FabSwingers.com forum: am I too young?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi there,

Have messaged quite a few people on here local to me. Don't want to travel a ridiculous distance for a meet, however willing to travel a little way. However, the people that do actually reply keep turning me down because they feel I am too young.

Now I know I am quite young, but I am quite mature for my age. Also, I always repsond saying thanks for the reply etc. So am definitely polite to everyone. What do you guys think? Am I too young for this site?

PS I do go for people similar to my age but rarely get a reply, perhaps they have a lot of mail. Any tips or advice greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to clubs and socials although your young people are more likely to warm to you in person. Being on here for a year with no verifications does not help either so make the effort and travel.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your age may not be the issue.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yh I understand that having no verifications can be a problem. I can explain that though. When I first set up my account, I was just browsing, seeing what this was all about. Chatted to a few people about clubs etc. Then there was a long period of time where I was without any internet connection so could not get online to get on here, not something that you can really look on at your local library lol.

Perhaps it would be an idea to set up a new profile and start from scratch?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would you meet people who are old enough to be your parents?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi there,

PS I do go for people similar to my age but rarely get a reply, perhaps they have a lot of mail. Any tips or advice greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance "

I have daughters older than you doesn't feel right to me and I am 45 in 10 years time will have grand kids your age

Bit spooky for me

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I can understand that and when you think of it as having sex with someone the same age as your parents I guess that can be a bit of a put off. But someone aged between 30-40? That to me isn't that old, and if the other person is attractive then why not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can understand that and when you think of it as having sex with someone the same age as your parents I guess that can be a bit of a put off. But someone aged between 30-40? That to me isn't that old, and if the other person is attractive then why not?"

Sorry to tell You most girls on their 30 are with guys my age

Probably the best thing to do is find a young girl in your circle of friends about your own age and enjoy the sex and social life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi there,

PS I do go for people similar to my age but rarely get a reply, perhaps they have a lot of mail. Any tips or advice greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance "
most young people are happy with one girl to take out. I know I was and in my early days I was only interested in the girl I was dating.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Okay I'm consistent with my response so here goes....

Personally I think you're too young for here as for me i have friends children of your age so find it a little weird. Maybe that's the same reason other people have if you're having difficulties meeting.

Also re profile ~ maybe rethink your user name, can be a little off putting. You have a very impressive pic on there

so maybe include some pics with clothes on, torso etc which leaves a bit to the imagination.

someone else had suggested a club which a great idea as your age may not be as relevant in that setting.

Good luck x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the compliment. Perhaps I should include more shots of my torso and a few with more clothes on. I do have quite a few cock pics lol.

As for the club scene sounds like a good idea as I can chat to people etc. Just feels a bit nervous as never been to one before. What are they like?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the compliment. Perhaps I should include more shots of my torso and a few with more clothes on. I do have quite a few cock pics lol.

As for the club scene sounds like a good idea as I can chat to people etc. Just feels a bit nervous as never been to one before. What are they like?"

a pub with lingerie where people may or may not have sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your user name doesn't suggest maturity.

In all honesty I wouldn't bother checking you profile let alone reading a message from a username like yours.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Fair enough, looks like I need a name change then lol. Tbh it was the first thing that popped into my head, I'm never very good and thinking up usernames. Sorry if it offends, wasn't meant to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At 22 you are old enough to vote, marry , even fight and die for your country so I personally think you are old enough to swing.

Some people do fixate on age but what we are dealing with here is sexual attraction which down the years has had very little to with age.

If you are serious about it you will get there eventually.

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By *ing and RideCouple
over a year ago

stockport

Ground hog day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fair enough, looks like I need a name change then lol. Tbh it was the first thing that popped into my head, I'm never very good and thinking up usernames. Sorry if it offends, wasn't meant to"

The name doesn't offend me it's just not a name that invites to look any further.

You have to remember you're up against a lot of other single men of all ages on this site so your profile is your main seeking tool.

Join in on the forums too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Yeah, I think the forums is the place to be. Just by posting this thread I've had a lot of people view my profile. Not any messages but I guess its a start.

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By *histler21Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

"Would you meet people who are old enough to be your parents?"

Surely, that's only a problem if you fantasise with having sex with your parents?

I believe in meeting people on an equal standing. And let attraction decide whether anything more will happen.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi there,

PS I do go for people similar to my age but rarely get a reply, perhaps they have a lot of mail. Any tips or advice greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance "

No, you're not too young for swinging but you're too young for the people you have messaged and you should respect that and not dispute it on here...it doesn't matter how mature for your age you think you are, they're not interested in finding out...

only message people whose age preference you meet would be a start for you surely?

Also-lose the milf reference...sincerely it contradicts your assertion of maturity, the vast majority of women I know loathe the term and would prefer you wanted to meet them because you found them attractive as an individual rather than a grubby porn stereotype...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just read your profile further...looking for a FB for you to "release you load"? Seriously? I'm amazed they're not queuing out the door...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just read your profile further...looking for a FB for you to "release you load"? Seriously? I'm amazed they're not queuing out the door...

I just read your profile and this is what jumped out at me too! I didn't read the rest after that.... Which is exactly what i would have done if i was browsing for someone to meet. Lauz x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From me who has met younger than you

Photos not attractive

Get some better ones

Dump your load ??? Really ???

Start again

I would not meet anyone who been a year and not met

Try clubs plenty of gents nights or couple up with Soneone

Or parties and socials to get your face known

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ur name screams immaturity. maybe some are picking up on that

try pussy devourerer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm looking for a female fuck buddy preferably, between the ages of 18-45 who I can meet regularly to release my load

Definately off putting, almost as much as the username , we have met people as young as you but they need to have a mature attitude as those two points don't scream respectful . Like others have said go to a sicial and clubs get your face known and most importantly it will let your personality shine through.

We've met people at socials who if it was just their profile would have said no to.

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

As with most things everyone is not everyones cup of tea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Okay I'm consistent with my response so here goes....

Also re profile ~ maybe rethink your user name, can be a little off putting. You have a very impressive pic on there

so maybe include some pics with clothes on, torso etc which leaves a bit to the imagination.

someone else had suggested a club which a great idea as your age may not be as relevant in that setting.

Good luck x"

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

your profile name would get your message deleted off me before i even spotted your age o

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Age and maturity are different things.

Personally ur age wouldnt put me off. But ur profile name, ur pictures and ur text language ie saying u want a milf and someone to dump ur load in would put me off.

Maybe think about looking at other mens profiles and seeing what ur up against and putting some classier pictures up that leave a bit to to the imagination

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yep, going along the same vein as most others.

you may well not be too young, but you do come across as way too immature for most people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Kinda had the same problem mate, but it's all about being mature. Got to speak to women as women and not meat you want to poke with a stick

Most the women are gorgeous in their own ways on here and it's about magnifying that and enjoying the meet.

Socials are ok but remember quite a few are predominantly men In same position so youl end up talking and meeting men than women.

Just keep plugging away mate one diamond will come

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple
over a year ago

harrow

"Just read your profile further...looking for a FB for you to "release you load"? Seriously? I'm amazed they're not queuing out the door...

I just read your profile and this is what jumped out at me too! I didn't read the rest after that.... Which is exactly what i would have done if i was browsing for someone to meet. Lauz x"

yeah same here im sure your a nice young chap but your profile shouts imature boy, sorry but thems the facts

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Hi there,

PS I do go for people similar to my age but rarely get a reply, perhaps they have a lot of mail. Any tips or advice greatly appreciated. Thanks in advance "

people have this thing on concentrating on the thing that excludes them as the reason they are not having success...

... because it leaves the blame elsewhere... and leaves you blameless...

oh those horrible nasty pasty people!!!!

it may that reason... the likelyhood is that is probably a million and one other reasons....

maybe the maturity is in accepting that others makes decisions based on big things.. and based on mundane things... and in looking in the mirror and asking yourself "how can i make myself better?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

then why not?"

My daughter is a little bit older than you so wouldn't work for me but everyone is different on here. Go on cam and get verified that way

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple
over a year ago

harrow

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By *aughtyangieCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

I have daughters older than you doesn't feel right to me and I am 45 in 10 years time will have grand kids your age

Bit spooky for me "

Ok im going to sorry in advanced but im going to rant

Your 45 im 42 so today you meet only say 30 to 50 year olds in ten year time only you will only meet 4o and 60 year so that sexy hot nice 31 will be to old for you then then 5 years after that even the sexy 35 will be to young the 35 that have a great body and personally 3kids and the same management job for the last 10 years will be to young for cos hes near the same age as your kids ?

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By *aughtyangieCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

Sorry to tell You most girls on their 30 are with guys my age

Probably the best thing to do is find a young girl in your circle of friends about your own age and enjoy the sex and social life "

Why ? If having sex with the same girls and a social so great for tge ten years why dont we all do that and leave swinging for good ?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hi again, wasn't trying to put blame on anyone, didn't mean it to come across that way, just getting peoples opinions on whether they thought I was too young.

I'm going to take everything on board about my profile. Will definitely be changing a few things on there as having them written back to me I can see your points of view. Don't look great.

My profile was written quite quickly, and not much attention was made but I can now see how important a good profile is.

Thanks for the feedback and I hope you can see from this that I'm not just wasting everyones time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi again, wasn't trying to put blame on anyone, didn't mean it to come across that way, just getting peoples opinions on whether they thought I was too young.

I'm going to take everything on board about my profile. Will definitely be changing a few things on there as having them written back to me I can see your points of view. Don't look great.

My profile was written quite quickly, and not much attention was made but I can now see how important a good profile is.

Thanks for the feedback and I hope you can see from this that I'm not just wasting everyones time."

Good for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yh I understand that having no verifications can be a problem. I can explain that though. When I first set up my account, I was just browsing, seeing what this was all about. Chatted to a few people about clubs etc. Then there was a long period of time where I was without any internet connection so could not get online to get on here, not something that you can really look on at your local library lol.

Perhaps it would be an idea to set up a new profile and start from scratch?"

Don't delete it as you will lose your verification. Maybe consider rewording it though I didn't think it was that bad and maybe some more photos

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fair enough, looks like I need a name change then lol. Tbh it was the first thing that popped into my head, I'm never very good and thinking up usernames. Sorry if it offends, wasn't meant to"

Actually I think your names fine maybe get rid of the date?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hot wife likes the younger man

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven

"Fair enough, looks like I need a name change then lol. Tbh it was the first thing that popped into my head, I'm never very good and thinking up usernames. Sorry if it offends, wasn't meant to

Actually I think your names fine maybe get rid of the date?"

As with most things one size does not fit all.

Some love their pussy munched, some want toyboys, some want big cocks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

good lord trim that thigh hair.

the username isn;t going to get you anywhere btw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the compliment. Perhaps I should include more shots of my torso and a few with more clothes on. I do have quite a few cock pics lol.

As for the club scene sounds like a good idea as I can chat to people etc. Just feels a bit nervous as never been to one before. What are they like?

a pub with lingerie where people may or may not have sex"

And peoples parents throw ice cubes at you as you're trying to make out with their daughter in the hot tub

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the compliment. Perhaps I should include more shots of my torso and a few with more clothes on. I do have quite a few cock pics lol.

As for the club scene sounds like a good idea as I can chat to people etc. Just feels a bit nervous as never been to one before. What are they like?

a pub with lingerie where people may or may not have sex

And peoples parents throw ice cubes at you as you're trying to make out with their daughter in the hot tub

Pmsl! We'll have to remember to hide next time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the compliment. Perhaps I should include more shots of my torso and a few with more clothes on. I do have quite a few cock pics lol.

As for the club scene sounds like a good idea as I can chat to people etc. Just feels a bit nervous as never been to one before. What are they like?

a pub with lingerie where people may or may not have sex

And peoples parents throw ice cubes at you as you're trying to make out with their daughter in the hot tub

Pmsl! We'll have to remember to hide next time

I'll bring an umbrella :p

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks for the compliment. Perhaps I should include more shots of my torso and a few with more clothes on. I do have quite a few cock pics lol.

As for the club scene sounds like a good idea as I can chat to people etc. Just feels a bit nervous as never been to one before. What are they like?

a pub with lingerie where people may or may not have sex

And peoples parents throw ice cubes at you as you're trying to make out with their daughter in the hot tub

Pmsl! We'll have to remember to hide next time

I'll bring an umbrella :p"

You could taser her

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