it being done on me. I know the police aren't supposed to do lots of things, however sometimes it's useful when they do. "

I think the police have got much better things to do with their time . If people are that concerned they should meet in clubs where there are a lot of other people around or not meet at all. If someone did a police check on me I would be seriously pissed off...and no I haven't got anything to hide...except the bodies under the patio

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

I certainly don't think the police should have timewaster files However as I say it depends on the location and type of meet, I've met some women in some fairly bizarre places. We've always had a good time and the ladies have all been safe. However I have heard some horror stories off women. Sometimes I've been surprised at the trust women have put in me a complete stranger being in a position to take very extreme forms of control of them in some scenarios. I used to be on a well known S 7 M / BDSM site and there was some stuff that involved some women being very trusting with a man they'd never met before, I did enjoy it though and will probably rejoin at some point

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I certainly don't think the police should have timewaster files However as I say it depends on the location and type of meet, I've met some women in some fairly bizarre places. We've always had a good time and the ladies have all been safe. However I have heard some horror stories off women. Sometimes I've been surprised at the trust women have put in me a complete stranger being in a position to take very extreme forms of control of them in some scenarios. I used to be on a well known S 7 M / BDSM site and there was some stuff that involved some women being very trusting with a man they'd never met before, I did enjoy it though and will probably rejoin at some point "

Are you suggesting that the police should run checks for women who deliberately put themselves in positions that make them very vulnerable? If so every man in every nightclub in Britain would have to be checked every weekend and what about the men who meet other men under very dodgy circumstances, and the women who walk home down unlit streets. Also police checks only show up the ones who've been caught.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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If a woman feels that insecure about meeting someone, maybe she should give this site a very wide body swerve! In fact, if anyone feels they would be happier with a PNC check being done before hey meet for a drink, they really shouldn't be on here!

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If I found out that an officer had done a PNC check on me with no legal basis and most definately if it was done before a date/meet, I would expect them to be dismissed. End of. It's a massive abuse of power.

That said as every PNC enquiry leaves a footprint, I part suspect the claim it happened is bullshit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've been let down 3 times in nearly 4 years on my single profile. 2 were socials and one was a hotel meet which I'd paid for so was not best pleased. On that occasion, it was my first ever meet so you could say maybe I was a little naive but I couldn't have done more to satisfy myself he was genuine. Had his e mail with full name, chatted on the phone the day before and even got my cousin's other half who was a copper to check him out. He gave me no reason to think he wouldn't show and I pretty much did everything I could have to satisfy myself he was genuine but at the end of the day you can just never be sure. Sorry this happened OP, I know exactly how it feels. Better luck next time

Miss F

Fuck meeting you if you do police checks on people !! Is there no such thing as remaining private ????

(No I haven't been in trouble with the law lol)

It was my first ever meet after the loss of my partner so guess I was being over cautious having never done anything like this before. I had his name from his e mail as at the time I didn't have a camera phone to swap pics with. I wanted to tell someone what I was doing and confided in my cousin who's wife suggested she'd check him out for my peace of mind.

Regardless of the background it is an abuse of power and unjustifiable in my opinion.

Police do not have the power to do random checks on peoples records just to satisfy their own curiousity

She did what she did, I never asked her to so it was entirely at her own risk."

Not what your first post says. That quite clearly says you got the check done for you

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"

If a woman feels that insecure about meeting someone, maybe she should give this site a very wide body swerve! In fact, if anyone feels they would be happier with a PNC check being done before hey meet for a drink, they really shouldn't be on here!

If I found out that an officer had done a PNC check on me with no legal basis and most definately if it was done before a date/meet, I would expect them to be dismissed. End of. It's a massive abuse of power.

That said as every PNC enquiry leaves a footprint, I part suspect the claim it happened is bullshit."

it could also be construed as police harrassment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So how does someone get started on here with no verification?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

If a woman feels that insecure about meeting someone, maybe she should give this site a very wide body swerve! In fact, if anyone feels they would be happier with a PNC check being done before hey meet for a drink, they really shouldn't be on here!

If I found out that an officer had done a PNC check on me with no legal basis and most definately if it was done before a date/meet, I would expect them to be dismissed. End of. It's a massive abuse of power.

That said as every PNC enquiry leaves a footprint, I part suspect the claim it happened is bullshit.

it could also be construed as police harrassment."

And a black mark against Clare's law

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"So how does someone get started on here with no verification?????"

go to a club or a social and get chatting to people who can verify that you are genuine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So I can just attend any of these events I see posted???.thought it was like a secret club lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I once had to let someone down about an hour before meeting due to unexpected monthly cycle...... does that make me a time waster/dreamer?"

Yes you should have attended nevertheless if only to give him a blow job!

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"So I can just attend any of these events I see posted???.thought it was like a secret club lol "

if a social is posted up contact the original poster .

We were at one recently and will be going to another one soon, it's a great way to get chatting to people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I can just attend any of these events I see posted???.thought it was like a secret club lol

if a social is posted up contact the original poster .

We were at one recently and will be going to another one soon, it's a great way to get chatting to people. "

cheers for that I'll definitely give it a go.....might see you two there lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"So I can just attend any of these events I see posted???.thought it was like a secret club lol

if a social is posted up contact the original poster .

We were at one recently and will be going to another one soon, it's a great way to get chatting to people.

cheers for that I'll definitely give it a go.....might see you two there lol"

you never know but sussex is a hell of a way from Manchester

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So I can just attend any of these events I see posted???.thought it was like a secret club lol

if a social is posted up contact the original poster .

We were at one recently and will be going to another one soon, it's a great way to get chatting to people.

cheers for that I'll definitely give it a go.....might see you two there lol

you never know but sussex is a hell of a way from Manchester "

good point lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"So I can just attend any of these events I see posted???.thought it was like a secret club lol

if a social is posted up contact the original poster .

We were at one recently and will be going to another one soon, it's a great way to get chatting to people.

cheers for that I'll definitely give it a go.....might see you two there lol

you never know but sussex is a hell of a way from Manchester

good point lol"

but I think we have just proved another point and that is that you can get to know people by interacting on the forum. We've met a couple of men that way

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By *eddonistikMan
over a year ago

Manchester

The social are a great way of getting to know people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

...and then there's me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yes you could be correct to say we were pissed off would be a gross understaetment not nice to be all dressed up wi nowhere to go !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well better luck next time. Hopefully you have not taken some of the more crass comments to heart.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"...and then there's me.

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yeah,and what about you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never had a no show but have had plenty of fantasists... Frustrating but the genuine meets more than make up for it.

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