FabSwingers.com mobile

Join us FREE, we're FREE to use

Web's largest swingers site since 2006.

Already registered?
Login here

Back to forum list
Back to Swingers Chat

cold light of day......rejection.

Jump to newest
 

By *isser36 OP   Man
over a year ago

fylde Coast

So following on from my last post..have you ever been the one sent on your way? I imagen it happens to plenty of guys, but have you women ever been rejected? Its a tuff one to admit to i know.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So following on from my last post..have you ever been the one sent on your way? I imagen it happens to plenty of guys, but have you women ever been rejected? Its a tuff one to admit to i know. "

of course! but i know that just as everyone isn't my cup of tea... I'm not everyone's. i don't take it personally or read anything into it. i just continue in my search and find someone with whom there is mutual compatibility.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only rejection that matters is when you're emotionally involved with someone and it goes tits up.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *isser36 OP   Man
over a year ago

fylde Coast


"The only rejection that matters is when you're emotionally involved with someone and it goes tits up."

True.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I have met two guys from here separately and got rejected and blocked oh well we all learn

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah I've been told no thanks, just as some men aren't my type, I'm not theirs either and its cool. Main difference is i move on, but alot of men continuously pester for reasons why and try to change my mind.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No never, but to be fair...we haven't had lots of meets!..so their's still time yet!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No but I am sure it's possible these things happen such is life.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We can't be everyone's cup of tea so to speak

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, on a meet. That and a few other incidents totally floored my confidence and I left Fab for a few months.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Not with anyone I've met but have sent mail that's not been replied to, didn't upset me though

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"We can't be everyone's cup of tea so to speak"

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Yes, on a meet. That and a few other incidents totally floored my confidence and I left Fab for a few months. "

Yes I know what you mean legs it does knock your confidence

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

I was years ago when I first started out, I agreed to meet a young guy who had chatted to me for weeks and I finally agreed to meet, unfortunately I think the reality of the situation got to much for him as on the drive to my home he asked me to pull over as he couldn't go through with it he said, I said fine and let him out the car miles from where he lived, hope he got home ok

One of the reasons I won't meet young men

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I upped my lower age range after my meet too. We've spoken since and all ok but it was bad timing and other issues outside Fab didnt help my confidence or my mojo either. Not met anyone since coming back but the break was nice and Im quite happy chatting and lurking the Forums with the occasional post.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I upped my lower age range after my meet too. We've spoken since and all ok but it was bad timing and other issues outside Fab didnt help my confidence or my mojo either. Not met anyone since coming back but the break was nice and Im quite happy chatting and lurking the Forums with the occasional post. "

It's nice to see you back

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How could anyone reject me???

seriously though, there isn't one person that has never suffered some sort of rejection. It's part of life. How we deal with that rejection is the important thing. On here I've approached guys and been rejected. it's not the end of the world.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"How could anyone reject me???

seriously though, there isn't one person that has never suffered some sort of rejection. It's part of life. How we deal with that rejection is the important thing. On here I've approached guys and been rejected. it's not the end of the world. "

+1

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I upped my lower age range after my meet too. We've spoken since and all ok but it was bad timing and other issues outside Fab didnt help my confidence or my mojo either. Not met anyone since coming back but the break was nice and Im quite happy chatting and lurking the Forums with the occasional post.

It's nice to see you back "

Aw Thank you huni

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I upped my lower age range after my meet too. We've spoken since and all ok but it was bad timing and other issues outside Fab didnt help my confidence or my mojo either. Not met anyone since coming back but the break was nice and Im quite happy chatting and lurking the Forums with the occasional post.

It's nice to see you back

Aw Thank you huni "

Your welcome huni x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *exyhornycplCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

Rejection is always a blow in whichever form it takes, for me was a time we had been chatting online with couple for ages and they wanted to cam, I said sure but I like to make a bit of an effort nice sexy clothes do my hair bit of lippy etc, explained I was full of cold in my pjs they said its fine just to prove you are genuine couple, you know what comes next....put cam on 10 secs later they said ARGHHHHHHHHH NO THANKS at the time was gutted but cold light of day....their loss shallow buggers hahaNEXT.................

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yep...no big deal...moved on...it's casual sex with strangers...not really important in the grand scheme of things...if you're not robust enough to be turned down then I'd say you're not emotionally in the right place to be here...

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is wise to think I'm behind a computer screen

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the time, by employers....

By men, never in person, but have been rejected when I've mailed people. Various reasons.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I've had a fair few messages deleted without reply. And I manage not to post on the forums bitching about it too!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its never happened to me in person but in messages. Its part of human nature to not be suited to everyone.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *ee VianteWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in North Norfolk

Yes, of course. I've been told no thanks on here and had messages deleted with no reply. I've also had social meets and dates, from here and other places, that have resulted in my being told I'm not their type.

It wasn't to be. It's no big deal. Some people seem to think a rejection is a personal slight. I don't understand that because it seems common sense to me that not everyone will find someone else attractive. There's nothing necessarily "wrong" with the people I decline, they just aren't for me. It therefore follows that when I am rejected it isn't a personal thing.

I'm a fat, opinionated, stubborn, "mature" (ahem!) lady so I'd be amazed if I didn't get turned down sometimes!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Recently been told, via a lovely message, that a guy I saw a year ago didn't fancy me when he saw me again recently.

Oh dear! and I've changed sooooo much! lol

still friends though, honesty is definitely the best policy x

PS xx

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a bloke on here you have to be able to handle rejection.

Whenever a member is nice enough to reply with a "no thanks" I always thank them for the reply and wish them well

Any bloke who replies to rejection with abuse is not emotionally mature enough to be on a swinging site

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In person , no .

But like most , we have had messages deleted , and had straightforward no thanks on occasion .

We do just the same , so it's really not an issue , mov on to the next one llol!

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 

By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

As I have my filters on, I prefer to message men and I must admit I often get messages ignored or told no thanks. Pretty used to it, doesn't bother me at all as I am aware I'm not everyone's cup of tea. I just move on to the next profile x

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
 
 

By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley

I've had a few testing the waters meets that have come to nothing. In most if not all cases, while as a bloke I would probably not have fought them off, I think I'd not deny the mutual attraction was pretty much absent.

I did once travel quite a distance to meet a couple, only to find that I wasn't wanted after all.

A few weeks later they got in touch again and said they'd had second thoughts and it was the start of a very fun friendship.

Reply privatelyReply in forumReply +quote
Post new Message to Thread
back to top