FabSwingers.com forum: Do most people start out as Soft Swing?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hiya... We were just wondering if this is how most people start? And if so, how long did it take to progress to full swing? We appreciate this question is like "How long is a piece of string"? but would just love to hear your views

Happy and safe swinging..

Joo & Nee XXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Soft swing...noooooooooo my first ever meet was a FFM with an old boyfriend.

I soon realised I could have much more fun without him so got rid LOL

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By *adja_lazloCouple
over a year ago

Solihull

We began as soft swing, and still happy enough to do soft fun, as our main thing is plenty of fem2fem. (so if you like our profile drop us a line lol)

Our first taster of full fun was unexpected, it just happend and we went with the flow (Cheers Tim n Belinda lol) but thats down to the individual themselevs, we were always open minded and easy going, so it just happened, and in our experience belive this way is more enjoyable.

Have funguys

KnP

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We began as soft swing, and still happy enough to do soft fun, as our main thing is plenty of fem2fem. (so if you like our profile drop us a line lol)

Have funguys

KnP

Yum Yum we may take you up on your offer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We started just doing girly fun with own partner sex. Then it was soft swap before moving on to full, obviously with the right people and when it feels right. Now we're still happy to do soft or full as long as it's not just girly fun as we both like to have fun lol xxx

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By *acreadCouple
over a year ago

central scotland

We done full right from the start and that is our preference but will also do soft,the only thing we are not keen on is same room own partner or girl on girl then own partner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We di.. and we were happy with for a good long time.. In fact we started as a fem to fem only couple but that soon evolved into soft/sort of soft swapping.. then when we did full swap we wondered why we hadn't earlier lol..

Each to there own though..and we still enjoy a good night of soft debauchery now and then.. the fact you 'can't' is in itself quite horny..

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By *eviousLiasonsCouple
over a year ago

Travelling

When we started swinging it was just soft swinging we were looking for. The first couple we met were very very sexy and we lasted about 30 minutes until we felt that the time had come to move on to full swing lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whats swinging i thought this was alcoholics anonymous

hiccuup

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Swinging??? Disgusting! Lol.. Well we are a very very horny couple but want to try keep something back for ourselves... Thats the wonderful thing about this "Hobby" So many different people with so many different reasons for doing what they do... For us its just we are horny fuckers and just love sex!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No iv never been interested in soft swing unless the guy canty get a hard on lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

bsically started going to socials and moved on from there. sometimes its been soft.sometimes hard !!!

depends how lucky i was

enjoyable either way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we intended to start soft and progress from there but on the actual nite didnt wanna stop and carried rite on lol

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

Hi for our twopenneth worth - we started with full swap same room from our very first encounter. We decided if we were gonna do this then just go for it!

For a hile we couldn't see the point of softswing but a lovely couple we met introduced us to that and yes it is nice.

Having said that we now only look for full swap - also love parties and Ju loves lots of girly fun. We've also tried sep room and both of us have solo meets as well.

As a new thing to try (never done it before) Ju now intends to hook up with a bi-fem from a couple who have become very good friends - and they both wanna do a hotel meet with a couple of guys we all met at a party recently! Can't figure out which will be the most exhausted after but the two girls would make a formidable team lol

All these things have their own pleasures (even the ones we not tried yet lol) and we can't really knock any of them.

xxx

Ju & Rich

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WE did'nt start off soft swinging tho we have changed a lot in how we swing over the years, when we first started we was strictly only couples and same room, i suppose if im going to be honest i started swinging for the same reason most women do, to try other women, i soon found out this actually was'nt for me and far from what i was really looking for and now days we mainly meet as singles and i only meet single guys...or 2 lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We didn't start with soft swing ! Jumped in at the deep end ! LOL ! Now however it depends on how we feel on the night! We meet with a couple on quite a regular basis and sometimes we full swap with them but sometimes just soft! Depends on everyones mood at the time ! We find soft swap can be VERY erotic! xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A couple of years ago when we decided to give this swinging lark a go, a very experienced couple in Holland invited us over for a long weekend at centre parcs (3 nights). Pom had been talking to the woman for years online so we thought it would be a good intro into the scene.

Talk about naive!! 'She' insisted on full swap, separate rooms for the whole 3 nights! Apparently, that is 'how it's done'. It wasn't swinging but a full partner swap. I hated it.

Turns out she'd fallen for Pom and we had a full on 'bunny boiler' situation for months after and we turned our back on swinging completely for months.

We decided to give it another go and are a lot more savvy now but still haven't moved back to full swap yet. So it's still soft swing for us as the experience put Pom right off full sex with other women for now.

Mind you, he's more than happy to lick women til they pop!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When i was part of couple we both decided to advertise as soft swing only because most of the male half of the couples was not my cup of tea and the female half were gorgeous but then on the other hand if we found a good looking couple we told them that we full swap.

We lied a little about it but only cbecaus we didnt want hurt anyones feelings.

Crafty way me thinks haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When i was part of couple we both decided to advertise as soft swing only because most of the male half of the couples was not my cup of tea and the female half were gorgeous but then on the other hand if we found a good looking couple we told them that we full swap.

We lied a little about it but only cbecaus we didnt want hurt anyones feelings.

Crafty way me thinks haha "

hmmmmmmmmmmmm i bet theres a few that do it lol

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By *roovytwoCouple
over a year ago

burnley

We started off by talking about full swap or soft swing and decided that we would just "go with the flow" on the evening.As if happened we did full swap as part of a 4 sum.We have always adopted this attitude since but sometimes we just feel like soft swap and indicate this when we arrange a meet...some times we are happy to "go with the flow" and see what happens.

Must add that we have had just as much sexy erotic fun with soft swap as we have had with full swing.The main thing for us is that there is no pressure and every one is relaxed and has fun!

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By *raginghormonesCouple
over a year ago

whitehaven

Well I waved my boyfriend goodbye as I got carried off on the back of the lorry.... ok not quite, but at 18 (or was it 17? lol) full swap was def. it was for me!

Me and Mr RH have been together a few years now (actually met on a swinging site, not sure who was more surprised this happened. Lived opposite ends of the country and met in Essex for a quick bonk when Cupid struck!)But... (back to the point) in our case we were full swap from day one.

The same or separate room question can be more of a problem for us though. If it's a party and there are plenty of people to play with, then it's not an issue, but (as has happened) a couple turn up, we go to separate rooms and in under 5 minutes Mr Guest has cum and gone and is doing big "Z's" and I can hear Mr RH and Mrs Guest having a whale of a time in the next room I get pissed at being neglected! I, of course, get up and join them, hoping I can steal a bit of action back. Seems mean, I know, Mr RH is meant to be hers for the night, but if she brings a dud to the party does she have grounds for complaint? I think same room action in this sort of situation would have made Mr Guest make more of an effort.

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By *uvpuppy39Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

Well I'm a bit late to this topic but what exactly is soft swinging? (I have a feeling I'm a mega soft swinger)

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

luv puppy I feel I need to take you more in hand and show you the ropes lol

soft swing is non penerative play

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By *uvpuppy39Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

LOL, promises promises

hmmm sounds interesting but it must require immense self control

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

With couples they each have sex with their own partners but not with their playmates

For singles it would require some control, but I hav'nt heard of many singles that soft swing with other singles

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By *uvpuppy39Man
over a year ago

milton keynes

Maybe I could start a new trend

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By (user no longer on site)
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over a year ago

"Maybe I could start a new trend

You go for it!

lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe I could start a new trend

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I'll help!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Maybe I could start a new trend

I'll help!! "

me to! yum yum hehe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we started of soft swing and only took us a couple of months to go full swap

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By *teve_SoleilCouple
over a year ago

Malaysia

We started soft swing...in fact really soft...that I didn't even give a bj to the guy...:P...it took two months until we go into full swing...but wouldn't say that it was time...it was more like we found the right people...could've taken longer...:D

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By *eapodandcheeksCouple
over a year ago

North Yorks

After a few years in the scene we are still soft swing only....its just our thing and like to savour a little bit for our own pleasure, we love to play games and tease which leads to a very erotic evening. maybe one day we will go the extra...maybe not, at the moment though we are happy doing what we do. xx

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By *andJ2227Couple
over a year ago

Swadlincote

"After a few years in the scene we are still soft swing only....its just our thing and like to savour a little bit for our own pleasure, we love to play games and tease which leads to a very erotic evening. maybe one day we will go the extra...maybe not, at the moment though we are happy doing what we do. xx"

Its nice to see there are couples out there that accept soft swing, we are new to swinging and i just feel i want to try soft for a while and see how that goes b4 anything else. Most ppl we are coming across only want full swap tho. Its starting to put me off alittle x

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By *aughtywifeandhimCouple
over a year ago

bedford

we were not sure at first but we plucked up courage to meet this well established swinger,he put us right at ease ,and the wife gave him a bj as reward(lovely to watch) and we are looking forward too our 3sum next week

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By *imjohnCouple
over a year ago

Clacton on sea, Essex

We say soft swing on our profile because of the fact i have been in films, guys would say at parties you have done anal & dp & expect me to jump.

Most of the time we full swing but if they don't pressure me i am happy to fuck.

Saying this even when i soft swing i always like giving the guys oral to completion so it ain't that bad for them.

Kim xxx

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By *plpxp2Couple
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

We started with full swing and being green and naieve ended up being used for another couples agenda. Mind on saying that it didn't put us off lol.

Looking back I think soft can be useful as a starting point and we have suggested it to a couple of newbies that we have met. It's horses for courses and a personal decision.

We now enjoy either scenario and have had some great soft nights, ending in Mr P doing me with an audience or on the way home, or full swing and enjoying watching and being watched. Though Mr P still tends to do me on the way home lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, we started will mmf a few times and then the other week had our first mfmf 4sum,we didnt hold back at all in for a penny in for a pound....lol

jo & mike

xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We personally dont see the point of "Soft swing", pretty much might aswell hire a pron movie. We went for full swap first time and the women being bi and was great fun, and we shall keep it that way, so much more to do, to play with lol.. but, each to their own and you have to respect that too.

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By *uicyandSpicieCouple
over a year ago

Livingston

We have been site members for a while now and have attended a few socials and had a few meets,but as yet have not played yet.We have decided that when the time is right that we will begin with soft swap then on to full swap.Many of the couples we have met have never pressured us and if anything have encouraged us to take our time and play when we are ready.

Juicy and Spicie xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even though it says on our profile that we aren't interested in soft swing,we were once contacted by a soft swing only couple.

We told them politely that it wasn't our thing and wished them luck etc.

They then bombarded us with messages telling us why we should espouse soft swing etc etc.Unfortunately we had to border on rudeness in the end.

We would never dream of contacting a couple who didn't match our criteria and then give them grief.

Soft swing just isn't our thing,to us its a big tease.A bit like a visit to Cadbury's without trying the chocolate.

When we started swinging it was down to a club and in at the deep end,lifes too short for procrastination lol.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorr, am new and naive, but what is soft swinging?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would say it's most things leading up to but not including full penetrative sex .... probably lots of things in between and depends on a couples/persons preferences lol xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well we just jumped in at the deep end and went straight for it. And now dont see the point of soft swing. So we state on our profile exactly what we want and where we are coming from. So hopefully they get the point. Realise we are both filthy and if that interests them then voila we have a match made in heaven lol

my point is if it shocks, move on

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