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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

On our couples profile we are usually online at different times. He'll get chatting to a couple and everything's going fine. They send pics and he's happy and keeps chatting.

Then I go online and find out I don't like one of them.

What do you do in that situation? How do you say sorry after it's seemingly been going ok?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On our couples profile we are usually online at different times. He'll get chatting to a couple and everything's going fine. They send pics and he's happy and keeps chatting.

Then I go online and find out I don't like one of them.

What do you do in that situation? How do you say sorry after it's seemingly been going ok?

"

Maybe he should show you pics before he carries on a convo with them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh so glad it's not just us .... . To be honest we just say that cali says sorry not for her....

Cali x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We've had this a few times, we respond to messages simply saying we'll let you know when we've both seen and decided. The majority of the time.........couples we've not had a spark with have had the good grace to accept our rejection with dignity and politeness even after we've chatted some prior to seeing them.

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By *hole Lotta RosieWoman
over a year ago

Deviant City

Luckily not come across this on my joint profile and we are the same as you, online at different times and he sends messages or pics. I know it will probably happen, but wouldn't know how to say a polite no thank you without offending.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On our couples profile we are usually online at different times. He'll get chatting to a couple and everything's going fine. They send pics and he's happy and keeps chatting.

Then I go online and find out I don't like one of them.

What do you do in that situation? How do you say sorry after it's seemingly been going ok?

"

We'd never put ourselves or the other couple in such an embarrassing situation.

Much easier to look at their profile pics then decide 'between BOTH of you' whether to chat and/or send pics and take it further.

XXXX

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"On our couples profile we are usually online at different times. He'll get chatting to a couple and everything's going fine. They send pics and he's happy and keeps chatting.

Then I go online and find out I don't like one of them.

What do you do in that situation? How do you say sorry after it's seemingly been going ok?

"

We won't usually reply until both of us have seen the pics and message....saves this happening.

Would just be honest and say after further consideration you didn't feel you all were compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"On our couples profile we are usually online at different times. He'll get chatting to a couple and everything's going fine. They send pics and he's happy and keeps chatting.

Then I go online and find out I don't like one of them.

What do you do in that situation? How do you say sorry after it's seemingly been going ok?

We'd never put ourselves or the other couple in such an embarrassing situation.

Much easier to look at their profile pics then decide 'between BOTH of you' whether to chat and/or send pics and take it further.

XXXX"

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset

We always discuss any incoming messages and look at profiles together before replying.

Saves awkward moments.

And it's not as if there's ever any rush.

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we generally dont.

i will carry on having a conversation with whoever it is as they are decent to chat with.

if they start pushing for a meet we will either avoid it just put it off.

that said, its never happened,

the ONLY time it does happen is if V can see something in their eyes or face she doesnt like.

she is a very good reader of people and anyone we have actually met (off here or in real life) she has never been proven wrong.

that said, if she is unsure, we will always be happy to meet for a drink and a chat and let their personalities win through.

there has never been anyone either of us have turned down on good/bad looks alone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if one of us chats to somebody when were on our own we always tell them anything we talk about is subject to the approval of the other party, how ever if peeps put better pics on their profiles this would not happen as much.

close ups of tits cocks legs ect do not give an accurate impression of what a persons body type is, we have a full body shot of both of us so you can see exactly what your getting , minus face of course

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if one of us chats to somebody when were on our own we always tell them anything we talk about is subject to the approval of the other party, how ever if peeps put better pics on their profiles this would not happen as much.

close ups of tits cocks legs ect do not give an accurate impression of what a persons body type is, we have a full body shot of both of us so you can see exactly what your getting , minus face of course "

Absolutely, a pic of a tit, cock, arse or legs, gives you no indication whatsoever.

In fact it seems a popular way of hiding actual body type.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

The issue seems worse when there's only pics of women on profiles. Most of the time we mail people, we don't wait for them to mail us. If we're online we chat to them if they are online too.

I'm so glad we're not alone on this! You've given me some good ideas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We only have a very superficial conversation individually initially and make it clear to whoever we're talking to that it's just one of us...either that or we don't approach people or respond if it's just one of us...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well they have not said, but if he is not liked, why continue.

The connection has to be between four, can be hard to find that, but it should be that or nothing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would saysorry not for us!..why should you have to make some up..just be honest!...bambi x

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

We've never been in that position but I think it would be best for the first person chatting yo the other couple yo say 'happy to chat but have to wait for the other party to see if we are interested in taking it further'

Of course that then makes the other person look like the bad guy when they say no lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We've never been in that position but I think it would be best for the first person chatting yo the other couple yo say 'happy to chat but have to wait for the other party to see if we are interested in taking it further'

Of course that then makes the other person look like the bad guy when they say no lol"

Yep... it's always me that's the bad guy.

He's a bloody git lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The issue seems worse when there's only pics of women on profiles. Most of the time we mail people, we don't wait for them to mail us. If we're online we chat to them if they are online too.

I'm so glad we're not alone on this! You've given me some good ideas. "

Which is why we only bothered with profiles that had pics of both people on it, there are plenty out there.

Or sometimes when people messaged us with a picture of both of them.

In all honesty though, we can't remember instigating a meet, we just waited to see if anyone contacted us.

That's probably why we never had many meets lol.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if one of us chats to somebody when were on our own we always tell them anything we talk about is subject to the approval of the other party, how ever if peeps put better pics on their profiles this would not happen as much.

close ups of tits cocks legs ect do not give an accurate impression of what a persons body type is, we have a full body shot of both of us so you can see exactly what your getting , minus face of course

Absolutely, a pic of a tit, cock, arse or legs, gives you no indication whatsoever.

In fact it seems a popular way of hiding actual body type.

XXXX"

looking at your pics there is no hiding your body type mmmmm.

weve had a few who send pics after initial chat and sorry to say really not for us, also as others have said only pics of the lady or just cock pics of the guy.

we try to get most of our meets at clubs , you can see what you get before you engage in conversation

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"Oh so glad it's not just us .... . To be honest we just say that cali says sorry not for her....

Cali x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I usually say thanks for the great pics you look like a very hot couple but I can't speak for the mrs so I will get back to you when she's home.

This works for me after we had the same situation when I've thought couples was really hot & then the mrs said no thanks!!!

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By *unkydesignCouple
over a year ago

Manchester

Usually I let them know immediately that they are talking to the male half and that I will tell K to send them a message later as "she's the boss"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I usually say thanks for the great pics you look like a very hot couple but I can't speak for the mrs so I will get back to you when she's home.

This works for me after we had the same situation when I've thought couples was really hot & then the mrs said no thanks!!!

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By *angerpointCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

We always make it clear when talking to anyone that until the other partner has see their profile and pics we wont arrange anything. Then all we do is send and apology saying they are not for us. That way noone is being led up the garden path. Better to be up front from the start. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would recommend Fab cliché 1, 2 and 5

Delete

Block

Move on

As it would be with a single man. why treat couples any differently?

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