FabSwingers.com forum: Selecting a Single guy for a 3some?

By *tarlight7365 OP Couple
over a year ago

Norfolk

Out of curiosity...how do you make the selection of a single guy to make up your MMF 3some?

Do you both choose him ?,hubby choose?or is it whoever takes an interest in you? .Whats important?.looks?.cock size ?age? Do you insist he's single or unattached ?or has it turned out to be a friend you've added to your equation?

Some like different guys regularly,others like myself would prefer just one regular guy...(more chance of finding Rocking horse Poo!!

..lol)...

Storm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both look. We mail a few, see who is interested then decide who we want to ask.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am hoping to be adopted by a 40 plus Woman/Couple, They can pass on there life experience and we can have a lot of fun on the way

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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago

yumsville

I'd think it boils down to what turns you on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We gave up on here, just use to meet couples.

Get a single guy at the pub, you will be surprised how many are interested and it's quicker and easier than here , and the bonus is they already turned up lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

what's important is a good attitude

oh and a cock 6" works best for me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always chose when met as a couple

He often did the ground work and I said yea or no

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont like the idea of being someones regular guy...especially if they have their own partner anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Out of curiosity...how do you make the selection of a single guy to make up your MMF 3some?

Some like different guys regularly,others like myself would prefer just one regular guy...(more chance of finding Rocking horse Poo!!

..lol)...

Storm

I tend to put a few guys I know the mrs will find attractive in hotlist and then she will chat to one she likes and see how they get on and I trust her judgment and then arrange a meet.... Must add we've only done this once lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We gave up on here, just use to meet couples.

Get a single guy at the pub, you will be surprised how many are interested and it's quicker and easier than here , and the bonus is they already turned up lol"

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This would be my choice if i had a option, A chance meeting sounds better then my first arranged meet

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I used to offer Tesco Clubcard points, it got me a few meets

good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd like to correct my above post if I may. Should have read 6" plus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both have to feel very comfortable with any single man we invite to join us hence why we do not use Fab to look for single guys as we meet plenty of them in our social shenanigans. In my experience, the most successful single guys are regulars at certain clubs and events, have built up a good group of friends and don't have sex as their only objective.

The guys we have allowed to join us have got a great group of friends (you can tell a lot about someone from the company they keep), have spoken to us as normal people, not potential conquests and are able to hold an intelligent conversation with plenty of humour and banter.

We both have to like him otherwise how can we all enjoy ourselves fully if someone in the group isn't 100% happy and comfortable?

crystal

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By *aisy100Woman
over a year ago

wakefield

"I always chose when met as a couple

He often did the ground work and I said yea or no "

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"(you can tell a lot about someone from the company they keep)

crystal"

Good job we hide our friends list then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's usually me and how we get along on here first. We always meet for a drink first so no expectations etc and if everyone is happy then we let it go further. X

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We both have to be in agreement whether we are meeting a couple or single.

I (Mrs) tend to do a search and add any that interest me to our hotlist. Mr B will then have a look and read. Will then decide if we are going to message any...

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By *ORNY_DEVIL_SEEKERSCouple
over a year ago

Basildon Essex

When we are choosing a guy to join us we both check each guy out and there profile and then we message them and we go by there attitude when there messaging us back like we get guys who totally ignore we are couple and act more like it's going be a one on one and hopefully a guy that lasts longer than 2 mins lol no names

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Charlie spends hours painstakingly sifting through scores of single males to create a quality short list. Sasha spends two minutes decimating it. Charlie starts again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lasts longer than 2 mins lol no names, Thanks for not saying who it was

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By *errynjuneCouple
over a year ago

Barnsley

I make him do the spade work and then I make the final choice. You never buy a dog and bark yourself.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

selection is a two way process........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of non pushy guys on fab that enjoy threesomes, always turn up clean, smelling fresh & ready to go. You just gotta read the veri's & not make the mistake of painting all single men with the same brush!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"selection is a two way process........

Absolutely

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would get to choose.

But if he didn't like him for whatever reason that would be it.

I trust his judgement on that.

Looks are not foremost for me, I like a good laugh, if that and a good connection there, that's all that matters.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get to choose him but if sam thinks he is not for us then we will not go ahead. He knows my type and regularly hotlists men for me to check out later.

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By *oo hotCouple
over a year ago

North West

"Plenty of non pushy guys on fab that enjoy threesomes, always turn up clean, smelling fresh & ready to go. You just gotta read the veri's & not make the mistake of painting all single men with the same brush! "

That is not our experience

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The guys that we played with were respectful clean and not pushy no don't tar all men with the same brush x he found them I gave the nod loll

6" + ? Not for me too sore if too big for my favourite dp

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Charlie spends hours painstakingly sifting through scores of single males to create a quality short list. Sasha spends two minutes decimating it. Charlie starts again.

That sounds a bit like us actually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I will put the single guys on a hot list, Luke looks through them and says yeah or no, we then meet for a quick drink, and we have learnt a secret way of letting each other know if it's still a yes or a no.. So I guess we both choose.

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By *lleyCat1969Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

"I dont like the idea of being someones regular guy...especially if they have their own partner anyway"

My own _iew is the opposite of this: I've been seeing a married couple for a couple of years now and get on with both of them really well. The sex gets better as the friendship develops.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Charlie spends hours painstakingly sifting through scores of single males to create a quality short list. Sasha spends two minutes decimating it. Charlie starts again.

That sounds a bit like us actually.

We do the same thing. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still yet to meet a couple.

...but, if i was in a couple. I think we'd both decide but i'd let her have the final say as it would be for her pleasure. And i'd be okay with whoever she decides in the end without any bad feelings.

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By *ola cubesMan
over a year ago

coatbridge

"I'm still yet to meet a couple.

Let her have final decision as its for her pleasure ?? What kinda take one for the team no thanks anything i do i would do for our pleasure

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm still yet to meet a couple.

Let her have final decision as its for her pleasure ?? What kinda take one for the team no thanks anything i do i would do for our pleasure

I won't be taking one for the team. It would still be a mutual decision who it is. But, if there's someone that tickles her fancy more than another on our 'list' - then why can't she have him?

It's not like i'd be fucking the guy now is it. If she's happy, i'm happy. Doesn't bother me in the slightest.

...but, i'm just openminded about things i guess.

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By *errynjuneCouple
over a year ago

Barnsley

Selection for a 3some is of course a 3 way process

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By *arnayguyMan
over a year ago

Durham Tees

" we have learnt a secret way of letting each other know if it's still a yes or a no.. So I guess we both choose. "
Is that where you look at each other then shout 'Fucking leg it!' and charge out of the bar?

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

We love a mmf,it's one of our favourite things.

Although not a scenario we play out as often as we would like.

Reasons being,in society,

a promiscuous female will be judged a slut.

A promiscuous couple,meeting single guys,will be judged weirdos,with a female who is a slut.

And yet a Guy who shags lots of females,will be judged a stud.

So it's only common sense,to be cautious,when the wrong choice could be irrevocably detrimental in people's opinions of who you are,

And yet only enhance the reputation of the single guy.

So single guys,have the least to lose,with the most to gain,and yet feel they are treated unfairly.

Try to see it from the other side.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Charlie spends hours painstakingly sifting through scores of single males to create a quality short list. Sasha spends two minutes decimating it. Charlie starts again.

Sounds familiar lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I make him do the spade work and then I make the final choice. You never buy a dog and bark yourself.

Woof woof.....humps leg vigourously

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bev loves spontaneous meets with strangers, so I tend to do the selection.

If guys mail us I read profile first, make sure they have a few veris, match our criteria and then exchange a few mails, if all appears ok then I arrange for bev to go and meet them alone and phone me and he sends pics after we find this a huge turn on.

This process has only let us down once where a selfish guy promised everything to get the meet but only sent 4 pics at the end, so it works for us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I dont like the idea of being someones regular guy...especially if they have their own partner anyway

My own _iew is the opposite of this: I've been seeing a married couple for a couple of years now and get on with both of them really well. The sex gets better as the friendship develops."

Most couples dont want to let someone in to this degree , so good to see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" we have learnt a secret way of letting each other know if it's still a yes or a no.. So I guess we both choose. Is that where you look at each other then shout 'Fucking leg it!' and charge out of the bar? "

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By *reelove1969Couple
over a year ago

bristol

love meeting single fellas ....and agree that a few regular ones is the way forward ...the sex gets bettter and better !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"what's important is a good attitude

oh and a cock 6" works best for me

Cattle market.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We tend to have a few friends that we have met elsewhere, parties, clubs or mutual friends...so we've had some degree of interaction already...perhaps already played in that context so know we both get on with him...we don't look to meet single men through looking on here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love meeting single guys , and 99% of the time it's spontaneous , either from a meet today request on here , or at a club .

We rarely do repeat meets , as the buzz and excitement is rarely as good second time round , and we are not particularly looking to form friendships .

We love first timers , there is no sense of expectation , and the thrill is second to none .

The selection process is a joint effort . At a club ,my wife will see a guy she finds attractive and I will give my blessing . She will make the initial contact and it goes from there .

On fab , I will check out responses and select likely candidates , and she will then choose .

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs

I dan usually look through the profiles / messages/ winks and if any guys/ couples take our fancy we both gave a look if Leslie is interested then we will message and go from there. Only met 2 single guys upto now we both more into couples with bi fems but if we fancy a change then who knows

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We love a mmf,it's one of our favourite things.

Although not a scenario we play out as often as we would like.

Reasons being,in society,

a promiscuous female will be judged a slut.

A promiscuous couple,meeting single guys,will be judged weirdos,with a female who is a slut.

And yet a Guy who shags lots of females,will be judged a stud.

So it's only common sense,to be cautious,when the wrong choice could be irrevocably detrimental in people's opinions of who you are,

And yet only enhance the reputation of the single guy.

So single guys,have the least to lose,with the most to gain,and yet feel they are treated unfairly.

Try to see it from the other side.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

this is why i keep getting looked at by couples who say they are not looking for single men

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By *ast funMan
over a year ago

Essex

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By *na_Luv_4PlayCouple
over a year ago

Santa lucia de Tirajana

I do most of the searching but we both always have to agree who we play with and we do have a few guys and couples we have met through swinging who we now see them as our friends and play with more than just once

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most important@ Decent and discrete attitude - If he had a 6 pack, 10 inch cock, was black, but had a pushy attitude, Sue simply wouldn't go near him. Attitude and respect go a loooooong way fellas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"this is why i keep getting looked at by couples who say they are not looking for single men"

Couples look at you because you post in the forums just to see who you are. Not as a potential meet. Simples.

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By *aisy100Woman
over a year ago

wakefield

"Charlie spends hours painstakingly sifting through scores of single males to create a quality short list. Sasha spends two minutes decimating it. Charlie starts again.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rocking horse poo???? Lollll great saying

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire

we both decide (and often both say no than k you lol) we personally do insist they are reasonably unattached (ie not living full time with a girl) there is no definitive "type" we all like different things

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most important@ Decent and discrete attitude - If he had a 6 pack, 10 inch cock, was black, but had a pushy attitude, Sue simply wouldn't go near him. Attitude and respect go a loooooong way fellas"

I'd also say some contact with the female half is paramount

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No daubt women got a HUGE selection to from here to select lol x.

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By *exynurse111Couple
over a year ago

Warwickshire

I had my hubby join a couple last week, loved hearing about it afterwards, maybe it's easier for a couple to trust a male half of another couple? More security etc, not sure maybe some couples could shed some light on that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Most important@ Decent and discrete attitude - If he had a 6 pack, 10 inch cock, was black, but had a pushy attitude, Sue simply wouldn't go near him. Attitude and respect go a loooooong way fellas

I'd also say some contact with the female half is paramount"

Absolutely. We would never meet anyone unless she'd spoken to him first and the guys who recommended us could verify that too. But the woman also has to want to speak to the guy...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"this is why i keep getting looked at by couples who say they are not looking for single men

Couples look at you because you post in the forums just to see who you are. Not as a potential meet. Simples.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still on the look out for a couple and reading all the comments its right to have a good attitude 6 inch is good if u know how to use it ...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I still on the look out for a couple and reading all the comments its right to have a good attitude 6 inch is good if u know how to use it ...lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both see who has shown interest in us, then we look to see who has actually read our profile. Once we have that short list we both chat to them and decide from there. Personality comes first for us though.

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