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By *atex two OP   Couple
over a year ago

near plymouth

we are a very much in love couple,my sexy fem adores dressing in thigh boots latex etc,we love playing but we really like totally safe sex ,hence oral with condoms and intercourse with condoms but can we as why so many couples against my wife sucking a guy off with a condom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

dont know why so many couples would be against it.

are single guys happy with it?

do you expect the female half of the other couple to do oral without?

that might be your problem.

otherwise, stick to what you prefer and forget those that arent interested in that

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By *iggerooooCouple
over a year ago

Conwy

My Dom wouldn't dream of having a blow job with a condom on.

Safe sex yes, oral just doesn't seem to mix with condoms.

So, if I was to lick your wife's erm, lady garden hehe

Would I have to wear a condom on my tongue or vice versa?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just leave out the oral

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oral without is quite common, perhaps the norm, so you may well be limiting the field by requiring condoms for oral.

Even though you are being ultra cautious I trust you still see the gum clinic regularly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always have safe sex but never use a condom with oral, it tastes yucky and I love swallowing all that lovely spunk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to know how the woman receives oral 'safely' - I'm not having a go (pardon the pun) - just want to know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oral without is quite common, perhaps the norm, so you may well be limiting the field by requiring condoms for oral.

Even though you are being ultra cautious I trust you still see the gum clinic regularly. "

Very valid point doesnt matter how 'safe' you play there are some STD's that condoms dont prevent from spreading, gential warts for example, and people can have that for 3 months before any signs of it (the actual warts) appear, so very important you get checked out regularly i personally go every 3 months with out fail

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd like to know how the woman receives oral 'safely' - I'm not having a go (pardon the pun) - just want to know. "

Carrier bag over the lady garden?????? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd like to know how the woman receives oral 'safely' - I'm not having a go (pardon the pun) - just want to know.

Carrier bag over the lady garden?????? lol"

At least it's not a carrier bag over the giver's head -that wouldn't be safe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I ask why she won't give oral without a condom? It is merely ... To prevent std's Or does she feel it's less intimate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd like to know how the woman receives oral 'safely' - I'm not having a go (pardon the pun) - just want to know. "

dental dam.

But as someone has already pointed out the only totally safe sex is no sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always have safe sex but never use a condom with oral, it tastes yucky and I love swallowing all that lovely spunk "
. You can actually get all sorts from swallowing cum, including aids so You are not having safe sex, well done to the OP it's completely up to you what risks you are willing to take x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

in response to OP.... If you want totally safe sex best stick with Having sex with each other only, so maybe swinging isn't for you. It depends if you're willing to take any risk at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I always have safe sex but never use a condom with oral, it tastes yucky and I love swallowing all that lovely spunk . You can actually get all sorts from swallowing cum, including aids so You are not having safe sex, well done to the OP it's completely up to you what risks you are willing to take x"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Realistically , as the op is asking whether they are suited to swinging , one has to say probably not in the sense of what the majority of swingers do .

However , there are so many facets to the lifestyle now . From fetish to voyeurism and many others which may not include any risks .

If the op wishes to engage in swinging activity in the way most of us do , and wants to use condoms and dental dams for oral , then meets will be few and far between . That's not a criticism , it's a fact .

That may be fine and if that's what the op is happy with , fair play . It is important that whatever we do in this life , we weigh up the risks and act accordingly .

It's not for anyone else to judge what someone else decides .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

there are a few things i dont like or cant do and some people are pushy and make you feel bad about it.

as for oral sex, when i first started going to the gum clinic a very young nurse told me i should only give a man oral sex if he used a condom.

when i went there again a few months later i met an older male nurse and he asked me if the men used condoms for oral sex and i told him that they didnt like to wear them for oral sex, he said some people dont like the taste of them.

he said you were supposed to use them for oral sex, but he said it was up to me, he didnt say i had to.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"we are a very much in love couple,my sexy fem adores dressing in thigh boots latex etc,we love playing but we really like totally safe sex ,hence oral with condoms and intercourse with condoms but can we as why so many couples against my wife sucking a guy off with a condom"

okay.... i'm going to play a little devils advocate....

if someone was wanting to give both of you oral.... but they insisted that the you (as the husband) had to wear a condom... and they had to use a dental dam on the woman (your wife)... would you both be okay with that?

at the end of the day, it is about risk management... and deciding what risk is acceptable to you....

there is no such thing as "totally safe sex".... have a look on the side of a condom (bsi standard says they are only 98% safe)

the only "totally safe sex" is abstainance... and no one is advocating that....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we are a very much in love couple,my sexy fem adores dressing in thigh boots latex etc,we love playing but we really like totally safe sex ,hence oral with condoms and intercourse with condoms but can we as why so many couples against my wife sucking a guy off with a condom

okay.... i'm going to play a little devils advocate....

if someone was wanting to give both of you oral.... but they insisted that the you (as the husband) had to wear a condom... and they had to use a dental dam on the woman (your wife)... would you both be okay with that?

at the end of the day, it is about risk management... and deciding what risk is acceptable to you....

there is no such thing as "totally safe sex".... have a look on the side of a condom (bsi standard says they are only 98% safe)

the only "totally safe sex" is abstainance... and no one is advocating that...."

Agreed, suck and swallow at own risk peeps. It is risky no matter how much you enjoy swallowing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Oral without is quite common, perhaps the norm, so you may well be limiting the field by requiring condoms for oral.

Even though you are being ultra cautious I trust you still see the gum clinic regularly.

Very valid point doesnt matter how 'safe' you play there are some STD's that condoms dont prevent from spreading, gential warts for example, and people can have that for 3 months before any signs of it (the actual warts) appear, so very important you get checked out regularly i personally go every 3 months with out fail"
too right so do I. I love being clean as a whistle xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP only do what you feel comfortable with, patience and perseverance should win the day...as long as its clear in your profile then how you play then im sure you will find likeminded folk.

As a side note though...I've sucked hundreds of cocks (slaaaag) and guzzled gallons of spunk and havnt caught an STD yet! As long as you don't have open sores or cuts in your mouth then the acid in your stomach kills off any other nasties...and that was advice given by my GUM Clinic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP only do what you feel comfortable with, patience and perseverance should win the day...as long as its clear in your profile then how you play then im sure you will find likeminded folk.

As a side note though...I've sucked hundreds of cocks (slaaaag) and guzzled gallons of spunk and havnt caught an STD yet! As long as you don't have open sores or cuts in your mouth then the acid in your stomach kills off any other nasties...and that was advice given by my GUM Clinic. "

Many people have herpes without symptoms so don't know they have it. You don't get tested for it, but can still pass it on. None of us can say we are 100% free from stds

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP only do what you feel comfortable with, patience and perseverance should win the day...as long as its clear in your profile then how you play then im sure you will find likeminded folk.

As a side note though...I've sucked hundreds of cocks (slaaaag) and guzzled gallons of spunk and havnt caught an STD yet! As long as you don't have open sores or cuts in your mouth then the acid in your stomach kills off any other nasties...and that was advice given by my GUM Clinic. "

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

if she wants to use condoms surely its her choice .. guys ought to respect this or go without

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP only do what you feel comfortable with, patience and perseverance should win the day...as long as its clear in your profile then how you play then im sure you will find likeminded folk.

As a side note though...I've sucked hundreds of cocks (slaaaag) and guzzled gallons of spunk and havnt caught an STD yet! As long as you don't have open sores or cuts in your mouth then the acid in your stomach kills off any other nasties...and that was advice given by my GUM Clinic.

Many people have herpes without symptoms so don't know they have it. You don't get tested for it, but can still pass it on. None of us can say we are 100% free from stds"

I have throat swabs done as a matter of course everytime I visit the GUM Clinic and have done for a number of years now, and that is for a full STD screening

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is a local couple who only have penetration and BJ with a condom and she uses a vaginal dam when receiving head.

"Cliche 3" but I wonder if they will soon require a full diving dry suit to prevent body to body contact?

Cliche 3 = their choice/personal preference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Latex free are fine for giving head, I get a numb mouth otherwise, always thought it was lube making me numb with protected sex. I like cock tho, Numa x

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"OP only do what you feel comfortable with, patience and perseverance should win the day...as long as its clear in your profile then how you play then im sure you will find likeminded folk.

As a side note though...I've sucked hundreds of cocks (slaaaag) and guzzled gallons of spunk and havnt caught an STD yet! As long as you don't have open sores or cuts in your mouth then the acid in your stomach kills off any other nasties...and that was advice given by my GUM Clinic.

Many people have herpes without symptoms so don't know they have it. You don't get tested for it, but can still pass it on. None of us can say we are 100% free from stds

I have throat swabs done as a matter of course everytime I visit the GUM Clinic and have done for a number of years now, and that is for a full STD screening "

excuse my ignorance here, but what do they test for with this?. I'm wondering why I've never been advised to have this by my gum clinic. They have all the details of my lifestyle and my sexual activity. Does that mean I'm not getting the proper service?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we are a very much in love couple,my sexy fem adores dressing in thigh boots latex etc,we love playing but we really like totally safe sex ,hence oral with condoms and intercourse with condoms but can we as why so many couples against my wife sucking a guy off with a condom"

I wouldn't put clingfilm over a woman's vadge whilst going down on her - can't imagine she'd get much from that...

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