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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi guys , just a quick one we have noticed since been on here that most people who message always presume that it is the man who is online all the time , and always say you think your Mrs would be up for a meet she is on here more than me and have been called aliar on more than one occasion that it's actually her on line , do a lot of the men out ofthe ccouple's do all the talking on here ?

Also when going to meet a couple do you look at the hole package and not just the lady ? We spend a lot of time browsing and if the lady was for instace Sarah michelle Gellar ( my fantasy) and say Roy chubby Brown the meet wouldn't happen. But get a lot of.messages saying your Mrs is stunning even tho it's her on line and would we like to meet surely they has to be an attraction on both the man and woman , we are what we are I don't class my self as skinny and have a 10" Dick when to befair I wouldn't want it ,

Wow you can tell I am bored at work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Guys get so much flack for addressing the female half of the couple , so its understandable to assume it's the guy .

To be fair it is always me ( the male half ) on our account . My wife whatsapps with the females we may potentially meet , and sees everything on fab , occasionally responding if I am busy .

That's not a control thing on my part , I hasten to add . She just doesn't want to contribute or respond , and sometimes I wish she would . A bit of flirting would be horny in my opinion !

Anyway that's our take , and hope it helps

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Guys get so much flack for addressing the female half of the couple , so its understandable to assume it's the guy .

To be fair it is always me ( the male half ) on our account . My wife whatsapps with the females we may potentially meet , and sees everything on fab , occasionally responding if I am busy .

That's not a control thing on my part , I hasten to add . She just doesn't want to contribute or respond , and sometimes I wish she would . A bit of flirting would be horny in my opinion !

Anyway that's our take , and hope it helps "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I message a couple I don't assume that it's the male online, I just think maybe for some guys it's a respect thing. Or maybe by addressing the male in the relationship first it's a way of getting his blessing to enter there relationship. I maybe completely wrong and sexist there but I'm new to swinging. Btw I'm not sexist.

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By *orn_To_PerformCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"When I message a couple I don't assume that it's the male online, I just think maybe for some guys it's a respect thing. Or maybe by addressing the male in the relationship first it's a way of getting his blessing to enter there relationship. I maybe completely wrong and sexist there but I'm new to swinging. Btw I'm not sexist."

Unfortunately that is a sexist attitude that many single guys have. It always results in us blocking them. The archaic presumption of 'ownership' really has no place in modern society. Rant over!

We expect messages to address us as a couple and we reply on behalf of both of us. Be friendly!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When I message a couple I don't assume that it's the male online, I just think maybe for some guys it's a respect thing. Or maybe by addressing the male in the relationship first it's a way of getting his blessing to enter there relationship. I maybe completely wrong and sexist there but I'm new to swinging. Btw I'm not sexist.

Unfortunately that is a sexist attitude that many single guys have. It always results in us blocking them. The archaic presumption of 'ownership' really has no place in modern society. Rant over!

We expect messages to address us as a couple and we reply on behalf of both of us. Be friendly!!"

Yea we find it a lot a lot of prusumption she is on here more than me but always address me , and say would your Mrs wanna meet us ,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (female) run our couple profile and discuss with OH any potential meets. Both happy with how it works. It has always been this way and always will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say 80% is me the male that answers the mail as I have more time but if Donna looks and there's mail she will answer it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get the complete opposite! People assume it is S (f) online.

The majority of the time it is but I hate the assumption that it is. Catch me in a bad mood and u get a sarky response.

The most annoying ones are the first message asking who is online. I uses to say me but could guarantee it would be a bloke wanting to talk dirty.

Very rarely do we receive messages directed at both of us.

S x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"We get the complete opposite! People assume it is S (f) online.

The majority of the time it is but I hate the assumption that it is. Catch me in a bad mood and u get a sarky response.

The most annoying ones are the first message asking who is online. I uses to say me but could guarantee it would be a bloke wanting to talk dirty.

Very rarely do we receive messages directed at both of us.

S x"

Think everytime we make contact we address them as "hey guys , or hey you two , " at the end of the day it's a couple so could be either

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley

Interesting one this.

In a mail and on first saying hello within a chat room, I always begin by presuming I am addressing both people.

Those I already know, often take the sensible and subtle step of letting you know if they are on their own with a "mate" dropped into the answer if it's him or a "x" kiss if it's her.

I suppose it's just a common social courtesy as it avoids asking her how the game was at the weekend, when he's the season ticket holder or carrying on a chat with him which takes up where you and she keft off last time. After all, being a couple doesn't mean having a shared consciousness like some alien species in sci-fi!

When it comes to people you don't know in chat, then sometimes you just have to ask.

If people have been chatting for a while to others, it can at times be obvious who's there, but if not a simple question, hopefully shouldn't cause offence.

It is all about social exchanges after all and if couple are to be seen as equal individuals then it helps others to know which or both of those individuals youare talking to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I message a couple I don't assume that it's the male online, I just think maybe for some guys it's a respect thing. Or maybe by addressing the male in the relationship first it's a way of getting his blessing to enter there relationship. I maybe completely wrong and sexist there but I'm new to swinging. Btw

Unfortunately that is a sexist attitude that many single guys have. It always results in us blocking them. The archaic presumption of 'ownership' really has no place in modern society. Rant over!

We expect messages to address us as a couple and we reply on behalf of both of us. Be friendly!!"

I agree completely it is wrong to adress just the male I can't believe we still live in a sexist world. I always have respect for couples as couples male and female

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I message a couple I don't assume that it's the male online, I just think maybe for some guys it's a respect thing. Or maybe by addressing the male in the relationship first it's a way of getting his blessing to enter there relationship. I maybe completely wrong and sexist there but I'm new to swinging. Btw I'm not sexist.

Unfortunately that is a sexist attitude that many single guys have. It always results in us blocking them. The archaic presumption of 'ownership' really has no place in modern society. Rant over!

We expect messages to address us as a couple and we reply on behalf of both of us. Be friendly!!"

totally agree

We are equals in this relationship. The idea that by approaching me someone is showing respect is totally misguided and just shows a lack of respect towards crystal.

Any message that doesn't address us as a couple is ignored. And any initial replies are always deliberately ambiguous as to who is writing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

always address an opening message to the couple as a pair, as best i can anyway, then any response is offered based on the tone of any further message.

if its tagged from both, then as crystalwheels have said, i try to keep it ambiguous.

if its tagged from one or the other, then i address them personally.

have found it is mostly the guy messaging, but being honest, wouldnt make a difference which partner was as i dont flirt or message about sexual acts anyway.

its crude

would rather just organise to do it in real rather than talk about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've never meet a couple but would love too, but that's new to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never meet a couple but would love too, but that's new to me "

Me neither

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple it's pretty much 50/50 who's online or replies to messages, have to say it annoys Paul more then Ann if they assume it's just one of us ( we normally get the messages addressed to Ann ) and if it's a opening message it's either ignored or a polite message reminding them it's a couples profile

If we get chatting Paul does end up putting his name at the end of messages just so they know

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

I (Mrs) spend far more time online than Mr purely because I have more free time. Been accused of pretending to be the female a few times which just makes me laugh more than anything.

But I won't reply to messages without him first reading them and us discussing it. (unless it is something silly or to do with the forums)

We are a couple and are in this together. No one is in charge, we both have an equal say!

Messages that are addressed to only one of us will often just be ignored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We always get straight males thinking they are talking to the female half most of the time its the male half and no matter how many hints he puts in saying stuff like mate or she's not with me atm they still put babe and hun and kisses they get the reply so your bi then which is always answered no it always makes us laugh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people always presume its the female online. always used to get message saying hey sexy and wow your fit..imagine what i think when i read them..thanks cheers :D lol

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"When I message a couple I don't assume that it's the male online, I just think maybe for some guys it's a respect thing. Or maybe by addressing the male in the relationship first it's a way of getting his blessing to enter there relationship. I maybe completely wrong and sexist there but I'm new to swinging. Btw I'm not sexist."

You have revealed yourself as sexist by assuming you need the man's permission to enter the relationship. Successful swinging couples enter into it mutually and neither of them hand the power to the other one (except by mutual consent in some situations).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lol I'm not sexist as I said as a man I can see how other men think. You don't know me so how can you say I'm sexist ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol I'm not sexist as I said as a man I can see how other men think. You don't know me so how can you say I'm sexist ??"

No you don;t know how other men think, you just assume that other men have the same sexist attitude that you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol I'm not sexist as I said as a man I can see how other men think. You don't know me so how can you say I'm sexist ??"

Also, you have posted earlier on the thread that you have yet to meet a couple. And several couples have publically disagreed with your post. Yet you claim that you know how other males minds work... Can you see where I'm going with this?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to be fair meeting couples is far to complicated, no matter how you go about messaging them your always going to piss one off, if you address the male first your disrespecting the female, if you address the female your ignoring the male, i'm just getting far to old to be arsed with the complications of meeting couples anymore

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By *et a roomCouple
over a year ago

Leeds

You said ' Or maybe by addressing the male in the relationship first it's a way of getting his blessing to enter there relationship. '

That's probably what suggested a sexist attitude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Way to twist things guys. I was suggesting this as a possible reason but clearly I don't know couples ay so won't bother next time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol I'm not sexist as I said as a man I can see how other men think. You don't know me so how can you say I'm sexist ??

Also, you have posted earlier on the thread that you have yet to meet a couple. And several couples have publically disagreed with your post. Yet you claim that you know how other males minds work... Can you see where I'm going with this?"

Hang on you agreed with me earlier now your against me calling me sexist?? Make ur mind up

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Lol I'm not sexist as I said as a man I can see how other men think. You don't know me so how can you say I'm sexist ??"

I see, I misunderstood and thought that you were saying that was what you thought. Apologies if that's the case

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I message a couple I don't assume that it's the male online, I just think maybe for some guys it's a respect thing. Or maybe by addressing the male in the relationship first it's a way of getting his blessing to enter there relationship. I maybe completely wrong and sexist there but I'm new to swinging. Btw I'm not sexist.

You have revealed yourself as sexist by assuming you need the man's permission to enter the relationship. Successful swinging couples enter into it mutually and neither of them hand the power to the other one (except by mutual consent in some situations). "

in the perfect world of perfect swinging that can be true.unfortunately, I agree somewhat with the quotees 'sexism'(I think it was just poorly chosen wordage)

Understand iot from a single males point of u and u discover a whole new depth to meeting cpls...u can either have a great relaxed male half, or a great but pushy(either to his partner or the male), I've sat slightly embarrassed on meets in the past where the female half was expected to dance.........by her HUSBAND!

This is when the male half tries to dictate how we should all react basically telling us in hidden meaning "my wife is sexy now all get ur cocks hard"

Of course we as single males seek consent from the male half in probably 90% of meets with cpls..whether its verbal or physical acknowledgement.

We are in most of the time(if respectful single males) in fear that we will do something wrong and upset the male half....OF course I will have made my intent clear I might like to play with the female half directly with her(some kisses wanks n bjs help the pace lol)-

but as males(females get away with it ever so much easier(for example grabbing what they want without much backlash)surely its understandable we dont just try getting it on without some form of consent from the male half.

I think alot of couples are more contradictory to how they play than they think they are

I honestly dont know how all that isnt hard to wrok out

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"When I message a couple I don't assume that it's the male online, I just think maybe for some guys it's a respect thing. Or maybe by addressing the male in the relationship first it's a way of getting his blessing to enter there relationship. I maybe completely wrong and sexist there but I'm new to swinging. Btw I'm not sexist.

You have revealed yourself as sexist by assuming you need the man's permission to enter the relationship. Successful swinging couples enter into it mutually and neither of them hand the power to the other one (except by mutual consent in some situations).

in the perfect world of perfect swinging that can be true.unfortunately, I agree somewhat with the quotees 'sexism'(I think it was just poorly chosen wordage)

Understand iot from a single males point of u and u discover a whole new depth to meeting cpls...u can either have a great relaxed male half, or a great but pushy(either to his partner or the male), I've sat slightly embarrassed on meets in the past where the female half was expected to dance.........by her HUSBAND!

This is when the male half tries to dictate how we should all react basically telling us in hidden meaning "my wife is sexy now all get ur cocks hard"

Of course we as single males seek consent from the male half in probably 90% of meets with cpls..whether its verbal or physical acknowledgement.

We are in most of the time(if respectful single males) in fear that we will do something wrong and upset the male half....OF course I will have made my intent clear I might like to play with the female half directly with her(some kisses wanks n bjs help the pace lol)-

but as males(females get away with it ever so much easier(for example grabbing what they want without much backlash)surely its understandable we dont just try getting it on without some form of consent from the male half.

I think alot of couples are more contradictory to how they play than they think they are

I honestly dont know how all that isnt hard to wrok out

"

Yes I agree with most of this that's why I deliberately used the tern "successful swinging couples" and I understand it must be an absolute minefield for single men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol I'm not sexist as I said as a man I can see how other men think. You don't know me so how can you say I'm sexist ??

Also, you have posted earlier on the thread that you have yet to meet a couple. And several couples have publically disagreed with your post. Yet you claim that you know how other males minds work... Can you see where I'm going with this?

Hang on you agreed with me earlier now your against me calling me sexist?? Make ur mind up "

I agreed with Born to Perform's post which was, as I read it, disagreeing with your earlier post about approaching the male.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I the fem do so much more on line as he wants me to choose then he gets involved just before a meet. We wouldn't meet a couple unless they were both completely ok with everything not into doing things just to please the other half it's just not right x

It is confining n hard tho sometimes cos I'm bi fem so need to be attracted to male and female in a couple to play lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol I'm not sexist as I said as a man I can see how other men think. You don't know me so how can you say I'm sexist ??

Also, you have posted earlier on the thread that you have yet to meet a couple. And several couples have publically disagreed with your post. Yet you claim that you know how other males minds work... Can you see where I'm going with this?

Hang on you agreed with me earlier now your against me calling me sexist?? Make ur mind up "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I message a couple I don't assume that it's the male online, I just think maybe for some guys it's a respect thing. Or maybe by addressing the male in the relationship first it's a way of getting his blessing to enter there relationship. I maybe completely wrong and sexist there but I'm new to swinging. Btw I'm not sexist.

You have revealed yourself as sexist by assuming you need the man's permission to enter the relationship. Successful swinging couples enter into it mutually and neither of them hand the power to the other one (except by mutual consent in some situations).

in the perfect world of perfect swinging that can be true.unfortunately, I agree somewhat with the quotees 'sexism'(I think it was just poorly chosen wordage)

Understand iot from a single males point of u and u discover a whole new depth to meeting cpls...u can either have a great relaxed male half, or a great but pushy(either to his partner or the male), I've sat slightly embarrassed on meets in the past where the female half was expected to dance.........by her HUSBAND!

This is when the male half tries to dictate how we should all react basically telling us in hidden meaning "my wife is sexy now all get ur cocks hard"

Of course we as single males seek consent from the male half in probably 90% of meets with cpls..whether its verbal or physical acknowledgement.

We are in most of the time(if respectful single males) in fear that we will do something wrong and upset the male half....OF course I will have made my intent clear I might like to play with the female half directly with her(some kisses wanks n bjs help the pace lol)-

but as males(females get away with it ever so much easier(for example grabbing what they want without much backlash)surely its understandable we dont just try getting it on without some form of consent from the male half.

I think alot of couples are more contradictory to how they play than they think they are

I honestly dont know how all that isnt hard to wrok out

"

Exactly my point fella you have just worded a lot better then me thanks for coming to my rescue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When I message a couple I don't assume that it's the male online, I just think maybe for some guys it's a respect thing. Or maybe by addressing the male in the relationship first it's a way of getting his blessing to enter there relationship. I maybe completely wrong and sexist there but I'm new to swinging. Btw I'm not sexist.

You have revealed yourself as sexist by assuming you need the man's permission to enter the relationship. Successful swinging couples enter into it mutually and neither of them hand the power to the other one (except by mutual consent in some situations).

in the perfect world of perfect swinging that can be true.unfortunately, I agree somewhat with the quotees 'sexism'(I think it was just poorly chosen wordage)

Understand iot from a single males point of u and u discover a whole new depth to meeting cpls...u can either have a great relaxed male half, or a great but pushy(either to his partner or the male), I've sat slightly embarrassed on meets in the past where the female half was expected to dance.........by her HUSBAND!

This is when the male half tries to dictate how we should all react basically telling us in hidden meaning "my wife is sexy now all get ur cocks hard"

Of course we as single males seek consent from the male half in probably 90% of meets with cpls..whether its verbal or physical acknowledgement.

We are in most of the time(if respectful single males) in fear that we will do something wrong and upset the male half....OF course I will have made my intent clear I might like to play with the female half directly with her(some kisses wanks n bjs help the pace lol)-

but as males(females get away with it ever so much easier(for example grabbing what they want without much backlash)surely its understandable we dont just try getting it on without some form of consent from the male half.

I think alot of couples are more contradictory to how they play than they think they are

I honestly dont know how all that isnt hard to wrok out

Exactly my point fella you have just worded a lot better then me thanks for coming to my rescue "

now...............can i fuck ur wife?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol I'm not sexist as I said as a man I can see how other men think. You don't know me so how can you say I'm sexist ??

I see, I misunderstood and thought that you were saying that was what you thought. Apologies if that's the case"

Thanks

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales

We always address initial messages to both parts of the couple and sign it from us both. Once conversation has started or if it's someone we know then we message individually.

We have noticed that there are many profiles where it's just the guy messaging though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We both send mails and always address the couple together, not just one of them. We sign mails from both of us so get replies to both of us.

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By *uestandpinkCouple
over a year ago

Northampton

There are so many guys of couples that dont get the picture that you come as a package....not just to fulfill his fantasy with his wife etc. You get a feeling for these guys pretty quick in the way they word their messages as they get more confident

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"There are so many guys of couples that dont get the picture that you come as a package....not just to fulfill his fantasy with his wife etc. You get a feeling for these guys pretty quick in the way they word their messages as they get more confident"

my wife says she wants to lick that, she's just popped out for the night though..honest.I asked her what she thought of Mr, she shrugged her shoulders...she is a bit femsexist

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

As with anything it is not an exact science. All couples are different , what offends one does not offend another.

So with that in mind it would be nice if couples made it clearer as to which of them is in conversation when talking to others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As with anything it is not an exact science. All couples are different , what offends one does not offend another.

So with that in mind it would be nice if couples made it clearer as to which of them is in conversation when talking to others."

Why would knowing who you're talking to make any difference to causing them offence? If its a couple's profile, you should address them as a couple to show them both respect.

We have had couples and single men who, as soon as they realise it is me messaging, turn crass, crude and downright disgusting. I do not feel comfortable engaging in dirty talk via messaging as that, to me, feels like I am excluding 2wheels and attempting I engage me in dirty talk is, in my opinion, disrespectful to him.

crystal

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"As with anything it is not an exact science. All couples are different , what offends one does not offend another.

So with that in mind it would be nice if couples made it clearer as to which of them is in conversation when talking to others.

Why would knowing who you're talking to make any difference to causing them offence? If its a couple's profile, you should address them as a couple to show them both respect.

We have had couples and single men who, as soon as they realise it is me messaging, turn crass, crude and downright disgusting. I do not feel comfortable engaging in dirty talk via messaging as that, to me, feels like I am excluding 2wheels and attempting I engage me in dirty talk is, in my opinion, disrespectful to him.

crystal"

This!

If you're engaging in conversation with a couple - treat them as such. You wouldn't arrive at a meet (social or otherwise) and blank one half so why do the same via message?

Any message aimed at just one of us gets deleted instantly. Or a sarcastic reply from me in the case of "nice tits love" messages, before a swift block!

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Proberbly 85% the male off the couple puts advert on and chats to sort a meet out i would also say 85% the reason being on here is because the idea came from the guy too

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By *bi HaiveMan
Forum Mod

over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"Proberbly 85% the male off the couple puts advert on and chats to sort a meet out i would also say 85% the reason being on here is because the idea came from the guy too "

You do know 85% of statistics are made up!

And that's 100% factually true!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"As with anything it is not an exact science. All couples are different , what offends one does not offend another.

So with that in mind it would be nice if couples made it clearer as to which of them is in conversation when talking to others."

Yes I agree. It is often but not always me who responds to messages (Mrs. N) and after initial contact with a single man it can be difficult for them to know which of us it is of we use the first person. I'll try and make sure I sign off as myself in future.

L

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod

over a year ago

East Sussex


"Proberbly 85% the male off the couple puts advert on and chats to sort a meet out i would also say 85% the reason being on here is because the idea came from the guy too "

That hasn't been our experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yesterday I offered a date for a meet, all going ok.

But no just another male half wanting a wank.

Too many mmmmm is a giveaway.

I stopped messaging for a bit, but no there are decent people out there.

Nette

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It has to be a joint decision for us.

When we meet a couple it's important that we all get on.

If I don't like the guy there's no way he's getting near my wife, and the same goes for Kate and the lady.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use to be a single girl on fab and what keen and tatattoo said about guys is not much different for female singles. as a girl u worry about excluding the guy if there is too much girl play or if there is too much play with the guy will the other girl get jealous. Meet couples is a minefield as a single. But as a couple I am truly glad some do you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It has to be a joint decision for us.

When we meet a couple it's important that we all get on.

If I don't like the guy there's no way he's getting near my wife, and the same goes for Kate and the lady.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"It has to be a joint decision for us.

When we meet a couple it's important that we all get on.

If I don't like the guy there's no way he's getting near my wife, and the same goes for Kate and the lady.

"

Yes we all have to get on too that's why it's so damn difficult, same with single men of Mr doesn't like them and I do it's no go.

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

My preference for meeting couples is precisely because I am planning to meet two people. More often that not the husband and wife have a slightly different slant on things so it's good to hear from both. Besides which I don't want to end my chats with hubby with an xxx as it could mislead lol


"As with anything it is not an exact science. All couples are different , what offends one does not offend another.

So with that in mind it would be nice if couples made it clearer as to which of them is in conversation when talking to others.

Why would knowing who you're talking to make any difference to causing them offence? If its a couple's profile, you should address them as a couple to show them both respect.

We have had couples and single men who, as soon as they realise it is me messaging, turn crass, crude and downright disgusting. I do not feel comfortable engaging in dirty talk via messaging as that, to me, feels like I am excluding 2wheels and attempting I engage me in dirty talk is, in my opinion, disrespectful to him.

crystal"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I use to be a single girl on fab and what keen and tatattoo said about guys is not much different for female singles. as a girl u worry about excluding the guy if there is too much girl play or if there is too much play with the guy will the other girl get jealous. Meet couples is a minefield as a single. But as a couple I am truly glad some do you "

fancy a fuck?(I'm asking u both...)

*Mrs for the fuck

*Mr for the consent

Hope that clears up the intent lol

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london


"I use to be a single girl on fab and what keen and tatattoo said about guys is not much different for female singles. as a girl u worry about excluding the guy if there is too much girl play or if there is too much play with the guy will the other girl get jealous. Meet couples is a minefield as a single. But as a couple I am truly glad some do you

fancy a fuck?(I'm asking u both...)

*Mrs for the fuck

*Mr for the consent

Hope that clears up the intent lol "

lolololol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks but I will decline your nice offer (mrs) xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks but I will decline your nice offer (mrs) xx"

can u verify by phonecall this is actually the Mrs that typed that?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No as you newd to remember the word to type me a message to show you read profile and send a face pic even though I wont and jump through a thousand hoops you are a single guy on here you know (now where is that tongue in cheek smiley, before someone thinks I am serious) xx

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By *bi HaiveMan
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over a year ago

Cheeseville, Somerset


"No as you newd to remember the word to type me a message to show you read profile and send a face pic even though I wont and jump through a thousand hoops you are a single guy on here you know (now where is that tongue in cheek smiley, before someone thinks I am serious) xx "

It's obviously the male half Paddy!

A

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

99% of the time it is me Fran on line, most of our friends know this.

if a new person messages us and addresses the message to Fran, and it is a bit too naughty I will pretend I am Ant, have had some good laughs doing this

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over a year ago


"No as you newd to remember the word to type me a message to show you read profile and send a face pic even though I wont and jump through a thousand hoops you are a single guy on here you know (now where is that tongue in cheek smiley, before someone thinks I am serious) xx "

see, you may well be saying it as tongue in cheek, but i really dont see these hoops people talk about.

you read a profile that seems more hassle than no, so just click out of it.

we have had some really creative messages that have really made us laugh, just from people we dont fancy, which is a shame

no hoops

no bullshit

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

we don't bull shit, we don't set up hoops but we do get messages from men who's requirements are much different to ours but view that as us being difficult. We also get men who claim that they will adapt to suit us that's them setting their own hoops up.

However the vast majority of our messages come from nice, decent guys who just want a but of fun

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even when I say it's me mailing and not him, I still don't get any dirty filthy messages on our couples account. I'm really offended now.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Even when I say it's me mailing and not him, I still don't get any dirty filthy messages on our couples account. I'm really offended now.

"

Just like how many woman say to the guys come on let's go down the pub and watch the match with a few beers with the lads ....not many.

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley


"No as you newd to remember the word to type me a message to show you read profile and send a face pic even though I wont and jump through a thousand hoops you are a single guy on here you know (now where is that tongue in cheek smiley, before someone thinks I am serious) xx "
pmsl

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By *arnaclebillMan
over a year ago

Robin Hood County


"Hi guys , just a quick one we have noticed since been on here that most people who message always presume that it is the man who is online all the time , and always say you think your Mrs would be up for a meet she is on here more than me and have been called aliar on more than one occasion that it's actually her on line , do a lot of the men out ofthe ccouple's do all the talking on here ?

Also when going to meet a couple do you look at the hole package and not just the lady ? We spend a lot of time browsing and if the lady was for instace Sarah michelle Gellar ( my fantasy) and say Roy chubby Brown the meet wouldn't happen. But get a lot of.messages saying your Mrs is stunning even tho it's her on line and would we like to meet surely they has to be an attraction on both the man and woman , we are what we are I don't class my self as skinny and have a 10" Dick when to befair I wouldn't want it ,

Wow you can tell I am bored at work "

I don't presume anything. If I send a message to a couple, I assume that both will read it before making up their minds whether to meet or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always start a chat with hi guys

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