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"So I hear alot on here how writing fun detailed message with jokes, wit etc are the ones that women are more likely to reply to. Personally Im not sure how true this really is. Since I started I've been writing detailed and specially tailored messages to every woman I contacted without much luck. Now in the last few days Ive decided to just go simple and say the basic "Hi how are you? My name is ..... what is yours?" Now from this Ive had the same if not more success. So Ive come to the conclusion that unless you write the perfect message women have most likely made up their mind about you from your profile and no special message is ever going to change her opinion. What say you people of fab?" I think you are right most of the time. Most of the time I will check out the profile and either like or not like, respond positively or negatively. But, occasionally a good message will make me consider someone I would not have otherwise considered, or just be the deciding factor. Though maybe it makes less difference if you have a good profile anyway? | |||
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"So I hear alot on here how writing fun detailed message with jokes, wit etc are the ones that women are more likely to reply to. Personally Im not sure how true this really is. Since I started I've been writing detailed and specially tailored messages to every woman I contacted without much luck. Now in the last few days Ive decided to just go simple and say the basic "Hi how are you? My name is ..... what is yours?" Now from this Ive had the same if not more success. So Ive come to the conclusion that unless you write the perfect message women have most likely made up their mind about you from your profile and no special message is ever going to change her opinion. What say you people of fab?" I have had same experiance, read ladies profiles, leave a detailed message if I fit there criteria, and get the same response as of I say hi how's you. | |||
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"Maybe you're not someone's cup of tea, nothing to do with the messages, women get loads a day so it's hard to keep track of, remember, you can't please everyone, talk to women how you would in person" well this is mainly my point. Regardless of message content a woman is going to reply based on what she sees in your pictures or text. | |||
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"So I hear alot on here how writing fun detailed message with jokes, wit etc are the ones that women are more likely to reply to. Personally Im not sure how true this really is. Since I started I've been writing detailed and specially tailored messages to every woman I contacted without much luck. Now in the last few days Ive decided to just go simple and say the basic "Hi how are you? My name is ..... what is yours?" Now from this Ive had the same if not more success. So Ive come to the conclusion that unless you write the perfect message women have most likely made up their mind about you from your profile and no special message is ever going to change her opinion. What say you people of fab? I have had same experiance, read ladies profiles, leave a detailed message if I fit there criteria, and get the same response as of I say hi how's you. " agreed | |||
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"I think a brief polite hello with pic attached is the best first contact. As it really doesn't matter what you write, if someone isn't physically attracted to another, it's never going to happen! Just my opinion... " spot on | |||
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"I think a brief polite hello with pic attached is the best first contact. As it really doesn't matter what you write, if someone isn't physically attracted to another, it's never going to happen! Just my opinion... " Yeah Im pretty sure this is truth for most people. | |||
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"You have to remember that a lot will look at your profile before reading a message to see if you fit their criteria. If you don't then chances are they're not going to bother reading it. As has already been suggested, a simple introductory message with a few pics attached should do just fine. P.S: You have a lovely booty! - Amy. x" Yeah it definitely seems that is the best way forward. And thank you for the compliment. I'm sure we could compliment each other in many ways. | |||
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"Maybe you're not someone's cup of tea, nothing to do with the messages, women get loads a day so it's hard to keep track of, remember, you can't please everyone, talk to women how you would in person well this is mainly my point. Regardless of message content a woman is going to reply based on what she sees in your pictures or text. " They won't all reply if they don't likeyou, most will block and delete | |||
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"Maybe you're not someone's cup of tea, nothing to do with the messages, women get loads a day so it's hard to keep track of, remember, you can't please everyone, talk to women how you would in person well this is mainly my point. Regardless of message content a woman is going to reply based on what she sees in your pictures or text. I find that is the general rule, ignored or blocked, it'll be so much easier saying no thanks, They won't all reply if they don't likeyou, most will block and delete" | |||
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"I actually prefer short to the point messages. I don't want compliment after compliment. If I'm interested in someone a short message is easier to reply to. I don't spend all day on here and feel that if someone had written loads I can't just respond with a short answer and I'll leave the message to reply when I have more time. Sometimes those messages get forgotten about or disappear off the screen before I get round to responding." I thought you loved compliments | |||
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" I thought you loved compliments " I do from you but in a first message it's a bit ott! | |||
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" I thought you loved compliments I do from you but in a first message it's a bit ott!" Ahh yeah I understand. | |||
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"To us, yes it does.... We don't reply to one liners whether they are from a single or a couple. Don't expect or want an essay just a short message that shows some effort and that they have read our profile. " Hmm maybe its different for couples. | |||
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"So I hear alot on here how writing fun detailed message with jokes, wit etc are the ones that women are more likely to reply to. Personally Im not sure how true this really is. Since I started I've been writing detailed and specially tailored messages to every woman I contacted without much luck. Now in the last few days Ive decided to just go simple and say the basic "Hi how are you? My name is ..... what is yours?" Now from this Ive had the same if not more success. So Ive come to the conclusion that unless you write the perfect message women have most likely made up their mind about you from your profile and no special message is ever going to change her opinion. What say you people of fab?" Lots of people have said when they get a message before opening it they look at the persons profile. If the profile is not interesting the message gets deleted. If the profile is interesting they read the message. | |||
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"So I hear alot on here how writing fun detailed message with jokes, wit etc are the ones that women are more likely to reply to. Personally Im not sure how true this really is. Since I started I've been writing detailed and specially tailored messages to every woman I contacted without much luck. Now in the last few days Ive decided to just go simple and say the basic "Hi how are you? My name is ..... what is yours?" Now from this Ive had the same if not more success. So Ive come to the conclusion that unless you write the perfect message women have most likely made up their mind about you from your profile and no special message is ever going to change her opinion. What say you people of fab?" Tbh no it doesn't matter, just copy and paste your opening message, as long as it's no to cheesey you should get results | |||
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"fancy a fuck flower ....thats me bowled over every time ! " Atleast it shows some alliteration skills | |||
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"Maybe you're not someone's cup of tea, nothing to do with the messages, women get loads a day so it's hard to keep track of, remember, you can't please everyone, talk to women how you would in person well this is mainly my point. Regardless of message content a woman is going to reply based on what she sees in your pictures or text. " You're right in that if you're not a woman's type it doesn't matter what you write however i get a lot of messages from guys who LOOK my type but then the message is so disgusting or so poorly written that they're not my type. But i do prefer just a simple message. The amount of messages most single females get, it's best to keep the message short. | |||
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" You're right in that if you're not a woman's type it doesn't matter what you write however i get a lot of messages from guys who LOOK my type but then the message is so disgusting or so poorly written that they're not my type. But i do prefer just a simple message. The amount of messages most single females get, it's best to keep the message short." | |||
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"This .... depends on whether the writer is what I'm looking for or not - profile write up matters a lot as do pics, so if those are attention grabbing then a nice, well written message should follow..." Ah. Wish I could message you to test this theory. Just out of age range. | |||
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"if i message someone i attached a recent face pic and a brief message the same as i would expect from a message on here " How brief though? | |||
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"We'd prefer to see something beyond......'hi, how are you?' in a message. We don't expect War and Peace for an introduction but if you wanna be getting us between the sheets then there has to be something of substance. Tell us something about you or make us smile. " Hmm good advice. I always not sure what details to put in it though. Since my profile already has everything that needs to be said about me. | |||
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" Hmm good advice. I always not sure what details to put in it though. Since my profile already has everything that needs to be said about me." perhaps something you find in their profile which you have in common? something that says 'why' you think you fit the criteria they are looking for. | |||
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"I think a brief polite hello with pic attached is the best first contact. As it really doesn't matter what you write, if someone isn't physically attracted to another, it's never going to happen! Just my opinion... " agree!! | |||
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