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By *iss_Behaving OP Woman
over a year ago

manchester

The reality.....

Hi all....

Right, am getting to the point where I think I may have had enough of swinging....

I say May as I'm a little unsure....

The reason I'm unsure is that I build up this fabtastic night out where all my little thoughts ( just the sexy dirty ones ) are fought to life....

Only when I actually do go out to 'these nights' they are no where near anything I picture....

I don't dream off rooms full of Greek gods etc,just. Kemal sexy people who, well, I don't seem able to find/meet...

Is it time to stop swinging ?, or am I looking in the wrong places ?..

And yes, I'm more than happy withmy 'vanilla ' lifex

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By *iss_Behaving OP Woman
over a year ago

manchester

iOS predictive text is crap BTW !!.. Arghhhhh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

can you give an example? it is prob a mix of yr expectoration or time place people etc?

android text prediction is just as crap!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe life isn't full of Greek god's or perfect size 8 suntanned girls after all then ?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure all you previous meets will be chuffed as punch if they read your post!

I think you get out what you put in on the whole but I'd never expect it to be incredible sex just because it's swinging sex.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I always say if something doesn't meet your expectations and isn't compulsory then stop doing it. I expected to like banoffi cheese cake, I didn't so I didn't eat the rest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always say if something doesn't meet your expectations and isn't compulsory then stop doing it. I expected to like banoffi cheese cake, I didn't so I didn't eat the rest.

This is good advice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The reality.....

Hi all....

Right, am getting to the point where I think I may have had enough of swinging....

I say May as I'm a little unsure....

The reason I'm unsure is that I build up this fabtastic night out where all my little thoughts ( just the sexy dirty ones ) are fought to life....

Only when I actually do go out to 'these nights' they are no where near anything I picture....

I don't dream off rooms full of Greek gods etc,just. Kemal sexy people who, well, I don't seem able to find/meet...

Is it time to stop swinging ?, or am I looking in the wrong places ?..

And yes, I'm more than happy withmy 'vanilla ' lifex"

You'll always find what you want it's a process of elimination x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I always say if something doesn't meet your expectations and isn't compulsory then stop doing it. I expected to like banoffi cheese cake, I didn't so I didn't eat the rest.

This is good advice. "

Mind you I absolutely love chocolate cheesecake so I eat it as frequently as possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your obviously not finding the right people, Real life is so much better than my fantasies ever were

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The reality.....

Hi all....

Right, am getting to the point where I think I may have had enough of swinging....

I say May as I'm a little unsure....

The reason I'm unsure is that I build up this fabtastic night out where all my little thoughts ( just the sexy dirty ones ) are fought to life....

Only when I actually do go out to 'these nights' they are no where near anything I picture....

I don't dream off rooms full of Greek gods etc,just. Kemal sexy people who, well, I don't seem able to find/meet...

Is it time to stop swinging ?, or am I looking in the wrong places ?..

And yes, I'm more than happy withmy 'vanilla ' lifex"

What's actually the part that's wrong?

Is it that they don't fulfil your naughty thoughts as if that's it it might be helpful to write about them a bit on your profile as it's basically just a list of don't and doesn't really say anything but the most generic stuff about what you're looking for.

People aren't mind readers.

If it's that you're not finding people who are up to your expectations looks wise well that's something everyone faces inside or outside of swinging

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We think it is because your imagination can always achieve perfection , lets be honest we all do it where as for real "perfection" is a very difficult thing to find. We also find that some of our most sexual encounters happen there and then in clubs. Just our opinon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always say if something doesn't meet your expectations and isn't compulsory then stop doing it. I expected to like banoffi cheese cake, I didn't so I didn't eat the rest.

A greater analogy of life I have not found

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

The reality is always different to the fantasy for us. But that's never been a bad thing for us. Still always enjoyed our experiences...

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By *iss_Behaving OP Woman
over a year ago

manchester

No, I'm not knocking a single meet I've had... Just that I may have ran out of fantasys ( well,legal ones anyway !) lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Alot of people discover that a fantasy is amazing but in reality it comes up short of the mark and wish they would have left it as a fantasy. However we want to try our fantasies out as much as possible. Yes some have come up short or not gone to plan but sometimes it can't be helped especially when it involves others.

Illegal? .... do tell x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you've discovered what many people have. That fantasy is always better than reality

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always say if something doesn't meet your expectations and isn't compulsory then stop doing it. I expected to like banoffi cheese cake, I didn't so I didn't eat the rest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you've discovered what many people have. That fantasy is always better than reality "

Not always no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I ask if you meets are with fairly stereotypical people. Obviously you are very attractive so possibly attract a certain type of person which has become boring.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The reason we came on fab was because we had fantasy s but it seems whenever we try to find or meet others it's not the same and you have to do lots of spade work to actually try to get to what turned you on because when your in play and fantasising that maybe another person was doing things with you that person is who you want him or her to be because its a fantasy but in real life not as easy also when your finished the fantasy you can just lay back and cuddle in real life you have another person with you , we're not sure if to stick to fantasy or go for the real thing any ideas ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, we had one encounter that was quite literally mind-blowingly good.

I think it depends on both effort made and expectation with the scene.

If you have a partner there is little chance a casual encounter can top the satisfaction as (if you have great sex in your relationship) you know each others bodies and triggers so well. A stranger has to try to discover some of that over a relatively short timescale.

If you're bored then a change is as good as a rest. You might come back filthier then ever.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Can I ask if you meets are with fairly stereotypical people. Obviously you are very attractive so possibly attract a certain type of person which has become boring."

Naughty staffs you to are very attractive too gorg pics x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The reality.....

Hi all....

Right, am getting to the point where I think I may have had enough of swinging....

I say May as I'm a little unsure....

The reason I'm unsure is that I build up this fabtastic night out where all my little thoughts ( just the sexy dirty ones ) are fought to life....

Only when I actually do go out to 'these nights' they are no where near anything I picture....

I don't dream off rooms full of Greek gods etc,just. Kemal sexy people who, well, I don't seem able to find/meet...

Is it time to stop swinging ?, or am I looking in the wrong places ?..

And yes, I'm more than happy withmy 'vanilla ' lifex

You'll always find what you want it's a process of elimination x"

Sorry but what is vanilla

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The reality.....

Hi all....

Right, am getting to the point where I think I may have had enough of swinging....

I say May as I'm a little unsure....

The reason I'm unsure is that I build up this fabtastic night out where all my little thoughts ( just the sexy dirty ones ) are fought to life....

Only when I actually do go out to 'these nights' they are no where near anything I picture....

I don't dream off rooms full of Greek gods etc,just. Kemal sexy people who, well, I don't seem able to find/meet...

Is it time to stop swinging ?, or am I looking in the wrong places ?..

And yes, I'm more than happy withmy 'vanilla ' lifex

You'll always find what you want it's a process of elimination x

Sorry but what is vanilla

It's a term for being plain and boring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's very kind of you to say. Mrs N is lovely isn't she. She does put a lot of effort in to getting ready for meets. I'm a lucky guy.

"Can I ask if you meets are with fairly stereotypical people. Obviously you are very attractive so possibly attract a certain type of person which has become boring.

Naughty staffs you to are very attractive too gorg pics x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"That's very kind of you to say. Mrs N is lovely isn't she. She does put a lot of effort in to getting ready for meets. I'm a lucky guy.

Can I ask if you meets are with fairly stereotypical people. Obviously you are very attractive so possibly attract a certain type of person which has become boring.

Naughty staffs you to are very attractive too gorg pics x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The reason I posted a comment on this forum page is that we are experiencing a little of the same ourselves as Miss behaving. Will probably carry on doing it as it's something we've enjoyed over the years but it has lost a little of it's magic so definitely not doing as much at the moment. Maybe something will spark our interest again.

"That's very kind of you to say. Mrs N is lovely isn't she. She does put a lot of effort in to getting ready for meets. I'm a lucky guy.

Can I ask if you meets are with fairly stereotypical people. Obviously you are very attractive so possibly attract a certain type of person which has become boring.

Naughty staffs you to are very attractive too gorg pics x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always say if something doesn't meet your expectations and isn't compulsory then stop doing it. I expected to like banoffi cheese cake, I didn't so I didn't eat the rest.

I will eat yours then! Lol! The BANOFEE PIE I mean!!!!

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

We have lived out our fantasies doing roleplay in films many times but swing to relax as there is no pressure.

We are always making new bucket lists lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it's all about chemistry. You can fancy the arse off someone with hot pics or naughty chat but then if there is no chemistry it's like finding the key doesn't fit the lock.

I've found amazing chemistry with people that are not conventional Greek gods and goddesses, just nice people who know how to flick those switches.

Online swinging is a bit like online shopping, sometimes that Pear you order is really juicy, sometimes it's replaced by a limp banana!

I find if you expect too much, then generally it's easier to be disappointed.

Go with the flow, relax and enjoy their company and you will find much less pressure for all parties.

Sometimes it just doesn't work, if it happens, move on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I find it's all about chemistry. You can fancy the arse off someone with hot pics or naughty chat but then if there is no chemistry it's like finding the key doesn't fit the lock.

I've found amazing chemistry with people that are not conventional Greek gods and goddesses, just nice people who know how to flick those switches.

Perfectly put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The reality never matches the fantasy for me. I fancy dogging and it turns me on to think about it, but the reality scares the life out of me.

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

"The reality never matches the fantasy for me. I fancy dogging and it turns me on to think about it, but the reality scares the life out of me."

This is the only thing we have never done, sounds great in theory but not got the nerve to do it for real lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have a fantasy of dp/dvp but reality is it's hard to find a couple we are both happy to this with & a couple that we have met & are happy to do this with hasn't happened yet!

Still it's good fun to have a fantasy using it in dirty talk & role play with toys in the bedroom

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By *ensualtouch15Man
over a year ago

ashby de la zouch

I think you need to post a status telling everyone you're going to leave fab in x days ?

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

"No, I'm not knocking a single meet I've had... Just that I may have ran out of fantasys ( well,legal ones anyway !) lol x"

I have been meeting/swinging/fucking on sites like these for 18 yrs (on and off). I can categorically say: If you want to put your statement to the test, I live in manchester and am free to meet.

After all these years, I have by no means exhausted sex, it is limited only by imagination.

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By *dwalu2Couple
over a year ago

Bristol

It says in your profile that you have been swinging for nine years. If nothing has lived up to your fantasies by now, it would seem unlikely that it ever will, so yes, it probably is time to throw the towel in!

Or don't, of course. Only you can tell what's right for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My fantasy is good sex that's gets better and a total escape from my day to day life x

found it too x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good sex is :-

Imagination 98%, friction 2%...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you mainly doing one-off's or seeing long term FB's?

For me, one-off's are good but the really great, mind blowing sex comes from getting to know someone a little better and finding out what makes them tick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you mainly doing one-off's or seeing long term FB's?

For me, one-off's are good but the really great, mind blowing sex comes from getting to know someone a little better and finding out what makes them tick"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing about fantasy is that you're always in control. I personally enjoy the unexpected so am not usually disappointed lol

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple
over a year ago

harrow

We try never to imagine what a meet is going to be like before hand ,and when trying to live out one of our numerous naughty fantasies never expect them to be exactly like you Imagine them in your head, that way you are always going to be pleasantly suprised when they do match or exceed anything you may have imagine ,works for us ,spend a lot of time with silly grins on our face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The reality.....

Hi all....

Right, am getting to the point where I think I may have had enough of swinging....

I say May as I'm a little unsure....

The reason I'm unsure is that I build up this fabtastic night out where all my little thoughts ( just the sexy dirty ones ) are fought to life....

Only when I actually do go out to 'these nights' they are no where near anything I picture....

I don't dream off rooms full of Greek gods etc,just. Kemal sexy people who, well, I don't seem able to find/meet...

Is it time to stop swinging ?, or am I looking in the wrong places ?..

And yes, I'm more than happy withmy 'vanilla ' lifex

You'll always find what you want it's a process of elimination x

Sorry but what is vanilla

It's a term for being plain and boring "

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I always say if something doesn't meet your expectations and isn't compulsory then stop doing it. I expected to like banoffi cheese cake, I didn't so I didn't eat the rest.

I will eat yours then! Lol! The BANOFEE PIE I mean!!!!

Phew!! You're welcome to it...the banoffi that is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The reason we came on fab was because we had fantasy s but it seems whenever we try to find or meet others it's not the same and you have to do lots of spade work to actually try to get to what turned you on because when your in play and fantasising that maybe another person was doing things with you that person is who you want him or her to be because its a fantasy but in real life not as easy also when your finished the fantasy you can just lay back and cuddle in real life you have another person with you , we're not sure if to stick to fantasy or go for the real thing any ideas ?

You'll find lots of guys are willing to leave you an your partner alone afterwards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sadly (or,realistically?) some people on here don't care as much about fulfilling your fantasy as you do. They want to have fun but have no desire or connection with you to go that extra mile. I've had it happen and it can be disappointing. But don't give up unless you've stopped enjoying. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sadly (or,realistically?) some people on here don't care as much about fulfilling your fantasy as you do. They want to have fun but have no desire or connection with you to go that extra mile. I've had it happen and it can be disappointing. But don't give up unless you've stopped enjoying. X"

Well should you realistically be expecting people just to fulfil your fantasies or should you be looking to fulfil their too?

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