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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi guys, i was just wondering if "full" time swingers discuss before hand how many people you are going to play with or do you just go with the flow when you get there and see where it ends up.

Do some partners draw the line

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

Not sure how you qualify to be a full time or proper swinger....

But to answer your question we never have any expectations and just go with the flow and what we feel comfortable with.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford


"Not sure how you qualify to be a full time or proper swinger....

"

Is there a course?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

lol, i ment regular party people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"lol, i ment regular party people "

Why not try a party for yourself , then you will see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not sure how you qualify to be a full time or proper swinger....

Is there a course? "

with an oral exam after

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Of course we don't limit ourselves to a number decided before (trying to imagine one or the other of us saying "stop, you've reached your agreed limit!") The only way to play is to go with the flow.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

how can you plan how many people you are going to shag? what if you decide on 6 and when you get wherever 6 people don't want to shag you? surely the only thing you can do is go with the flow and see what happens when your there?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"how can you plan how many people you are going to shag? what if you decide on 6 and when you get wherever 6 people don't want to shag you? surely the only thing you can do is go with the flow and see what happens when your there?"

maybe your partner might say , thats it, or he might shout more more more

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how can you plan how many people you are going to shag? what if you decide on 6 and when you get wherever 6 people don't want to shag you? surely the only thing you can do is go with the flow and see what happens when your there?

maybe your partner might say , thats it, or he might shout more more more"

That's not really how the parties we've been to work and if your parner is shouting that's enough it might suggest he/she is uncomfortable with the situation and shouldn't be there full stop

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I wasnt knocking anyone btw

just trying to understand how you guys have fun and do you plan anything or is it spontanious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how can you plan how many people you are going to shag? what if you decide on 6 and when you get wherever 6 people don't want to shag you? surely the only thing you can do is go with the flow and see what happens when your there?

maybe your partner might say , thats it, or he might shout more more more

That's not really how the parties we've been to work and if your parner is shouting that's enough it might suggest he/she is uncomfortable with the situation and shouldn't be there full stop "

I have been to clubs and heard couples argue over how many each other have played with, I over heard a guy say to his Mrs once but you've shagged 6 men now I've only had 1 woman i'm just glad im single and I can do what I like when I hear such couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wasnt knocking anyone btw

just trying to understand how you guys have fun and do you plan anything or is it spontanious"

everyone's different, I have met all kinds of couples in the time I have been doing this, some have been a nightmare and made me feel very uneasy, snapping out rules at me, and have obviously not been comfy with each other playing, but others I have met have been very relaxed

everyone does things their own way there will not be a definitive answer to your question

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how can you plan how many people you are going to shag? what if you decide on 6 and when you get wherever 6 people don't want to shag you? surely the only thing you can do is go with the flow and see what happens when your there?

maybe your partner might say , thats it, or he might shout more more more

That's not really how the parties we've been to work and if your parner is shouting that's enough it might suggest he/she is uncomfortable with the situation and shouldn't be there full stop

I have been to clubs and heard couples argue over how many each other have played with, I over heard a guy say to his Mrs once but you've shagged 6 men now I've only had 1 woman i'm just glad im single and I can do what I like when I hear such couples "

Thankfully that kind of thing us rare. Have seen a couple of rows but seems to usually be where one partner has gone off and just abandoned the other.

As for planning what you do; surely you know each other's tastes and limits and then just see what develops.

Suck it and see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"how can you plan how many people you are going to shag? what if you decide on 6 and when you get wherever 6 people don't want to shag you? surely the only thing you can do is go with the flow and see what happens when your there?

maybe your partner might say , thats it, or he might shout more more more

That's not really how the parties we've been to work and if your parner is shouting that's enough it might suggest he/she is uncomfortable with the situation and shouldn't be there full stop

I have been to clubs and heard couples argue over how many each other have played with, I over heard a guy say to his Mrs once but you've shagged 6 men now I've only had 1 woman i'm just glad im single and I can do what I like when I hear such couples "

I stand by what I said people like that shouldn't be swinging

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

There are lots of times I go to a club really horny bit no-one takes my fancy so I go home without playing.

Other times I've popped in for a bit of a socialise and end up dragging someone off before I've even said hello to my friends!

It all depends on who is there.

Though I have seen couples who have obviously never discussed this cos he's trying to get her to put her knicks back on while she's busy with three men.

It all depends on the dynamic with a couple, in some couples one is a voyeur in others they only play with couples in others they split up and hunt separately. And some couples probably have an even-stevens rule. In fact I have met guys who seem to be frantic to get some play because their OH has played and they haven't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are lots of times I go to a club really horny bit no-one takes my fancy so I go home without playing.

"

I've done that many times, if I can't find someone I like to play with I will go without, I wont just fuck for the sake of it because i'm at a club

Don't you find though people look at you shocked when they ask if you have had a good night and you say yes but I haven't played

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We are spontaneous. We have our rules and we both always have to be 100% happy but beyond that we don't set limitations or restrictions and certainly not on numbers.

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By *lim_jim1964Man
over a year ago

peterborough


"Not sure how you qualify to be a full time or proper swinger....

Is there a course?

with an oral exam after "

Do you get the cane if you fail?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are lots of times I go to a club really horny bit no-one takes my fancy so I go home without playing.

I've done that many times, if I can't find someone I like to play with I will go without, I wont just fuck for the sake of it because i'm at a club

Don't you find though people look at you shocked when they ask if you have had a good night and you say yes but I haven't played "

same here. Some people dont understand that the whole atmosphere / socal side etc can be just as fun sometimes. especially for someone like me who enjoys a naked jacuzzi and a perve at guys in the showers

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