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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

For couples only,

How did you get into swinging?

I've met several, but been unable to find a partner interested. Not one that I clicked with and wanted to live with, anyway.

We're you kinky and open when you met, or did it happen gradually?

Just curious

Pete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we started going on webcam at first just chatting away and putting photos up (different site)

got talking to other couples who told us about clubs and then here we are

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By *randmrsminxyCouple
over a year ago

Gloucester

Bonking in the car in a deserted country lane , Mrs Minxy said someones watching ( there was no one there ) but it turned me on . So we went from there to here

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By *stwoforfun2Couple
over a year ago

South Suffolk Area

We got involved through friends, a night out where three girls went for it and shocked the guys. We moved it on after watching a c4 show about swinging and visited Libs in 04

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met through the kink scene. I'm a kinky bitch and he's a swinging tart-together we were bound to continue down the path of deviance and debauchery!

crystal

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By *xxjamCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield

We started slowly when I found my self looking a women in a different way and that was my partner who noticed it and said you sure your not bi an went from there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We got the idea in our heads while talking dirty during a particularly steamy session. The suggestion that someone could be doing something with us or to us while we were in bed got us thinking and it snowballed from there.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

like most other folk we discussed it as a fantasy or 'what if'..

then we discussed it pretty much till we had been over every potential hiccup etc again..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We met through the kink scene. I'm a kinky bitch and he's a swinging tart-together we were bound to continue down the path of deviance and debauchery!

crystal"

Probably should also mention that our 2nd date was at a fet event and you played with 3 other men... Kind of started how we meant to go on!

In all seriousness though we have both been having group sex for years and also been in non-monogamous relationships before so it was hardly a tough decision to make.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We met on here

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon

well for us after 25 years of marriage you start to get to know your partner fairly well and after many 'pillow time chats' and knowing that we are kinkier than your average couple thought we would look for something that would just spice things up a bit . We ended up going to the Birmingham Bizzare Bazzare and really enjoying that and then we went to their afterparty which we saw an event advertised at Xtasia .

and here we are now ,,,, 15 months down the line and having a wonderfull time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"For couples only,

How did you get into swinging?

I've met several, but been unable to find a partner interested. Not one that I clicked with and wanted to live with, anyway.

We're you kinky and open when you met, or did it happen gradually?

Just curious

Pete"

We just decided one day to try it after talking about it for 8 months or so and not looked back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pillow talk after some very heavy session and we simply decided to go to a club.

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By *angerpointCouple
over a year ago

sheffield

We have always had a very sexual relationship and had spoken about what it would be like to have sex with someone else, so when it was my hubbys 40th birthday I asked him what he wanted and jokingly he said a 3sum. So we joined a swinging site and before we knew we had our first meet with another couple. We got very very d*unk and the whole thing was a total disaster in fact our first 3 meets were horrendous but valuable lessons learnt and over 2 years later we are having lots of fun. xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We were very open sexually about past sexual experiences turn ons fantasies ect when first started dating ...I was on a night shift at work and he was home alone we were discussing that I had had a mmf with these guys years before while being single ... he had often thrown into a passionate session that he would like to see me pleasured by other people ... So I knew he liked the idea but always thought it was more sex talk than reality .... Anyway we got talking seriously about it ... And both said we would like to try it ... By the time I had finished my night shift we were

Set up on here .... By the time I got home and into bed we had loads and loads of messages ... That's where it all began ! Not looked back it's been brilliant .And it's topped off our already fantastic sex life x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had a row and she told me to go and get fucked.

Not sure it was what she meant

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We used to have sex on webcam on sites like Chateoulette, Omegle etc. we then made a Twitter account to post kinky pics/vids (@ is in our profile). Then someone on Twitter mentioned Fabswingers so we had a look and after a bit of pillow talk we dove in head first :D

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By *xxjamCouple
over a year ago

Wakefield


"We used to have sex on webcam on sites like Chateoulette, Omegle etc. we then made a Twitter account to post kinky pics/vids (@ is in our profile). Then someone on Twitter mentioned Fabswingers so we had a look and after a bit of pillow talk we dove in head first :D"

think we have seen ya twitter before lol

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.

It was our lass that mentioned it, and here we are.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Over a period of time really, he has been there got the T shirt, but I had not.

So over a course of time lots of talking and him knowing what I wanted ( I was the virgin) he set this up and showed me and here we are.

After two years we finally got there, after being on a site that was mainly for friends, and just ploding along really.

So far we have met some really nice people thanks to this site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My husband mentioned he'd like to try dogging, I appreciated his honesty(after he explained what dogging was...this was 7 years ago tho lol), I tried it after about 6 months and the rest is as they say, history!

We now both have single profiles along with our couples one and we're having lots of fun xx

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Just after we got together he suggested we try a swinger club - something of a fantasy for us both - and we loved it so much we've never stopped. That was 10 years ago and we're glad we had the courage to give swinging a try!

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By *orseydaveMan
over a year ago

Norwich NR5

As a now single, maybe I shouldn't answer, but we got into the scene around 20 years ago, we were on holiday and got friendly with a couple there. One night after too many drinks, my then wife started snogging the guy, so not wanting to be left out I did his wife, next thing I knew we were all shagging. Felt so much guilt next morning, blamed the drink etc and tried to live with it, ie "what happened on holiday, stayed on holiday...", then whilst fucking one night it just came up, and we met other couples through a magazine called Forum. the internet didn't exist then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

watching 3sum porn I asked her if she would try it she said she wasn't sure so I took that as a yes and got a guy to join us at a hotel.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for all your replies.

My own experience has been ... varied.

I secretely crossdressed for years, on alt etc. Came back from Australia travelling, replied to an ad in the local aberdeen paper, met a girl, had some sex nothing kinky, and we mutually split up. About a year later, I was dressed, wig and all, on alt and me and a girl, who I saw on her photos, chatted on cam. She soon realised who i was - that irish guy who smokes menthols (i did then) and we met up - she turned up at my flat with a rubber shet, lots of baby oil and I pissed all over her. we met a few times, but she had got married in the meantime. Weird - how you find out someone is kinky.

After that, I became more honest about my kinks, joined the local fetish scene, met a great dirty girl - did most of my fantasies, but we didn't click day-to-day.

I've had many kinky gfs, but always broke up because the other stuff didn't quite work.

Back on here, just wondering how to make it really work, like I observed with some of the kinky bi couples I met on here years ago - they seemed to have it all - nice relationship, and the intimacy of sharing cock with a strange(r) guy.

I guess the day-to-day stuff has to happen first, then take the risk of sharing fantasies, see if both are happy to continue.

Thanks again - I hope the info is usefil to other frustrated guys.

Pete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have always been open about our fantasies and it just went from there.

We had a threesome about 7 years ago after a night of drinking with a friend but it took years for Miss Giggles to finally believe that Paul wanted to see her with a guy. so we finally took the plunge a couple of years ago and have never looked back.

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By *leasures4Couple
over a year ago

East midlands

When we first met 2 years ago we didn't mention sex for a while then it turned out we were as sex mad as each other. We started our fantastic relationship and had an amazing sex life but had fantasies of other people being involved. We talked each other into visiting a club to see what it was like and the rest is history. We have been swinging now since April last year and are pushing our boundaries further and further. We are having so much fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bf was on here before always a ladies man. We rowed we finished I told him I was going on a date. He told me he was turned on. Had my first MMF last summer.

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs

Happened very gradually ha ha upto 2 years ago it would have been a definite no no but we have slowly been enjoying ourselves and trying more. Getting a little more daring too lol

Been together over 20 years and still love fucking each other so it's not that we have gone off each other either lol

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs

Wrong smiley face ha ha fat fingers on phone pmsl

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By *andT17Couple
over a year ago

London

A couple of years ago we visited a friend in France. In passing he told us about the nude beaches and sex clubs in Cap D'Agde. He said he'd been with his girlfriend and described watching a naked man being led around a club on all fours by a women pulling a lead.

It all sounded rather weird and pervy but quite exciting so we plucked up the courage to go to the nude beach for a day. Sat with no clothes on ordering bottles of wine in the sun. Found ourselves near a couple in their fifties who were doing the same, and tried not to look at their privates. Our waiter was an attractive young man (dressed) who didn't bat an eyelid, of course. After our second bottle of wine we asked him whether the "clubs" at the resort were good, and he said "very".

We ended the afternoon by walking up to the dunes as we'd heard that couples sometimes had sex there, but there was no-one around. So we had sex on our own. Looked up as we finished to see a guy had wandered over and was watching. We quickly rushed off giggling and went home rather sozzled - we didn't have the courage for a club yet.

Really enjoyed it, but we didn't have time to go again. So we cammed a couple of times in the following months, before deciding to go to a club in London (OP4F) with the idea of some exhibitionism. Enjoyed that immensely, so we've done the same a few times since. Still not sure if we are ready to "swap" yet, but we're not ruling it out. S has since played with a girl a little, so we're working on it!

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By *an and wifeyCouple
over a year ago

n lincs

At our first party Leslie's fantasy was to have 2 guys so I built up the courage and sent her into the conservatory to bring 1 of the guys in to my amazement she brought the hostess in instead and had some fem fem play. I mainly sat and watched cacking my self as Leslie had said many many times she would not be interested in fun with another women. Now that we have settled in a little lol she absolutely loves some fem fem play and so do I ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After 18 yrs of marriage x best thing ever but ( here as a singleton now due to his health x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We got the idea in our heads while talking dirty during a particularly steamy session. The suggestion that someone could be doing something with us or to us while we were in bed got us thinking and it snowballed from there."

The same for us x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll shorten this the best I can...

I've always been "vanilla"

Met my man

Hot sex right from the start

Things got serious

Have always openly talked about sex

Turns out i was a filthy so and so all along... ha, who knew... anyway...

Ideas bounced between us

Suggestions

I wanted to be his, he wanted to be mine... Dammit that "L" word happened...

I thought about someone else once upon a time, which turned Pete on... discussions quickly raced towards the "actual" fucking someone else ... remained as ideas for a while, but scenarios in our chats got more realistic...

then one day...

BAM there we are at Jungle Fever party at a swingers club... i dont think i could walk for a good few days...

Now this is all real, everything we spoke about, visualised, wanted, needed, craved... all coming to real life... And don;t forget as well above all that we are of course madly in love

That's all folks!!

... ish...!!

xx

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By *eakcoupleCouple
over a year ago

peak district

Started soon after we got together, wanted to push our boundaries and thought swinging would be a good way to have sex outside our relationship without guilt or deceit. We both have high sex drives and like variety, and found it impossible to be 'faithful' in our previous marriages.

It worked! Our only reservation was how we'd react watching the other one fucking someone else, but we both found it a massive turn-on rather than causing jealousy. Swinging hasn't affected our love, in fact it has made it stronger. We married after a couple of years and are still swinging happily

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