FabSwingers.com forum: pregnant friend

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

My friend is more like a sister to me than my real sister has ever been i love her to bits

This is why its so hard for me to see her so down, shes 7 1/2 months pregnant, single and since day one shes had a horrible time of her time being pregnant

I had an idea to help make her feel better im gunna pay for her to have her hair and make up done take her for a nice meal, and this is where i need help

My plan was to buy her a new outfit and take her to a club but before i bring it up to her just wondering if anyone thinks it would be wierd or plain old wrong for a woman that far along to go to a swingers club?

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By *ugarcuntCouple
over a year ago

Belfast

We were talking to a couple a while back who went swinging when she was like 8months pregnant. Would she enjoy it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is she into swinging if not then definetly not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Best off asking the lady in question!

That far gone in my pregnancies all I wanted to do was eat and sleep

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Shes been swinging on and off for a year or two

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

why would you want to take her to a swingers club ?

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"why would you want to take her to a swingers club ?"

cool, just seen your most recent reply... ask her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before you take her give her some advice on safe sex 1st

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By *arumcoupleCouple
over a year ago

salisbury

Sounds a real friends treat, however why does it have to be swingers club. I'm sure it would make her feel good just to go to a club...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Think it might make her feel better, make her feel sexy even if she doesnt play

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Plus weve been to the club together before weve never played with eachother but she liked the club and i kept a close eye on her to make sure she was ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Plus weve been to the club together before weve never played with eachother but she liked the club and i kept a close eye on her to make sure she was ok"

At 7 .5. Month pregnant I am sure she would rather have you do some shopping , and help a bit round the house .

Perhaps tidy her garden up for a bit. Or decorate the nursery.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Ask her. Some hair treatments aren't suitable for pregnant women, nothing you buy her now will fit her in three months time, she might _iew her pregnant body very differently to how you do.Make sure she wants to go to a club too, she might want to sit in track suit bottoms with eher feet in a bowl of Epsom salts

Its a lovely idea though, she's lucky to have a friend like you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Im more than happy to sit in a tracksuit with her lol if thats what she wants

I dont care if she wears it once and bins it as long as she feels better the one time she does wear it, i know she look amazing and maybe a few guys, woman or couples telling her the same thing would help her see it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She's lucky to have a friend like you that cares but my advice like others would be to ask her 1st.

At that stage of pregnancy I was hormonal, tired, felt generally uncomfortable, fat & my bump weighed a tonne ~ wouldn't have wanted to go to anywhere where there were other attractive girls prancing around lol!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fair play mate ... The world is a better place with blokes like you in it .

If you think she will enjoy a swinging club , go for it .

She mm at get a confidence boost from going , and with you looking after her she will be fine and feel a whole lot better .

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Im more than happy to sit in a tracksuit with her lol if thats what she wants

Maybe it will but I still say ask her what she would like.

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By *leasurexxWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Ohhhhh your the only one who knows her well...I didn't feel sexy in anything at 71/2 months even tho I was still body confident! I just wanted to rest and protect the little person inside me

Although a days pampering sounds a great idea..hair done etc x

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By *ouplefunukCouple
over a year ago

North Bristol

Brownie points for wanting to do something nice like a pamper session, but I'd be REALLY surprised if your friend wants to parade round a swingers club right now!

I'm currently 7 months pregnant and the last thing I feel is sexy. I'm very happy with how I look, it's not that - I just can't think of anything worse than parading my hefty bulk, naked

around a load of strangers (who would also be judging me for being in a swingers club)

But everyones different.

*Her*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes it's great to see your thoughtful.

I'd say if she has not had a great pregnancy maybe not a swinger club, as you may see if you search pregnant on forums the haters n judgement crew are pretty harsh, so one negative comment in a club may hurt her more than normal.

That being said, she may get an ego boost she needs, but is she interested sexually at this moment?

Get her something sexi even if it's just for her and say if ya ever fancy a night out let ya know, compliment her and give her a big hug, lol then tidy the house n cut the grass lol.

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By *absFrenchGentMan
over a year ago

stafford

If she's a swinger then why not it sounds like a very nice idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wanted to do something similar for my gf when she was about 7months. I asked her and she asked me rather than getting her nails done/hair done shed like something for the baby, cone outright and ask her what she'd rather cause some folk could see better surprises bought by dropping wee hints or outright asking.

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

"Before you take her give her some advice on safe sex 1st "

I'm guessing at 7 months pregnant she's well aware of one of the issues of not using protection

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By *eepsouthCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

"My friend is more like a sister to me than my real sister has ever been i love her to bits

This is why its so hard for me to see her so down, shes 7 1/2 months pregnant, single and since day one shes had a horrible time of her time being pregnant

I had an idea to help make her feel better im gunna pay for her to have her hair and make up done take her for a nice meal, and this is where i need help

We been swinging for 10 years now seen a few strange things including a pregnant woman in her football top at a swingers club. We personal find it weird that people would want to go out swinging in that condition as nothing sexy will really fit any longer and this is your gold inside you.

surely you would rather have a nice foot massage and nails done last thing I would have wanted was to put my baby at risk. Each to their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would suggest she would much prefer that you book her in for a massage

Seriously she won't wanna go to a club

And don't forget the loud music can cause still birth so it's not a good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just do something that is just for her, hair done, some nice toiletries, something like that. Taking a very pregnant lady to a swinging club doesn't exactly spring out as a lovely relaxing treat to me. And you're also benefitting quite well out of it also.

Be completely selfless and ensure the treat is just for her.

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By *aughtyangieCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

"I would suggest she would much prefer that you book her in for a massage

Seriously she won't wanna go to a club

And don't forget the loud music can cause still birth so it's not a good idea "

Loud music and still birth ?????

You are joking right ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would suggest she would much prefer that you book her in for a massage

Seriously she won't wanna go to a club

And don't forget the loud music can cause still birth so it's not a good idea

Loud music and still birth ?????

You are joking right ? "

No I not joking

My sister was a night club manager and had to leave when pregnant due to this

The vibrations and Music

Not to mention in case Some one is d*unk and falls into you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think as u r guessing from forum posts unfortunately people judge. So while she may get some great comments, she msy unfortunately get some bad ones

And just to set your mind at rest I check BJM(British journal of Midwifery) and you willrbe please to know there was absolutely no research to say loud music csn cause stillbirth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I spent much of my pregnancy playing Tombraider on the old play station. I enjoyed being Lara Croft for several months. I had the tits but not the tummy

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By *aughtyangieCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

"I would suggest she would much prefer that you book her in for a massage

Seriously she won't wanna go to a club

And don't forget the loud music can cause still birth so it's not a good idea

Loud music and still birth ?????

You are joking right ?

No I not joking

My sister was a night club manager and had to leave when pregnant due to this

The vibrations and Music

Not to mention in case Some one is d*unk and falls into you "

You may not be joking but you are wrong iv djed and worked in rock club for 25 years and never heard or sean it and know a few fem djs the were fine djing up to 9mnt and one that went in to labour at club brock water all over the dj both

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By *aughtyangieCouple
over a year ago

Brighton

"I think as u r guessing from forum posts unfortunately people judge. So while she may get some great comments, she msy unfortunately get some bad ones

And just to set your mind at rest I check BJM(British journal of Midwifery) and you willrbe please to know there was absolutely no research to say loud music csn cause stillbirth

What they said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does create a metalhead though I would imagine! ; )

If I were at a club with a pregnant lady. I think i'd be fixated. lol.

So difficult to find! x

Good luck on them. ; )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Does create a metalhead though I would imagine! ; )

If I were at a club with a pregnant lady. I think i'd be fixated. lol.

So difficult to find! x

Good luck on them. ; )"

I don't think any pregnant woman in her right mind would have sex with someone who wants bareback sex with someone who advertises safe sex...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Optional. Preferential, but optional.

No one forces anyone to do anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Optional. Preferential, but optional.

No one forces anyone to do anything. "

A baby's health is so much more important than having bareback sex and catching an STD. It shouldn't be an option. No glove = no love

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't say an option for ME! xD

Its up to the other person, in all honesty.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Optional. Preferential, but optional.

No one forces anyone to do anything.

A baby's health is so much more important than having bareback sex and catching an STD. It shouldn't be an option. No glove = no love"

So fucking wrong and I will shut up now before I get banned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Optional. Preferential, but optional.

No one forces anyone to do anything.

A baby's health is so much more important than having bareback sex and catching an STD. It shouldn't be an option. No glove = no love

So fucking wrong and I will shut up now before I get banned "

Welcome to an opinion. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have to say like a lot of the others here . At 7 1/2 I would have loved the hair make up and dinner but by 9 at night I was so tied I could hardly stand up x so ask her x but it's very sweet of you x

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

It is very thoughtful and generous of you. But the swingers club invite takes the edge of it for me and makes it look like there's an ulterior motive, or it's not comletely selfless. And you probably don't mean that, fair play to you. But by keeping it totally non sexual and just going for treats to make her feel better, like some of the suggestions above, you will definitely help her and be appreciated as a true friend. Good luck.

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