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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Ok we have swapped n I enjoy watching Dempsey with other women, licking them, fucking them however, lol I don't like him kissing? He has done porn n I loved watching, shame it was on DVD n I couldn't b there to join in!! But when I saw him kiss them I thought it was too personal.

Don't mind sharing but I want those kisses for myself? Am I selfish?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope... You choose what is right for you. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No you're not selfish at all. Your rules are your rules, whatever makes you happy. x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No not at all we find kissing a personal thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own. I love kissing find it a real turn on so I do kiss others

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, I wouldnt like it either. Would have to be agreed as well, if i was in a couple that is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own of course and i respect that. But, i can't get my head round it. A lot of people say this on their profile. I just don't get it.

They're okay with him fucking someone else but not kissing. I thought the fucking would at least be a bit more personal than the kissing.

...for me, i need to kiss. Kissing is what gets me going. May not be everyones cup of tea. But, it sure as hell is mine.

But, if that's your preference and your boundaries. Then, whoever you meet will respect that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok we have swapped n I enjoy watching Dempsey with other women, licking them, fucking them however, lol I don't like him kissing? He has done porn n I loved watching, shame it was on DVD n I couldn't b there to join in!! But when I saw him kiss them I thought it was too personal.

Don't mind sharing but I want those kisses for myself? Am I selfish? "
if as done porn when he is kissing them its all a act and means nothing to him at the end of the day just think who he is going home with and im sure he kisses u different to them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Great replies coming through guys xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Great replies coming through guys xx "

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By *ndercover2016Couple
over a year ago

turriff

We feel the same way. .... suppose it is strange not to mind fucking but not kissing. ..but that's for us only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Each to their own of course and i respect that. But, i can't get my head round it. A lot of people say this on their profile. I just don't get it.

They're okay with him fucking someone else but not kissing. I thought the fucking would at least be a bit more personal than the kissing.

...for me, i need to kiss. Kissing is what gets me going. May not be everyones cup of tea. But, it sure as hell is mine.

But, if that's your preference and your boundaries. Then, whoever you meet will respect that."

I suppose it's about asking what is it about kissing that arouses you so much? Is it a purely physical sensation or is it because it's something that engages your senses? What is it about it that really gets you going?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh God I couldn't meet if I couldn't kiss but that's just me ...but we all have our own rules and boundaries x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love kissing, it does raise the level of intimacy and sensuality in a meet. As such it is a massive turn on. But I can understand some couples wish to keep it for themselves just like some only soft swing.

I would feel something was missing if there was no kissing....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A meet with no kissing would do nothing for us . N9 build up , straight into far more intimate stuff .... no thanks .

We would be a bit worried about the couples insecurity issues too .

In answer to the ops question - if he is happy to see you kissing then yes you are being selfish .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We love to watch one another kissing other's when we meet. It makes it so much more erotic if I see Mrs Shy passionately kissing a girl or guy whilst fucking them and she feels the same when im with another lady

We used to have a no kissing rule, but it's so hard to not kiss when having sex we find and when your trying to stop your natural instincts during play can sometimes be an anti-climax.

But like everything, it's down to the individual and what makes them comfortable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Each to their own of course and i respect that. But, i can't get my head round it. A lot of people say this on their profile. I just don't get it.

They're okay with him fucking someone else but not kissing. I thought the fucking would at least be a bit more personal than the kissing.

...for me, i need to kiss. Kissing is what gets me going. May not be everyones cup of tea. But, it sure as hell is mine.

But, if that's your preference and your boundaries. Then, whoever you meet will respect that.

I suppose it's about asking what is it about kissing that arouses you so much? Is it a purely physical sensation or is it because it's something that engages your senses? What is it about it that really gets you going?"

You know. That is a really good question. A lot of people ask me what turns me on. And i realy don't know - with different people, it's been different things. But, kissing has always done it for me.

I think it engages my senses as you said. The thought that she wants me and her lust/desire is expressed through the kisses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with Lee I love to kiss when playing a big turn on for me Halo xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Each to their own of course and i respect that. But, i can't get my head round it. A lot of people say this on their profile. I just don't get it.

They're okay with him fucking someone else but not kissing. I thought the fucking would at least be a bit more personal than the kissing.

...for me, i need to kiss. Kissing is what gets me going. May not be everyones cup of tea. But, it sure as hell is mine.

But, if that's your preference and your boundaries. Then, whoever you meet will respect that.

I suppose it's about asking what is it about kissing that arouses you so much? Is it a purely physical sensation or is it because it's something that engages your senses? What is it about it that really gets you going?

You know. That is a really good question. A lot of people ask me what turns me on. And i realy don't know - with different people, it's been different things. But, kissing has always done it for me.

I think it engages my senses as you said. The thought that she wants me and her lust/desire is expressed through the kisses.

"

So if it's that way for you...is it really such a stretch to imagine it's that way for others too...sex can be pleasurable purely for the mechanics of it...kissing is pure sensuality and intimacy for me...not always something I want to share with a stranger I've met from the internet...

If I met one on one then it would be an absolute must but as a couple, it really isn't necessary for me...it's not entirely off the table but not a given

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Each to their own of course and i respect that. But, i can't get my head round it. A lot of people say this on their profile. I just don't get it.

They're okay with him fucking someone else but not kissing. I thought the fucking would at least be a bit more personal than the kissing.

...for me, i need to kiss. Kissing is what gets me going. May not be everyones cup of tea. But, it sure as hell is mine.

But, if that's your preference and your boundaries. Then, whoever you meet will respect that.

I suppose it's about asking what is it about kissing that arouses you so much? Is it a purely physical sensation or is it because it's something that engages your senses? What is it about it that really gets you going?

You know. That is a really good question. A lot of people ask me what turns me on. And i realy don't know - with different people, it's been different things. But, kissing has always done it for me.

I think it engages my senses as you said. The thought that she wants me and her lust/desire is expressed through the kisses.

So if it's that way for you...is it really such a stretch to imagine it's that way for others too...sex can be pleasurable purely for the mechanics of it...kissing is pure sensuality and intimacy for me...not always something I want to share with a stranger I've met from the internet...

If I met one on one then it would be an absolute must but as a couple, it really isn't necessary for me...it's not entirely off the table but not a given"

So, would you not consider sex to be sensual or intimate as well then just like kissing? Or is it in another spectrum for you?

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By *s louWoman
over a year ago

Enniskillen


"Each to their own of course and i respect that. But, i can't get my head round it. A lot of people say this on their profile. I just don't get it.

They're okay with him fucking someone else but not kissing. I thought the fucking would at least be a bit more personal than the kissing.

...for me, i need to kiss. Kissing is what gets me going. May not be everyones cup of tea. But, it sure as hell is mine.

But, if that's your preference and your boundaries. Then, whoever you meet will respect that."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Each to their own of course and i respect that. But, i can't get my head round it. A lot of people say this on their profile. I just don't get it.

They're okay with him fucking someone else but not kissing. I thought the fucking would at least be a bit more personal than the kissing.

...for me, i need to kiss. Kissing is what gets me going. May not be everyones cup of tea. But, it sure as hell is mine.

But, if that's your preference and your boundaries. Then, whoever you meet will respect that.

I suppose it's about asking what is it about kissing that arouses you so much? Is it a purely physical sensation or is it because it's something that engages your senses? What is it about it that really gets you going?

You know. That is a really good question. A lot of people ask me what turns me on. And i realy don't know - with different people, it's been different things. But, kissing has always done it for me.

I think it engages my senses as you said. The thought that she wants me and her lust/desire is expressed through the kisses.

So if it's that way for you...is it really such a stretch to imagine it's that way for others too...sex can be pleasurable purely for the mechanics of it...kissing is pure sensuality and intimacy for me...not always something I want to share with a stranger I've met from the internet...

If I met one on one then it would be an absolute must but as a couple, it really isn't necessary for me...it's not entirely off the table but not a given

So, would you not consider sex to be sensual or intimate as well then just like kissing? Or is it in another spectrum for you?

"

Absolutely...I'm a massively sensual person but that's something for my partner not generally with meets...it's an extra dimension to our sex life...but we like to preserve some intimacies for ourselves...even if sex was absolutely safe, bareback would be another we'd keep special as well...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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So, would you not consider sex to be sensual or intimate as well then just like kissing? Or is it in another spectrum for you?

"

Id say sex can often be good without the sensuality... But I have specific issues related to kissing.. yet I have been converted somewhat but not really with random guys.. oh and a while other thread would be that not many guys I've tried kissing with this past few months can kiss for toffee.. although I have been spoilt with a kissing expert lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope. We feel exactly the same, it's our golden rule & we stick to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Each to their own of course and i respect that. But, i can't get my head round it. A lot of people say this on their profile. I just don't get it.

They're okay with him fucking someone else but not kissing. I thought the fucking would at least be a bit more personal than the kissing.

...for me, i need to kiss. Kissing is what gets me going. May not be everyones cup of tea. But, it sure as hell is mine.

But, if that's your preference and your boundaries. Then, whoever you meet will respect that.

I suppose it's about asking what is it about kissing that arouses you so much? Is it a purely physical sensation or is it because it's something that engages your senses? What is it about it that really gets you going?

You know. That is a really good question. A lot of people ask me what turns me on. And i realy don't know - with different people, it's been different things. But, kissing has always done it for me.

I think it engages my senses as you said. The thought that she wants me and her lust/desire is expressed through the kisses.

So if it's that way for you...is it really such a stretch to imagine it's that way for others too...sex can be pleasurable purely for the mechanics of it...kissing is pure sensuality and intimacy for me...not always something I want to share with a stranger I've met from the internet...

If I met one on one then it would be an absolute must but as a couple, it really isn't necessary for me...it's not entirely off the table but not a given

So, would you not consider sex to be sensual or intimate as well then just like kissing? Or is it in another spectrum for you?

Absolutely...I'm a massively sensual person but that's something for my partner not generally with meets...it's an extra dimension to our sex life...but we like to preserve some intimacies for ourselves...even if sex was absolutely safe, bareback would be another we'd keep special as well..."

Okay, now that makes sense. The fact that some things you just want to keep between yourselves.

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By *ocoTemptationMan
over a year ago

london

I think it depends on the context. For example, in a gangbang there is generally no sense of intimacy just raw untamed lust so I don't imagine a no kissing rule as being a problem here.

When two couples meet and speaking from past experience finding two couples that are equally attracted to each other can often be challenging to put it mildly. When there is an imbalance of attraction things can get a bit uncomfortable lol. So here again I see the merit of a no kissing rule on perhaps the first meet between couples.

However as a single guy nothing puts me off more than the no kissing rule so I make a point of finding out beforehand. There are a multitude of reasons why the no kissing rule makes sense and the logical part of my brain understands that but I would hate to walk away from a meet feeling like a prop or tolerated rather than embraced.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We love to watch one another kissing other's when we meet. It makes it so much more erotic if I see Mrs Shy passionately kissing a girl or guy whilst fucking them and she feels the same when im with another lady

We used to have a no kissing rule, but it's so hard to not kiss when having sex we find and when your trying to stop your natural instincts during play can sometimes be an anti-climax.

But like everything, it's down to the individual and what makes them comfortable "

That's exactly the same for us too !

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By *ORNY_DEVIL_SEEKERSCouple
over a year ago

Basildon Essex

We enjoy kissing when meeting couples as it feels very horny to us but also respect some couples have certain things like kissing whats just for them now does any one want a kiss

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't want sex from a person I didn't enjoy kissing.

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

Gran Canaria

As with everything it's all down to what you want and what you are happy with as a couple.

We have our own rules and in the end they are our rules not anyone elses.

I get the not kissing as we had that rule for a while.

I think people mistake an increase in sexual activity, with an increase in intimacy.

There is nothing more intimate for us than a lovely quiet romantic meal with just the two of us.

I would be far more annoyed to know that my wife had been out for a romantic date with someone, than I would about her shaking her ass on a night out with the girls and flirting with others.

One is far more sexual than the other. But the romantic meal is far more intimate.

Whilst some people can separate out intimacy (as a couple) and kissing.

Others can not.

It's not a judgement it's just the way some people are wired.

It's like saying why will you kiss a woman but not a man to a straight guy. It's just the way they are wired and saying logically they are the same, will not make any difference.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Each to their own of course and i respect that. But, i can't get my head round it. A lot of people say this on their profile. I just don't get it.

They're okay with him fucking someone else but not kissing. I thought the fucking would at least be a bit more personal than the kissing.

...for me, i need to kiss. Kissing is what gets me going. May not be everyones cup of tea. But, it sure as hell is mine.

But, if that's your preference and your boundaries. Then, whoever you meet will respect that.

I suppose it's about asking what is it about kissing that arouses you so much? Is it a purely physical sensation or is it because it's something that engages your senses? What is it about it that really gets you going?

You know. That is a really good question. A lot of people ask me what turns me on. And i realy don't know - with different people, it's been different things. But, kissing has always done it for me.

I think it engages my senses as you said. The thought that she wants me and her lust/desire is expressed through the kisses.

So if it's that way for you...is it really such a stretch to imagine it's that way for others too...sex can be pleasurable purely for the mechanics of it...kissing is pure sensuality and intimacy for me...not always something I want to share with a stranger I've met from the internet...

If I met one on one then it would be an absolute must but as a couple, it really isn't necessary for me...it's not entirely off the table but not a given

So, would you not consider sex to be sensual or intimate as well then just like kissing? Or is it in another spectrum for you?

Absolutely...I'm a massively sensual person but that's something for my partner not generally with meets...it's an extra dimension to our sex life...but we like to preserve some intimacies for ourselves...even if sex was absolutely safe, bareback would be another we'd keep special as well..."

That's it, I want to keep something for me n if we want to kiss we kiss each other throughout, sex is fun, kissing defo to me is intimate x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"As with everything it's all down to what you want and what you are happy with as a couple.

We have our own rules and in the end they are our rules not anyone elses.

I get the not kissing as we had that rule for a while.

I think people mistake an increase in sexual activity, with an increase in intimacy.

There is nothing more intimate for us than a lovely quiet romantic meal with just the two of us.

I would be far more annoyed to know that my wife had been out for a romantic date with someone, than I would about her shaking her ass on a night out with the girls and flirting with others.

One is far more sexual than the other. But the romantic meal is far more intimate.

Whilst some people can separate out intimacy (as a couple) and kissing.

Others can not.

It's not a judgement it's just the way some people are wired.

It's like saying why will you kiss a woman but not a man to a straight guy. It's just the way they are wired and saying logically they are the same, will not make any difference.

I do however, kiss woman n he likes that, I don't want to kiss other men so think he shouldn't kiss woman, think this is our only boundary apart from we only play together n in the same room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't dream of meeting anyone if they didn't kiss as that's what gets me going in the first place. Having said that I'm single and not part of a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Each to their own of course and i respect that. But, i can't get my head round it. A lot of people say this on their profile. I just don't get it.

They're okay with him fucking someone else but not kissing. I thought the fucking would at least be a bit more personal than the kissing.

...for me, i need to kiss. Kissing is what gets me going. May not be everyones cup of tea. But, it sure as hell is mine.

But, if that's your preference and your boundaries. Then, whoever you meet will respect that."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok we have swapped n I enjoy watching Dempsey with other women, licking them, fucking them however, lol I don't like him kissing? He has done porn n I loved watching, shame it was on DVD n I couldn't b there to join in!! But when I saw him kiss them I thought it was too personal.

Don't mind sharing but I want those kisses for myself? Am I selfish? "

No not selfish at all i think kisses are special between you and the one you love. I only want them for my self.

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