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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I remember once watching an MF porn scene, where the male performer was an overweight, hairy middle aged guy who was however blessed with a rather magnificent looking cock, and the woman was absolutely beautiful in both face and figure, tanned and probably in her early-mid twenties. The scene opened with them fully dressed and conversing for a few minutes, and despite seeming slightly nervous she actually appeared very comfortable with him, laughing, leaning in whilst chatting, the pair of them clearly had good chemistry together, and this carried through to her blowing him affectionately when the time came for him to reveal his cock. The scene itself was very uninhibited with lots of oral and anal, the pair of them both looking like they were enjoying themselves well beyond an actor and actress just doing a scene to get paid, and despite not looking the types you'd immediately imagine having sex with one another.

And it got me wondering what it is that actually makes sex enjoyable, is it what you do, or who you do it with? I mean, it always seems to me that a womans clitoris, and vagina in general are incredibly sensitive, and a woman will typically react to even the gentlest of stimulus that I apply to the area - now, just the fact that I'm allowed by her to do such a thing, would suggest that she finds me somewhat attractive, but do these feelings of excitement she gets from me touching her, come from the fact that it just physically FEELS good, or that fact that I'M the one doing it?

If it was purely just from the feeling of being touched, then wouldn't pretty much anyone be fair game as a sex partner, supposing they were gentle enough to enjoy sex with without getting hurt, and if not, then it must be more of an mental sensation also, in that the person themselves needs to turn you on?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

No one except my gynaecologist gets to touch me "there" unless I really fancy them, a man I felt no attraction for would not give me pleasure I simply wouldn't feel it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Alright then, so what is it about a guy, that would get you excited at the prospect of him stimulating you sexually?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had 'cold sex' where the other person didn't do it for me personality wise and I'm sure he was talented but because there wasn't that spark it did nothing for me physically either.

For me to have inhibited mind blowing orgasms there has to be something. I'm not quite sure what that something is, I just know if I click with someone or not. Sex is a mental thing for me and I need my brain to be engaged by that person or my body doesn't respond.

But then I'm also slightly odd in that fact I don't ever get physically attracted to people. Don't get me wrong I can appreciate if someone is attractive but it doesn't draw me to them, its their personality that does.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Alright then, so what is it about a guy, that would get you excited at the prospect of him stimulating you sexually?"

a certain way of holding himself, a certain look in his eye, a certain humour and intelligence an indefinable "something". That chemistry you were talking about I suppose.

It most definitely is not about them telling me what they can do for me, how well endowed they are or what they have done for other women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds like Ron Jeremy apparently he is a nice guy but in real life it would be a no there are far too many sad people who think its all about the cock and its frankly laughable its the person if it was all about size then we wouldn't need guys we would all get massive dildos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like Ron Jeremy apparently he is a nice guy but in real life it would be a no there are far too many sad people who think its all about the cock and its frankly laughable its the person if it was all about size then we wouldn't need guys we would all get massive dildos. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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a certain way of holding himself, a certain look in his eye, a certain humour and intelligence an indefinable "something". That chemistry you were talking about I suppose.

It most definitely is not about them telling me what they can do for me, how well endowed they are or what they have done for other women."

The guys that get that are the ones getting laid. The ones who don't sit at home wanking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its who you do it with... Personally I don't think looks has anything to do with it. Its more a mental chemistry well for me anyway, if you get on well and they make you laugh etc a spark doesn't have to be there look wise, in my past I've been with one guy who I wouldn't normally think of having sex with by just looking at them and it was one of the best nights ive had

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sounds like Ron Jeremy apparently he is a nice guy but in real life it would be a no there are far too many sad people who think its all about the cock and its frankly laughable its the person if it was all about size then we wouldn't need guys we would all get massive dildos. "

Although those massive dildos can't hold you, kiss you or whisper sweetly in your ear - all parts I've discovered on many occasions, make a HUGE difference to both me and the woman achieving full sexual satisfaction.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its not quantifiable for me - I have a 'type', I think we all do, but sometimes the pieces don't make the 'whole'!

I like, tall, dark and slim - there is a guy at work who is all that and more - but his personality is soooooooo wrong for me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well although i would never meet anyone i dont find attractive, I must say i enjoy the meets that focus around a social the most enjoyable, you chat,laugh,flirt etc the most enjoyable as then as you say a chemistry as built a little at least and for me the mind is the biggest sexual organ so stimulate me in converstaion etc the more relaxed i become to enjoy the experience. ive done a few "quickies" in the past and got that little out of them i can barely remember them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like Ron Jeremy apparently he is a nice guy but in real life it would be a no there are far too many sad people who think its all about the cock and its frankly laughable its the person if it was all about size then we wouldn't need guys we would all get massive dildos. "

I like Ron Jeremy. There's just something about him.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sounds like Ron Jeremy apparently he is a nice guy but in real life it would be a no there are far too many sad people who think its all about the cock and its frankly laughable its the person if it was all about size then we wouldn't need guys we would all get massive dildos.

I like Ron Jeremy. There's just something about him. "

Not meaning his cock though. I actually do think he has an attractive quality about him.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Sounds like Ron Jeremy apparently he is a nice guy but in real life it would be a no there are far too many sad people who think its all about the cock and its frankly laughable its the person if it was all about size then we wouldn't need guys we would all get massive dildos.

I like Ron Jeremy. There's just something about him.

Not meaning his cock though. I actually do think he has an attractive quality about him."

He has a cynical sense of humour and is clearly intelligent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course I can admire a well-built man, pleasant features, etc. Do those factors alone arouse me? Nope. Not on their own. But if they are supplemented with words that pique my interest, spoken by a voice that does something to me, then yes.

Those supplements can also draw me in when the person does not possess the initial visual attraction. Neither example will by definition result in sex. But it's a very good start.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There is one man in my life who touches me in a way no other man has or does. He kisses like no other man has kissed me. Sexual chemistry happens,you have no control over it. My body almost melts when he touches me. He's calm and sensual and I response to that. We barely talk in between meeting or when we meet. He is pure pleasures of the flesh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is one man in my life who touches me in a way no other man has or does. He kisses like no other man has kissed me. Sexual chemistry happens,you have no control over it. My body almost melts when he touches me. He's calm and sensual and I response to that. We barely talk in between meeting or when we meet. He is pure pleasures of the flesh "

There will be quite a few here who'll be rather envious of that. And yes, sexual chemistry is wonderful when it happens. But to me, without the other ingredients I wrote, it'd peter out PDQ. Even chemistry needs sustenance.

I like your profile, by the way.

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Yes, some men do just have the touch - very rare.

I am one who simply could not entertain the likes of Ron Jeremy type, not for a second.

I can get very excited in a purely animal way about the kind of physique I do find attractive, but even with people who I am attracted to, if we don't really click when things get up close and personal, I find real kissing almost impossible.

The turbo-charge you get when you find there is a real chemistry between two people is what I crave, that takes everything to a whole other level!! Then it's the kissing and that 'touch that melts' that surpasses even the 'hot' sex for me, verges on making love.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There is one man in my life who touches me in a way no other man has or does. He kisses like no other man has kissed me. Sexual chemistry happens,you have no control over it. My body almost melts when he touches me. He's calm and sensual and I response to that. We barely talk in between meeting or when we meet. He is pure pleasures of the flesh

There will be quite a few here who'll be rather envious of that. And yes, sexual chemistry is wonderful when it happens. But to me, without the other ingredients I wrote, it'd peter out PDQ. Even chemistry needs sustenance.

I like your profile, by the way. "

I quite liked writing it I do have other men who flirt with my mind but he's my non guilty pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting. There are people I have got chatting to online and really clicked with them so much so that we have met. However if I had seen them I wouldn't have been physically attracted to them initially. Their personality drew me in and created the chemistry.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge


"Sounds like Ron Jeremy apparently he is a nice guy but in real life it would be a no there are far too many sad people who think its all about the cock and its frankly laughable its the person if it was all about size then we wouldn't need guys we would all get massive dildos. "

I saw a documentary years ago where he came across as an abusive asshole.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Sadly its hard to find people you can really feel that sensuous and intensely satisfying connection with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Has to be chemistry and a attraction too

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By *issmekate xxxWoman
over a year ago

Non Vanilla Land


"Interesting. There are people I have got chatting to online and really clicked with them so much so that we have met. However if I had seen them I wouldn't have been physically attracted to them initially. Their personality drew me in and created the chemistry. "

This has definitely been the case for me too !!!

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

To me immediate physical attraction is secondary. If someone can stimulate my mind i find that to be the most attractive quality. Ive had classically beautiful men ask to meet me but mentally leave me flat. These can be the ones that feel i should be grateful that they want to meet me! Good sex is a mind and body experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sadly its hard to find people you can really feel that sensuous and intensely satisfying connection with. "

if you only find one it's enough. I don't want to feel emotionally connected to a man as that can cause heartache. I like the sunburst feeling of warmth I get when the chemistry is perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it's about chemistry and sometimes it's about physical appearance and sometimes it's just a matter of pushing the right buttons (as if you're using a toy). And this doesn't even mean that it has to be with different people.

I have a regular partner (my husband) with who I have sex frequently and sometimes I feel a lot of connection, chemistry, passion, intimacy, tenderness, desire while other times our sexual encounters are about quenching a need for sexual release only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need some nice sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The turbo-charge you get when you find there is a real chemistry between two people is what I crave, that takes everything to a whole other level!! Then it's the kissing and that 'touch that melts' that surpasses even the 'hot' sex for me, verges on making love. "

And 'making love' is what we found we do.

The touch that melts and makes me respond in an almost primal way, is very much his. Nobody else's. Funny, that chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes you get your best experjence from the least expected person. Connection and chemistry are words that mean nothing until you experience them and that you tend to forget what its about until you meet that right person. There is no precise description fir it, a specific way on doing things or an ideal type that you can draw in your mind then try to find in the real world that would make it happen. It comes natural and unexpected.

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