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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

ok so does anyone on here not mind meeting discrete married guys?

Everyone is quick to judge but no-one knows anyone elses individual circumstances or reasons for being here, just wondering if any women on here actually don't mind whether a guy is married or not?

Be honest, and thanks!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure there are many that don't mind but for me personally its a big no no. I'm not judging, its just not for me. We all have our reasons for being on here and they are nothing to do with me but as long as married or attached people are upfront about it then people can have the choice to meet or not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi thanks for your response! And yes I am talking about married guys that are completely upfront about it from the start, not the ones that try to hide it

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I almost invariably meet married men as long as their wives are with them.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

Sorry but no I don't/won't meet married married men that are going behind their wives backs.

You may have your own reason for being on here but I don't want to be involved in it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Straight so never going o meet a guy married or not. But i will only meet ladies who i am happpy to.meet and bee seen with in public. So sneaking around is not for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Initially we said no to married guys but have since found that they are less hassle - don't harass us as much as singles and in our experience, more reliable with meets. As long as they don't discuss their wife/family- would rather not know the details!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

*discreet

I have no preference to be honest, but I find married men can only meet at certain times of the day for a very short period of time. Also they are more likely to cancel their meets last minute. And then there is the 'no perfume no marks' rule they usually have.

As I am on here for good, no hassle meets, and married men are more hassle than single, I am less likely to meet for that reason.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The married men who do well in here are open about it without making a fuss and who respect their partners discretion eg don't discuss her or blame her.

It's your choice, your life and my Mum always says "judge not lest ye be judged" but that does work both ways and no one should make judgements about those of us who choose not to knowingly meet married men either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The married men who do well in here are open about it without making a fuss and who respect their partners discretion eg don't discuss her or blame her.

It's your choice, your life and my Mum always says "judge not lest ye be judged" but that does work both ways and no one should make judgements about those of us who choose not to knowingly meet married men either."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not concerned hugely.

That's an issue for the married mans conscience rather than mine.

That said I think those who are specifically looking for married men is off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer attached guys to be upfront then I can make an informed decision about whether I want to meet them or not. There's nothing worse than the "how long have you been fucking my husband?" Text when you've no idea .....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only meet guys who are single, for me the reason isnt that i dont wish to meet a cheat but simply cus married men often cant meet easily and not for long and usually their wife finds out and then ends up harrasing me via the phone and one even came to my house and in some cases i had to involve the police to stop it ! Hence now only interested in guys who are single less hassle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am happy to meet married guys. I am married too and it just makes it less hassle I find. They understand that I can't always chat and can't always meet. They don't want a relationship of any kind.

Single guys pester for meets and want me to "just sneak out for an hour". Or want to take me out for dinner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have a preference with regards to marital statuses, I base my judgement to meet on the actual person.

I also agree with NC when they say the most successful married men on here just get on with it whilst being quietly upfront about their status.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not for us in a private meet but we are under no illusions that it may have happened in a club with no questions asked !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if married men are upfront each to their own.

But there is the thing if he can lie to his wife, he can lie to you with no problem.

Even NSA sex is not good based on lies.

Having said that they have their reasons and needs.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not for us in a private meet but we are under no illusions that it may have happened in a club with no questions asked ! "

This is the same for me. I won't meet a guy I know to be attached as a 1-1 but in a club..... Not sure why it's different bit for me, it is.

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

I won't meet local married men. I like my life hassle free, so can't be doing with random people turning up on my doorstep shouting to all and sundry about their husband fucking around.

I will occasionally meet married men who are in the area on business. Less hassle and they are usually in a hotel.

In a club I just don't ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"ok so does anyone on here not mind meeting discrete married guys?

Everyone is quick to judge but no-one knows anyone elses individual circumstances or reasons for being here, just wondering if any women on here actually don't mind whether a guy is married or not?

Be honest, and thanks!"

You ask people to be honest, does your wife know or is this a case of selective honesty?

There's nothing on your profile.

You state people are quick to judge. Do you know the difference between assess and condemn? We all have the right to judge (assess) whther or not your circumstances are for us to get involved with. For me it's a noooooooo to attached me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personally dont meet married/attached men for 2 reasons;

1 - as others have said they can only usually escape for a short time during the day and i prefer to make a night of it and really enjoy my meets, and even if they are open on their profile, if they can lie to their wife lying to you is no issue at all.

2 - I was cheated on by my ex husband and it amazes me how they honestly think they are getting away with it, my ex was very shocked to discover that I knew exactly when he first cheated and could subsequently tell/recall every meet he had since then, I obviously knew him better than he gave me credit for. I also personally dont see the line "I have my own reasons for doing it" as an excuse. In my case hes told me his reasons were he wasnt getting 'it' enough at home, this wasnt the case I love sex always have even after working a 16 hour shift I would and did try to initiate it only to get knocked back everytime has he wasnt in the 'mood', I tried to talk to him about it he didnt want to. I spent 2 years in a sexless relationship knowing full well exactly what he was doing, and remained loyal. My friends always encouraged me to do the same and get my own back, but I'm not that sort of selfish person and now can hold my head high knowing I remained true to the vows we took. The ironic thing is that he has now said that if he found out I had been unfaithfull during those 2 years it would have broke his heart even though he was doing the same! Pfft!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The majority of married/attached guys that message me are fine and respect my decision not to meet them but I did have a lecture about honesty from one recently. Apparently it works both ways as I wasn't being honest about where I lived. I thought my profile made that blatantly obvious! I did point out to him that maybe as he was going behind his wife's back that he probably wasn't the best person to lecture me about honesty!!!

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By *ivilizedkinkCouple
over a year ago

harrow

Cheating is cheating is cheating and there is no justification for it so no we won't play with married men or women for that matter . But thats just our preference , not about to judge thoughs who do that there choice.

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By *uncpl2015Couple
over a year ago

Bridgend Area

Don't agree with cheating at all. Won't meet them. And been bloody inundated with them this morning. Wife's working wanna meet now. Last one just made me flip lol..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi thanks for your response! And yes I am talking about married guys that are completely upfront about it from the start, not the ones that try to hide it"

being upfront with perfect strangers still isnt being honest.

so if they are dishonest to the person they love, apparently, most in the world, then what else are they lying about?

fucking some skank thats got all sorts hiding down there, bareback, and not getting checked?

and how would you explain going to an sti clinic to the wife?

so no, not at all, or at least not knowingly, and if we did find out he was married in the middle of something, he should be prepared for a painful blowjob, rather than a nice one.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

what Nicecouple said and would elaborate that whatever the reasons are they are between that person and their OH, be they male or female..

showing a lack of respect for the person 'at home' by telling all and sundry what the person meeting feels is their justification for doing so is showing a lack of self respect also..

wrong..

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I will keep my answer consistent

just find people who shag marrieds and get on with it...

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will keep my answer consistent

just find people who shag marrieds and get on with it...

good luck"

In a nutshell!!

I seriously wonder if some people even know what swinging is. And therefore why a question like this may not be well received!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I will keep my answer consistent

just find people who shag marrieds and get on with it...

good luck"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks all for the responses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I do believe we would meet one. Not our problem if he gets caught and not on our conscious. Agree though as long as he doesn't talk about her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. Someone who can deliberately and repeatedly do something that would potentially devastate their partner is not someone that I'm interested in spending any time with.

I'm not interested in anyone's "Boo Hoo poor me, I'm actually the victim in all this" stories. I've had it done to me, and I wont be involved in doing it to someone else.

In strongly believe cheating is wrong, whatever the circumstances - especially being on a site like this. I think I would be quicker to forgive a d*unken one night stand - but this is more calculated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nope. Someone who can deliberately and repeatedly do something that would potentially devastate their partner is not someone that I'm interested in spending any time with.

I'm not interested in anyone's "Boo Hoo poor me, I'm actually the victim in all this" stories. I've had it done to me, and I wont be involved in doing it to someone else.

In strongly believe cheating is wrong, whatever the circumstances - especially being on a site like this. I think I would be quicker to forgive a d*unken one night stand - but this is more calculated."

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I will keep my answer consistent

just find people who shag marrieds and get on with it...

good luck"

this is basically what I was saying only put more succinctly and way better

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