FabSwingers.com forum: Social meet

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I like having a social meet first to see if we click

Dose everyone else feel the same way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. I always ask for a social meet now. Less pressure plus some people look nothing like their pictures

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nearly always now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No i never have a social meet first as i hate chit chat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always do this now, I'd never agree to sex with someone I've never met. Some don't like it but tough, genuine people are normally more than happy to meet for a drink.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes. I always ask for a social meet now. Less pressure plus some people look nothing like their pictures

That's very true lol x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Nearly always now "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No i never have a social meet first as i hate chit chat."

I like the chit chat for me it's a part of swinging xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Always do this now, I'd never agree to sex with someone I've never met. Some don't like it but tough, genuine people are normally more than happy to meet for a drink. "

True what people say they are like in a message and what they are like in real life are two different things sometime I always agree to a social meet so people know in genuine xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes we do, it is only fair all clicks and has a laugh.

And if it does not work out, walk away, shake hands and no harm is done.

Her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep coffee or drinks nowadays first.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes we do, it is only fair all clicks and has a laugh.

And if it does not work out, walk away, shake hands and no harm is done.

Her

That's very true no harm in deed

I like to be close enough to home aswell just incase you click lol xxx

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By *utterflywingsWoman
over a year ago

Creswell Derbyshire

"I like having a social meet first to see if we click

Dose everyone else feel the same way? "

Yes a social is always a must for me, the idea of someone just turning up expecting a shag i find just repulsive but its each to their own....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yep coffee or drinks nowadays first.

I love having a coffee lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always. Amazes me that people don't really. I would never agree to fucking someone you have never met.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Always. Amazes me that people don't really. I would never agree to fucking someone you have never met.

I agree Hun have a chat first see if you click x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes always unless distance is an issue.

If I'm planning to meet someone who is the other side of the country then I chat on the phone a few times to build up a rapore and ask for clear recent pictures.

Only done this once though and it went fine also had the chance to drop in and have a social on way home with another couple who live to far for a social to be practical.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A social is always a must with me.

If there is no connection then we go our own ways after a coffee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've made some very good friends on here through socials, many went no further as there was no mutual attraction in that way but its a night out, better than sitting watching TV on your own. Some guys have branded me a time waster for this but as I've said, no way am I agreeing to sex with someone I haven't met and I value my safety. Some people looked nothing like they did in their pics, some 10 years older, 10 stone heavier etc so its a must. If I don't click with someone socially the sex would more than likely be rubbish!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always ask for a social meet first, I will play if it feels right but there is no guarantee. Sex is more than just physical for me, if there is no chemistry then there is no sex regardless of how attractive they are.

I have noticed an increasing number of single males who won't meet socially, they arrange meets and try to push it to more of than a social then cancel when they realise it is just a social and they need to make an effort. They then moan about not getting meets and decide ti try clubs thinking it's easier

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Social first every time for us too, it takes the pressure off, allows everyone to find out if they click, allows everyone to assess if ages, weights, heights and photos are accurate, lets you know if you're meeting a couple if they're both in it together. It's also quite often a good laugh with nice people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always insist on a social meet. Boundaries and limits need to be discussed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes !! Can you imagine the awkwardness of someone coming over and you absolutely do not fancy them or they have personality of a plank

Awkward !!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Always ask for a social meet first, I will play if it feels right but there is no guarantee. Sex is more than just physical for me, if there is no chemistry then there is no sex regardless of how attractive they are.

I agree with you I have been on social meets and nothing has happend and that's fine no click sex will be rubbish and nobody wants that x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I totally agree with all of you there has to be a click to make the sex good so if there is no click no sex xxx

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I totally agree with all of you there has to be a click to make the sex good so if there is no click no sex xxx"

That is true for me but I don't think it is for everybody, lots of people enjoy sex without knowing the other person much.....doggers for instance.....there's room for all preferences

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I totally agree with all of you there has to be a click to make the sex good so if there is no click no sex xxx

That is true for me but I don't think it is for everybody, lots of people enjoy sex without knowing the other person much.....doggers for instance.....there's room for all preferences

True that's a good point xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spoke to my FWB for weeks without the intention of meeting, asked him if he wanted to meet, said yes, met up and had an amazing time!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I spoke to my FWB for weeks without the intention of meeting, asked him if he wanted to meet, said yes, met up and had an amazing time!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yes we do, it is only fair all clicks and has a laugh.

And if it does not work out, walk away, shake hands and no harm is done.

Her

very true well said xx

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By *ureBadnessCouple
over a year ago

Leicestershire

We always insist on a social meet with anyone we haven't met before. It helps to break the ice and to ascertain if there's any mutual chemistry....

We have found this works best and in some cases we have parted company with people in the bar due to various reasons.... Makes the situation more tolerable in a public environment rather than in your own home.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only meet in clubs so sometimes there is the social chit chat and getting to know each other , sometimes not .

If there is an obvious attraction , a look , or just a connection from a simple Iintroduction we will go straight to the fun , and to be honest it's often just as good as the prolonged chat and social .

Here's another instance to ponder on .... sometimes too much chat and the moment can pass ... strange but true !

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

"I like having a social meet first to see if we click

Dose everyone else feel the same way? "

Yes I do x

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

I'd think a man a nut if he didn't want a social meet with me. My play involves hanging playmates from hooks, brackets etc extreme anal toys, wax, razors etc. It's not all about aesthetics, it's also about assessing as best you can that the person whose home you're going into and put yourself in a vulnerable position is not a psycho!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Always do this now, I'd never agree to sex with someone I've never met. Some don't like it but tough, genuine people are normally more than happy to meet for a drink. "

It has nothing to do with being genuine (the most overused word on this site!). We don't all play the same. Whilst I always have a social meet I don't think those that "meet now" are not genuine.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

The only socials I have are on nights out clubbing. It takes me 90 minutes to look this trashy and it's not worth meeting someone just for a 30 minute cup of tea and frankly whilst there are plenty of people who want to meet me, not many would like to meet me in a café of a Thursday dinnertime.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd love to have the time for social meets, but I barely get time to meet as it is. I fear that I would only ever get to meet socially if I insisted on a social meet first! I spend time chatting online and on the phone first. Works for me and I don't think that I or the guys I meet are any less genuine because of it.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"I'd love to have the time for social meets, but I barely get time to meet as it is. I fear that I would only ever get to meet socially if I insisted on a social meet first! I spend time chatting online and on the phone first. Works for me and I don't think that I or the guys I meet are any less genuine because of it."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personally I find that meets agreed to be socials and nothing more rather pointless, as you may well like each other, but not to the extent that you'd go about arranging to meet a second time (and everyone knows finding the time to meet at all can be difficult), so these days prefer the meet sex if we get on approach, there should always be that option to actually swing if there's sexual chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like having a social meet first to see if we click

Dose everyone else feel the same way? "

A social with an open mins is our preferred choice. Nothing off limits nothnig guaranteed just lets see how we get on first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes always, messages and chit chat are fine, but you never really know someone until you have met in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always do this now, I'd never agree to sex with someone I've never met. Some don't like it but tough, genuine people are normally more than happy to meet for a drink.

It has nothing to do with being genuine (the most overused word on this site!). We don't all play the same. Whilst I always have a social meet I don't think those that "meet now" are not genuine. "

I'm well aware people do things their way and if a "genuine" person doesn't want a social then that's not a problem. I have met people for sex without socials first, some were great meets, others the worst I've had. I wasn't implying people who "meet now" aren't genuine as I've used that feature before and been relatively successful. I don't generally now but my personal circumstances have changed and I prefer to meet socially as soon as, e-mail ping pong is not for me and a meet in person is much more personal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always do this now, I'd never agree to sex with someone I've never met. Some don't like it but tough, genuine people are normally more than happy to meet for a drink.

It has nothing to do with being genuine (the most overused word on this site!). We don't all play the same. Whilst I always have a social meet I don't think those that "meet now" are not genuine.

but you did say that genuine people are normally more than happy to meet for a drink, implying that if they won't/can't meet for a drink that they aren't genuine. Most of the guys I meet are also quite a distance away. I can't imagine anyone wanting to travel any sort of distance just for a coffee and a chat, when we can chat perfectly well over the phone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Always do this now, I'd never agree to sex with someone I've never met. Some don't like it but tough, genuine people are normally more than happy to meet for a drink.

It has nothing to do with being genuine (the most overused word on this site!). We don't all play the same. Whilst I always have a social meet I don't think those that "meet now" are not genuine.

"Normally" meaning some don't want to, that's fine as I've said but I only meet local guys so travel is not an issue. I wouldn't expect people to drive miles for a social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I like having a social meet first to see if we click

Dose everyone else feel the same way? "

Us too unless it's a club meet. Alarm bells tend to ring when people refuse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One on one always a social first

Parties or clubs I don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am obviously in the minority but never have social meets! I am on here for sex, and obviously need to have a physical and mental attraction, so trust my instincts and won't just run up stairs with someone as soon as they arrive!I always prefer to have a good chin wag and a laugh when they arrive and I always say before meets that we are both adults and should there be no attraction on either part, then we are both adults and we can say! I have only ever had one meet in years of swinging where he turned up and I said I was not attracted (good looking but no chemistry!)...so he left and was fine with it!

Each to their own in this world and I guess whatever makes you happy and comfortable is what you should be doing!

$- x

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