FabSwingers.com forum: Approaching women in public

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

What's your views on say meeting someone in a petrol garage you catch them looking they catch you there's lots smiles and more catching looks how can you approach them tips please ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You dont know how to approach women ?

Good luck on here then Mate

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"You dont know how to approach women ?

Good luck on here then Mate

Yes course I no how to approach women but approaching a women in bar club or on here is complete different thing to meeting by the off chance and so there must be a different way to approach in case they thing your a weirdo

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Just say hello. But don't assume because a woman looks at you and smiles it's because she wants to have sex with you, it's a dangerous assumption and frequently not true.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with the lady above, just because a woman smiles, it didn't mean " your in"

It is being friendly

Nette

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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago

hiding from cock pics.

I smile all the time, I wouldn't like anyone to feel that's it's a come on.

Still be friendly and if it's supposed to happen it could do naturally.

Please don't assume that all friendly people are after intimacy though, as I'm only after spreading a little cheer if I smile at someone.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Coming from a small community, it was very normal that strangers and people you know would acknowledge your very existence with a smile, saying hello or something similar. This art has somewhat diminished in bigger cultures, a bit the difference in Paul Hogan in Crocodile Dundee, when he gets to New York.

Maintain eye contact, smile, speak but aim not to intimidate. Staring is usually something that others find disturbing or alarming.

Learn about body language, how to read and interpret what others are signalling non-verbally. That could help you conserve energies from wasted attempts at deeper interaction with others. It's a fascinating subject as much of our communication is outside of the specific words that we speak. Develop your own style of communicating non vernally, and be inviting, welcoming and warm to others. Practice, as it's a skill like every other. The more you do it, the better you'll get and eventually you'll find yourself doing it automatically, just like how people have learned to drive.

As for now, perhaps stick to day lit areas, increase how much you smile at others, male and female, and do it more often. Say little comments with people that you pass, and you'll likely notice how some of these develop beyond 'hello'. The easiest thing is probably to talk about something you may have in common. Remember, females are not an alien species, we're just like everyone else. But few people want to feel like a hunted or cornered animal that is prey for someone, so fine tune how you approach.

Just as with messages to single women on fab, you'll find plenty of non cooperative people: this may not be about your techniques, but about the situation, their life circumstances, their interests etc. Keep at it and use some of your style that works in bars etc too.

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By *aisy100Woman
over a year ago

wakefield

If I was at the petrol station and a fit guy caught my eye, yes I would smile and probably flirty......however it doesnt mean I would want hom to approach me and chat me up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Not saying I want to bend them over the pump like a porno but being a lorry driver your on the road alot so clubs bars clubs are as normal as alot of people and being single of course you don't want that for the rest of your life

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

OP. Just man up and talk to them. What's the worse that can happen? She runs you over? Lol

I have been asked out whilst shopping and on public transport. I found it quite flattering. They normally start by saying something that would make me answer as to whether I have a partner or not.

If I was not interested I pretended I did have a partner. Otherwise I would exchange numbers. Dated a guy for a year who chatted me up on a bus.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surely when someone you like the look of smiles at you, the best thing to say would be a simple

'Hi, how are you?'

Its just a gentle pleasantry, nothing excessive or out of the ordinary, and gives them a chance to respond in kind. Ok, so much of the time polite people will smile at each other in public and not mean much by it, but at least by addressing them, you offer an opportunity to get to know you better if they actually do like the look of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just walk upto her and hand her a cock pic, seems to work on here

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By *spot50Man
over a year ago

rochester

"just walk upto her and hand her a cock pic, seems to work on here

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really I better get some pics snapped lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just say hello. But don't assume because a woman looks at you and smiles it's because she wants to have sex with you, it's a dangerous assumption and frequently not true.

Lies!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just say "well do you?"...then expect a slap in the face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What's your views on say meeting someone in a petrol garage you catch them looking they catch you there's lots smiles and more catching looks how can you approach them tips please ?? "

first off, pull away from the pump otherwise the last thing you will be getting is any words off her.

too much swearing at you from the people waiting

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Not saying I want to bend them over the pump like a porno but being a lorry driver your on the road alot so clubs bars clubs are as normal as alot of people and being single of course you don't want that for the rest of your life"

Ok. Well people do meet in all sorts if places and as I said before the best way to approach anybody is to smile and say hello. If you get an encouraging smile and hello back chat a little and ask if you can give her your number. Garages aren't the best place to meet someone for dating though since it's likely that you won't live in the area, that's why lots of us thought you meant approach for sex.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Just say hello. But don't assume because a woman looks at you and smiles it's because she wants to have sex with you, it's a dangerous assumption and frequently not true.

Lies!"

Delusion!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I'd say 'want me to pump your opening full of petrol?' or 'can I fill you up?'

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"Just say hello. But don't assume because a woman looks at you and smiles it's because she wants to have sex with you, it's a dangerous assumption and frequently not true.

It is indeed, and I have been in this position on more than one occasion and it's not nice

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Just say hello. But don't assume because a woman looks at you and smiles it's because she wants to have sex with you, it's a dangerous assumption and frequently not true.

It is indeed, and I have been in this position on more than one occasion and it's not nice

Me too. Some men and I do not include the op in this, mistake friendliness for a come on.

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