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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When we all started on here a first 'target' was to get verified - yes? I also appreciate that for many single guys this first step can be difficult. Many women and couples won't consider a guy without verifications.

Yesterday however a couple who winked me - I messaged them as it seemed polite - said they wouldn't possibly meet as I have too many verifications..... Anyone else come across this?

To top it all they are no longer on site lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your just a slut lol !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Your just a slut lol ! "

That should be slush?? There's a tale behind that tho.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup. You are a man whore...

Theres loads of hypocrisy on here over standards. No verries you are a nobody and boring, too many you are a devil in disguise......

I had a couple who said they.were " right kinky" when I suggested a mmf my reply was " oh no thats a bit homo- erotic for us"

WTF !?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's it a man whore !!!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Some people can be given a few veris after attending a social so it's not necessarily accurate to assume that lots of veris = slaggy slut or slutty slag. Or they may have been on here years but only meet once a month or something. That's not slaggo slutto behaviour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your veris are over 3.5 years tho!

Be different if they were all this year maybe lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots of verifications can be a turn off... I don't know why though

I guess it would just be if it was in a short space of time... Naughty people

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple
over a year ago

harrow

We've been declined on the grounds our veri was'nt recent enough ??? Like we'd forgotten how to fuck or become fake in the intervening time, go figure ?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Since you can choose to show a verification or not it's a bit daft worrying about how many a person has. We show mostly social ones to prove that we are the ones in the photos but no one can know how many others we have.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Since you can choose to show a verification or not it's a bit daft worrying about how many a person has. We show mostly social ones to prove that we are the ones in the photos but no one can know how many others we have."

There is also the "summary" showing a breakdown of meets - even those you don't show and from those no longer on site. Mine are a good mix I feel..... But do I have too many?

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Some people can be given a few veris after attending a social so it's not necessarily accurate to assume that lots of veris = slaggy slut or slutty slag. Or they may have been on here years but only meet once a month or something. That's not slaggo slutto behaviour. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Since you can choose to show a verification or not it's a bit daft worrying about how many a person has. We show mostly social ones to prove that we are the ones in the photos but no one can know how many others we have.

There is also the "summary" showing a breakdown of meets - even those you don't show and from those no longer on site. Mine are a good mix I feel..... But do I have too many?"

The number you've got would put me off...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just a thought, a quick look at your pics suggests you bareback with different women. I'm wary of those with BB pics but even more so if they have hundreds of veris.

I know it doesn't guarantee those without BB pics always play safe but it is a filtering tool.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a thought, a quick look at your pics suggests you bareback with different women. I'm wary of those with BB pics but even more so if they have hundreds of veris.

I know it doesn't guarantee those without BB pics always play safe but it is a filtering tool."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People worry too much about what others get up to and how they operate their profile.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

If I had a verification for every sexual encounter I have had I would be well in to triple figures.

If someone thinks that's too many I would not give a flying fuck. I wouldn't want to meet anyone who was so 'holier than thou'. So nothing lost.

I own my sexuality. NO ONE else!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Since you can choose to show a verification or not it's a bit daft worrying about how many a person has. We show mostly social ones to prove that we are the ones in the photos but no one can know how many others we have.

There is also the "summary" showing a breakdown of meets - even those you don't show and from those no longer on site. Mine are a good mix I feel..... But do I have too many?"

yes you're right it does show how many verifications you have, I didn't realise that doh!

Is there such a thing as too many? Some people will choose not to meet you because of them but natural selection takes place here anyway, none of us woudl want to meet teh people who thought badly of us would we, therefore nothing lost.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just a thought, a quick look at your pics suggests you bareback with different women. I'm wary of those with BB pics but even more so if they have hundreds of veris.

I know it doesn't guarantee those without BB pics always play safe but it is a filtering tool.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we have had the same issue ....

Too many verifications , and all ours are from play meets .

We used to show our summary but got fed up of being judged so don't show it now .

Some people like to feel special and I guess they feel that with the more active like us ,we wiill shag anything , so don't want to meet - but that's far from the case . We are just as selective , and have standards too , but by showing our summary we get judged as not having standards !

Oh well , we carry on regardless and continue having fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People worry too much about what others get up to and how they operate their profile. "

Yep if you don't like what I do look elsewhere basically.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Yes we have had the same issue ....

Too many verifications , and all ours are from play meets .

We used to show our summary but got fed up of being judged so don't show it now .

Some people like to feel special and I guess they feel that with the more active like us ,we wiill shag anything , so don't want to meet - but that's far from the case . We are just as selective , and have standards too , but by showing our summary we get judged as not having standards !

Oh well , we carry on regardless and continue having fun "

I will not change my profile for anyone. If someone doesn't like it they can go away in short jerky movements.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People worry too much about what others get up to and how they operate their profile. "

This.....

I cant stand immature overly graphic verries either and at the moment I dont display mine. They are a pointless backslapping waste of time imo anyway

As who would display " this guy/ couple etc were decidedly average"

I know i'm genuine and if someone needs a tick.list then good luck to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes we have had the same issue ....

Too many verifications , and all ours are from play meets .

We used to show our summary but got fed up of being judged so don't show it now .

Some people like to feel special and I guess they feel that with the more active like us ,we wiill shag anything , so don't want to meet - but that's far from the case . We are just as selective , and have standards too , but by showing our summary we get judged as not having standards !

Oh well , we carry on regardless and continue having fun

I will not change my profile for anyone. If someone doesn't like it they can go away in short jerky movements. "

I cant relate a shagging site full of one offsters being condusive to anyone being made to feel special.....fucked ragged, satisfied perhaps. Addicted most probably.......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes we have had the same issue ....

Too many verifications , and all ours are from play meets .

We used to show our summary but got fed up of being judged so don't show it now .

Some people like to feel special and I guess they feel that with the more active like us ,we wiill shag anything , so don't want to meet - but that's far from the case . We are just as selective , and have standards too , but by showing our summary we get judged as not having standards !

Oh well , we carry on regardless and continue having fun

I will not change my profile for anyone. If someone doesn't like it they can go away in short jerky movements.

I cant relate a shagging site full of one offsters being condusive to anyone being made to feel special.....fucked ragged, satisfied perhaps. Addicted most probably....... "

And there we have it ....

Judgemental attitudes ...

So we are fucked ragged and addicted !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Yes we have had the same issue ....

Too many verifications , and all ours are from play meets .

We used to show our summary but got fed up of being judged so don't show it now .

Some people like to feel special and I guess they feel that with the more active like us ,we wiill shag anything , so don't want to meet - but that's far from the case . We are just as selective , and have standards too , but by showing our summary we get judged as not having standards !

Oh well , we carry on regardless and continue having fun

I will not change my profile for anyone. If someone doesn't like it they can go away in short jerky movements.

I cant relate a shagging site full of one offsters being condusive to anyone being made to feel special.....fucked ragged, satisfied perhaps. Addicted most probably.......

And there we have it ....

Judgemental attitudes ...

So we are fucked ragged and addicted !

"

Lol.... Maybe we should get together and we can add another one each?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting point. None and no-one wants to know. Too many and you are shunned. I suppose it depends on your definition of swinging. But one thing I have noticed, fab is full of opinionated people. Takes all sorts and not just liquorice!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol nobbynobs ....hey ho , why not !

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Lol nobbynobs ....hey ho , why not !

"

you nerd to contact me the.....I'm ovet 45 lol.... xx

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By *otebonydeluxeWoman
over a year ago

earls barton

Too many had a message from guy in London who has 70 meet. .to me its like he just shag anything.all in 8 month.yet he say not looking to shag anything.mmmm. Strange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Too many had a message from guy in London who has 70 meet. .to me its like he just shag anything.all in 8 month.yet he say not looking to shag anything.mmmm. Strange."

why do you think he would shag anything ?

70 fit women isn't hard to imagine is it ?

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Too many had a message from guy in London who has 70 meet. .to me its like he just shag anything.all in 8 month.yet he say not looking to shag anything.mmmm. Strange."

Rather judgemental for a site which encourages open-minded attitudes to sexual encounters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a swinging site for f**ks sake,what do they want virgins?(of the swinging type!)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its a swinging site for f**ks sake,what do they want virgins?(of the swinging type!)"

It would seem many do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shhhhlaggg lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Shhhhlaggg lol"

LOL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its a swinging site for f**ks sake,what do they want virgins?(of the swinging type!)"

I would say it's the non-swingers that don't understand, and therefore have issues. Mostly single people will whine about too many veri's. Not as many couples...!

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol

ha ha ha..i had the same,one guy suggested I was 'higher risk' of catching std's because of the number of veri's..read carefully,all I do is suck cock,in my opinion this is minimal risk.

also,most of my veri's are from men who identify as str8 so I don't display and the missus may not suspect!!!!

All in all tho,ignorance is rare on this wonderful site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm verified and have been a while but I don't show them. As long as your genuine and honest and make an effort to start with you should be ok. There are a lot of time wasters on here and that's why you need a veri.

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By *r tickle 22Man
over a year ago

Sheffeld

No wonder I can't pull there all at your house mate lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I had a verification for every sexual encounter I have had I would be well in to triple figures.

If someone thinks that's too many I would not give a flying fuck. I wouldn't want to meet anyone who was so 'holier than thou'. So nothing lost.

I own my sexuality. NO ONE else!"

I'm on here for my sexual enjoyment...if some feel I am too much of a slut then we're obviously not compatible because I have no plans to stop my slutty activities any time soon! Only time anyone has mentioned the number of veris I have though is just after I'd replied to say 'no thanks'...weird how they changed their minds so quickly

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

If someone says I have too many veris (and guess what chucks, I don't show them all ) then I know they won't be the type of people I want to meet. Ergo, extra filter!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"If someone says I have too many veris (and guess what chucks, I don't show them all ) then I know they won't be the type of people I want to meet. Ergo, extra filter!"

Are you a slutty slaggy?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No wonder I can't pull there all at your house mate lol"

Queue at the door. Lol

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

[Removed by poster at 26/03/14 20:43:42]

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"If someone says I have too many veris (and guess what chucks, I don't show them all ) then I know they won't be the type of people I want to meet. Ergo, extra filter!

Are you a slutty slaggy? "

Yup! And loving every minute.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"If someone says I have too many veris (and guess what chucks, I don't show them all ) then I know they won't be the type of people I want to meet. Ergo, extra filter!

Are you a slutty slaggy?

Yup! And loving every minute. "

Good

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No wonder I can't pull there all at your house mate lol"

Lol....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you show them you have too many. If you hide them you don't have enough

The answer

Avoid the nutters and only shag normal people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you show them you have too many. If you hide them you don't have enough

The answer

Avoid the nutters and only shag normal people "

OI! us nutters need luvin too ya'know

Vlad the Impaler

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of verifications can be a turn off... I don't know why though

I guess it would just be if it was in a short space of time... Naughty people "

I some what agree, too many are a turn off. It isn't the fact that they have that many partners, but I think more has to do with being too open "kiss and tell".

Or don't want to be the next trophy on the wall!

And this is coming from a single guy!

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By *lorious hole bs16Man
over a year ago

Bristol


"I'm verified and have been a while but I don't show them. As long as your genuine and honest and make an effort to start with you should be ok. There are a lot of time wasters on here

and that's why you need a veri. .........I patly agree mr,although I have had time wasters (now blocked) from guys with a veri and I have met guys who have no veri's and have been totally gen...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I sometimes see over 20 veries, I dont mind them means they are an easy fuck (I hope) lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If I had a verification for every sexual encounter I have had I would be well in to triple figures.

If someone thinks that's too many I would not give a flying fuck. I wouldn't want to meet anyone who was so 'holier than thou'. So nothing lost.

I own my sexuality. NO ONE else!"

totaly agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've got to say that when I was part of a couple we often turned other couple don because of the number of meets they have with different partners. One couple had been verified by 108 couples and single men over a six month period. That seemed a tad excessive and dedication beyond the call of duty. A lot of pics showed them bareback as well and although we alway insisted on condoms, the possibility of any sort of sex with them being safe was almost non existent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Too many can be off putting in some cases. I saw one profile once with near on 500 stating bareback only, totally off putting for me but obviously not for 500 or so others lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you show them you have too many. If you hide them you don't have enough

The answer

Avoid the nutters and only shag normal people

OI! us nutters need luvin too ya'know

Vlad the Impaler "

I make an exception for certain nutters. Part of me doing my bit for care in the community

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