FabSwingers.com forum: girls who read message,then nothing.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

why do loads of girls who read your message,then just ignore it? if they are not interested then just delete it,at least that way you would know what they think.its annoying when your message has been read then you hear nothing back.as the message hasn't been deleted it gives you a bit of hope,but as time drags on it becomes obvious nothing will happen.you would think they'd want their inbox to be cleared of men they aint interested in.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A tip..........stop looking at your sent mailbox. It'll torture you.

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Try not looking at your sent mail or just deleting it, then any reply is a bonus

But in answer to your question I usually just do bulk deletes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Every single day

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would delete you as you have no pics, you are not verified and your age range is a joke...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because sometimes i just don't bother deleting messages.... i just read and go to the next one....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would delete you as you have no pics, you are not verified and your age range is a joke..."
I do have pics,i just send them privately with each message,im not verified as I cant get a meet and what do you mean about age range?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would delete you as you have no pics, you are not verified and your age range is a joke...I do have pics,i just send them privately with each message,im not verified as I cant get a meet and what do you mean about age range?"

you would shag a 99 year old?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

hardly. anyway,loads of people have that age selection,its just covering a wide age range.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

maybe they arent sure about you.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

how can anyone be sure about anyone else on here.sometimes you just have to take a chance.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't really qualify to answer this since I'm a woman not a girl but I will anyway

Its tough for single men, whatever they say or do will be wrong in somebodies eyes, if you want to get verified go to a club or find a social near you.

Good luck.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you would shag a 99 year old? "

Bit harsh, I've seen men and women with the same age range, just means everything in between, silly criticism in my opinion, agreed a avatar pic would at least be a start OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I wouldn't feel comfortable with my pic being seen by anybody.i prefer to keep it discrete.it wouldn't matter to girls you message miles away,but you just don't know who might see it closer to home.

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By *eKoopleCouple
over a year ago

Germany / Manchester

"I don't really qualify to answer this since I'm a woman not a girl but I will anyway

Its tough for single men, whatever they say or do will be wrong in somebodies eyes, if you want to get verified go to a club or find a social near you.

Good luck."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

step away from the sent box.

To all you naughty ladies teasing the OP if you change your mind, be the first in line, honey you're still free so take a chance on the OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No reply = No thank you.

Why is that so hard for some to learn?

OP you can't get a meet as your profile is not good. Many on receipt of a message look at the profile before reading the message, if the profile does not attract the message is not even read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete your sent messages then you won't obsess over what might be and if you get a reply it's a bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I wouldn't feel comfortable with my pic being seen by anybody.i prefer to keep it discrete.it wouldn't matter to girls you message miles away,but you just don't know who might see it closer to home."

It doesn't have to be a face pic but have something in the shop window to entice the shopper. Do you message people without a pic?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My wife always leaves the messages on so when I read them I can have a laugh to.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know that no reply means no thanks,its just that you'd think the message would be deleted if they a not interested.

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

This is coming up a lot lately, just concentrate on your inbox... That's the only important bit.

There's lots of reasons I don't delete a message, I might read it and the phone rings or the doorbell goes so I get side tracked, maybe my son needs my attention and he's more important, maybe I don't make a decision straight away as I have a few mails so want to have another look through at some point before I decided wether to reply or not. Sometimes I just leave them till the end of the day or even week then have a good sort through and delete/reply then.

But one things for sure, if I'm interested I'll reply eventually and if not I won't so there's no point getting in a flap over it!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I always put 2 or 3 photos on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I know that no reply means no thanks,its just that you'd think the message would be deleted if they a not interested."

You do what you want with your account on fab I assume

....let others do what they want. One thing is for sure , if they ARE interested they WILL contact you. Until such time being negative is very unattractive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always put 2 or 3 photos on."

Do what the rest of us do, just keep doing what your doing and you'll get a response, perseverance mate! Don't get hung up on it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

will probably be giving up.at it for near a year and nothing doing.was on for 2 or 3 years before that and there was nothing doing then so theres little point in going on.

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By *errygTV/TS
over a year ago

denton

people i have met on here say sometimes they can 100 plus messages, i find 90% of messages are the hi x brigade or not read profile, sometimes i just move to to next message and delete weeks after, i assume, NO REPLY IS YOUR ANSWER

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

write a message and then let it fly.......

if it comes back: happy days.

if it doesn't: it wasnt meant to be.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"how can anyone be sure about anyone else on here.sometimes you just have to take a chance."

Many women won't 'take a chance' for blindingly obvious reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"how can anyone be sure about anyone else on here.sometimes you just have to take a chance."

I have taken lots of chances thats why i dont rush into things anymore.

Lots of people arent as nice as you think they are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"will probably be giving up.at it for near a year and nothing doing.was on for 2 or 3 years before that and there was nothing doing then so theres little point in going on."

This site does work for many, 3 - 4 years of it not working for you means that there is a common element that is not right... can you tell what it is yet?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

theres too many woman who are being fussy.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"theres too many woman who are being fussy."

and that's a bad thing ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"theres too many woman who are being fussy."

i hope this comment is a joke... Anyone can be as fussy as they please...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"theres too many woman who are being fussy."

Well that comment alone kinda proves why you cant get a meet!

Disrespect really isn't an attractive feature!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What's that word, err......B b Bell End, that's it!

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over a year ago

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

"theres too many woman who are being fussy."

Oh dear..... That just says it all

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"theres too many woman who are being fussy."

would you rather they shag you and whilst bouncing on your throbbing knob, utter the words " I dont fancy you at all but I am doing this as a charitable act and claiming gift aid on my petrol money'.....

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By *issHottieBottieWoman
over a year ago

Kent

"theres too many woman who are being fussy."

Oops... I forgot that as woman on a swingers site we were supposed to fuck anything with a cock and a pulse!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That's almost the same as the single men's ethos.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"theres too many woman who are being fussy."

What? What would you expect them to be? They're not here for your benefit. Like you they are here for their own reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"will probably be giving up.at it for near a year and nothing doing.was on for 2 or 3 years before that and there was nothing doing then so theres little point in going on."

Maybe you should make more of an effort - do you think you stand out from the 100's of other single men on here?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"theres too many woman who are being fussy."

Wow, simply wow!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"theres too many woman who are being fussy."

What's your definition of a fussy woman?

Is it any woman that doesn't reply or want to meet you? Or do you have another definition.

I'm on a swinging site but it doesn't mean I'll meet and shag every guy that messages me. If that makes me fussy then I'm proud of it.

OP it's a numbers game there are approximately 100 men to every woman on here, us girls are lucky and can be very selective in who we meet, because for every message/person we reject we know another 10 will be along in a matter if mins.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"theres too many woman who are being fussy."

And today's boob award goes to...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"why do loads of girls who read your message,then just ignore it? if they are not interested then just delete it,at least that way you would know what they think.its annoying when your message has been read then you hear nothing back.as the message hasn't been deleted it gives you a bit of hope,but as time drags on it becomes obvious nothing will happen.you would think they'd want their inbox to be cleared of men they aint interested in."

Ive got a post about the fucking sent messages folder in site feedback. All I'm getting is people telling me I'm wrong for wanting the site shot of it, but how can that be when whining posts like this are happening several times a day?

OP you'll be a lot happier if you send a message and then forget about it. You might get a reply, you might not. Stop looking to see whats happened to it.

Sheesh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"theres too many woman who are being fussy."

and thank god they are! Comments like this is why you aren't getting meets. As good old Cyndi Lauper put it .....

true colours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"theres too many woman who are being fussy.

and thank god they are! Comments like this is why you aren't getting meets. As good old Cyndi Lauper put it .....

true colours

one of the good examples of the calibre of guys available up here! Pity me now

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By *hyllyphyllyMan
over a year ago

Bradford

What's made you think they've read the message? They might have just opened it, just to get rid of the yellow in their inbox

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple
over a year ago

bradford

"theres too many woman who are being fussy."

Harsh!!!

Women need to be safe and feel ok with it (gut feeling) keeps us alive

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By *organ and rob zombieCouple
over a year ago

bradford

"What's that word, err......B b Bell End, that's it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"theres too many woman who are being fussy."

So, just because there are women on here they are supposed to meet every guy who mails them?

Do you think women on here shouldn't have standards?

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"A tip..........stop looking at your sent mailbox. It'll torture you.

I wish they would actually take that feature away... least it would give people one less thing to moan about...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A tip..........stop looking at your sent mailbox. It'll torture you.

I wish they would actually take that feature away... least it would give people one less thing to moan about..."

please post this on my thread in site feedback so I don't look like a lone nutter!

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

This site does work for many, 3 - 4 years of it not working for you means that there is a common element that is not right... can you tell what it is yet?"

to which OP replied....

"theres too many woman who are being fussy."

a) wrong answer.... think a little closer to home..

b) that probably says a lot about your mindset...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"theres too many woman who are being fussy.

and thank god they are! Comments like this is why you aren't getting meets. As good old Cyndi Lauper put it .....

true colours

one of the good examples of the calibre of guys available up here! Pity me now

Commiserations! Get ya sell down to the good old North West.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How other people manage their inbox is upto them, but from a female point of _iew, you have no pics, again age range just looks desperate, you have been a member 8 months and have managed to write just 3 and half lines on your profile!!! I would expect a huge response, and to be honest, the whole "no one will ever find out" but just sounds creepy!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"How other people manage their inbox is upto them, but from a female point of _iew, you have no pics, again age range just looks desperate, you have been a member 8 months and have managed to write just 3 and half lines on your profile!!! I would expect a huge response, and to be honest, the whole "no one will ever find out" but just sounds creepy!!!!!!"
I meant wouldn't expect a huge response!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not everyone is for everyone. The sheer amount of messages fems and couples get, it's impossible to reply to all of them. Just take it as a friendly no or stop copy and pasting.

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By *otTheReal01Man
over a year ago

London

"...and to be honest, the whole "no one will ever find out" but just sounds creepy!!!!!!"

My thoughts exactly. May as well have added "until your body parts are found in some bin bags in a shallow grave in the woods". Yikes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always delete anyone who has 18 - 99 age range as it usually means that they would fuck anything!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some times I read but don't delete because I've got quite a few messages to read then I mass delete but I do try to delete as soon as possible because I don't want them sitting there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"theres too many woman who are being fussy."

How can he possibly think it's women being fussy, aren't we all being fussy? Nobody finds everybody attractive and claiming you do just stinks of desperation.

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By *ilthygorgeous1Couple
over a year ago

Oxford

Dude! You are on an Adult dating site!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"theres too many woman who are being fussy."

Well that worked well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because its a real boost to their ego's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because its a real boost to their ego's "

Do you seriously think that

. Look a lot of guys send out hundreds of messages - I wonder how many recipients are well matched to them !

Then if they do tick all the right boxes on sexuality , smoking etc. then you look at the persons profile to see if you have any attraction. I'd say for us that would be around 2% of the people messaging us. 95% haven't even been arsed to read what we're looking for, so why should we be arsed to reply?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because its a real boost to their ego's

Do you seriously think that

. Look a lot of guys send out hundreds of messages - I wonder how many recipients are well matched to them !

Yes I seriously think that . I know ladies on this site that love all the attention

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because its a real boost to their ego's

Do you seriously think that

. Look a lot of guys send out hundreds of messages - I wonder how many recipients are well matched to them !

Yes I seriously think that . I know ladies on this site that love all the attention "

So that's why people dont reply, because they love the attention? Surely if they loved the attention they'd reply so they'd get more?

No, they don't reply to stupid messages from people who they have no interest in. It's that simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because its a real boost to their ego's

Do you seriously think that

. Look a lot of guys send out hundreds of messages - I wonder how many recipients are well matched to them !

Yes I seriously think that . I know ladies on this site that love all the attention

So that's why people dont reply, because they love the attention? Surely if they loved the attention they'd reply so they'd get more?

No, they don't reply to stupid messages from people who they have no interest in. It's that simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go to a club to get verified

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A tip..........stop looking at your sent mailbox. It'll torture you.

I wish they would actually take that feature away... least it would give people one less thing to moan about..."

This is a very good point.

Why the hell is this a feature?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because its a real boost to their ego's

Do you seriously think that

. Look a lot of guys send out hundreds of messages - I wonder how many recipients are well matched to them !

Yes I seriously think that . I know ladies on this site that love all the attention "

So you think we're all attention seeking? Could say the same about men!

"my cocks amazing" "you'd have the best time with me"

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By *obbyCock36Man
over a year ago

Bournemouth

welcome to Fab! as one of countless men you'll find that this is a typical non-response. don't let it get you down, just live with it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Supply and demand isn't it, probably a 10/1 ratio of men to women

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Because its a real boost to their ego's

Do you seriously think that

. Look a lot of guys send out hundreds of messages - I wonder how many recipients are well matched to them !

Yes I seriously think that . I know ladies on this site that love all the attention "

Doesn't mean we all do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you think we're all attention seeking? Could say the same about men!

"my cocks amazing" "you'd have the best time with me""

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you think we're all attention seeking? Could say the same about men!

"my cocks amazing" "you'd have the best time with me"

Shush you gorgeous thing

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By *x rugbyladMan
over a year ago

bridgewater and havant

"Supply and demand isn't it, probably a 10/1 ratio of men to women"
try more like 80/1 lol hard work but I hear it pays off

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By *odareyouMan
over a year ago

not far from iceland,,,,,, tescos is nearer though :-) (near leeds)

"will probably be giving up.at it for near a year and nothing doing.was on for 2 or 3 years before that and there was nothing doing then so theres little point in going on."

"Don t go,,!!"

See its posts like these that remind me of songs,, haven t heard that one by yazoo in ages,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A tip..........stop looking at your sent mailbox. It'll torture you.

I wish they would actually take that feature away... least it would give people one less thing to moan about...

This is a very good point.

Why the hell is this a feature?

I've a thread running in Site Feedback asking for it's removal, add your comments there and perhaps they'll agree.

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