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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

What does this mean to you? It appears to mean different things and I thought it just meant no penetration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We see it as everything except penetration too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What does this mean to you? It appears to mean different things and I thought it just meant no penetration. "

Same as you xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't care what it is I'd settle for it right now

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By *ppleby11Couple
over a year ago

Berkhamsted

That's what I thought. Al is soft swap only which as far as we're concerned means he doesn't fuck anyone else, but he still plays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can also mean no kissing with some couples ... 'that's just for us ' is getting more common on here .

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Or lots of cushions....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To some it means girl on girl only.

If people have limits or rules or boundaries, they really need to communicate them!

crystal

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I thought it just meant no penetration but have heard also heard it means everything but no anal. For some its just masturbation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was once told " soft play is no penetration or oral. No penetration with toys either and no kissing" So I was led to believe I would be playing with her tits as he fucked her. Not worth getting out of bed for

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

it means different things to everyone so the best thing is to ask and don't assume that one persons definition applies to everyone.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I used to define what that meant on my previous profiles so there was no misunderstanding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would define it as no penetration as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just no penetration for us!

Anything else is good

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"it means different things to everyone so the best thing is to ask and don't assume that one persons definition applies to everyone."

This.

We met a soft swap couple. Before we met we asked what we could and couldn't do. So no awkwardness or misunderstanding in person. Worked fine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was once told " soft play is no penetration or oral. No penetration with toys either and no kissing" So I was led to believe I would be playing with her tits as he fucked her. Not worth getting out of bed for "

Or in bed for lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"it means different things to everyone so the best thing is to ask and don't assume that one persons definition applies to everyone.

This.

We met a soft swap couple. Before we met we asked what we could and couldn't do. So no awkwardness or misunderstanding in person. Worked fine. "

I think this should apply on any meet at all really (always assuming that people are true to what they really want).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I was once told " soft play is no penetration or oral. No penetration with toys either and no kissing" So I was led to believe I would be playing with her tits as he fucked her. Not worth getting out of bed for

Or in bed for lol"

lol I don't think I would have been allowed on their bed

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By *uestandpinkCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

Spot on....just ask beforehand....never assume

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We see it as everything except penetration too"

Yes that'd what we see it as and we still manage to have a very sexy time mmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It can also mean no kissing with some couples ... 'that's just for us ' is getting more common on here ."

no offence, but no kissing happens with full swap couples too.

soft swap starts at being in a room with someone else, watching, and encompasses everything up to and just before, full penetration with someone elses partner.

it is best to ask the person/couple involved to find out their interpretation of it, and see if it matches your desires.

for us, we do everything other than full sex with others.

as i have said before, we are too hard for some softies, and too soft for hardies.

sometimes you just cant win.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We see it as everything except penetration too"
yer that's how we see it but it seems to us no one wants to do just soft swing !

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"What does this mean to you? It appears to mean different things and I thought it just meant no penetration. "

To some it means girl/girl only play, some it might be everything but penetration. Some couples only one half will do full sex.

Why discussing any rules or boundaries is important.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it's everything but penetration

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no it doesnt mean just no penertration,me and the wife really enjoy soft swing its so sexy xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For us it means that we have a great time with our friends, everything except for actual fucking is all good, and you can do so many things to make someone cum without actually fucking them, try it................

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Agree with most here, for us it means doing anything/everything with others apart from fucking. Have seen somewhere that in America it means two or more couples having sex on the same bed but not swapping partners for anything, just sticking with your own throughout. Makes you wonder what the point of that is!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always thought it meant anything but penetration too. The lesson to be learnt is ask them what they mean by it first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's the same for us I (jewel) have no boundaries but scratches only boundaries is he doesn't have penetrative sex but can kiss lick suck lol. We always make it clear when we start chatting to anyone so they know from the start and it is stated in our profile.

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By *illyrocCouple
over a year ago

north west

Soft play means you have a permanent semi on during play

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