FabSwingers.com forum: Keeping in Touch

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Now is this just us?

We have met some great single guys.

However, it does seem that some guys who we know had a great time, and were as keen as mustard. Now don't even reply to texts? A simple No Thanks would be fine, but zero contact, rude! And makes Gal feel bad.

We understand they maybe don't want to pester etc, just feel lied too and let down. Thoughts guys plse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's sad to say, but some people are like that. There are lots out there who arn't though

Just need to find the good ones

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

swinging can be very, very superficial.

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By *exycleanerWoman
over a year ago

pontefract

like most single guys on here they get what they want then ignore you,cos its happened to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cough cough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes once the glow of a meet wears off it just naturally dies a death despite all the enthusiasm of initially wanting to meet again,times passes by,new contacrs are made,new meets arranged,it can be the nature of the site so I wouldn't take it personally,If you're not recieving replies I would leave it, move on to pastures new and arrange some fun with some of the many lovely people on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I stay in regular contact with couples that I click with and share my twisted humour. Meet up occasionally for just a drink and sometimes more.

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

"like most single guys on here they get what they want then ignore you,cos its happened to me

And I'd like to say this is most definitively not exclusive to single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everyone wants to keep meeting even when you have clicked

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I think that to enjoy ths hobby you need to realise that the normal rules of social engagement just don't apply and that to many people no strings attached means well, no strings attached. It isn't dating or looking for a relationship and everyone will have their own idea of how to behave but bottom line is if it makes you feel bad in any way at all...stop!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"swinging can be very, very superficial."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We take every meet for what it is an sort of look at it as a 1 night stand, it's a bonus if we get repeat meets as that's what we like as the more meets the more you know them so the better the sex

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By *orflondonerMan
over a year ago

Wood Green

I try to stay in contact with most people i play withi enjoy the social side as well, its a buzz knowing others that have sex away from "the norm".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She shouldn't feel bad .

The thrill and excitement of the first meet is never matched , and subsequent meets get repetitive and boring , for both parties .

Revel in the memories of the meet and see it for what it is - NSA sex , and as others have said , it can be superficial .

As a couple , we sure as hell see it like that , and always will .

But that doesn't stop us and our playmates having a bloody good time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"She shouldn't feel bad .

The thrill and excitement of the first meet is never matched , and subsequent meets get repetitive and boring , for both parties .

Revel in the memories of the meet and see it for what it is - NSA sex , and as others have said , it can be superficial .

As a couple , we sure as hell see it like that , and always will .

But that doesn't stop us and our playmates having a bloody good time

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By *ing and RideCouple
over a year ago

stockport

i agree with last couple of posts. you meet, have a horny fun time but its very rare we would want a repeat performance for no other reason than its just "sex" horny sex. if we wanted to make anymore chums outside of swinging we would have joined a pen pal site. aye swinging can be a fickle world....but a bloody great world. two different lives and never the twain will meet.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

"Now is this just us?

We have met some great single guys.

We understand they maybe don't want to pester etc, just feel lied too and let down. Thoughts guys plse"

Yes it happens. Some folks will just _iew place as a sweetie shop and always on to the next new thing. Normally find they suddenly take an interest again when meets aren't happening for them. Id then just tell them too late as youve moved on at that point .I'd certainly not waste a thought over them .they've just showed simply they are the right guy or ppl for you. There will be plenty who are so just enjoy your fun with them x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's casual sex with strangers off the internet...these "relationships" are self limiting to say the least...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love keeping in touch and texting etc, ever hopefull it will lead to a repeat or failing that a social....however reality bites and its a two way thing...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Now is this just us?

We have met some great single guys.

We understand they maybe don't want to pester etc, just feel lied too and let down. Thoughts guys plse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I keep in touch via chat rooms , Forums and texts - but I tend to try and not over do it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some I stay I'm touch with. Some I meet again. Some I class as friends. Some we exchange a few messages after but that gradually dwindles off. Some I never speak to again. I'm perfectly happy in all scenarios. Thats the nature of the beast and for me I love the variety. I couldn't possibly stay friends and chat every day to everyone I meet, or even meet them all again. It doesn't mean I think any less of our time together. I wouldn't take it to heart if people don't stay in touch. In most cases I don't think it's personal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a habit of getting emotionally attached to the person I'm shagging, sometimes easier not to meet again and stop complications

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By *nnyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Now is this just us?

We have met some great single guys.

We understand they maybe don't want to pester etc, just feel lied too and let down. Thoughts guys plse"

For some its the thrill of the chase. That might also be why there are so many no-shows.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"like most single guys on here they get what they want then ignore you,cos its happened to me

Its happened to me a few times too. They all say they wana meet up again but they dont. They get a shag and move onto the next. Like robots they r lol.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for all the constructive comments,

Have seen the light!!

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By *ing and RideCouple
over a year ago

stockport

"like most single guys on here they get what they want then ignore you,cos its happened to me

Its happened to me a few times too. They all say they wana meet up again but they dont. They get a shag and move onto the next. Like robots they r lol."

We don't say we will meet again may say we will be in touch but never do. I think people are mixing the two up. I could be wrong but end of day it's a sex site not plenty of fish dot com. Why oh why can't people get to grips with that. It is SEX not chat not dating....put up or shut up or try plenty of fish ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to stay in touch with those i like speaking to and who i'd like to meet. But, sometimes i feel as though maybe i'm talking too much or messaging too often.

...if that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I make it very clear to any potential meets that I am not looking for friendship or any type of relationship, just nsa sex.

With some people you click and you stay in touch (a small minority but it does happen) with others you don't. That does not mean to say a thing about the quality of the sex. Just the way it is...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think that to enjoy ths hobby you need to realise that the normal rules of social engagement just don't apply and that to many people no strings attached means well, no strings attached. It isn't dating or looking for a relationship and everyone will have their own idea of how to behave but bottom line is if it makes you feel bad in any way at all...stop!"

This

Sex is sex and just that to some

Once you realise that then you will enjoy yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Really good thread guys, yep we have wondered too why some single guys have went quite cold after a meet, esp after staying for a long while and asking when we can do it again.

We sometimes think they are married or something.

Good thread though, will have amswered many questions for quite a few ppl.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like keeping in touch, even if nothing more was going to happen, no harm staying mates.

But as callous as it sounds and feels to some its just a case of who's next.

Her

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Some I stay I'm touch with. Some I meet again. Some I class as friends. Some we exchange a few messages after but that gradually dwindles off. Some I never speak to again. I'm perfectly happy in all scenarios. Thats the nature of the beast and for me I love the variety. I couldn't possibly stay friends and chat every day to everyone I meet, or even meet them all again. It doesn't mean I think any less of our time together. I wouldn't take it to heart if people don't stay in touch. In most cases I don't think it's personal."

This.....well put

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been on and off Fab over three years. Some of those I met at the start will say hi now and again which is lovely but it doesn't mean I want to meet them again. That was then and this is now. I've changed and my outlook has changed.

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