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By *teve261970 OP   Man
over a year ago

Gateshead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had sex with them so yes. Although it's a 3some I don't label as swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of my normal friends know i swing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we recently had a normal friend who thought we we're swingers of course we had to deny this but the problem was they went and told all their friends which I thought was out of order this is our private life and what we do in it is our business and I have a best friend who is female and she knows we swing and she makes no judgement on that whatsoever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No,I don't have any interest in their sex life so wouldn't feel the need to tell them about mine and I wouldn't fuck a friend either,I make friends out of swingers,not swingers out of friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yep, all 4 of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No they think I am on plenty of fish

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually no two friends know i swing, i forgot about my mate from school who is on here and also my aunties best friend who i have known for years was on here before

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex friend knew and when I told her she stopped talking to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The adverts without face pictures on would say that most people like to keep it private I think most people would be shocked knowing but also a little jealous that there not or dare not join

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By *exyfuncouple-40Couple
over a year ago

Bloxham

We def don't tell our friends as people judge to quickly , but we def made friends out of swinging that's why we have no face pics as we find people to judgemental but on the other hand if people looking on swingers sites they must be curious ?

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

4 of our friends know we swing. We decided to tell them as we knew they wasn't going to be judgemental.

We don't like telling porkies to those who don't know when they ask us what we have been up to/where have we been this weekend etc... but we think its best some don't know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We don't hide it we don't Advertise it either. My Daughter knows and my son knows and i would say 99% of my friends know. My female partners Family etc don't but again she would not hide it or lie.

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By *randmrsfreakyCouple
over a year ago

alfreton near chesterfield

Most of our friends and family have a pretty good idea, often get comments about our choice of holiday destinations and stipulations for a nudist beach.

quite funny really

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By *exyfuncouple-40Couple
over a year ago

Bloxham

We don't lie about it just not open about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

suckable that was the shame with us and they didn't even know for def if we did . our thoughts are tho they can't be real friends if they can accept what you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ours do well the ones we trust to keep mouths shut,

Funnily enough the single women always want to tag along tosocials

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"No,I don't have any interest in their sex life so wouldn't feel the need to tell them about mine and I wouldn't fuck a friend either,I make friends out of swingers,not swingers out of friends"

This

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon


"No,I don't have any interest in their sex life so wouldn't feel the need to tell them about mine and I wouldn't fuck a friend either,I make friends out of swingers,not swingers out of friends

This "

and this again

some of our best friends we have now made form this lifestyle

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By *exyfuncouple-40Couple
over a year ago

Bloxham

So sounds like we all happy with lifestyle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well sexyfuncpl I'm more than happy with this lifestyle so you won't get any qualms from me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thinks it only come up once in a conversation down the pub and Donna answered with what's swinging?

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By *exyfuncouple-40Couple
over a year ago

Bloxham


"well sexyfuncpl I'm more than happy with this lifestyle so you won't get any qualms from me lol "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The majority of people that I know , know I swing im very open to my sexual life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best friend and his gf knows we swing but we are close so we are open about our sex lives tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yeah my friends know about me doing this and they're a little jealous haha, my parents know too, but hey they know i stay safe.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes mine know lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yeah my friends know about me doing this and they're a little jealous haha, my parents know too, but hey they know i stay safe."

my daughter's know. I tell one of them where I'm going and with who

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of our friends know we aren't exactly vanilla, but none know the exact details of our lifestyle.

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By *eterpotedMan
over a year ago

Warrington

Mine do well my close ones . There all married with young family's so I keep them regailed with some fun tails because they wouldn't have the balls to join themselves

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By *he GriswaldsCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Some do and some don't. However ig anyone puts it to us we tell them the truth.

A fem friend of ours put it to us a couple of weeks ago when a big group of us were out on the town. When we confirmed her suspicions,she said we went up in her estimation and she's been badgering us now to take her to a club!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"4 of our friends know we swing. We decided to tell them as we knew they wasn't going to be judgemental.

We don't like telling porkies to those who don't know when they ask us what we have been up to/where have we been this weekend etc... but we think its best some don't know. "

When you told them, did they think that you were fair game after that. I can imagine some people thinking that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only my best friend does as she does too

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands


"4 of our friends know we swing. We decided to tell them as we knew they wasn't going to be judgemental.

We don't like telling porkies to those who don't know when they ask us what we have been up to/where have we been this weekend etc... but we think its best some don't know.

When you told them, did they think that you were fair game after that. I can imagine some people thinking that."

Fair game? Do you mean easy or "good on you" by that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not at all this site is for my own private use no body needs to no what I do in my own spare time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Crikey no they'd have a blue fit. One of my closest friends calls me the naughty sexy one knows I'm 'up to something' but never asks.

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By *unPeteMan
over a year ago

Near Bristol

I have no friends

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No,I don't have any interest in their sex life so wouldn't feel the need to tell them about mine and I wouldn't fuck a friend either,I make friends out of swingers,not swingers out of friends"

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands


"4 of our friends know we swing. We decided to tell them as we knew they wasn't going to be judgemental.

We don't like telling porkies to those who don't know when they ask us what we have been up to/where have we been this weekend etc... but we think its best some don't know.

When you told them, did they think that you were fair game after that. I can imagine some people thinking that."

The 4 friends we chose to tell have been extremely supportive of our lifestyle.

One even came to a club with me and loved it! Even had fun themselves...

The main thing that has been said by all of them is they wish they had the guts. Also that we are only doing what most would love to do and wouldn't dare to do. They agree with our outlook on life which is...lifes too short. Enjoy it to the max. Have fun..etc etc...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think th same with these friends they must have gone to some extremes to think we are doing this without prove lol

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By *exyfuncouple-40Couple
over a year ago

Bloxham


"i think th same with these friends they must have gone to some extremes to think we are doing this without prove lol"

That's it but think must of them would be jealous

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"No,I don't have any interest in their sex life so wouldn't feel the need to tell them about mine and I wouldn't fuck a friend either,I make friends out of swingers,not swingers out of friends"

Simply: this!

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By *agicman2010Man
over a year ago

nottingham

Make friends out of swingers, not swingers out of friends.

Dont open up your private life to your friends and they cant judge you for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best friend (a he) knows but he's the only one.

I don't talk about it unless questions are asked, and then he sometimes winces at the answers.

I love the prude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My brother in law does as he contacted us saying sorry you are out if our age range as he wanted us to meet. We strung him along for hours until we invited him as a friend then he saw the face pics lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

things is we don't advertise we swing nor gives signs we do around Quote normal friends so we don't know why they have jumped to conclusions , maybe it's a case they want to but daren't lol but since then they have stopped talking to us , no worries on that score

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes friends and family

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My brother in law does as he contacted us saying sorry you are out if our age range as he wanted us to meet. We strung him along for hours until we invited him as a friend then he saw the face pics lol "

that would have been as funny as fuck lol bet it left him gobsmacked too lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex friend knew and when I told her she stopped talking to me"

You'd like to think a true friend wouldn't be so judgmental. I have a friend who I'm sure would react the exact same way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My ex friend knew and when I told her she stopped talking to me

You'd like to think a true friend wouldn't be so judgmental. I have a friend who I'm sure would react the exact same way!"

exactly right true friends would accept you for whatever you are or do

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By *punkloverCouple
over a year ago

hatfield

Nobody knows, everyone thinks i'm innocent !!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nobody knows, everyone thinks i'm innocent !!!!"

must have a face of an angel lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thinks it only come up once in a conversation down the pub and Donna answered with what's swinging? "

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By *punkloverCouple
over a year ago

hatfield


"Nobody knows, everyone thinks i'm innocent !!!!

must have a face of an angel lol "

I do indeed thanks God lol

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By *londeCazWoman
over a year ago

Arse End of the Universe, Cumbria

My close circle of friends know, one of them is my safety text bud, a couple of other friends know and my work colleague came right out and asked me so I told him yes I was - not particularly bothered who knows, but don't discuss it in anything other than vague detail when I've been asked about clubs and parties. My parents think I "date" a lot and are aware it's folk I meet off t'interweb, I'm not gonna disabuse them of the fact that it's a swingers site rather than match dot com

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Some of my friends know, my mother knows I have friends with benefits she just doesn't know how many

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London


"The adverts without face pictures on would say that most people like to keep it private I think most people would be shocked knowing but also a little jealous that there not or dare not join"

Don't get the jealous bit. The site is open to all. I think because we're promiscuous every one else should be too. Believe it or not this type of site turns the stomachs of some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"4 of our friends know we swing. We decided to tell them as we knew they wasn't going to be judgemental.

We don't like telling porkies to those who don't know when they ask us what we have been up to/where have we been this weekend etc... but we think its best some don't know.

When you told them, did they think that you were fair game after that. I can imagine some people thinking that.

Fair game? Do you mean easy or "good on you" by that? "

Some of my male friends would probably think my wife was fair game if they knew. They would likely think "if you fuck strangers, why not me."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some of mine know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No,I don't have any interest in their sex life so wouldn't feel the need to tell them about mine and I wouldn't fuck a friend either,I make friends out of swingers,not swingers out of friends

This "

Perfectly put

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"I had sex with them so yes. Although it's a 3some I don't label as swinging "

I don't consider myself a swinger but friends know I use the net to hook up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just have a friend who knows I'm a swinger. He'll never be a swinger, has no desire to even think about it and I have no desire to make him one.

I think I'll permit myself a friend I can tell everything to, even though we're opposite genders.

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands


"4 of our friends know we swing. We decided to tell them as we knew they wasn't going to be judgemental.

We don't like telling porkies to those who don't know when they ask us what we have been up to/where have we been this weekend etc... but we think its best some don't know.

When you told them, did they think that you were fair game after that. I can imagine some people thinking that.

Fair game? Do you mean easy or "good on you" by that?

Some of my male friends would probably think my wife was fair game if they knew. They would likely think "if you fuck strangers, why not me.""

Our 2 male friends that we told are a gay couple so no chance of that.

The people we chose to tell are not judgemental. We wouldn't have told them if we thought for one minute they would have had made any issues about it. Its all good and works for us.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My close circle knows I swing, they enjoy the stories. I wouldn't tell anyone outside of that close circle. I have some friends who are into bdsm fetish and they seem to make it public knowledge, that I don't understand!

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe

Some do but they also play lol x but many don't. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't even tell people on here what I get up to so I certainly wouldn't be telling my friends!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The adverts without face pictures on would say that most people like to keep it private I think most people would be shocked knowing but also a little jealous that there not or dare not join

Don't get the jealous bit. The site is open to all. I think because we're promiscuous every one else should be too. Believe it or not this type of site turns the stomachs of some. "

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By *exyfuncouple-40Couple
over a year ago

Bloxham


"I don't even tell people on here what I get up to so I certainly wouldn't be telling my friends!!!"

Lol that's to true

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few vanilla friends do,and my ex does x but otherwise im just a normal single mum havent got im a swinger tatoo x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Only the friends we've met through swinging our other friends have no idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A few vanilla friends do,and my ex does x but otherwise im just a normal single mum havent got im a swinger tatoo x "

What a brilliant idea lets all get tattoo's with the phrase I'm a swinger lmao it would be like having the plague haha

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By *oobsandballsMan
over a year ago

st andrews

Some of my friends know, they're all cool with it

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By *appyfuckerMan
over a year ago

in a happy place north wales coast

only my friends on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"only my friends on here "

Well i would hope they would as it is a swinger site lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. I wish I could include a few of my friends though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best friend knows. He's not keen on me doing it because he just doesn't get it.

Amber

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By *moothies.Couple
over a year ago

Woodthorpe

A few of the guys I work with have started making comments about me being a swinger, but I neither confirm or deny it.

It's much more fun just stringing them on and letting their imagination do the rest.

Mr

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I have two female friends who know, one of whom has been to Chams with me.

My other vertical (copyright: Femme Fatale) friends know I have a healthy sex life with friends. It's no shock to them at all as they know I have been single for 26 years and most are a little envious.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I think she maybe a bit greeneyed now lol

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah...all my friends know, and my kids, I am who I am, I love my life, and won't hide it from anyone!

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By *lassyandadventurousMan
over a year ago

England and Wales

No...none do to my knowledge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

most of my friends I met online

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most of my friends do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No vanillas only i people i met on here and have vanilla social meets to as well as sexy meets xx

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By *issLissCouple
over a year ago

south east

Everyone who knows me knows what I'm like... My family, friends, work colleagues know I don't think sex should be a taboo subject and talk about it freely. Saying that when it comes to the swinging world I'm pretty tame so there isn't that much to tell!! Lol

Id say the only people I don't talk about it with is my kids, their dad and his family but again they know what I'm like we just don't mention it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"things is we don't advertise we swing nor gives signs we do around Quote normal friends so we don't know why they have jumped to conclusions , maybe it's a case they want to but daren't lol but since then they have stopped talking to us , no worries on that score "

Perhaps they have/had a profile on here? Saw you and had a panic attack!!! Deflecting is often a sign of guilt!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My friends love me for who I am,, I told them I was an escort so why would I hide that I swing, what shocks most of them is that I'm not bisexual,, I kiss them on the lips hug them laugh & then agree I'm surprised too... x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any of them who cared to ask we'd tell, we were never ashamed of what we did.

If any were judgemental about it or badmouthed us because of it then they weren't the friends we thought them to be, however none of them have proved to be so.

For the most part they're very interested and inquisitive about it.....especially the women.

Swingers often remain clandestine because they say that swinging isn't seen as acceptable by society, well neither was being gay until people started to be honest, open and stand up for the lifestyle they believed in.

Perhaps swingers should take the same attitude!

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Any of them who cared to ask we'd tell, we were never ashamed of what we did.

If any were judgemental about it or badmouthed us because of it then they weren't the friends we thought them to be, however none of them have proved to be so.

For the most part they're very interested and inquisitive about it.....especially the women.

Swingers often remain clandestine because they say that swinging isn't seen as acceptable by society, well neither was being gay until people started to be honest, open and stand up for the lifestyle they believed in.

Perhaps swingers should take the same attitude!

XXXX"

I'd wear that badge,, my life is not shameful, I'm just free spirited & horny as a bag of horny things, what my friends are pleased to know that I'm not endangering my health or others,x,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes and proud I am what I am bisexual and you don't like it join my blocked list am happy for you to be there. All my friends and family know am bi and on swinging sites.

If they don't like it tough I don't care bi n proud here

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By *n need of helpCouple
over a year ago

hull

wish they did , be easier to meet .

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By *ssexguy69Man
over a year ago

thurrock Essex

most of my cabbie mates know ,even got a couple of them to join last year , but they have left now,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did discover my parents where swingers many years ago but they didn't know I knew.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My very best friend does. She's my safety contact.

The girl I rent my place with accidentally found out too.

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By *oodvibrations68Couple
over a year ago

Lake Constance

Some do and some don't....

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By *teve261970 OP   Man
over a year ago

Gateshead


"Some do but they also play lol x but many don't. X "

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By *agicman2010Man
over a year ago

nottingham

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By *ancpl05Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend

Most close friends know but don't know we are on site etc. some who have been interested have asked us about it and we have even played with some. Never had any bad reaction or comments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some do! But many of them play too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My best friend is the only friend of mine who knows. Well, after 35 years, you know who can be trusted.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am reminded of the old saying 'If you piss in your pants, it doesn't stay warm forever'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of my freinds no ....I have made a few freinds in this 'life' ...but on a monday morning it a bit depressing as noone to tell about the awesome fun I got upto over the weekend ) ...that is the only flaw :/

Everyone thinks I stay home doing notalot !! Lol

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