Join us FREE, we're FREE to use
Web's largest swingers site since 2006.
Already registered?
Login here
Back to forum list |
Back to Swingers Chat |
Jump to newest |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Guys get so much flack for addressing the female half of the couple , so its understandable to assume it's the guy . To be fair it is always me ( the male half ) on our account . My wife whatsapps with the females we may potentially meet , and sees everything on fab , occasionally responding if I am busy . That's not a control thing on my part , I hasten to add . She just doesn't want to contribute or respond , and sometimes I wish she would . A bit of flirting would be horny in my opinion ! Anyway that's our take , and hope it helps " | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"When I message a couple I don't assume that it's the male online, I just think maybe for some guys it's a respect thing. Or maybe by addressing the male in the relationship first it's a way of getting his blessing to enter there relationship. I maybe completely wrong and sexist there but I'm new to swinging. Btw I'm not sexist." Unfortunately that is a sexist attitude that many single guys have. It always results in us blocking them. The archaic presumption of 'ownership' really has no place in modern society. Rant over! We expect messages to address us as a couple and we reply on behalf of both of us. Be friendly!! | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"When I message a couple I don't assume that it's the male online, I just think maybe for some guys it's a respect thing. Or maybe by addressing the male in the relationship first it's a way of getting his blessing to enter there relationship. I maybe completely wrong and sexist there but I'm new to swinging. Btw I'm not sexist. Unfortunately that is a sexist attitude that many single guys have. It always results in us blocking them. The archaic presumption of 'ownership' really has no place in modern society. Rant over! We expect messages to address us as a couple and we reply on behalf of both of us. Be friendly!!" Yea we find it a lot a lot of prusumption she is on here more than me but always address me , and say would your Mrs wanna meet us , | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"We get the complete opposite! People assume it is S (f) online. The majority of the time it is but I hate the assumption that it is. Catch me in a bad mood and u get a sarky response. The most annoying ones are the first message asking who is online. I uses to say me but could guarantee it would be a bloke wanting to talk dirty. Very rarely do we receive messages directed at both of us. S x" Think everytime we make contact we address them as "hey guys , or hey you two , " at the end of the day it's a couple so could be either | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"When I message a couple I don't assume that it's the male online, I just think maybe for some guys it's a respect thing. Or maybe by addressing the male in the relationship first it's a way of getting his blessing to enter there relationship. I maybe completely wrong and sexist there but I'm new to swinging. Btw Unfortunately that is a sexist attitude that many single guys have. It always results in us blocking them. The archaic presumption of 'ownership' really has no place in modern society. Rant over! We expect messages to address us as a couple and we reply on behalf of both of us. Be friendly!!" I agree completely it is wrong to adress just the male I can't believe we still live in a sexist world. I always have respect for couples as couples male and female | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"When I message a couple I don't assume that it's the male online, I just think maybe for some guys it's a respect thing. Or maybe by addressing the male in the relationship first it's a way of getting his blessing to enter there relationship. I maybe completely wrong and sexist there but I'm new to swinging. Btw I'm not sexist. Unfortunately that is a sexist attitude that many single guys have. It always results in us blocking them. The archaic presumption of 'ownership' really has no place in modern society. Rant over! We expect messages to address us as a couple and we reply on behalf of both of us. Be friendly!!" totally agree We are equals in this relationship. The idea that by approaching me someone is showing respect is totally misguided and just shows a lack of respect towards crystal. Any message that doesn't address us as a couple is ignored. And any initial replies are always deliberately ambiguous as to who is writing. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I've never meet a couple but would love too, but that's new to me " Me neither | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"When I message a couple I don't assume that it's the male online, I just think maybe for some guys it's a respect thing. Or maybe by addressing the male in the relationship first it's a way of getting his blessing to enter there relationship. I maybe completely wrong and sexist there but I'm new to swinging. Btw I'm not sexist." You have revealed yourself as sexist by assuming you need the man's permission to enter the relationship. Successful swinging couples enter into it mutually and neither of them hand the power to the other one (except by mutual consent in some situations). | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Lol I'm not sexist as I said as a man I can see how other men think. You don't know me so how can you say I'm sexist ??" No you don;t know how other men think, you just assume that other men have the same sexist attitude that you do. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Lol I'm not sexist as I said as a man I can see how other men think. You don't know me so how can you say I'm sexist ??" Also, you have posted earlier on the thread that you have yet to meet a couple. And several couples have publically disagreed with your post. Yet you claim that you know how other males minds work... Can you see where I'm going with this? | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Lol I'm not sexist as I said as a man I can see how other men think. You don't know me so how can you say I'm sexist ?? Also, you have posted earlier on the thread that you have yet to meet a couple. And several couples have publically disagreed with your post. Yet you claim that you know how other males minds work... Can you see where I'm going with this?" Hang on you agreed with me earlier now your against me calling me sexist?? Make ur mind up | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Lol I'm not sexist as I said as a man I can see how other men think. You don't know me so how can you say I'm sexist ??" I see, I misunderstood and thought that you were saying that was what you thought. Apologies if that's the case | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"When I message a couple I don't assume that it's the male online, I just think maybe for some guys it's a respect thing. Or maybe by addressing the male in the relationship first it's a way of getting his blessing to enter there relationship. I maybe completely wrong and sexist there but I'm new to swinging. Btw I'm not sexist. You have revealed yourself as sexist by assuming you need the man's permission to enter the relationship. Successful swinging couples enter into it mutually and neither of them hand the power to the other one (except by mutual consent in some situations). " in the perfect world of perfect swinging that can be true.unfortunately, I agree somewhat with the quotees 'sexism'(I think it was just poorly chosen wordage) Understand iot from a single males point of u and u discover a whole new depth to meeting cpls...u can either have a great relaxed male half, or a great but pushy(either to his partner or the male), I've sat slightly embarrassed on meets in the past where the female half was expected to dance.........by her HUSBAND! This is when the male half tries to dictate how we should all react basically telling us in hidden meaning "my wife is sexy now all get ur cocks hard" Of course we as single males seek consent from the male half in probably 90% of meets with cpls..whether its verbal or physical acknowledgement. We are in most of the time(if respectful single males) in fear that we will do something wrong and upset the male half....OF course I will have made my intent clear I might like to play with the female half directly with her(some kisses wanks n bjs help the pace lol)- but as males(females get away with it ever so much easier(for example grabbing what they want without much backlash)surely its understandable we dont just try getting it on without some form of consent from the male half. I think alot of couples are more contradictory to how they play than they think they are I honestly dont know how all that isnt hard to wrok out | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"When I message a couple I don't assume that it's the male online, I just think maybe for some guys it's a respect thing. Or maybe by addressing the male in the relationship first it's a way of getting his blessing to enter there relationship. I maybe completely wrong and sexist there but I'm new to swinging. Btw I'm not sexist. You have revealed yourself as sexist by assuming you need the man's permission to enter the relationship. Successful swinging couples enter into it mutually and neither of them hand the power to the other one (except by mutual consent in some situations). in the perfect world of perfect swinging that can be true.unfortunately, I agree somewhat with the quotees 'sexism'(I think it was just poorly chosen wordage) Understand iot from a single males point of u and u discover a whole new depth to meeting cpls...u can either have a great relaxed male half, or a great but pushy(either to his partner or the male), I've sat slightly embarrassed on meets in the past where the female half was expected to dance.........by her HUSBAND! This is when the male half tries to dictate how we should all react basically telling us in hidden meaning "my wife is sexy now all get ur cocks hard" Of course we as single males seek consent from the male half in probably 90% of meets with cpls..whether its verbal or physical acknowledgement. We are in most of the time(if respectful single males) in fear that we will do something wrong and upset the male half....OF course I will have made my intent clear I might like to play with the female half directly with her(some kisses wanks n bjs help the pace lol)- but as males(females get away with it ever so much easier(for example grabbing what they want without much backlash)surely its understandable we dont just try getting it on without some form of consent from the male half. I think alot of couples are more contradictory to how they play than they think they are I honestly dont know how all that isnt hard to wrok out " Yes I agree with most of this that's why I deliberately used the tern "successful swinging couples" and I understand it must be an absolute minefield for single men | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Lol I'm not sexist as I said as a man I can see how other men think. You don't know me so how can you say I'm sexist ?? Also, you have posted earlier on the thread that you have yet to meet a couple. And several couples have publically disagreed with your post. Yet you claim that you know how other males minds work... Can you see where I'm going with this? Hang on you agreed with me earlier now your against me calling me sexist?? Make ur mind up " I agreed with Born to Perform's post which was, as I read it, disagreeing with your earlier post about approaching the male. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Lol I'm not sexist as I said as a man I can see how other men think. You don't know me so how can you say I'm sexist ?? Also, you have posted earlier on the thread that you have yet to meet a couple. And several couples have publically disagreed with your post. Yet you claim that you know how other males minds work... Can you see where I'm going with this? Hang on you agreed with me earlier now your against me calling me sexist?? Make ur mind up " | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"When I message a couple I don't assume that it's the male online, I just think maybe for some guys it's a respect thing. Or maybe by addressing the male in the relationship first it's a way of getting his blessing to enter there relationship. I maybe completely wrong and sexist there but I'm new to swinging. Btw I'm not sexist. You have revealed yourself as sexist by assuming you need the man's permission to enter the relationship. Successful swinging couples enter into it mutually and neither of them hand the power to the other one (except by mutual consent in some situations). in the perfect world of perfect swinging that can be true.unfortunately, I agree somewhat with the quotees 'sexism'(I think it was just poorly chosen wordage) Understand iot from a single males point of u and u discover a whole new depth to meeting cpls...u can either have a great relaxed male half, or a great but pushy(either to his partner or the male), I've sat slightly embarrassed on meets in the past where the female half was expected to dance.........by her HUSBAND! This is when the male half tries to dictate how we should all react basically telling us in hidden meaning "my wife is sexy now all get ur cocks hard" Of course we as single males seek consent from the male half in probably 90% of meets with cpls..whether its verbal or physical acknowledgement. We are in most of the time(if respectful single males) in fear that we will do something wrong and upset the male half....OF course I will have made my intent clear I might like to play with the female half directly with her(some kisses wanks n bjs help the pace lol)- but as males(females get away with it ever so much easier(for example grabbing what they want without much backlash)surely its understandable we dont just try getting it on without some form of consent from the male half. I think alot of couples are more contradictory to how they play than they think they are I honestly dont know how all that isnt hard to wrok out " Exactly my point fella you have just worded a lot better then me thanks for coming to my rescue | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"When I message a couple I don't assume that it's the male online, I just think maybe for some guys it's a respect thing. Or maybe by addressing the male in the relationship first it's a way of getting his blessing to enter there relationship. I maybe completely wrong and sexist there but I'm new to swinging. Btw I'm not sexist. You have revealed yourself as sexist by assuming you need the man's permission to enter the relationship. Successful swinging couples enter into it mutually and neither of them hand the power to the other one (except by mutual consent in some situations). in the perfect world of perfect swinging that can be true.unfortunately, I agree somewhat with the quotees 'sexism'(I think it was just poorly chosen wordage) Understand iot from a single males point of u and u discover a whole new depth to meeting cpls...u can either have a great relaxed male half, or a great but pushy(either to his partner or the male), I've sat slightly embarrassed on meets in the past where the female half was expected to dance.........by her HUSBAND! This is when the male half tries to dictate how we should all react basically telling us in hidden meaning "my wife is sexy now all get ur cocks hard" Of course we as single males seek consent from the male half in probably 90% of meets with cpls..whether its verbal or physical acknowledgement. We are in most of the time(if respectful single males) in fear that we will do something wrong and upset the male half....OF course I will have made my intent clear I might like to play with the female half directly with her(some kisses wanks n bjs help the pace lol)- but as males(females get away with it ever so much easier(for example grabbing what they want without much backlash)surely its understandable we dont just try getting it on without some form of consent from the male half. I think alot of couples are more contradictory to how they play than they think they are I honestly dont know how all that isnt hard to wrok out Exactly my point fella you have just worded a lot better then me thanks for coming to my rescue " now...............can i fuck ur wife? | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Lol I'm not sexist as I said as a man I can see how other men think. You don't know me so how can you say I'm sexist ?? I see, I misunderstood and thought that you were saying that was what you thought. Apologies if that's the case" Thanks | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"There are so many guys of couples that dont get the picture that you come as a package....not just to fulfill his fantasy with his wife etc. You get a feeling for these guys pretty quick in the way they word their messages as they get more confident" my wife says she wants to lick that, she's just popped out for the night though..honest.I asked her what she thought of Mr, she shrugged her shoulders...she is a bit femsexist | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"As with anything it is not an exact science. All couples are different , what offends one does not offend another. So with that in mind it would be nice if couples made it clearer as to which of them is in conversation when talking to others." Why would knowing who you're talking to make any difference to causing them offence? If its a couple's profile, you should address them as a couple to show them both respect. We have had couples and single men who, as soon as they realise it is me messaging, turn crass, crude and downright disgusting. I do not feel comfortable engaging in dirty talk via messaging as that, to me, feels like I am excluding 2wheels and attempting I engage me in dirty talk is, in my opinion, disrespectful to him. crystal | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"As with anything it is not an exact science. All couples are different , what offends one does not offend another. So with that in mind it would be nice if couples made it clearer as to which of them is in conversation when talking to others. Why would knowing who you're talking to make any difference to causing them offence? If its a couple's profile, you should address them as a couple to show them both respect. We have had couples and single men who, as soon as they realise it is me messaging, turn crass, crude and downright disgusting. I do not feel comfortable engaging in dirty talk via messaging as that, to me, feels like I am excluding 2wheels and attempting I engage me in dirty talk is, in my opinion, disrespectful to him. crystal" This! If you're engaging in conversation with a couple - treat them as such. You wouldn't arrive at a meet (social or otherwise) and blank one half so why do the same via message? Any message aimed at just one of us gets deleted instantly. Or a sarcastic reply from me in the case of "nice tits love" messages, before a swift block! A | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Proberbly 85% the male off the couple puts advert on and chats to sort a meet out i would also say 85% the reason being on here is because the idea came from the guy too " You do know 85% of statistics are made up! And that's 100% factually true! | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"As with anything it is not an exact science. All couples are different , what offends one does not offend another. So with that in mind it would be nice if couples made it clearer as to which of them is in conversation when talking to others." Yes I agree. It is often but not always me who responds to messages (Mrs. N) and after initial contact with a single man it can be difficult for them to know which of us it is of we use the first person. I'll try and make sure I sign off as myself in future. L | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Proberbly 85% the male off the couple puts advert on and chats to sort a meet out i would also say 85% the reason being on here is because the idea came from the guy too " That hasn't been our experience. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"It has to be a joint decision for us. When we meet a couple it's important that we all get on. If I don't like the guy there's no way he's getting near my wife, and the same goes for Kate and the lady. " | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"It has to be a joint decision for us. When we meet a couple it's important that we all get on. If I don't like the guy there's no way he's getting near my wife, and the same goes for Kate and the lady. " Yes we all have to get on too that's why it's so damn difficult, same with single men of Mr doesn't like them and I do it's no go. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"As with anything it is not an exact science. All couples are different , what offends one does not offend another. So with that in mind it would be nice if couples made it clearer as to which of them is in conversation when talking to others. Why would knowing who you're talking to make any difference to causing them offence? If its a couple's profile, you should address them as a couple to show them both respect. We have had couples and single men who, as soon as they realise it is me messaging, turn crass, crude and downright disgusting. I do not feel comfortable engaging in dirty talk via messaging as that, to me, feels like I am excluding 2wheels and attempting I engage me in dirty talk is, in my opinion, disrespectful to him. crystal" | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I use to be a single girl on fab and what keen and tatattoo said about guys is not much different for female singles. as a girl u worry about excluding the guy if there is too much girl play or if there is too much play with the guy will the other girl get jealous. Meet couples is a minefield as a single. But as a couple I am truly glad some do you " fancy a fuck?(I'm asking u both...) *Mrs for the fuck *Mr for the consent Hope that clears up the intent lol | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"I use to be a single girl on fab and what keen and tatattoo said about guys is not much different for female singles. as a girl u worry about excluding the guy if there is too much girl play or if there is too much play with the guy will the other girl get jealous. Meet couples is a minefield as a single. But as a couple I am truly glad some do you fancy a fuck?(I'm asking u both...) *Mrs for the fuck *Mr for the consent Hope that clears up the intent lol " lolololol | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Thanks but I will decline your nice offer (mrs) xx" can u verify by phonecall this is actually the Mrs that typed that????? | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"No as you newd to remember the word to type me a message to show you read profile and send a face pic even though I wont and jump through a thousand hoops you are a single guy on here you know (now where is that tongue in cheek smiley, before someone thinks I am serious) xx " It's obviously the male half Paddy! A | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"No as you newd to remember the word to type me a message to show you read profile and send a face pic even though I wont and jump through a thousand hoops you are a single guy on here you know (now where is that tongue in cheek smiley, before someone thinks I am serious) xx " see, you may well be saying it as tongue in cheek, but i really dont see these hoops people talk about. you read a profile that seems more hassle than no, so just click out of it. we have had some really creative messages that have really made us laugh, just from people we dont fancy, which is a shame no hoops no bullshit | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
| |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Even when I say it's me mailing and not him, I still don't get any dirty filthy messages on our couples account. I'm really offended now. " Just like how many woman say to the guys come on let's go down the pub and watch the match with a few beers with the lads ....not many. | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"No as you newd to remember the word to type me a message to show you read profile and send a face pic even though I wont and jump through a thousand hoops you are a single guy on here you know (now where is that tongue in cheek smiley, before someone thinks I am serious) xx " pmsl | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
"Hi guys , just a quick one we have noticed since been on here that most people who message always presume that it is the man who is online all the time , and always say you think your Mrs would be up for a meet she is on here more than me and have been called aliar on more than one occasion that it's actually her on line , do a lot of the men out ofthe ccouple's do all the talking on here ? Also when going to meet a couple do you look at the hole package and not just the lady ? We spend a lot of time browsing and if the lady was for instace Sarah michelle Gellar ( my fantasy) and say Roy chubby Brown the meet wouldn't happen. But get a lot of.messages saying your Mrs is stunning even tho it's her on line and would we like to meet surely they has to be an attraction on both the man and woman , we are what we are I don't class my self as skinny and have a 10" Dick when to befair I wouldn't want it , Wow you can tell I am bored at work " I don't presume anything. If I send a message to a couple, I assume that both will read it before making up their minds whether to meet or not | |||
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Reply privately | Reply in forum | Reply +quote |
Post new Message to Thread |
back to top |