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By *bi Haive OP   Man
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

It's quite common to see threads bemoaning the content and quality of messages and for people to state that too often the people messaging them aren't those that meet their preferences.

The site does a lot to help users in terms of filters but this still enables those of the right age, gender, verified status and those with visible pics to get in touch - even if whilst meeting your filter criteria they meet none of the specific details requested in your text.

Short of the addition of extra filters (height, body style, location are theoretically possible - but how does the site know personal taste?) there's a simple option that it seems some are loathe to use.

The block button.

I often wonder if the negative connotation of the word 'block' and it's association with its use following rudeness, abuse or an inability to accept rejection puts people off using it as simply another filter?

Would more use it (or another button) if it was labelled as 'not for me/us'?

I (on my solo profile when playing singly and now 'we' on this one) occasionally spend time browsing and applying blocks for no other reason than the knowledge that those being blocked are not compatible. It's likely that many of those blocked have never even browsed our profile or considered sending a message. So no loss to them or us. Those that subsequently try to _iew or get in touch are greeted with the standard 'you've been blocked' message.

The fact they don't know why doesn't bother me/us - I'm sure many are nice folk and it's nothing personal - but I do sometimes think it would be nicer if they got a 'sorry your not for us' message rather than the standard 'blocked' one.

So - fellow Fabsters! Do you use the block function reactively or proactively? And would a different message appeal?

A

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I use it to block people I don't want looking at my profile, ie. Men from the Brighton area. I block people who post nasty things in the forum too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's quite common to see threads bemoaning the content and quality of messages and for people to state that too often the people messaging them aren't those that meet their preferences.

The site does a lot to help users in terms of filters but this still enables those of the right age, gender, verified status and those with visible pics to get in touch - even if whilst meeting your filter criteria they meet none of the specific details requested in your text.

Short of the addition of extra filters (height, body style, location are theoretically possible - but how does the site know personal taste?) there's a simple option that it seems some are loathe to use.

The block button.

I often wonder if the negative connotation of the word 'block' and it's association with its use following rudeness, abuse or an inability to accept rejection puts people off using it as simply another filter?

Would more use it (or another button) if it was labelled as 'not for me/us'?

I (on my solo profile when playing singly and now 'we' on this one) occasionally spend time browsing and applying blocks for no other reason than the knowledge that those being blocked are not compatible. It's likely that many of those blocked have never even browsed our profile or considered sending a message. So no loss to them or us. Those that subsequently try to _iew or get in touch are greeted with the standard 'you've been blocked' message.

The fact they don't know why doesn't bother me/us - I'm sure many are nice folk and it's nothing personal - but I do sometimes think it would be nicer if they got a 'sorry your not for us' message rather than the standard 'blocked' one.

So - fellow Fabsters! Do you use the block function reactively or proactively? And would a different message appeal?

A"

There situation might change in the future and you will never know

Just saying, People can block who they want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use it proactively. Any man on my home page who puts moaning statuses up a few too many times will be blocked. Any new members who live too close for comfort are also blocked. I'm probably completely the opposite of what they're looking for most of the time but I just don't want them looking at my profile.

I had a stalker on here who started four profiles in order to chat to me so I'm quite ruthless with the block button now. This is a very rural area where most people know everyone else so blocking is another means of keeping my life on here as private ad I can.

I can never understand those on Fab who say they never block anyone. I block loads

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to block reactively as I won't browse profiles and then just block, if someone sends a message with a face picture and they are still not what I am looking for I just politely say that if then they carry on I block as no point in discussing it further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This has been discussed before and I think that it was decided it was pointless because people would still send messages of why not or abuse the person in their response.

If someone sends me a message and they are not for me, I tell them and use the note facility. If they continue to send messages, I ignore them but I don't block everyone that isn't for me only those that are abusive or continually random friendship request.

As to those who have blocked me because I am not for them or I have refused to meet them, am sure I won't and don't lose any sleep over them. We cannot appeal to everyone so there is no point in worrying about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block proactively,people who I don't think are genuine such as people from my area that have no pics,no profile or no sort of verification,people who constantly look but im not on any of their preferences,people that I think are fake,Ive blocked one person due to them being a tit through messaging recently but thats pretty rare for me to do that

I don't see a reason to dress it up into anything other than it is,its a means to hide your profile and stop any communication,people should be mature enough to understand

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By *bi Haive OP   Man
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"It's quite common to see threads bemoaning the content and quality of messages and for people to state that too often the people messaging them aren't those that meet their preferences.

The site does a lot to help users in terms of filters but this still enables those of the right age, gender, verified status and those with visible pics to get in touch - even if whilst meeting your filter criteria they meet none of the specific details requested in your text.

Short of the addition of extra filters (height, body style, location are theoretically possible - but how does the site know personal taste?) there's a simple option that it seems some are loathe to use.

The block button.

I often wonder if the negative connotation of the word 'block' and it's association with its use following rudeness, abuse or an inability to accept rejection puts people off using it as simply another filter?

Would more use it (or another button) if it was labelled as 'not for me/us'?

I (on my solo profile when playing singly and now 'we' on this one) occasionally spend time browsing and applying blocks for no other reason than the knowledge that those being blocked are not compatible. It's likely that many of those blocked have never even browsed our profile or considered sending a message. So no loss to them or us. Those that subsequently try to _iew or get in touch are greeted with the standard 'you've been blocked' message.

The fact they don't know why doesn't bother me/us - I'm sure many are nice folk and it's nothing personal - but I do sometimes think it would be nicer if they got a 'sorry your not for us' message rather than the standard 'blocked' one.

So - fellow Fabsters! Do you use the block function reactively or proactively? And would a different message appeal?

A

There situation might change in the future and you will never know

Just saying, People can block who they want "

If the reason you've blocked is down to a total lack of physical attraction or shared interests - I don't see the likelihood of that changing in the future.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We use it as another filter essentially and block anyone who has expressed some interest in us but it's not mutual.

We say no thanks if we're not interested and block.

Don't go as far as blocking people just on profile though, not for any reason of sensitivity but just because it might for instance be a profile with little content but the person behind it is much more than that.

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By *bi Haive OP   Man
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"This has been discussed before and I think that it was decided it was pointless because people would still send messages of why not or abuse the person in their response. "

I meant a button with the same result as blocking but with a different standard response if they then tried to _iew/message - rather than an auto-reply type button as seen on other sites.

They wouldn't be able to send messages.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We use it as another filter essentially and block anyone who has expressed some interest in us but it's not mutual.

We say no thanks if we're not interested and block.

Don't go as far as blocking people just on profile though, not for any reason of sensitivity but just because it might for instance be a profile with little content but the person behind it is much more than that."

That's me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually thinking about it.....

Blocked because this profile holder thinks you're a cockhead/fake/terminal cyber wanker/stalker/a man not a woman/too god damn nosey......it could be fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Actually thinking about it.....

Blocked because this profile holder thinks you're a cockhead/fake/terminal cyber wanker/stalker/a man not a woman/too god damn nosey......it could be fun "

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

a suggested filter : big sulking baby

that would significantly reduce the complaining because despite being 18 +, able to vote, fight for the country and buy a pint/glass of wine, they can't accept that I do not want to insert my penis into them.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

Blocking people who have never contacted you but have offended via their forum posts, expressed opinions you find intolerable or are too close to home for comfort I can understand.

Blocking people who won't take no for an answer and persist in keeping up correspondence I can understand.

However, spending time going through profiles of people who you've never seen post in the forums, or have never contacted you, and blocking them, I consider to be the act of the conceited and narcissistic.

To think you are so desirable that they are bound to contact you but you'll pre-empt that event by blocking them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I block persistent messagers when I've said I'm not interested and anyone who sends me nasty responses when I politely decline. I also block people sometimes after they send a message when I know they are never going to be my type and they have sent two word mails. I also block people who send random friend requests because they could not be arsed to even read my reasonably short profile.

As a slightly side issue to this is there a limit on the number if people you can have on your block list? I have been on here just a couple of weeks but already my block list is very long

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I hardly ever use it. I've done it a couple of times to local people who's whiny status kept appearing on my updates.

I don't see the benefit in blocking people who's forum posts I don't like, what does that achieve?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only block people that are very abusive. No point blocking anyone else, they could just start a new profile and contact from that.

I look for people I want to meet. I very rarely get mail from people because my profile isn't on the searches, so my system works great.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This has been discussed before and I think that it was decided it was pointless because people would still send messages of why not or abuse the person in their response.

I meant a button with the same result as blocking but with a different standard response if they then tried to _iew/message - rather than an auto-reply type button as seen on other sites.

They wouldn't be able to send messages.

A"

Ah yes gotcha now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Blocking people who have never contacted you but have offended via their forum posts, expressed opinions you find intolerable or are too close to home for comfort I can understand.

Blocking people who won't take no for an answer and persist in keeping up correspondence I can understand.

However, spending time going through profiles of people who you've never seen post in the forums, or have never contacted you, and blocking them, I consider to be the act of the conceited and narcissistic.

To think you are so desirable that they are bound to contact you but you'll pre-empt that event by blocking them. "

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By *bi Haive OP   Man
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Blocking people who have never contacted you but have offended via their forum posts, expressed opinions you find intolerable or are too close to home for comfort I can understand.

Blocking people who won't take no for an answer and persist in keeping up correspondence I can understand.

However, spending time going through profiles of people who you've never seen post in the forums, or have never contacted you, and blocking them, I consider to be the act of the conceited and narcissistic.

To think you are so desirable that they are bound to contact you but you'll pre-empt that event by blocking them.

"

I understand your point of _iew.

We don't think ourselves above anyone else.

But our method helps when we're browsing as it cuts down the results of any search.

Plus - since doing this - our inbox is much quieter and generally contains messages from those far more likely to be those we'd be interested in.

As per the title - simply a time saving exercise as far as we're concerned.

For us - and possibly others.

A

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