FabSwingers.com forum: Length of time for meets

By *urvy hotwife 4 Black Men OP Couple
over a year ago

Essex

Hi all, just wanted to know what you think.

Got a message today from a couple who we had met previously, basically complaining we do not offer enough time!

We have 4 kids who are all under 16 and live at home, my man works long hours, so it is hard to find the time sometimes, and when we do it's not normally an all night thing, we've had meets for 2-3 hours and that seems enough for us, and also if you don't click then aren't feeling uncomfortable.

Well we were told today that because of our lack of time it causes trouble and we should meet people for a minimum of 5-8 hours and it must be at night!

I was tempted to say do one!!

But are we in the wrong?? We always explain our circumstances and everyone else is generally fine with it, and we like to come on here for the social side and chatting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5-8 Hours!?!?! WTF!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Five min should do the job

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do whatever works for you. You shouldn't have to justify your "real life" and that it comes before fab! Most people would understand that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do what you can manage and whatever you're comfortable with,if it doesn't suit certain people then they can find other people that fit their schedule and so can you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all, just wanted to know what you think.

Got a message today from a couple who we had met previously, basically complaining we do not offer enough time!

Well we were told today that because of our lack of time it causes trouble and we should meet people for a minimum of 5-8 hours and it must be at night!

I was tempted to say do one!!

But are we in the wrong?? We always explain our circumstances and everyone else is generally fine with it, and we like to come on here for the social side and chatting."

Yiu should tell them to feck off, I could get 10 meets in 4 hours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If everyone else is fine with it why let one couple bother you....their issue not yours.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

If I see a single guy, it is generally 15 minutes between them saying 'Hi, you look less terrible in person than your pics suggest.' to 'Wow! I've shot my load, you can fuck off now.'

A meet of 5 - 8 hours is more like a shift at work. Crikey, I'm told I'm entertaining, but I've not got enough material for a meet of that length.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5-8 hours?

it seems that they think

a) that being on this site means you have no other commitments, obligations, or any type of life

b) that being on this site means yyou are desperate and will therefore be forced to not only put up with but give in to the bullshit narcissistic demands of others

c) that they in any way have a right to dictate some sort of minimum acceptable level of play or pleasure.

i, for one, could rarely manage a full 5 hours of play, let alone 8. this wouldn't be at night, either. I'm only surprised they didnt demand full breakfast in bed as well.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

many people get frustrated and a bit cross when you don't conform to how they like to play....look at it this way they don't conform to how you like to play either. It's just that some people seem unable to accept that we're all different, carry on doing what you're doing and change for no one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what works for you and if people question it it's their problem and you're obviously not compatible. Move on.

There is no right our wrong way to swing. some forget this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm finally over the shock!

I don't let my family stay for 5-8 hours... and I love them!

If you meet and get on and all are having a nice evening, then great! I don't think there is a min/max rule but it sounds as if you'd be better dropping them from your playlist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of hours is more than enough time. I've had 4 long meets 2 which were 10hrs with no play on either and 2 8hrs meets full on play from start to finish.

But I would never stipulate in long a meet should be. Do what's best for you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm finally over the shock!

I don't let my family stay for 5-8 hours... and I love them!

If you meet and get on and all are having a nice evening, then great! I don't think there is a min/max rule but it sounds as if you'd be better dropping them from your playlist.

*'better off dropping them...'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what your meeting for. I would say 2 hours of play. If you are maybe meeting for drinks first, then a bit longer yes. But 8 seems a lot!!

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By *iverpool LoverMan
over a year ago

liverpool

5-8 hours???

*chokes on water*

I'll save those 8 hour sessions for when I meet woman of my dreams.

I think 2-3 hours is more than adequate for a nsa casual sex meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We generally meet at around 8-8.30pm. Have a drink, a laugh and a catch up and then get down and dirty. We're usually saying "bye" around 11ish I think. We've all got lives to get on with haven't we?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to book a week off work...

Pahaha

I always play it by ear..never plan..as you might want an hour..or a whole night..so I generally suggest bag the time you can and see what happens

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Do whatever works for you. You shouldn't have to justify your "real life" and that it comes before fab! Most people would understand that. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tell them to do one!! Don't let people tell you how much time they should have. Sounds like they have unrealistic expectations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never put a time on a meet just go with the flow, weather and hour or ten hours. Each meet is different x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I accommodate my meets usually last 2 - 3 hours. Hotel or overnight meets are different. Do what suits you OP. If a man was still here after 8 hours I'd charge rent

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By *exyfuntimes2Couple
over a year ago

Dublin/Carlow

2-3 hours does us, including chatting beforehand etc. Theres only so much fun you can have

Having said that, we did 5/6 hours once and it was great, we had a few coffee breaks and watched a bit of television in between

was very relaxing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely tell them to do one! How rude! If they want that long they should specify an itinerary and bring a picnic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually kidnap my meets and use them as sex slaves for the night,I am polite and ask them if thats ok first though

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By *he Master JMan
over a year ago

Southall

Maybe they want you to exchange contracts with your solicitor before the meet and sign a pre swing contract laying out all the rules and regulations required by all parties involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had all nighters and 2 hour meets, depends on what is right at that time and that person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I normally travel for my meets so 2-3 hours probably would not make it worthwhile for me. But as it has been said no right or wrong way to play it.

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By *he Master JMan
over a year ago

Southall

"I usually kidnap my meets and use them as sex slaves for the night,I am polite and ask them if thats ok first though

I have just sent you my address and am putting a blindfold on while tying myself up can't wait for you to pile me into the back of your van

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"Do what works for you and if people question it it's their problem and you're obviously not compatible. Move on.

There is no right our wrong way to swing. some forget this."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends on what you want from meet....

So long as you both walk away satisfied that's the main thing... So it can vary from 30min to an all nighter...

Everyone has direct circumstances and responsibilities..... Whether someone suggests 10min or more, they have taken time out their lives for you so make it count and enjoy it ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

weve had a couple of hours to about 8 - we tend to gab a lot and forget why we met - our first meet ended up at 4 am in the morning as we didnt start play for hours for chatting - dont think it matters so long as all happy and having a good time , social, sexually whatever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why don't you block and move on instead of moaning about it and meet other op that are willing to meet you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did they have to come a long way to makebit feel worth their while? We've had meets that have ended up lasting that long but only because we've been having such a great time with people...and that's included dinner and lots of conversation...We'd rarely plan for that long unless it was with very very good friends...the secret to a good meet for us is often knowing when to leave...

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

You're here for you! I wouldn't justify my choices to anyone if they don't like it...tough!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol 5-8 hours? as our meets will no doubt testify once lady P has cum she is practically throwing them out the door !

Ok its not that bad but 5 hours? jesus youd have to feed them too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I couldn't stay in someone else company for that long regardless of what we were doing. Only my family get me for more than a few hours. My long term regulars last between an hour and 2 hours but usually an hour. I would tell them they are lucky to get you for the time they do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not allowing them enough time, sounds a tad needy.

Have had meets for an hour or so and meets for 2 nights. Do it how it suits you, if your respective needs/wants are incompatible move on maybe. This lark shouldn't be a minefield for you, you're meant to enjoy yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had meets last a couple of hours, but I've also had overnight meets too.

I suppose it just depends on the personal circumstances of everyone involved and how well you get along but I would under no circumstances expect a meet to last a specific amount of time.

What we get up to on here and with who is our own choices and no-one has the right to dictate in anyway at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Definitely tell them to do one! How rude! If they want that long they should specify an itinerary and bring a picnic.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"I've had all nighters and 2 hour meets, depends on what is right at that time and that person."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Five min should do the job

Er have you been meeting mrnotts behind my back again

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By *nfieldishCouple
over a year ago

Enfield

Reckon if ur gettin on great...take as long as you like... But what's wrong with a sexy hour.....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

5 to 8 hours !!!!!!

I could never stay awake that long !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Five min should do the job

Quite right. 1 min hello, 1 min foreplay, 2 min sex, 1 min goodbye. Sorted

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had all night meets where he's stayed over and a cpl of hours meets. Depends on who your with and how long you have to be able accom its your choice at the end of the day

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple
over a year ago

harrow

What !!!! How dare put your children and family life before their sexual gratification, what on earth were you thinking

I don't know some people tut tut

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I usually kidnap my meets and use them as sex slaves for the night,I am polite and ask them if thats ok first though

I have just sent you my address and am putting a blindfold on while tying myself up can't wait for you to pile me into the back of your van

Can't find the keys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Five min should do the job

Quite right. 1 min hello, 1 min foreplay, 2 min sex, 1 min goodbye. Sorted

..... wait for the ding and get your tea out of the microwave - multitasking all the way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How long is a piece of string ?

Depends on the people you are meeting - all have varying wants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi all, just wanted to know what you think.

Got a message today from a couple who we had met previously, basically complaining we do not offer enough time!

Well we were told today that because of our lack of time it causes trouble and we should meet people for a minimum of 5-8 hours and it must be at night!

I was tempted to say do one!!

But are we in the wrong?? We always explain our circumstances and everyone else is generally fine with it, and we like to come on here for the social side and chatting."

Very rare that we stay for more than two hours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We generally meet at around 8-8.30pm. Have a drink, a laugh and a catch up and then get down and dirty. We're usually saying "bye" around 11ish I think. We've all got lives to get on with haven't we?! "

Perfect amount of time...

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By *all-Eddies QosCouple
over a year ago

wirral

I'm in exactly the same boat as the o.p.....you do what works for you.....everyone else can feck off.

There are plenty of people who think same as them.....obviously too much time on their hands

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