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Swinging ALWAYS means more than 2 people are involved?

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By *agicfingerslovely OP   Man
over a year ago

Rugby

Nothing wrong with 'singles' meeting up for a fuck, which seems to the reason some people use well known dating sites as well

But is not the primary reason for fab and other similar sites not for people more than 2 to share fun?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing wrong with 'singles' meeting up for a fuck, which seems to the reason some people use well known dating sites as well

But is not the primary reason for fab and other similar sites not for people more than 2 to share fun?

"

2 singles may meet on here , and become a couple who play together with other singles or couples .

The freedom of choice and non judgemental ( at times lol ) way of fab is appealing to singles who like the liberating lifestyle .

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By *ayandess1Couple
over a year ago

bridgwater

Yes. Simply put.

Lets face it, if a single woman wants sex she just has to ask.

If a single man wants sex, he has to jump through the same hoops in the swinging world and out of it.

I believe that swinging is meant pretty much for couples only.

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By *oulcakeMan
over a year ago

Gornal

Swinging means having sexual relations outside of a monogamous relationship. It doesn't matter if it's one on one or many on many. A couple who meet another for separate room swinging are still only having one on one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging means whatever you want it to

Stop labelling things to your way of thinking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do it your way OP and the rest of us can commune how we wish. Swinging is whatever you want it to be.

From the female of a swinging couple who plays with swinging couples as part of a couple and plays with swinging singles alone. (don't worry, nobody will force you to follow my model of swinging)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging means whatever you want it to

Stop labelling things to your way of thinking"

Agreed 100% , if everyone is happy just do whatever you want xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You do it your way OP and the rest of us can commune how we wish. Swinging is whatever you want it to be.

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By *agicfingerslovely OP   Man
over a year ago

Rugby

Do think swinging is primary an activity revolving around a couple etc with or without both people swinging but by at least agreement that others including singles can be played with.

A single fucking a single or a couple fucking is just that surely until they decide to bring others into the play?

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By *agicfingerslovely OP   Man
over a year ago

Rugby

Not trying to label anyone or cause friction but think its a good idea to be a bit clearer about what we think the 'life style' is about.

I say cheating is for example is a difficult one when swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not a swinger. I just shag about a bit. If I had a husband he would be mine only

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've got a (now) single girlfriend, that has more group sex than we do, as she plays with couples, she also plays with other singles in group situations.

Does that make her less of a swinger than what we are?

Say in a club, if she goes into a room with 5 other singles, is that not swinging? or only if at least a 'pucker' couple is in there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging means whatever you want it to

Stop labelling things to your way of thinking

Agreed 100% , if everyone is happy just do whatever you want xx"

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"Nothing wrong with 'singles' meeting up for a fuck, which seems to the reason some people use well known dating sites as well

But is not the primary reason for fab and other similar sites not for people more than 2 to share fun?

"

Not essentially. If a couple meet with a couple and they swap and go to separate rooms there are only two people involved in each sex act and it's still swinging.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I agree with you that singles meeting for sex isn't swinging.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross


"I'm not a swinger. I just shag about a bit. If I had a husband he would be mine only "

I like this honesty. It sees the difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think swinging is historically a couples pursuit, hence why it was known as wife swapping.

But forget about labels just have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples meeting singles for sex is them having a 3sum to me

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think swinging has to be more than one person cos that's just a wank.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not trying to label anyone or cause friction but think its a good idea to be a bit clearer about what we think the 'life style' is about. "

Why?....it means something different to everyone, so what difference would it make to the way you do things?

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.


"I think swinging has to be more than one person cos that's just a wank. "

Unless they have not scored a meet yet....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think swinging has to be more than one person cos that's just a wank. "

Ahh the old what or who are swingers conundrum , it means so many different things to so many different people.

Who cares about labels just enjoy what you want to enjoy and don't worry about the rest

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By *agicfingerslovely OP   Man
over a year ago

Rugby


"Not trying to label anyone or cause friction but think its a good idea to be a bit clearer about what we think the 'life style' is about.

Why?....it means something different to everyone, so what difference would it make to the way you do things?"

I think it does matter as some see this site as a easy fuck site or a porn site and while that may have its place, they have no conception of the anything more. Most people on this seem to have some idea that swinging is a bit more and that is why this site is v good by the way.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"easy fuck site"?!

Read the threads and posts from those not being successful on here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not trying to label anyone or cause friction but think its a good idea to be a bit clearer about what we think the 'life style' is about.

Why?....it means something different to everyone, so what difference would it make to the way you do things?

I think it does matter as some see this site as a easy fuck site or a porn site and while that may have its place, they have no conception of the anything more. Most people on this seem to have some idea that swinging is a bit more and that is why this site is v good by the way.

"

it is an easy fuck site for some. Sex is the goal for everyone on here regardless of how easy or difficult it is to get. Some couples meet at the drop of a hat too you know when they find themselves with some unexpected free time. People meet in clubs and have sex without getting to know much about the people they are having sex with. Swinging came about long before we had the world wide web. This facility in itself has made it easier for people to get sex with a wider range of people and much more choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""easy fuck site"?!

Read the threads and posts from those not being successful on here! "

easy peasy lemon squeezy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing wrong with 'singles' meeting up for a fuck, which seems to the reason some people use well known dating sites as well

But is not the primary reason for fab and other similar sites not for people more than 2 to share fun?

"

Am I missing the point....but you are "swinging" on your own?? Also, without us singles, how would you "swingers" get your threesomes?!! Can't have it all ways!

x

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By *agicfingerslovely OP   Man
over a year ago

Rugby


"Nothing wrong with 'singles' meeting up for a fuck, which seems to the reason some people use well known dating sites as well

But is not the primary reason for fab and other similar sites not for people more than 2 to share fun?

Am I missing the point....but you are "swinging" on your own?? Also, without us singles, how would you "swingers" get your threesomes?!! Can't have it all ways!

x "

Trying to get an idea what people think.

In my relationship, I can swing but its not a pass to fuck everyone as its about swinging primary with perhaps a bit of BDSM training thrown in. I am not single in reality. Fb's would be ok but not for just another unswinger related fuck.

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I just do my thing with people who will do their thing with me.

It has served me well.

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By *agicfingerslovely OP   Man
over a year ago

Rugby

Too be honest think I have the best of both worlds.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not trying to label anyone or cause friction but think its a good idea to be a bit clearer about what we think the 'life style' is about.

Why?....it means something different to everyone, so what difference would it make to the way you do things?

I think it does matter as some see this site as a easy fuck site or a porn site and while that may have its place, they have no conception of the anything more. Most people on this seem to have some idea that swinging is a bit more and that is why this site is v good by the way.

"

That is your _iew of what the site is and how it works for you. It isn't the same for everyone. So my question was, how does telling other people how you think the site should be used help in the way you use it? And do you think by defining swinging you'll get all those that see it as a quick fuck saying "oh thats me out then"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothing wrong with 'singles' meeting up for a fuck, which seems to the reason some people use well known dating sites as well

But is not the primary reason for fab and other similar sites not for people more than 2 to share fun?

"

According to urban dictionary swinging is something a promiscuous person does with one or more persons, so yes singles and couples can swing

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By *agicfingerslovely OP   Man
over a year ago

Rugby


"Not trying to label anyone or cause friction but think its a good idea to be a bit clearer about what we think the 'life style' is about.

Why?....it means something different to everyone, so what difference would it make to the way you do things?

?

I think it does matter as some see this site as a easy fuck site or a porn site and while that may have its place, they have no conception of the anything more. Most people on this seem to have some idea that swinging is a bit more and that is why this site is v good by the way.

That is your _iew of what the site is and how it works for you. It isn't the same for everyone. So my question was, how does telling other people how you think the site should be used help in the way you use it? And do you think by defining swinging you'll get all those that see it as a quick fuck saying "oh thats me out then"?"

Then perhaps using your logic no one should moan about the conduct of single men on here or in clubs?

Track back to heading and you will see it put as a question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not trying to label anyone or cause friction but think its a good idea to be a bit clearer about what we think the 'life style' is about.

Why?....it means something different to everyone, so what difference would it make to the way you do things?

?

I think it does matter as some see this site as a easy fuck site or a porn site and while that may have its place, they have no conception of the anything more. Most people on this seem to have some idea that swinging is a bit more and that is why this site is v good by the way.

That is your _iew of what the site is and how it works for you. It isn't the same for everyone. So my question was, how does telling other people how you think the site should be used help in the way you use it? And do you think by defining swinging you'll get all those that see it as a quick fuck saying "oh thats me out then"?

Then perhaps using your logic no one should moan about the conduct of single men on here or in clubs?

"

Quite right. I'm intelligent enough to know that the behaviour of some single guys isn't a reflection of the behaviour of all. Although what that has to do with your original question I'm not entirely sure, unless you're saying ban all single males from swinging?

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"Swinging means whatever you want it to

Stop labelling things to your way of thinking"

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By *ayandess1Couple
over a year ago

bridgwater

2. a person who swaps sexual partners in a group, esp habitually

Collins English dictionary for swinger.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"2. a person who swaps sexual partners in a group, esp habitually

Collins English dictionary for swinger.

"

so that swinging social i was at last night... you mean that the couples can be classed as swingers and the rest of us are just "larking about" then....

thanks for the clarification.......

should when you are looking for that "single fem".... you guys are swinging, she isn't????

i'll hang up and listen..........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined fabflirts because I don't class myself as a swinger. I'm afraid that site didn't really take off so I find the singles here.

Ultimately I'd like to find a kinky partner and join in the swinging in the conventional sense .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not the type of person to have more than one sexual partner, only playing with my FWB, no one else

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging means whatever you want it to

Stop labelling things to your way of thinking"

Totally agree! And who cares anyway???? Why does this occupy so many peoples minds? If people are happy and its fully consensual, what difference does it make? There is something for everyone. Clubs and parties offer couples only nights for couples who ONLY want to swing with couples. But there are also mixed nights, single nights too. So where is the problem? Just a few minority who want to stick a label on something that gives them a false sense of belonging!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The beauty of this site is that all things are possible. I'm a single woman. I meet lovely young men (because that's my thing) for 1:1s. I've met couples. I have a couple profile with a young man and we meet couples and single ladies. Isn't that great? I call it "fun". You can call it what you like, it's a difference that makes no difference.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging means whatever you want it to

Stop labelling things to your way of thinking"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely two single people meeting for sex is dating? Or possibly single people meeting a succession of single people for sex is shagging around? Is a matter for continual debate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The beauty of this site is that all things are possible. I'm a single woman. I meet lovely young men (because that's my thing) for 1:1s. I've met couples. I have a couple profile with a young man and we meet couples and single ladies. Isn't that great? I call it "fun". You can call it what you like, it's a difference that makes no difference. "

Absolutely! We are all here for 'fun'! Simple! x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely two single people meeting for sex is dating? Or possibly single people meeting a succession of single people for sex is shagging around? Is a matter for continual debate "

Well in that case...I 'date' a lot!!! I have some fantastic 'dates'!

Except last night which was a vanilla date and a disaster!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In response to the OP's post:

Who gives a fuck? Just enjoy what you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why the need to lable singles as swingers or not? We are all consenting adults. Singles are here for their own reasons. It really doesn't matter if they are single int he real world or not. We all have our own needs and likes/dislikes. Live and let live and play with those you like. Ignore or block those you are not interested. Life is too short, find someone you enjoy and go for it but please stop the preaching. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely two single people meeting for sex is dating? Or possibly single people meeting a succession of single people for sex is shagging around? Is a matter for continual debate

Well in that case...I 'date' a lot!!! I have some fantastic 'dates'!

Except last night which was a vanilla date and a disaster! "

Choose your dates more carefully one would suggest

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"Nothing wrong with 'singles' meeting up for a fuck, which seems to the reason some people use well known dating sites as well

But is not the primary reason for fab and other similar sites not for people more than 2 to share fun?

Not essentially. If a couple meet with a couple and they swap and go to separate rooms there are only two people involved in each sex act and it's still swinging. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't care less what labels mean! Thats just for insecure people desparate for membership of an exclusive club they can belong to so it makes them feel special.

This is for everyone.

So 'membership' (for those in desperate need to belong!)... is simple:

1) Be an adult. That means over 18 and be capable of good manners and social skills / etiquette!

2) Have mental capacity to give and refuse consent as only you wish to, without coercion or pressure from others.

3) Be capable of showing respect to others and do so!

4) Have an enormous capability to have fun!!!

I would personally add cleanliness and safe sex but after reading a recent thread on bareback sex lovers .....I wont even go there!

Can everyone else throw their dictionaries away please? ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I couldn't care less what labels mean! Thats just for insecure people desparate for membership of an exclusive club they can belong to so it makes them feel special.

This is for everyone.

So 'membership' (for those in desperate need to belong!)... is simple:

1) Be an adult. That means over 18 and be capable of good manners and social skills / etiquette!

2) Have mental capacity to give and refuse consent as only you wish to, without coercion or pressure from others.

3) Be capable of showing respect to others and do so!

4) Have an enormous capability to have fun!!!

I would personally add cleanliness and safe sex but after reading a recent thread on bareback sex lovers .....I wont even go there!

Can everyone else throw their dictionaries away please? ??

"

Amen!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely two single people meeting for sex is dating? Or possibly single people meeting a succession of single people for sex is shagging around? Is a matter for continual debate

Well in that case...I 'date' a lot!!! I have some fantastic 'dates'!

Except last night which was a vanilla date and a disaster!

Choose your dates more carefully one would suggest "

Sure! I will get out my crystal ball next time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely two single people meeting for sex is dating? Or possibly single people meeting a succession of single people for sex is shagging around? Is a matter for continual debate "

everyone is just shagging around who isn't in a monogamous relationship

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Surely two single people meeting for sex is dating? Or possibly single people meeting a succession of single people for sex is shagging around? Is a matter for continual debate

everyone is just shagging around who isn't in a monogamous relationship "

The people who are celibate aren't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Swinging means whatever you want it to

Stop labelling things to your way of thinking"

This is my definition too x thank you x you've said it well x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a bit confused as to why being a swinger is about your relationship status. If I were in a couple I would still like to be swinging, although with him rather than on my own....however I'm single so am swinging how I can. Yes some use the site as a hook up site and will admit they wouldn't continue to play if they had a partner (which is their choice) but some of us would like to find someone to share eventually...even if it's not something I'm specifically looking for right now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes. Simply put.

Lets face it, if a single woman wants sex she just has to ask.

If a single man wants sex, he has to jump through the same hoops in the swinging world and out of it.

I wish a women would ask me - I'm bored with the hoop jumping

I believe that swinging is meant pretty much for couples only. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its for folk who enjoy sex. Simples.

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

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By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk


"Nothing wrong with 'singles' meeting up for a fuck, which seems to the reason some people use well known dating sites as well

But is not the primary reason for fab and other similar sites not for people more than 2 to share fun?

"

Even if that were true, so what? Are you suggesting singles not be allowed to join fab?

The single members of the site add to its popularity and help keep it running. A lot of singles pay for site membership and having a large, active membership attracts more members.

Without singles where would couples find people for threesomes?

Just think about how many couples are looking for a single bi fem and then tell me singles shouldn't be here.

Swinging has evolved beyond car keys in a bowl. Whether that extends to singles being included is clearly still debatable.

Personally I can't see why it matters as long as everyone is meeting the people they want to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh no. We've just lost our `swinger status`

She's off out fr sex with another single swinger & I'm off to a single females

Lots of sex but only 2 By 2

Guess we'll label it kink instead

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Long live single swingers!

They're the meat in the sandwich and it would be a dull affair without them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging ALWAYS means more than 2 people

are involved?"

I don't think so, no.

Singles can be swingers, even when they meet 1 on 1. Some singles aren't swingers though. Some couples aren't swingers either.

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By *he Happy ManMan
over a year ago

Merseyside


"Nothing wrong with 'singles' meeting up for a fuck, which seems to the reason some people use well known dating sites as well

But is not the primary reason for fab and other similar sites not for people more than 2 to share fun?

"

Says the single male?????????????

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds


"I couldn't care less what labels mean! Thats just for insecure people desparate for membership of an exclusive club they can belong to so it makes them feel special.

This is for everyone.

So 'membership' (for those in desperate need to belong!)... is simple:

1) Be an adult. That means over 18 and be capable of good manners and social skills / etiquette!

2) Have mental capacity to give and refuse consent as only you wish to, without coercion or pressure from others.

3) Be capable of showing respect to others and do so!

4) Have an enormous capability to have fun!!!

I would personally add cleanliness and safe sex but after reading a recent thread on bareback sex lovers .....I wont even go there!

Can everyone else throw their dictionaries away please? ??

"

At last it's quoting the correct thread!

I agree with every word of this

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