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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am fasinated by the reasons people swing, I have my own reasons but why do others swing? is it a physical desire or is there something more about the need to have sex with others? why do men like to watch there partners have sex?

Would love to here your reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you have your own reasons so what are they you want to know ours. so go on you first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ohhh

Interesting..

Why, well.. it's fun, you meet on the whole some lovely people. You can do so much more with 4 or more...

But why did we start... simple. Adventure!!

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Its exciting!!

Its not just about the men seeing their partners with another man...I find it exrememly erotic seeing my man with another woman as well

Theres soooo much more you can do with some extra people I find it really liberating

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By *iggles and BeardyCouple
over a year ago

Bristol

Simply put swinging clubs are the one place, I get to see wiggles be herself (the woman I first met) she can wear what she wants, do what she wants and dosn't get hassled by blokes or judged by bitchy women..

Both of us have always been terrible flirts, so swinging lets us flirt and missbehave as much as we like and the sex we both have after is amazing (but then were like rabbits still after 12yrs anyway)

I love to watch her have sex with others, simply because I love to watch her body react, from angles that I simply can't see if i'm shagging her..

She loves to watch me with other women, just because she loves to see the look on my face as I get excited..

We both love to watch eachother, because we both know that sex together after is going to be soooooo much better, as nomatter how good others think they are, nobody can compare to how well we know eachothers bodys..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"you have your own reasons so what are they you want to know ours. so go on you first"

Well...i dont think its a cut and dry as just pleasure, for me I think it was more about control, I met my lovely wife when we were at school, I was twelve, as the years went by i found my other half was very submissive and i think i wanted to see how far i could go before she stopped me, and there is the fact i hate my mom......oh did I say that!! perhaps a Fruedian slip....lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because we enjoy it ..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Because we enjoy it .."

How did or why did you break away from the social norms?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

having fun and making friends and having fun with friends

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"having fun and making friends and having fun with friends"

Do you have real friends that you swing with or are they sex buddies?

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

Does anyone else get the feeling that its like an interrogation in here? pmsl

Put the spotlight down gently on the floor and slowly step away chamfan!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

very real friends who we known for a long time as well has sex buddies. I would say that most of our genuine friends are swingers.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Simply put swinging clubs are the one place, I get to see wiggles be herself (the woman I first met) she can wear what she wants, do what she wants and dosn't get hassled by blokes or judged by bitchy women..

Both of us have always been terrible flirts, so swinging lets us flirt and missbehave as much as we like and the sex we both have after is amazing (but then were like rabbits still after 12yrs anyway)

I love to watch her have sex with others, simply because I love to watch her body react, from angles that I simply can't see if i'm shagging her..

She loves to watch me with other women, just because she loves to see the look on my face as I get excited..

We both love to watch eachother, because we both know that sex together after is going to be soooooo much better, as nomatter how good others think they are, nobody can compare to how well we know eachothers bodys.."

I can see your reasons, you use Swinging as foreplay, we do the same, swinging is never as good as when we are alone one on one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

likewise if i were a trainspotter wouldnt most of my friends also be trainspotters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Simply put swinging clubs are the one place, I get to see wiggles be herself (the woman I first met) she can wear what she wants, do what she wants and dosn't get hassled by blokes or judged by bitchy women..

Both of us have always been terrible flirts, so swinging lets us flirt and missbehave as much as we like and the sex we both have after is amazing (but then were like rabbits still after 12yrs anyway)

I love to watch her have sex with others, simply because I love to watch her body react, from angles that I simply can't see if i'm shagging her..

She loves to watch me with other women, just because she loves to see the look on my face as I get excited..

We both love to watch eachother, because we both know that sex together after is going to be soooooo much better, as nomatter how good others think they are, nobody can compare to how well we know eachothers bodys..

I can see your reasons, you use Swinging as foreplay, we do the same, swinging is never as good as when we are alone one on one."

alone one on one is not swinging

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"very real friends who we known for a long time as well has sex buddies. I would say that most of our genuine friends are swingers. "

We have never had swinging friens perhaps that our fault because we have had couples who want to see us again but we have never made the commitment, making real friend is hard, finding swinging buddies is easy.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Simply put swinging clubs are the one place, I get to see wiggles be herself (the woman I first met) she can wear what she wants, do what she wants and dosn't get hassled by blokes or judged by bitchy women..

Both of us have always been terrible flirts, so swinging lets us flirt and missbehave as much as we like and the sex we both have after is amazing (but then were like rabbits still after 12yrs anyway)

I love to watch her have sex with others, simply because I love to watch her body react, from angles that I simply can't see if i'm shagging her..

She loves to watch me with other women, just because she loves to see the look on my face as I get excited..

We both love to watch eachother, because we both know that sex together after is going to be soooooo much better, as nomatter how good others think they are, nobody can compare to how well we know eachothers bodys..

I can see your reasons, you use Swinging as foreplay, we do the same, swinging is never as good as when we are alone one on one.

alone one on one is not swinging"

Sorry, sex is never as good as when your one on one...lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"likewise if i were a trainspotter wouldnt most of my friends also be trainspotters"

True, but why did you break away from the normal relationship, society tells us we should have one partner and not have multiple partners, trainspotting is not frowned upon why did you persue this lifstye?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its free... No Tax to pay.. We get sex tips..

What else is there lol..

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Does anyone else get the feeling that its like an interrogation in here? pmsl

Put the spotlight down gently on the floor and slowly step away chamfan! "

????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"likewise if i were a trainspotter wouldnt most of my friends also be trainspotters

True, but why did you break away from the normal relationship, society tells us we should have one partner and not have multiple partners, trainspotting is not frowned upon why did you persue this lifstye?"

swinging was the norm for thousands of years its only bee the last cpl of hundred years its been frowned upon. And as for only having one partner very few people have only had one sexuall partner. And i dont know many people who frown upon swinging. Most nonswingers would like to try but not with their own partners. I have spoke to alot of guys who would love to do what i do but dont want theier wives doing it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"very real friends who we known for a long time as well has sex buddies. I would say that most of our genuine friends are swingers.

We have never had swinging friens perhaps that our fault because we have had couples who want to see us again but we have never made the commitment, making real friend is hard, finding swinging buddies is easy."
friends are like minded people with common interests who will never judge you. Try meeting fuck buddies socially you might make new friends. Would the friends you have stop being if they knew what you do.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"very real friends who we known for a long time as well has sex buddies. I would say that most of our genuine friends are swingers.

We have never had swinging friens perhaps that our fault because we have had couples who want to see us again but we have never made the commitment, making real friend is hard, finding swinging buddies is easy.friends are like minded people with common interests who will never judge you. Try meeting fuck buddies socially you might make new friends. Would the friends you have stop being if they knew what you do."

Our friends would still be our friends but i think it would change our relationship if they new, we have hinted in the past and the response was negative. but i agree with you about meeting fuck buddies outside the club, it might be a good idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"very real friends who we known for a long time as well has sex buddies. I would say that most of our genuine friends are swingers.

We have never had swinging friens perhaps that our fault because we have had couples who want to see us again but we have never made the commitment, making real friend is hard, finding swinging buddies is easy.friends are like minded people with common interests who will never judge you. Try meeting fuck buddies socially you might make new friends. Would the friends you have stop being if they knew what you do.

Our friends would still be our friends but i think it would change our relationship if they new, we have hinted in the past and the response was negative. but i agree with you about meeting fuck buddies outside the club, it might be a good idea.

"
If you have been going to Chams for a while you must have noticed that there is alot more socialising going on there.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"very real friends who we known for a long time as well has sex buddies. I would say that most of our genuine friends are swingers.

We have never had swinging friens perhaps that our fault because we have had couples who want to see us again but we have never made the commitment, making real friend is hard, finding swinging buddies is easy.friends are like minded people with common interests who will never judge you. Try meeting fuck buddies socially you might make new friends. Would the friends you have stop being if they knew what you do.

Our friends would still be our friends but i think it would change our relationship if they new, we have hinted in the past and the response was negative. but i agree with you about meeting fuck buddies outside the club, it might be a good idea.

If you have been going to Chams for a while you must have noticed that there is alot more socialising going on there. "

We have found that Saturday nights are very social, we stopped going for that reason, most of the couples already new each other and we found it very hard, we have talked to a lot of couples who feel the same too, but we have met some very nice couples on the other nights, and I have to say most of the people we have met are great, we really enjoy our lifstye, the social side is something we need to work on I think. We started Swinging originally for the sex, now many years later we are more secure in our relationship and could do with moving in deeper...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am fasinated by the reasons people swing, I have my own reasons but why do others swing? is it a physical desire or is there something more about the need to have sex with others? why do men like to watch there partners have sex?

Would love to here your reasons.

"

Because people are like quality street made for sharing lol

No seriously look back in history and find out that society actually invented monogomy its not a natural human trait

and also we only live for a defined amount of time so why the hell not enjoy it

I like to watch les have sex for the same reason she likes to watch me cause we love each other and like to see each other enjoying themselves

There are lots of reasons to this each couple has their own

Craig x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I swing.....because i can :D

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By *leasureDomeMan
over a year ago

all over the place


"Simply put swinging clubs are the one place, I get to see wiggles be herself (the woman I first met) she can wear what she wants, do what she wants and dosn't get hassled by blokes or judged by bitchy women..

Both of us have always been terrible flirts, so swinging lets us flirt and missbehave as much as we like and the sex we both have after is amazing (but then were like rabbits still after 12yrs anyway)

I love to watch her have sex with others, simply because I love to watch her body react, from angles that I simply can't see if i'm shagging her..

She loves to watch me with other women, just because she loves to see the look on my face as I get excited..

We both love to watch eachother, because we both know that sex together after is going to be soooooo much better, as nomatter how good others think they are, nobody can compare to how well we know eachothers bodys..

I can see your reasons, you use Swinging as foreplay, we do the same, swinging is never as good as when we are alone one on one.

alone one on one is not swinging"

awww try not to forget the groups of swinging singles ...theres not many of us but we do exist ..seriously not having a pop at you.

for me its meeting people who are not constrained by normal social doctrines

also love the social side

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i swing for sex without the drama

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I swing because im in control of what and who i want with out the strings.

And love every minute of it as you say no drama!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hmmmm

thought about this one for some time.

i think it was the excitement at first. and the fact that as a single lady, i would much rather have my "fun" in a somewhat controlled safe environment than after a night out with the girls.

And sometimes wishing you hadnt the day after and left with a hangover etc.

Im not looking for or wanting commitment so to me this is the safer cleaner option and ive met many lovely people i still see from time to time.

The fact that you can go have your fun, clean up and then go chat and have a drink in the bar at chams after like civilised people is a plus.

Then go have more fun....

that has to be a big bonus

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By *DSRMan
over a year ago

leicester

Because I like to explore my conections to other people, I think most of the time I can form a connection with a person that is purely interest/sex based... & a relationship would not suit. I am a very inquizative person that always wants more (After all that is the nature of man, since back in the cave days... We had nothing and always needed more... We have not managed to explude that way of thinking from out minds, yet) So, I want more... Oneday I think I will met someone that conects with me the way I will connect with them, past lust or passion... deeper. Unless that happens I will except the lust as a connection for fun and follow it... Form friendships alone the way, and maybe some of those friendships will be friends forever. But I just like to play too :D lol I love sex, I love talking (you might have noticed that pmsl) So i follow my instints and they have brought me to this site & another.

I hope that doesn't sound lame... But it is my truth.

peace xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

swingings not just for christmas (trees) lol

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Well for us it was for the excitement of doing something new and to be honest a bit 'daring'

Whay did we break the mold from conventional? We found out good vanialla freinds of many years were swingers. We though 'wll it's not done them any harm' though it took about a year talking between ourselves on and off before we took the plunge

We didn't really expect what we actually got from swinging. We thought it was the sex thing and that was that. We were quite unprepared for the fantastic suprise of the social side of it - and the varied colourful and exciting people you can meet - plus the wild stories and memoreies what we have already in less than two years!

Making friends? Of course you can - in fact one couple we met are now very good friends and we don't even play with each other (anyway they are softswingers and we prefer the full monty) but very good friends they have become any way

And to this comment 'nothing as good as one on one sex' or whatever it was exactly - well you are maybe right in a way..... have you tried one on one solo meets with another swinger?

xxxx

J&R

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Well for us it was for the excitement of doing something new and to be honest a bit 'daring'

Whay did we break the mold from conventional? We found out good vanialla freinds of many years were swingers. We though 'wll it's not done them any harm' though it took about a year talking between ourselves on and off before we took the plunge

We didn't really expect what we actually got from swinging. We thought it was the sex thing and that was that. We were quite unprepared for the fantastic suprise of the social side of it - and the varied colourful and exciting people you can meet - plus the wild stories and memoreies what we have already in less than two years!

Making friends? Of course you can - in fact one couple we met are now very good friends and we don't even play with each other (anyway they are softswingers and we prefer the full monty) but very good friends they have become any way

And to this comment 'nothing as good as one on one sex' or whatever it was exactly - well you are maybe right in a way..... have you tried one on one solo meets with another swinger?

xxxx

J&R"

What a great post..

We have tried one on one with other swingers, Dee has been off a few times at Chams with single guys while I have been in the Jaccusi and I have been with girls who have asked me in the couples room, infact we both have regular sessions alone with some sexy playmates we have met, we both love all types of swinging.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think swingingbis fascinating and I would love to exoerience it for the first time but I moved to Holland and it's difficult to find indulging people overvhere? Any takers prepared to make a sex starved single guy happy for one day of my life? A dream come true.

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

mmmmm that's odd, a quick google search just out of interest for 'amsterdam swingers' would suggest you are far from being the 'only swinger in the village'

xxxx

j&r

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