FabSwingers.com forum: looking for love...really?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey all...serious question here...should people and let's face it...attack if you want...but mainly women who have had this site 'suggested' by a friend..should they be here looking for love...I mean seriously...its at the end of the day a sex site...if you find love good for you..but people are clearly stating they want to find love... C'mon..???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Who cares? At least they're being honest.

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By *otsolonelyfemaleWoman
over a year ago

telford

No this isn't a site for lukin for love I agree its a sex site and if ppl out there r lookin for love suggest u join a dateing site lol!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are a swinger and want to meet another swinger to swing together at swinging clubs or swinging events then joining e-harmony or christiandating ain't gonna get you far is it...so swing on that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey all...serious question here...should people and let's face it...attack if you want...but mainly women who have had this site 'suggested' by a friend..should they be here looking for love...I mean seriously...its at the end of the day a sex site...if you find love good for you..but people are clearly stating they want to find love... C'mon..???"

Surely it is up to them? If it bothers you don't meet them - surely it's as simple as that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a guy and have stated in a forum post, I'm also looking for love! I have seen many couples meet on here, so it does happen. Much rather meet someone like minded than pretend this side doesn't exsist

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also suspect that your constant referal to this as a sex site is linked to your angst on this subject. Is it possible that your sense of expectation is the issue here and not other people's stated preferences?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who cares? At least they're being honest."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely it is up to them? If it bothers you don't meet them - surely it's as simple as that?

I would love to fall for a kinky fucker and have it reciprocated... What's your problem OP?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a swingers site not a sex site....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

PS...this is a swinging site where people happen to have sex, its not just a sex site, so if its just sex you want then perhaps you should join benaughty or fuckmeimanangryhardcoresexgod.com

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who cares? At least they're being honest.

Exactly, we met on here over 8 years ago, we weren't looking for love...

Yes it's a sex site, but if people want to find a partner on here for love and to swing then can't see it as anyone's business but theirs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this isn't a site for lukin for love I agree its a sex site and if ppl out there r lookin for love suggest u join a dateing site lol!!!

Oh puhlease! This and every other generic dating site is for meeting a person/people. Just because this isn't a conventional dating site doesn't mean it cannot be so used!

The main difference between sex dating sites and conventional dating sites is that sex dating sites breed more honesty. Hence one can avoid the adulterers much easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not looking for love but if others are and are honest not a problem but shouldn't look for love its finds you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this isn't a site for lukin for love I agree its a sex site and if ppl out there r lookin for love suggest u join a dateing site lol!!!

Oh puhlease! This and every other generic dating site is for meeting a person/people. Just because this isn't a conventional dating site doesn't mean it cannot be so used!

The main difference between sex dating sites and conventional dating sites is that sex dating sites breed more honesty. Hence one can avoid the adulterers much easier."

THIS

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Who cares? At least they're being honest."

people can use the site how they want, within the rules obviously!! Why are some people hell bent on nit picking how others chose to run their profiles??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people find love in all places so why not here ? The thing they have in common it there love of sex . Lets say you meet in the vanilla world do you turn around say I am a swinger and I sleep around and love it its my hobby ... They may just run out the door . lol or maybe you say very little and then you're living a lie if they ask about your passed in the bed room .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm not looking for love but if others are and are honest not a problem but shouldn't look for love its finds you "

This....

And what better place to find someone who thinks like I do....

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By *al2001Man
over a year ago

kildare

Im goin to keep meeting great ppl for fun n sex like I am doing but I would bet that im goin to fall in love on here eventually.id only ever settle down with a like minded person.which ill meet here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not looking for love but I wouldn't rule it out.Good to see the majority are open minded on this topic.Great thread work guys!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If you are a swinger and want to meet another swinger to swing together at swinging clubs or swinging events then joining e-harmony or christiandating ain't gonna get you far is it...so swing on that

Amen....!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love all of my fuck buddies

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By *ing and RideCouple
over a year ago

stockport

"I'm a guy and have stated in a forum post, I'm also looking for love! I have seen many couples meet on here, so it does happen. Much rather meet someone like minded than pretend this side doesn't exsist"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh masterful one I'm sure they are happy

Her

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Amen....!!!!

how is the above 'love' unless you fall in love with that person and you both agree that to continue to swing is right for both of you.

the above to me defines why the folk looking for love need to be aware that all being said may not have LOVE at the core.

good luck and happiness to all who do fall in love.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Oh puhlease! This and every other generic dating site is for meeting a person/people. Just because this isn't a conventional dating site doesn't mean it cannot be so used!

The main difference between sex dating sites and conventional dating sites is that sex dating sites breed more honesty. Hence one can avoid the adulterers much easier."

I thought it would make it easier to find people being honest, but sadly I find many are just lying about other things on here - their height, their size, whatever they think will keep you 'onside' for another meet.....that's sad. Sure I'd like to find love but I am here because I am not going without meanwhile, and I don't know why that isn't enough to avoid the need for the deceit!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"people find love in all places so why not here ? The thing they have in common it there love of sex . Lets say you meet in the vanilla world do you turn around say I am a swinger and I sleep around and love it its my hobby ... They may just run out the door . lol or maybe you say very little and then you're living a lie if they ask about your passed in the bed room ."

my thoughts entirely. I broached the subject of my love of this site whilst on a vanilla date and the guy couldn't get away fast enough. I didn't advertise that I was looking for love on fab and nor did I expect to find it. But I did and I'm glad for it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I also suspect that your constant referal to this as a sex site is linked to your angst on this subject. Is it possible that your sense of expectation is the issue here and not other people's stated preferences? "

my profile is firm and honest as I grew up around strong women..therefore I saw every trick men would use just to get a fuck..hence I'm honest on this site NO angst...im highlighting a point that people are probably on the wrong site for love and feelings will inevitably be hurt...so let dating sites take care of that.

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By *ing and RideCouple
over a year ago

stockport

"No this isn't a site for lukin for love I agree its a sex site and if ppl out there r lookin for love suggest u join a dateing site lol!!!

Oh puhlease! This and every other generic dating site is for meeting a person/people. Just because this isn't a conventional dating site doesn't mean it cannot be so used!

The main difference between sex dating sites and conventional dating sites is that sex dating sites breed more honesty. Hence one can avoid the adulterers much easier."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

*totters through thread humming..."I didn't know I was looking for love until I found you..."*

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No this isn't a site for lukin for love I agree its a sex site and if ppl out there r lookin for love suggest u join a dateing site lol!!!

Oh puhlease! This and every other generic dating site is for meeting a person/people. Just because this isn't a conventional dating site doesn't mean it cannot be so used!

The main difference between sex dating sites and conventional dating sites is that sex dating sites breed more honesty. Hence one can avoid the adulterers much easier.

99% of people will honestly log on to look for a FUCK!!! you can try and dress it up however you want...it is at its very core a SEX SITE!!! Jesus let's just call a spade a spade for once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*totters through thread humming..."I didn't know I was looking for love until I found you..."*

That song popped into my head also.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Oh puhlease! This and every other generic dating site is for meeting a person/people. Just because this isn't a conventional dating site doesn't mean it cannot be so used!

The main difference between sex dating sites and conventional dating sites is that sex dating sites breed more honesty. Hence one can avoid the adulterers much easier.

Exactly most men will do and say ANYTHING once the balls are empty so is the head and mist definitely the heart...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did not join this site to fall in love... Far from it but it happened and it has completely changed my attitude on the way I swing.... Emotions are difficult to control regardless if it intentionally or not... For the people that have written it on their profile, good luck in your search... There's nothing wrong in wanting happiness xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i was looking for a relationship and love (on my old single profile), there was more people on dating sites, that said they wanted relationships and dating but just wanted to go straight for the Fuck! and skip the social date. More guys on here are willing to do socials before the sex so I suppose there is more of a date like aspect to the site in that sense. Then factor in how common you come across getting a regular FWB and after a few sessions in, wether intentional or not, it can be hard not to form an emotional connection from the situation, then you have stumbled across love accidentally.Then consider that you may want your next relationship to be a open or swingers relationship at least you are in a place where that started on a common ground for it instead of from a vanilla dating site where you have to have 'The conversation' about wanting to swing. So why not come here looking for love? as good a place as any when you consider all the outcomes

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"*totters through thread humming..."I didn't know I was looking for love until I found you..."*

That song popped into my head also."

I've got salt n peppa....let's talk about sex bay bee...

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Dating sites are also full of guys who just want casual sex pretending to want a relationship, or guys in relationships only pretending to want to meet hoping to lure you into dirty e-chats while they wank on their day off!!At least on here most guys do actually want to meet 'in the flesh'!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

And just remember...if you meet someone in a sweetshop spoilt for choice...chances are they'll want to visit that sweet shop again...

Cue the anger..lol.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seems to me that your the Angry one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this isn't a site for lukin for love I agree its a sex site and if ppl out there r lookin for love suggest u join a dateing site lol!!!

Oh puhlease! This and every other generic dating site is for meeting a person/people. Just because this isn't a conventional dating site doesn't mean it cannot be so used!

The main difference between sex dating sites and conventional dating sites is that sex dating sites breed more honesty. Hence one can avoid the adulterers much easier.

99% of people will honestly log on to look for a FUCK!!! you can try and dress it up however you want...it is at its very core a SEX SITE!!! Jesus let's just call a spade a spade for once."

The boundaries between sex and dating sites have blurred or merged perhaps. So for the majority of users they are all sex sites?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met oreo on here wasn't looking for love at all. Also in September I went to wedding of a couple who met on here they are so well suited. Btw sorry OP but me and oreo couldn't be more well suited if there is such a thing he's my soul mate. As one of the frequent problems within a marriage is sex at least it helps if they meet here that they already know each others kinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm always flabbergasted by people whogob off telling others what they "should" be doing or "should" be wanting...

chill out! plenty of choice for everyone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"*totters through thread humming..."I didn't know I was looking for love until I found you..."*

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Oh masterful one I'm sure they are happy

Her"

Even in jest..I like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh masterful one I'm sure they are happy

Her

Even in jest..I like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amen....!!!!

how is the above 'love' unless you fall in love with that person and you both agree that to continue to swing is right for both of you.

the above to me defines why the folk looking for love need to be aware that all being said may not have LOVE at the core.

good luck and happiness to all who do fall in love."

I was talking about swingles who fall in love, not FWBs who want to join forces...it happens...its very real...and when it does its amazing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm always flabbergasted by people whogob off telling others what they "should" be doing or "should" be wanting...

chill out! plenty of choice for everyone

Exactly and you have a CHOICE NOT to join in and comment..its a forum..heated debate...not a personal vendetta flower.x

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By *utterflywingsWoman
over a year ago

Creswell Derbyshire

"No this isn't a site for lukin for love I agree its a sex site and if ppl out there r lookin for love suggest u join a dateing site lol!!!

Have to admit i have seen the same guys on dating sites that are on here, perhaps people like to keep all options open like myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When i was looking for a relationship and love (on my old single profile), there was more people on dating sites, that said they wanted relationships and dating but just wanted to go straight for the Fuck! and skip the social date. More guys on here are willing to do socials before the sex so I suppose there is more of a date like aspect to the site in that sense. Then factor in how common you come across getting a regular FWB and after a few sessions in, wether intentional or not, it can be hard not to form an emotional connection from the situation, then you have stumbled across love accidentally.Then consider that you may want your next relationship to be a open or swingers relationship at least you are in a place where that started on a common ground for it instead of from a vanilla dating site where you have to have 'The conversation' about wanting to swing. So why not come here looking for love? as good a place as any when you consider all the outcomes"

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Amen....!!!!

how is the above 'love' unless you fall in love with that person and you both agree that to continue to swing is right for both of you.

the above to me defines why the folk looking for love need to be aware that all being said may not have LOVE at the core.

good luck and happiness to all who do fall in love.

I was talking about swingles who fall in love, not FWBs who want to join forces...it happens...its very real...and when it does its amazing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have SO many of these

for nearly all of the comments on this thread.

Sexual compatibility is important in relationships.

By relationships, I mean sexual interactions - so vanilla, monogamous, love, friends with benefits, whatever definition you may use. Therefore, I'm sure plenty of swingers would like to revisit this sweet shop with a partner of some sort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you've been here a week. The people disagreeing with you have been on here months or years. Does that not tell you something? Could it be your expectation of the site or your interpretation of the term swinging that is the problem here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm always flabbergasted by people whogob off telling others what they "should" be doing or "should" be wanting...

chill out! plenty of choice for everyone

Exactly and you have a CHOICE NOT to join in and comment..its a forum..heated debate...not a personal vendetta flower.x"

I didnt think she meant it that way. Sounds to me like your just looking for a fight. Afterall you havent responded to the positive or contructive points made on this thread, only the negative ones

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No this isn't a site for lukin for love I agree its a sex site and if ppl out there r lookin for love suggest u join a dateing site lol!!!

Have to admit i have seen the same guys on dating sites that are on here, perhaps people like to keep all options open like myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure that the strong women you grew up around are proud of your misogynistic values.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'm always flabbergasted by people whogob off telling others what they "should" be doing or "should" be wanting...

chill out! plenty of choice for everyone

Exactly and you have a CHOICE NOT to join in and comment..its a forum..heated debate...not a personal vendetta flower.x

I didnt think she meant it that way. Sounds to me like your just looking for a fight. Afterall you havent responded to the positive or contructive points made on this thread, only the negative ones"

I've not read many positive ones...mainly people saying you can find love..fair enough some people might...but I'm flabbergasted to think someone would choose a swingers site to find 'love'!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"OP you've been here a week. The people disagreeing with you have been on here months or years. Does that not tell you something? Could it be your expectation of the site or your interpretation of the term swinging that is the problem here?"

Agreed, the anger that come across in this thread translates throughtout his profile and current status. Aloow me to apologise on behalf of all the ladies on the site, we're so sorry you havent managed to get a shag every single night of the week, but some of us like to meet a gent even if its only for a quick fuck!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm sure that the strong women you grew up around are proud of your misogynistic values.

Oh dear someone trying to use big words...everyone has an opinion but PLEASE research the words you use and how you apply them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im not looking for love,but good luck to who are is all i say

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I've been with fab swingers for 3 years..like most people I got fed up and needed a break. And I don't 'shag' flower...but that word highlights your expectations

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Funny how people get nasty when challenged.. X

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

And again....I will paraphrase these forums have a great way of letting you know who to avoid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i just think what people seek is their own affair..each to their own . You never know what people really want until you meet them anyway..the sands always shift! Its free choice who and what people want to do.

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And again....I will paraphrase these forums have a great way of letting you know who to avoid

I totally agree...I know exactly who to steer clear of.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I WISH people could hear how the majority of people I've overheard talk about fabswingers...the word 'love' funnily enough doesn't crop up..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funny how people get nasty when challenged.. X"

Who's getting nasty?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I WISH people could hear how the majority of people I've overheard talk about fabswingers...the word 'love' funnily enough doesn't crop up.."

Erm.....you were the one who brought the love word in the first place

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funny how people get nasty when challenged.. X

Who's getting nasty?"

Think that was in reference to my last comment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand what the op is saying I don't think this would be my first place to look when looking for love, but who knows where love will find you, and it's likely that you will find people of a similar mindset and love could prevail

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By *oe bloggs69Man
over a year ago

fife

Why not be on here looking for love,its just another site! A site that's going down the pan slow but sure.if yr looking for love then good luck but ppl can have fun till' love walks in thru their door' lol at me stealing some lyrics from thunder.play that song to yr partner n surely they will go down on u

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agreed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure that the strong women you grew up around are proud of your misogynistic values.

Oh dear someone trying to use big words...everyone has an opinion but PLEASE research the words you use and how you apply them."

MISOGYNIST = a person who dislikes, despises, or is strongly prejudiced against women: i.e. ‘a bachelor and renowned misogynist’. If shes proud to be a woman that wont tolrerate Men with that attitude then Crytal Wheels' use of the term was apt for the resonse that lady made

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

You have raised a subject that has been discussed quite a bit and you won't get a balanced discussion as the male community who are here just for shags and will say anything to get it, won't contribute as it is NSA swingers suicide.

Some of the players will meet up with someone looking for love, feelings may develop on one side. They meet, the multiple verifications marking territory, the secondary profile that write to the player checking to see if he bites, the warring signals to any woman who comes within a cock length of her man, the multiple announcements of their itinerary together, the deletion of the profile, the change of name and fresh start and the game starts again.....

that is the reality.... the hurt and pain is evident in their postings.

but many do find love, it would be disengenuous not to recognise that and wish them happiness.

It is lovely to see people so completely connected and I have at socials.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its a recipe for disaster but you`ll have the odd success story

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ppl do seem to find love in sum strange places. I dont want a relationship, im quite happy as i am. Plus, i wldnt want a relationship wiv anyone ive met anyway. Not saying i think im better than anyone but its just meeting for sex and thats it. Plain n simple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"You have raised a subject that has been discussed quite a bit and you won't get a balanced discussion as the male community who are here just for shags and will say anything to get it, won't contribute as it is NSA swingers suicide.

that is the reality.... the hurt and pain is evident in their postings.

but many do find love, it would be disengenuous not to recognise that and wish them happiness.

It is lovely to see people so completely connected and I have at socials."

hit the nail right on the head.... Don't think there really is any such thing as NSA when emotions are involved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"its a recipe for disaster but you`ll have the odd success story"

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

lots of people look for love, here...it's a basic human need that from what I can see goes unfulfilled in many cases. Lots of people equate sex with love in all walks of life and draw emotional comfort and security from it, it validates them and boosts their self esteem and it isn't just women.

Read the forums to see people asking to be loved in roundabout ways.

I don't see a problem with people looking for love here but I do see a problem with them finding it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm sure that the strong women you grew up around are proud of your misogynistic values.

Oh dear someone trying to use big words...everyone has an opinion but PLEASE research the words you use and how you apply them.

Oh dear a smartarse with access to Google.. Pray...in face I PLEAD with you explain at ONE point where i have come across with dislike or disrespect to women?????.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"lots of people look for love, here...it's a basic human need that from what I can see goes unfulfilled in many cases. Lots of people equate sex with love in all walks of life and draw emotional comfort and security from it, it validates them and boosts their self esteem and it isn't just women.

Read the forums to see people asking to be loved in roundabout ways.

I don't see a problem with people looking for love here but I do see a problem with them finding it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure that the strong women you grew up around are proud of your misogynistic values.

Oh dear someone trying to use big words...everyone has an opinion but PLEASE research the words you use and how you apply them.

My mistake just read back and it was your response not a womans! whooops!But now guessing their response was meant in sarcasm at you statement therefore still as apt in its use. Afterall saying all you want woman for is a Fuck, whether honest or not, is a misogynist _iew, that a shag is all women are suited to be used for

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not feeling the Love in this room..Come on people group hug

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the people on fab who are looking for love are happy to say so then that's fine .

If thats on their agenda then let potential meets be aware first .

Because we have seen enough strife from men and women who want more and it isn't reciprocated to last a lifetime .

Honesty is the most important thing here and if everyone was clear as to their intention there would be a more harmonious environment to swing in

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

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Amen....!!!!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Honesty is the most important thing here and if everyone was clear as to their intention there would be a more harmonious environment to swing in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure that the strong women you grew up around are proud of your misogynistic values.

Oh dear someone trying to use big words...everyone has an opinion but PLEASE research the words you use and how you apply them.

Oh dear a smartarse with access to Google.. Pray...in face I PLEAD with you explain at ONE point where i have come across with dislike or disrespect to women?????."

Yet again all the positive responses (like Views)that you could debate the issue with and you choose to jump on my respose! and if you read further down you'd see i appologised and corrected my statement, but no u jump for the fight!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I'm sure that the strong women you grew up around are proud of your misogynistic values.

Oh dear someone trying to use big words...everyone has an opinion but PLEASE research the words you use and how you apply them.

SO INCREDIBLY WEAK of you to take that stance...my last few beers have been stunning confident strong women that only wanted sex...a fuck...so you're telling me I 'used' THEM!!!...please if I was a female I'd be fuming at your way of generalizing woman as weak enough to just be a fuck...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often think some forum users come out with a load of shit just to cause arguments with the OP or assert their 'status' on here but in this case the only person being a twit is the OP, everyone else has stated their opinion well and made some valid points.

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By *untimeanytimeMan
over a year ago

kings lynn

"PS...this is a swinging site where people happen to have sex, its not just a sex site, so if its just sex you want then perhaps you should join benaughty or fuckmeimanangryhardcoresexgod.com

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Beers....fucking autospell!!! Lost my stride there...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And just remember...if you meet someone in a sweetshop spoilt for choice...chances are they'll want to visit that sweet shop again...

Cue the anger..lol.x"

Clearly you have no idea what swinging is.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I often think some forum users come out with a load of shit just to cause arguments with the OP or assert their 'status' on here but in this case the only person being a twit is the OP, everyone else has stated their opinion well and made some valid points."

Thanks for that worthy 'grown up' contribution...maybe you should read the debate befire diving in..its only me the OP that's not attacking anyone's _iews or character actually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"And just remember...if you meet someone in a sweetshop spoilt for choice...chances are they'll want to visit that sweet shop again...

Cue the anger..lol.x

Clearly you have no idea what swinging is.

Clearly you have no idea what that comment was in reference to.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sure that the strong women you grew up around are proud of your misogynistic values.

Oh dear someone trying to use big words...everyone has an opinion but PLEASE research the words you use and how you apply them.

I wasnt generalising woman in that way, i was merely saying thats how the comment could be used sarcastically and be apt in the reference to it

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Why do people stating they want to find love concern you? You're using the site for your own reasons and if a profile states the author is looking for love simply avoid it but accept that like you they're here for what suits them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is this online version of walking in to an empty room and starting a fight?

OP every post is argumentative to the point of aggression and your status reinforces the impression that all you want out of this thread is an argument not a debate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amen....!!!!

how is the above 'love' unless you fall in love with that person and you both agree that to continue to swing is right for both of you.

the above to me defines why the folk looking for love need to be aware that all being said may not have LOVE at the core.

good luck and happiness to all who do fall in love."

I love you. Will you be my man? Love youuuuuuu.

P.S. As soon as I empty my balls you can fuck off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are vociferous in their opinions and have to shout louder because they feel they are not being heard and yet in reality there are just differing opinions being flung around.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I do not understand this fixation with people who might be 'looking for love' on this site, and would be surprised if anybody effectively DID that. Seems the entirely wrong place for it. But even IF someone did - so what? Good luck. It's not impossible that, when meeting someone, you suddenly notice an attraction that goes beyond the purely physical. That may be a welcome thing, or it will frighten the shit out of you. It all depends.

I have met several folk here whom I bonded with, mostly in writing - and most of whom I probably will never meet. With a few of those I did meet, it evolved to something more than just sex and became much the better for it (for me). Did I seek/find love? No, but an unexpected, ensuing feeling of closeness is wonderful and very welcome indeed. We'll see how things go.

Let's try clear this up I have NO problems with people FINDING love...the debate is...is this REALLY the right place to LOOK...us it fair for a man to think he's mewtingva liberated woman for NSA when she's maybe hoping for more... Should..in both parties best interest..they be totally honest from the outset...!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Some people are vociferous in their opinions and have to shout louder because they feel they are not being heard and yet in reality there are just differing opinions being flung around."

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Amen....!!!!

how is the above 'love' unless you fall in love with that person and you both agree that to continue to swing is right for both of you.

the above to me defines why the folk looking for love need to be aware that all being said may not have LOVE at the core.

good luck and happiness to all who do fall in love.

I love you. Will you be my man? Love youuuuuuu.

P.S. As soon as I empty my balls you can fuck off.

perfection..... of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amen....!!!!

how is the above 'love' unless you fall in love with that person and you both agree that to continue to swing is right for both of you.

the above to me defines why the folk looking for love need to be aware that all being said may not have LOVE at the core.

good luck and happiness to all who do fall in love.

I love you. Will you be my man? Love youuuuuuu.

P.S. As soon as I empty my balls you can fuck off.

"
ha ha yeah ohhhh I need to go home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And just remember...if you meet someone in a sweetshop spoilt for choice...chances are they'll want to visit that sweet shop again...

Cue the anger..lol.x

Clearly you have no idea what swinging is.

Clearly you have no idea what that comment was in reference to.x"

Strawberry bonbons.

In answer to your original question, I think people can of course find love on here. If a person genuinely wants a swinging partner. As you say, (possibly) no good looking here for a monogamous partner.

It's also fine to just look for sex. It's all ok. Just only meet the people that want the same as you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks for that worthy 'grown up' contribution...maybe you should read the debate befire diving in..its only me the OP that's not attacking anyone's _iews or character actually."

Can I have some of what you're on?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"If the people on fab who are looking for love are happy to say so then that's fine .

If thats on their agenda then let potential meets be aware first .

Because we have seen enough strife from men and women who want more and it isn't reciprocated to last a lifetime .

Honesty is the most important thing here and if everyone was clear as to their intention there would be a more harmonious environment to swing in

Amen to that. I have to say the strife comes from experienced swingers more often than not too.

Honesty and respect both towards and for yourself and other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Is this online version of walking in to an empty room and starting a fight?

OP every post is argumentative to the point of aggression and your status reinforces the impression that all you want out of this thread is an argument not a debate."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Amen....!!!!

how is the above 'love' unless you fall in love with that person and you both agree that to continue to swing is right for both of you.

the above to me defines why the folk looking for love need to be aware that all being said may not have LOVE at the core.

good luck and happiness to all who do fall in love.

I love you. Will you be my man? Love youuuuuuu.

P.S. As soon as I empty my balls you can fuck off.

perfection..... of course

Sweet. Pull my wedding dress down when you've finished.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I love you all really...xx

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By *ixen and RudolphCouple
over a year ago

LUTTERWORTH

I had a single profile on here that was quite clear that I wanted a relationship, love the whole nine yards.

I wanted a partner who wanted all the kinky things I did.

There are no rules as to how you use Fab or any other alternative site where people meet. If you don't want love, OP, then just ignore profiles or people who say they do.

I got abusive messages regularly from couples and single guys telling me I was on the wrong site, I ignored them and used my block button.

I found what I wanted after a month on here, now engaged and in a wonderfull relationship with the love of my life

If you just want nsa a FB or any other type of meet go for that, if you want love, go for that

Pandora x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I had a single profile on here that was quite clear that I wanted a relationship, love the whole nine yards.

I wanted a partner who wanted all the kinky things I did.

There are no rules as to how you use Fab or any other alternative site where people meet. If you don't want love, OP, then just ignore profiles or people who say they do.

I got abusive messages regularly from couples and single guys telling me I was on the wrong site, I ignored them and used my block button.

I found what I wanted after a month on here, now engaged and in a wonderfull relationship with the love of my life

If you just want nsa a FB or any other type of meet go for that, if you want love, go for that

Pandora x"

Do you both swing....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely it is up to them? If it bothers you don't meet them - surely it's as simple as that?

I would love to fall for a kinky fucker and have it reciprocated... What's your problem OP?"

Well said! I'm not actively looking for love on this site. But, if it were to happen, I'd be thrilled to be in such a close relationship with a girl who's got a healthy open attitude to all-things sexual.

I like the openness a site like FAB encourages. Rather than risking scaring off a new date, met through more "conventional" means, by testing her tolerance/interest in sexual matters, on FAB a truthful profile already deals with that, therefore both parties have an idea of interests and boundaries.

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By *ixen and RudolphCouple
over a year ago

LUTTERWORTH

"I had a single profile on here that was quite clear that I wanted a relationship, love the whole nine yards.

I wanted a partner who wanted all the kinky things I did.

There are no rules as to how you use Fab or any other alternative site where people meet. If you don't want love, OP, then just ignore profiles or people who say they do.

I got abusive messages regularly from couples and single guys telling me I was on the wrong site, I ignored them and used my block button.

I found what I wanted after a month on here, now engaged and in a wonderfull relationship with the love of my life

If you just want nsa a FB or any other type of meet go for that, if you want love, go for that

Pandora x

Do you both swing....?"

Yes we do, together, as a couple. We are quite specific in what we want though.

Why?

Pandora

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im goin to keep meeting great ppl for fun n sex like I am doing but I would bet that im goin to fall in love on here eventually.id only ever settle down with a like minded person.which ill meet here"

This

I've tried the vanilla sites and they are full of married men and liars, on here I know I'm meeting like minded people and if love comes along and bites me on my Arse then Woohoo

In the interim I'm going to have fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"And again....I will paraphrase these forums have a great way of letting you know who to avoid

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By *ixen and RudolphCouple
over a year ago

LUTTERWORTH

Just read your profile in full and it is quite aggressive, but that's your choice to be like that. Doesn't bother me at all .

We all have different _iew points, different wants and needs . Surely we should just accept that there are as many different _iews and choices as the number of people who use fab or any other kink/sex/swing/bdsm site.

In the BDSM scene we use a term YKIOK, (your kink is ok)I certainly don't understand everyone's kink, I don't have to. I understand not everyone will get what we want from fab.

Pandora x

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By *ixen and RudolphCouple
over a year ago

LUTTERWORTH

Interesting debate for a dull Saturday lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, having read your other posts, i feel you may have some seriously unresolved anger issues.

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

Frankly I wish I'd 'discovered' swinging years ago. I've struggled with monogamy as have my partners. When I've cheated it's been sexual rather than emotional. In hindsight (perfect vision) had I found someone willing to be in an open relationship I'd probably still be with them. It's the lack of honesty, and not knowing if they've practised safe sex that bothered me. I'm not jealous type never have been. I'm here to meet ppl for good fun, maybe make friends along the way, not looking for a relationship but I wouldn't avoid it either, you just never know. In an ideal world I'd live in a permanent threesome with ooh tom cruise and Victoria Coren maybe? But still be swinging so I could interchange them with...Philip Schofield, Alyssa Milano, etc

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

Love means something else to everyone of us anyway.....

New debate.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I WISH people could hear how the majority of people I've overheard talk about fabswingers...the word 'love' funnily enough doesn't crop up.."
Well theres 100s who have got married meeting off here .. People can when a shag turn into a lot more and end in love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Frankly I wish I'd 'discovered' swinging years ago. I've struggled with monogamy as have my partners. When I've cheated it's been sexual rather than emotional. In hindsight (perfect vision) had I found someone willing to be in an open relationship I'd probably still be with them. It's the lack of honesty, and not knowing if they've practised safe sex that bothered me. I'm not jealous type never have been. I'm here to meet ppl for good fun, maybe make friends along the way, not looking for a relationship but I wouldn't avoid it either, you just never know. In an ideal world I'd live in a permanent threesome with ooh tom cruise and Victoria Coren maybe? But still be swinging so I could interchange them with...Philip Schofield, Alyssa Milano, etc "

I'm no Tom Cruise, Evie, but I'd love to share Victoria Coren with you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not looking for love, but I'm not hiding from it either if it comes my way. If I were to decide to actively seek it though I think I probably would seriously consider looking on here as I wouldn't have to worry about telling them that whilst I may be open to a relationship with one person, I'd want to have sex with others too...ideally involving them in the fun too. I did the eHarmony questionnaire a few years ago before discovering FAB, and I don't remember it asking about people looking for a partner who wanted multiple sexual partners so chances are anyone I met off there would run for the hills once they discovered my inner slut!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not looking for love but I'm not shying away from it either. . and I'm on here because I enjoy the life style and would hope my next relationship would too ..so I consider this the best place for me to find like minded people and have some fun on the way xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why would you say mainly women? as you don't meet guys i'm guessing you have no idea what men say when mailing, meeting, so how can you give an opinion on what they are looking for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you have been here a week some of us been here years and know how this all work . For some this site is a place just to chat and to some its a place to get to know people they may one day wish to meet .. its not a Meat market and if you look on old posts you will see how hard it is for single men to get sex . Fab is a adult site and not just for fast lane sex ..people some wish a lot more.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people are coming on here looking for love so what, don't mean you have to give it them, why would anyone care what others are looking for?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If people are coming on here looking for love so what, don't mean you have to give it them, why would anyone care what others are looking for?"
Because some maybe think a swingers sex site is easy picking and love or caring should not come into it .

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By *ampWithABrainWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow

I'm no Tom Cruise, Evie, but I'd love to share Victoria Coren with you!

You just know she'd be a horny girl. Would wrap her hair around one hand n finger her til she moans with the other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For me love and swinging don't mix, i'm not looking for love and if I was this is the last place I would look, but I can understand some singles who want to swing as a couple and settle down so if that's what your after to me this is the ideal place to look, you meet someone who's already into the scene and there's more chance they will want to carry on with you, personally I don't see what the problem is if that's what people want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to find someone for more than NSA but I don't put that on my profile as I'm on a dating site for that however, I've met more compatible and fun people on here than on the dating site and lets face it, someone in this lifestyle would make a perfect partner!

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By *uxtonMan
over a year ago

birmingham

"I love all of my fuck buddies

thats the attitude!!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Marry me .

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

Im not looking for love & am not on dating sites.

I met my ex in a swingers club though; so it can happen.

Let those that want it seek it. Their profile their choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's love ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's love ?"

its that thing that never works out so may as well cut the middle man out and stay single, its cheaper in the long run

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

I've gotta admit, if I was single I definitely wouldn't be looking for love on here. If others choose to then that's up to them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When it comes calling you will know . lol .....

God you could find love in tescos even at the chip shop .There was a man on tv other night said he found love when he had a car crash .. was person in other car so you could here too .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've gotta admit, if I was single I definitely wouldn't be looking for love on here. If others choose to then that's up to them."
I think a lot don't look it just find them some how .. xx

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

The OP is about people who have stated they are looking for love though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

so long as they state it I don't see a problem, you read their profile then decide if you want to meet, saying that all because someone is looking for love that does not mean they will want the first person they meet and could easily meet you just for a shag and not like you enough to want to settle down with you

It's those who meet you for no strings sex then spring it on you they have fell for you that piss me off, had that a couple of times

at least if they state they are after love you know where you stand

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The OP is about people who have stated they are looking for love though"
maybe putting there cards on the table saying they wish more then a shag ... some will run to the hills some will be ok with it .. and if lucky they may even find what they are looking for.

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By *tirling DarkCouple
over a year ago

Stirling

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I've gotta admit, if I was single I definitely wouldn't be looking for love on here. If others choose to then that's up to them."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What's love ?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've gotta admit, if I was single I definitely wouldn't be looking for love on here. If others choose to then that's up to them.

Ok, so you wouldn't, and that's your choice...but some would. Just out of interest though, where would you look for someone with similar sexual interests? Or would you become monogamous and keep quiet about your sexual history?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"OP you have been here a week some of us been here years and know how this all work . For some this site is a place just to chat and to some its a place to get to know people they may one day wish to meet .. its not a Meat market and if you look on old posts you will see how hard it is for single men to get sex . Fab is a adult site and not just for fast lane sex ..people some wish a lot more."

Oh dear another one diving in...been using fab 3 years..just left and rejoined as that what a lot choose to do..I've played aa a couple and I've had fuck buddies that have openly showed me what men send to vet it...and a lot if men when asked will say..'we'll see where it leads' knowing full well that's a few meets then on to the next..I'm not professing to be right or an expert in the field I suggest nor do you..x

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By *andACouple
over a year ago

glasgow

"I've gotta admit, if I was single I definitely wouldn't be looking for love on here. If others choose to then that's up to them.

If I was looking for love, swinging probably wouldn't even make the top 10 things I was looking for. If I found someone who was into that then fair enough but it's way way down the list. Everyone I've ever met or dated has been people I've met in real life

(can't think of a better term to use here but basically I mean not through an online site etc).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've gotta admit, if I was single I definitely wouldn't be looking for love on here. If others choose to then that's up to them.

I wouldn't do this if I was a couple, for me sex sites are a way of getting sex, im single I have no one at home so I use such sites, if I was in a relationship I wouldn't want to use such sites, so for me this is not a place I would want to find a partner as if you fall for someone on here you risk them wanting to carry on as a couple which I would have no interest in

but it makes sense that single who would want to be a swinging couples would look on here

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I'm on here for one off, NSA, orgasmic, shallow, never to see them again sex. I am quite happy to meet once and never see the guy again (unless he is astonishing in the sack), so not all women on here are looking for a relationship. Best not to stereotype if at all possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What if two people do fall in love. I think it's quite nice.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Hmm, I don't get a few attitudes revealed here. I would ask of the OP what his context was, because I'm pretty sure there must be one - a serious run in with a full-on bunny boiler for instance, or several women that he was quite happy just to fuck who have gotten over-emotional on him or something....

But what I don't get is people getting nose out of joint about others 'not making their intentions clear'. I hope my profile is perfectly clear how I feel, and I did not come here to look for love - I agree, it would not be anyone's logical first choice, though astonishingly (to me) I have been asked out for social meetings more often on here than anywhere else.....

But even if someone is overtly 'looking for love' here, surely unless the feeling is reciprocated it is a total non-starter anyway?? No woman can 'make a man fall in love with her', by boiling his bunnies, or any other means!!

Most of the many people on here who HAVE found love state they were NOT looking for it, it just happened to them. How can they be condemned, even if it turned out to be one sided?? There was no 'hidden agenda' it just happens sometimes. Most of the time in fact - love is hard to engineer or manufacture, so I don't think it matters one jot what someones 'intentions' are. Even on a dating site where everyone WAS looking for love, you'd all have to kiss (and reject) a lot of frogs before you find one that clicks.

Surely the problem, if there is one, is of unbalanced, emotionally immature people and their response lack of reciprocation? But there are crackpots and stalkers on all kinds of sites, male and female!!

I may be very logical but I am also quite emotional - if I develop feelings for some guy, as a responsible adult that is my concern - either he reciprocates, or I just have to deal with it. Either way I will have done nothing wrong.

What pisses me off is the other side of the coin - men who pretend to have feelings just to keep me on board for a few more fucks and try to mess with my head. That makes me really mad, I hope the bunny boilers DO find them to be frank, the liars deserve them!!

It all boils down to honesty in the end. If everyone was just honest no-one need have any beef, we are all human, not machines - sometimes feelings are going to develop in even those who least desired them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haven't read all thread but glad my profile hidden along with the boiler suits for the mo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said Frisky. Personally speaking, if my ultimate desire is fulfilled then I'll be euphoric. Until that time, should it ever come to pass, I'll have mini happy sexual episodes

In truth, all I want to do is meet men who are open to the idea of something developing, not someone who is desperate for a relationship nor the "any hole's a goal" guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yay to this. I have seen several posts on this subject. Why not ? If I was single I would. If want to meet someone similar to me ...

And for people who are openly displaying this on their profiles - good luck to them I say , there seems to be some lush sexy singles on here looking for love, so let's hope we gain a few more couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this isn't a site for lukin for love I agree its a sex site and if ppl out there r lookin for love suggest u join a dateing site lol!!!

You may be seeking a loving relationship with someone extremely broad minded and sexually liberated. I don't see a problem?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why can't love and an open swinging relationship go together ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

that is the reality.... the hurt and pain is evident in their postings.

but many do find love, it would be disengenuous not to recognise that and wish them happiness.

It is lovely to see people so completely connected and I have at socials."

Well observed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mainly women??? From messages and profiles I see it's mainly men looking for love!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this isn't a site for lukin for love I agree its a sex site and if ppl out there r lookin for love suggest u join a dateing site lol!!!

So how on a dating site am I going to find someone that wants to live this lifestyle with me? Just asking as the reason I do badly in relationships is because I'm not sexually compatible with most people I've met in every day life.... And sex is one of the most important things in a relationship for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a swingers site not a sex site...."
...This is a site people meet up and have sex...So its both a sex and swinging site,Swingers have sex with the people they meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You never find love if you go looking for it.....so why not on a swingers site? You find love in the weirdest of places

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps the OP could indicate places/situations where it is allowed to "fall in love"....or perhaps the OP does not know the rules of love... or that you got to Let Love Rule....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People come on fab for a lot of different reasons that is up to them,Who are we to judge others reasons for being on here????...We are all on for different reasons So What who cares..Give the Love around and back around it goes.Live and let live.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I think people should just learn to call a spade a spade..I'm brave and honest enough to say my MAIN use of this site is to have sex with people I can find a little out about..is pics questions etc.SIMPLE...

Seems some people see this site as a much bigger and deeper meeting of the mind...well ladies and this may wind a few folk up...the 'majority' of men. and a

Lot of women on here do not see it as deep and meaningful...they see it as a place to find a fuck!

Im not apologising for my honesty,,,

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

AND I'd love to know how many people that are spouting it's a swinging site NOT a sex site are ACTUALLY swingers!!

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!

We all want what we want from this site...individual choice etc etc. I'm not looking for love but I hope deep down I find it with someone likeminded and will hold out till I do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"AND I'd love to know how many people that are spouting it's a swinging site NOT a sex site are ACTUALLY swingers!!"

Well thats open, as it's your opinion on what swinging is...

Let others use this site as they wish...

dont like what they say on their profile, block or move on to the next...

whats the point of a moan on the forums. It wont make them change

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

I fail to see how anyone can actually seek out love, here or anywhere.

Love and attraction just happens, what you decide to do about is the choice bit.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"AND I'd love to know how many people that are spouting it's a swinging site NOT a sex site are ACTUALLY swingers!!

Well thats open, as it's your opinion on what swinging is...

Let others use this site as they wish...

dont like what they say on their profile, block or move on to the next...

whats the point of a moan on the forums. It wont make them change

CHRIST ALLMIGHTY a forum is a place to harbour opinions and discussion or 'moanining' as you see it...if we all got on it would be a pretty dull forum...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"AND I'd love to know how many people that are spouting it's a swinging site NOT a sex site are ACTUALLY swingers!!"

If you DON'T stop using capitals for CERTAIN words I'm going to slap you in the face with a muffin.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"AND I'd love to know how many people that are spouting it's a swinging site NOT a sex site are ACTUALLY swingers!!"

so, what exactly IS a swinger?

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