FabSwingers.com forum: Jumping to conclusions

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok here goes....

I'm a single dad and joined this site last summer after a friend had mentioned she'd used it before.

I don't have much opportunity to meet with my career and looking after my daughter and don't want to meet 'just anyone' - but getting a verification seems to be the be all and end all to getting anywhere and even the chance to chat.

I'm posting this because I'm upset that two people who I've been emailing have, from nowhere, just been quite nasty in their response saying I'm a time waster and married!! Far from it on both counts and there's been many an occasion I've suggested meeting yet suddenly something comes up.

What am I doing wrong?? What can I do differently as a single dad who works a lot??

I'd like to just meet for a coffee so people know I'm 'normal'!!!

Sorry for the lengthy post, feeling disillusioned!!

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple
over a year ago

bradford

The genuine people will always prevail, ignore them, as long as you know your being honest, your conscience is clear my dear

Balls to em xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

7 months and nothing will ring alarm bells in people, whether you have genuine reasons or not.

there are plenty of opportunities to get verified, even if just attending a social and getting someone to say they have met you and you seem a decent guy.

if you are too busy to set aside an evening to go to a social, due to your child or work, then im afraid, why on earth would someone think you would have enough spare time to actually go through with a meet?

look in the socials and club section, there is bound to be something reasonably local to yourself

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

wow what a smile I cant see much wrong with your profile good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for your comments, I'll try and step it up and hopefully someone will at least meet for a coffee!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately, some people jump to the wrong conclusions and judge people when they know nothing of their personal situation. If people are going to be abusive then they've shown their true colours and you've had a narrow escape! Not everyone can drop everything for a meet as we all have lives outside of here but many don't and can't see that. Ignore them, genuine people won't judge. Best of luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dashing, you're very, very cute with a nice profile. Put it's down to experience, it's their problem not yours a move on. You're bound to click with the right types.

Might want to resist the temptation to vent through your status tho (even though it's very mild), vent just here in chat. I say this because I nearly did it myself once and took a deep breath instead. It just won't attract people, except maybe Whingers lol.

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By *issmekate xxxWoman
over a year ago

Non Vanilla Land

Oh blimey !!! I echo everything that has been said above ... very nice profile and pics and definitely stand by your guns ... maybe mention that you are a single parent and work full time on your profile therefore opportunities are limited and it doesn't mean you are a time waster etc etc

I wish you good luck, sure you will get in your stride soon enough !!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no accommodation on a single profile will always ring alarms...prehaps a short explanation as why and maybe how you plan to accommodate a meet...ie will get hotel etc....perhaps focus on going for a coffee/drink with someone to get a verification may help....but you have a nice profile and pics and im sure perserverence will payy off in the end xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The genuine people will always prevail, ignore them, as long as you know your being honest, your conscience is clear my dear

Balls to em xx"

Lovely profile guys

Mrs Devil

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

best you spell out your situation on your profile as others have suggested and yes 7 months no verifications isnt a good start.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Great stuff, have amended my profile to make it clear as day (I think?!) what my situation is.

Although I've technically been on here 7mths, I really didn't do anything with it until the new year. Am going to make the effort though.

Really appreciate your comments everyone, thank you.

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