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By *untimeanytime OP   Man
over a year ago

kings lynn

Why is it when you read some of the things on the forum blokes get arsey with the replies or when they get rejected for a meet. At the end of the day if the woman or couple or whoever dont want you thats their choice you getting arsey will only make you look a twat an makes it hard for all the honest genuine people (yes there are still some of us on here) rant over

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"Why is it when you read some of the things on the forum blokes get arsey with the replies or when they get rejected for a meet. At the end of the day if the woman or couple or whoever dont want you thats their choice you getting arsey will only make you look a twat an makes it hard for all the honest genuine people (yes there are still some of us on here) rant over "

stick around.... when some couples or females get turned down, it is like Guy Fawkwes night....

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Its not only blokes that get arsy if people don't want to meet or don't agree with forum posts.

It's natural to be disappointed if you find out your opinion is not agreed with universally. The thing to learn is how to accept that gracefully, instead of having a tantrum,.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it when you read some of the things on the forum blokes get arsey with the replies or when they get rejected for a meet. At the end of the day if the woman or couple or whoever dont want you thats their choice you getting arsey will only make you look a twat an makes it hard for all the honest genuine people (yes there are still some of us on here) rant over "

Oh yeah I have never seen a woman get arsey on here. Just the blokes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stick around sunshine, people can see what some are doing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most men aren't equipped to deal with rejection...its not in there genetic make up..all he hormobiggest..the best the biggest etc..they get nasty when the ego is challenged...I LOVE rejection.. Makes you try harder..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its happened to me a few times and yes, they don't do themselves any favours, maybe they feel better for spouting abuse but it just confirms they're not the type of person I want to meet. I know not all men are like that but it is sad and unecessary.

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By *untimeanytime OP   Man
over a year ago

kings lynn

So it might be but if the woman dont fancy you thats it end of subject not going into a strop as you got turned down. IF A WOMAN SAYS NO THEN RESPECT HER DECISION AN WALK AWAY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Its happened to me a few times and yes, they don't do themselves any favours, maybe they feel better for spouting abuse but it just confirms they're not the type of person I want to meet. I know not all men are like that but it is sad and unecessary. "

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By *untimeanytime OP   Man
over a year ago

kings lynn


"Most men aren't equipped to deal with rejection...its not in there genetic make up..all he hormobiggest..the best the biggest etc..they get nasty when the ego is challenged...I LOVE rejection.. Makes you try harder.."

Exactly get up dust yourself down an see where you went wrong an do something about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"makes it hard for all the honest genuine people"

I don't think it makes it hard, it makes it easier for genuine folk when people act like that but I agree with _iew, I (Martin) had a single profile before and politely said no to a few couples and they got very stroppy like men should just be grateful for a shag and how dare they decline a couple,

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By *untimeanytime OP   Man
over a year ago

kings lynn

Im just saying what ive seen so far

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the ones you only have to watch, is the ones that are using a woman's arse to pull.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Most men aren't equipped to deal with rejection...its not in there genetic make up..all he hormobiggest..the best the biggest etc..they get nasty when the ego is challenged...I LOVE rejection.. Makes you try harder..

Exactly get up dust yourself down an see where you went wrong an do something about it "

As long as the rejection makes you try harder elsewhere, as opposed to pestering the person that rejected you, to try to convince them to change their mind! that happens a lot too. Golden rule NO means NO, accept it gracefully and move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it when you read some of the things on the forum blokes get arsey with the replies or when they get rejected for a meet. At the end of the day if the woman or couple or whoever dont want you thats their choice you getting arsey will only make you look a twat an makes it hard for all the honest genuine people (yes there are still some of us on here) rant over "

How does someone acting like a dick make it hard for all "the honest genuine people"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always makes me laugh that, posts lambasting someone peer group (whether it be single men/women or couples) they always end it with 'there are some of us genuine ones left'?

can see it a bloody mile away, and usually they have very few verifications to prove the fact lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Teddies do get thrown, its an open forum, sometimes amusing but in the main if the woman man or couple arent interested cest la vie....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"always makes me laugh that, posts lambasting someone peer group (whether it be single men/women or couples) they always end it with 'there are some of us genuine ones left'?

can see it a bloody mile away, and usually they have very few verifications to prove the fact lol"

Oh dear someone that feels lots of veris make them a 'safe' one..some of us especially women choose not to shout about getting our end away...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"always makes me laugh that, posts lambasting someone peer group (whether it be single men/women or couples) they always end it with 'there are some of us genuine ones left'?

can see it a bloody mile away, and usually they have very few verifications to prove the fact lol"

You spotted it it to!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"always makes me laugh that, posts lambasting someone peer group (whether it be single men/women or couples) they always end it with 'there are some of us genuine ones left'?

can see it a bloody mile away, and usually they have very few verifications to prove the fact lol

Oh dear someone that feels lots of veris make them a 'safe' one..some of us especially women choose not to shout about getting our end away..."

who said anything about being safe?

im talking about proof of being reliable, further than your employer giving you an attendance bonus.

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By *untimeanytime OP   Man
over a year ago

kings lynn

I could care what people think iv not wrote it for that at all. we are all on here for some kind of fun an friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

and time wasters and moaners are having fun, jsut different kinds.

que sera sera

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By *untimeanytime OP   Man
over a year ago

kings lynn

Maybe they are but why be a dick an waste peoples time sometimes it costs alot to arrange stuff

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe they are but why be a dick an waste peoples time sometimes it costs alot to arrange stuff "

hang on, your OP was about single blokes moaning about being rejected.

how does that cost anything?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is plenty to get arsey about in this place. I get arsey sometimes and then think "Oooh shit I should have kept my mouth shut!" still doesn't make fake or a bad person. We are humans after all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it when you read some of the things on the forum blokes get arsey with the replies or when they get rejected for a meet. At the end of the day if the woman or couple or whoever dont want you thats their choice you getting arsey will only make you look a twat an makes it hard for all the honest genuine people (yes there are still some of us on here) rant over

stick around.... when some couples or females get turned down, it is like Guy Fawkwes night...."

definetly agreed i have scars where the claws were

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have to agree with _iew on this one .

There is nothing worse than a couple who can't handle rejection .

Some seem to put themselves on a level above singles which Iis unpleasant and often disrespectful .

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"Why is it when you read some of the things on the forum blokes get arsey with the replies or when they get rejected for a meet. At the end of the day if the woman or couple or whoever dont want you thats their choice you getting arsey will only make you look a twat an makes it hard for all the honest genuine people (yes there are still some of us on here) rant over "

you went and spoiled the rant by using the lines I hate...

"but it makes it harder for the genuine people"....

it so doesn't... thats one of those throw away lines that is a kop-out... leave you blameless and put its all squarely elsewhere...

its one up from "oh woe is me!"

the one thing about the way the site is at the moment is that it does give you a chance to stand out...

an arse is always going to be an arse, so dont worry about them! give people enough rope, and those putting on a fascade will eventually trip up on it..

you have a chance to make yourself stand out in all the right ways... work on you!!!

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By *ebsCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Orpington/london


"Im just saying what ive seen so far "

Maybe that's because single guys just want to rant.

Couples have tantrum as well. Jesus the amount we've said thanks but no thanks, good luck etc to and got a wtf do you mean no thanks b**ch message back(yes I am quoting an message from last night). Hence when we turn anyone down single men or women and couples we block straight away saves getting the rant back.

You have to be thick skinned on here. Not everyone fancies everyone and no one HAS to meet anyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why is it when you read some of the things on the forum blokes get arsey with the replies or when they get rejected for a meet. At the end of the day if the woman or couple or whoever dont want you thats their choice you getting arsey will only make you look a twat an makes it hard for all the honest genuine people (yes there are still some of us on here) rant over "
we feel it just proves we were right not to meet them ! If they are like that on here what are they going to be like when you say no at a meet ! They are pesprate silly little boys xxx

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By *untimeanytime OP   Man
over a year ago

kings lynn


"Why is it when you read some of the things on the forum blokes get arsey with the replies or when they get rejected for a meet. At the end of the day if the woman or couple or whoever dont want you thats their choice you getting arsey will only make you look a twat an makes it hard for all the honest genuine people (yes there are still some of us on here) rant over

you went and spoiled the rant by using the lines I hate...

"but it makes it harder for the genuine people"....

it so doesn't... thats one of those throw away lines that is a kop-out... leave you blameless and put its all squarely elsewhere...

its one up from "oh woe is me!"

the one thing about the way the site is at the moment is that it does give you a chance to stand out...

an arse is always going to be an arse, so dont worry about them! give people enough rope, and those putting on a fascade will eventually trip up on it..

you have a chance to make yourself stand out in all the right ways... work on you!!!"

Not at all iv ended up saying somethin to put people off but ive accepted u messed up an moved on not threw my dummy out of pram

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By *rs and Mr PandoraCouple
over a year ago

LUTTERWORTH


"Its not only blokes that get arsy if people don't want to meet or don't agree with forum posts.

It's natural to be disappointed if you find out your opinion is not agreed with universally. The thing to learn is how to accept that gracefully, instead of having a tantrum,."

Wise words

Pandora

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By *picyminxWoman
over a year ago

Huntingdon

I don't think it messes things up for the genuine ones at all. .. If you are genuine ..It shows through .. you chat...you get on .you meet .. ! If it doesn't go as planned ..move on ..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have off days and get frustrated. Being constantly rejected must be deflating. I tried to put myself into the shoes of a single man finding it hard to find sex. I really don't know what I would do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People have off days and get frustrated. Being constantly rejected must be deflating. I tried to put myself into the shoes of a single man finding it hard to find sex. I really don't know what I would do "

i often put myself in the shoes of single men on here, everytime we say no to someone, and i have absolutely come to the conclusion that if i were a single guy, i wouldnt be on here to meet.

it seems like its just so much hard work.

rather go sit in a pub and chat to people that are around instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""makes it hard for all the honest genuine people"

I don't think it makes it hard, it makes it easier for genuine folk when people act like that but I agree with _iew, I (Martin) had a single profile before and politely said no to a few couples and they got very stroppy like men should just be grateful for a shag and how dare they decline a couple,"

We had a couple get stroppy at us (on our couples profile). I said I wasn't interested and they went nuts. My guy had said he was interested and apparently I wasn't allowed to have an opinion.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""makes it hard for all the honest genuine people"

I don't think it makes it hard, it makes it easier for genuine folk when people act like that but I agree with _iew, I (Martin) had a single profile before and politely said no to a few couples and they got very stroppy like men should just be grateful for a shag and how dare they decline a couple,

We had a couple get stroppy at us (on our couples profile). I said I wasn't interested and they went nuts. My guy had said he was interested and apparently I wasn't allowed to have an opinion. "
why would anyone want to meet someone who is not interested and say no !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just had one very stroppy guy.

Told him to stop messaging...

His reply 'if i stop, how will we meet?'

Ermmm....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its all very sad people can get abusive but I've learnt to develop a very thick skin over the years. I had a very abusive message the other day calling me all the names under the sun because I deleted his message without reply. What he didn't know was I save messages from people I'm interested in to reply to at a later time then delete it from my main inbox to clear it. I thought it was quite ironic he called me 3 choice names and said I was rude when the only rude one was him! I just see it as showing their true colours and demonstrating a character trait I would not be interested in. Oh its fun on here lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just had one very stroppy guy.

Told him to stop messaging...

His reply 'if i stop, how will we meet?'

Ermmm.... "
lol that's funny

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just had one very stroppy guy.

Told him to stop messaging...

His reply 'if i stop, how will we meet?'

Ermmm.... lol that's funny "

have to admit i did find it amusing too

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Just had one very stroppy guy.

Told him to stop messaging...

His reply 'if i stop, how will we meet?'

Ermmm.... "

I find the block button very useful for those who just won't get the hint.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just had one very stroppy guy.

Told him to stop messaging...

His reply 'if i stop, how will we meet?'

Ermmm.... lol that's funny

have to admit i did find it amusing too "
once when we were in Tenerife we had a lad message us saying (seen that's its raining and all my plans for today have fell throw do you want to come over and play ) like that was going to hapen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" of course the forums are there to facilitate healthy debate but I'm not sure that slating your peer group as you appear to have done here OP , will endear you to a lot of the members that have been on the site a while and seen this type of post many times before . You may want to consider that , "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Another abusive idiot reported just now. Jist 'cos i said no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Another abusive idiot reported just now. Jist 'cos i said no"
its that pick of your bum driving them all wild lol

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