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"....introduce vanilla people to swinging/ non monogamy? Out on the town there have been a few people I've clicked with and seen a few times. Folks tend to assume after a while that we're exclusive. Question: How do you explain to someone that knows nothing about the scene that you really like them as a person but see no reason to just sleep with them alone? I'm getting all this drama from people feeling betrayed and jealous when I raise the issue. Surely I dont need to give up on cruising the general public. " Always start as you mean to go on because you cannot change the terms after the fact so just tell them up front that you like to play with more than one partner then they have the choice of weather to stick around or not but at least they are not led on | |||
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" I'm getting all this drama from people feeling betrayed and jealous when I raise the issue. Surely I dont need to give up on cruising the general public. " Are you for real? FFS...... if you are really into the swinging scene, be honest from the first date. When I used to date in the vanilla scene I was always honest and I expected honesty in return. If you carry on swinging whilst starting a relationship with a vanilla, then it's CHEATING. There are no ifs, buts or wherefores......... it's cheating. And the cheating debate willrage on within swinging sites for the next millenia.... | |||
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"how do you.... introduce vanilla people to swinging/ non monogamy? Out on the town there have been a few people I've clicked with..... " Well kinda on topic - can any one advise on how to go about it as a couple, trying to pick up vanilla's at local pubs/nightclubs? We sometimes go to what you would probably call 'pick up joints' usually we try 70's/80's retro bars like reflex in our local town centre where there are a wide range of people basically out on the pull We've tried a couple times to pick up vanillas for 3 sums or 4 sums but so far had no luck whatsoever in actually managing this feat How would you go about that? We normally just end up scaring them off lol after the flirting stage when they find out what we have in mind... so we could do with some good advice ourselves we can't be the only swingers who've played this game xxxxx Ju & Rich xxx j&r | |||
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"how do you.... introduce vanilla people to swinging/ non monogamy? Out on the town there have been a few people I've clicked with..... Well kinda on topic - can any one advise on how to go about it as a couple, trying to pick up vanilla's at local pubs/nightclubs? We sometimes go to what you would probably call 'pick up joints' usually we try 70's/80's retro bars like reflex in our local town centre where there are a wide range of people basically out on the pull We've tried a couple times to pick up vanillas for 3 sums or 4 sums but so far had no luck whatsoever in actually managing this feat How would you go about that? We normally just end up scaring them off lol after the flirting stage when they find out what we have in mind... so we could do with some good advice ourselves we can't be the only swingers who've played this game xxxxx Ju & Rich xxx j&r " We would never go there with couples......vanilla couples can be full of talk and flirting and ive seen it with my own friends but the minute things get a bit serious they back off scared.....I have a friend who whenever she has a drink turns Bi and will be all over me like a rash so one night I told her that if she touched between my legs one more time id throw her to the floor and fuck her! she backed right off! because to her its just playful flirting and nothing more than that lol Why would you set yourself up for trouble in vanilla surroundings when theres so many other places you can have fun However a couple of times we have pulled guys for a 3 sum when in a normal night club when we first started swinging.....very happy about it they were too lol But couples is a whole different matter | |||
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" Why would you set yourself up for trouble in vanilla surroundings when theres so many other places you can have fun " The sexual fantasy and excitement of the idea? " However a couple of times we have pulled guys for a 3 sum when in a normal night club when we first started swinging.....very happy about it they were too lol But couples is a whole different matter" Yes the only time we suceeded was with a single guy, on our first attemp - but it was just too easy. The one time we tried to pull a single fem at a vanilla pickup joint didn't work either lol though Ju thinks it was the way Rich approached her that wasn;t the right way Surely there are others who have done this and succeeded we didn't think it was that strange a game to play lol xxxx Ju & Rich | |||
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" Why would you set yourself up for trouble in vanilla surroundings when theres so many other places you can have fun The sexual fantasy and excitement of the idea? However a couple of times we have pulled guys for a 3 sum when in a normal night club when we first started swinging.....very happy about it they were too lol But couples is a whole different matter Yes the only time we suceeded was with a single guy, on our first attemp - but it was just too easy. The one time we tried to pull a single fem at a vanilla pickup joint didn't work either lol though Ju thinks it was the way Rich approached her that wasn;t the right way Surely there are others who have done this and succeeded we didn't think it was that strange a game to play lol xxxx Ju & Rich" If im honest I think its a dangerous game to play but who knows? you may get lucky yet....good luck ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Hey don't worry honeypot it's not something we do really regular - it came from the fact that before we were swingers we used to go out sometimes on a Saturday night, go for a meal. then go to one of the local retro clubs (usually the one with the illuminated saturday night fever style dancefloor) for a good boogie and get rather d*unk lol. Since we started swinging we have been for similar nights out a few time when we are not shagging stranges (or friends). It's really a funny thinig going to what is basically a pick up joint when you are swingers - you kinda feel 'empowered' over the vanillas in a way that's hard to explain - and we'll normally get goind on the dancefloor nd kinda play up a bit with each other. Ju dresses so sexy on these nights, for our own pleasure, that we kinda draw a bit of attention. So from this we got on to the 'could we really pull a vanilla fem or couple?' scenario. So far - not a chance - but then it is not something we do that often. But like you say we could get lucky ![]() LOL I just don't want to read a thread on a monday morning called "how Rich got his black eye and broken nose!" I know what you mean about vanilla nights out though......there always seems to be something missing ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Hehe well we hope not - but last time we tried this some guy (who we already told our names and mentioned what we had in mind) told the DJ there were a couple of swingers in the bar, and what do you know..... he announced it!! That got quite a cheer (phew), hopefully though not too many knew it was us lol xxxx Ju & Rich" Its all a bit hip hop hazzard really!!! I never really knew what swinging was until Jan/Feb - when met a single guy off a vanilla site. He just mentioned in passing that "his friend" was - so i asked for more details being the inuisitive type. Have also (unknown to him at that time played before just not under the "banner" of swimnging!!!) It ended up that he introduced me here and left me- i am now playing and he has gone off with a vanilla relationship! SO one never can tell. So long as all are having fun, not breaking up relatioships- which vanillas do more of TBH All play fair and play well We are all here to live life and enjoy it to the full xxxx | |||
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