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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!!

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By *oversforfun2000Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

We don't judge we just choose not to play with attached ppl who's other half have no knowledge! Men or woman!!

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By *uzzybeWoman
over a year ago

Darlington


"We don't judge we just choose not to play with attached ppl who's other half have no knowledge! Men or woman!! "

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I understand that, but it seems a lot of people are too quick to judge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I was meeting I'd never meet married or attached men, I never judged people, it just wasn't for me. Everyone has their own reasons for being on here and they are nothing to do with me. I preferred the friends with benefits arrangement and on one occasion it lead to a lot more so another reason not to meet married guys, if feelings developed it would be awkward to say the least. Some people on here are quick to judge others about all sorts, not just being married, unfair but happens all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if ur THAT honest like u said....why don't u ask the wife the original question that u posted and see her opinion, as u said u are the honest type

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I understand that, but it seems a lot of people are too quick to judge"

It's not judging, it's doing what suits me, quite simple really

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I'd love to ask the wife & get her involved, just need to find the right time and figure out how to approach it lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd love to ask the wife & get her involved, just need to find the right time and figure out how to approach it lol"

The right time to approach it was probably before you started doing it behind her back.

Strange how a few married guys brag about being "honest" with complete strangers whilst lying to the one person they should always be honest with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In time on here you will find out, there is a lot who judge

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By *z ThongzWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

Human nature to judge unfortunately and it seems folks like to have the higher ground , do what is right for you and whatever your reasons for being here its only ourselves who deal with the consequences . I also choose not to knowingly meet married or attached people , i dont want to be named in a divorce .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd love to ask the wife & get her involved, just need to find the right time and figure out how to approach it lol

The right time to approach it was probably before you started doing it behind her back.

Strange how a few married guys brag about being "honest" with complete strangers whilst lying to the one person they should always be honest with.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Exactly what I mean about being judged. You don't know my circumstances or my reasons, so don't question my honesty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understand that, but it seems a lot of people are too quick to judge"

I don't play with married people because I'm selfish and a quick fumble in the daytime does nothing for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My mate has a disabled wife , she told him to go on fab and be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Exactly what I mean about being judged. You don't know my circumstances or my reasons, so don't question my honesty "
tell lies mate l ike most on here , all these lot will do is judge you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What others do with their lives is their business, and I expect the same considerations in return, in that they respect my reasons and choices for not wanting to play with those that are attached or have dependants.

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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago

solihull


"Exactly what I mean about being judged. You don't know my circumstances or my reasons, so don't question my honesty "

The question then as you are sohonest does your wife know you are looking to have sex with someone else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Exactly what I mean about being judged. You don't know my circumstances or my reasons, so don't question my honesty "

There is a reason named on your profile... if you don't like people's opinions then don't post in public forums.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Exactly what I mean about being judged. You don't know my circumstances or my reasons, so don't question my honesty "

Why don't you tell us all then so we can judge for ourselves??

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Exactly what I mean about being judged. You don't know my circumstances or my reasons, so don't question my honesty

Why don't you tell us all then so we can judge for ourselves?? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Exactly what I mean about being judged. You don't know my circumstances or my reasons, so don't question my honesty "

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Sorry, however, you are not exactly being honest to your wife for being on here behind her back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Exactly what I mean about being judged. You don't know my circumstances or my reasons, so don't question my honesty

Why don't you tell us all then so we can judge for ourselves?? "
isnt that his choice?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Exactly what I mean about being judged. You don't know my circumstances or my reasons, so don't question my honesty

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Sorry, however, you are not exactly being honest to your wife for being on here behind her back!

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Yes but that is my business nobody else's,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Exactly what I mean about being judged. You don't know my circumstances or my reasons, so don't question my honesty

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Sorry, however, you are not exactly being honest to your wife for being on here behind her back!

Yes but that is my business nobody else's, "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Right, got it.

Honesty only applies when it suits the OP.

I can think of one word to describe such a person, and it starts with a "H".

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd love to ask the wife & get her involved, just need to find the right time and figure out how to approach it lol"

You never know, she could be on here too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Exactly what I mean about being judged. You don't know my circumstances or my reasons, so don't question my honesty

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Sorry, however, you are not exactly being honest to your wife for being on here behind her back!

Yes but that is my business nobody else's, "

So, like I said, if people having an opinion offends you so much, keep it your business and don't post on public forums...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!! "
Most married men on here we do judge and its entirely up to us.

You all play the genuine card but the only thing your genuine about is shitting on your partner.

You all claim to be lovely men and a pleasure to meet ! whilst being nothing but cheating lowlifes out for a quick shag.

Why would anyone want to meet someone so dishonest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Right, got it.

Honesty only applies when it suits the OP.

I can think of one word to describe such a person, and it starts with a "H".

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I think he just has a different definition of the word to most people!

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By *oversforfun2000Couple
over a year ago

glasgow

On here we are all judged 1 way or another, be it I'm too fat for some ppl, we aren't good looking enough or we are out with age ranges and in turn we decide who we want to meet!! It's the way it's done and if you can't have a thick skin about it and realise that your not going to be every bodies cup of tea due to you being attached maybe this isn't the best place for you!! Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd love to ask the wife & get her involved, just need to find the right time and figure out how to approach it lol

You never know, she could be on here too... "

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I hope she is, and would love to know how the OP would feel when the table is turned!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!! Most married men on here we do judge and its entirely up to us.

You all play the genuine card but the only thing your genuine about is shitting on your partner.

You all claim to be lovely men and a pleasure to meet ! whilst being nothing but cheating lowlifes out for a quick shag.

Why would anyone want to meet someone so dishonest "

Again you don't know my circumstances.

Would people prefer me to hide the fact that I'm married??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Exactly what I mean about being judged. You don't know my circumstances or my reasons, so don't question my honesty

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Sorry, however, you are not exactly being honest to your wife for being on here behind her back!

Yes but that is my business nobody else's,

So, like I said, if people having an opinion offends you so much, keep it your business and don't post on public forums..."
we thought you can't be offensive on forums?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own and all that. But I can't help feeling OP that you haven't helped your cause by starting this thread, what were you hoping to achieve? It is an emotive subject and solicits strong _iews and maybe taking a more discreet approach might have served you better. There are many folks on here who will not meet married men or women playing alone, in the same way there are many who will. Just be up front with those whom you wish to meet and try not to seek sympathy for your situation and I'm sure you will have some fun.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of the contributors in this thread suggested you to hide the fact that you are married, except for one.

However, please do not try and justify your actions and expect other peeps to agree with you, in an open forum.

If you consider what you do or don't do is entirely private and nobody's business except yours, then please, spare us the details and do not post in an open forum!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!! Most married men on here we do judge and its entirely up to us.

You all play the genuine card but the only thing your genuine about is shitting on your partner.

You all claim to be lovely men and a pleasure to meet ! whilst being nothing but cheating lowlifes out for a quick shag.

Why would anyone want to meet someone so dishonest

Again you don't know my circumstances.

Would people prefer me to hide the fact that I'm married?? "
no just understand that people see you more of a weasel than a swinger and you yourself asked for these _iews on a public forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!! Most married men on here we do judge and its entirely up to us.

You all play the genuine card but the only thing your genuine about is shitting on your partner.

You all claim to be lovely men and a pleasure to meet ! whilst being nothing but cheating lowlifes out for a quick shag.

Why would anyone want to meet someone so dishonest

Again you don't know my circumstances.

Would people prefer me to hide the fact that I'm married?? "

I'm sure you have concocted a wonderful "boo hoo me" story... but your profile comes across as extremely blasé and you state you are here because you can't resist "extra curricular".

The above poster was right in saying everyone is judged one way or another. I am judging you on your profile and post on here.

Calling yourself "honest" is anything but.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!! "

3 words.....

"honest to whom?"

i'll leave it there....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Exactly what I mean about being judged. You don't know my circumstances or my reasons, so don't question my honesty

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Sorry, however, you are not exactly being honest to your wife for being on here behind her back!

Yes but that is my business nobody else's,

So, like I said, if people having an opinion offends you so much, keep it your business and don't post on public forums... we thought you can't be offensive on forums?"

Nobody is being offensive... just having an opinion. My point is that if the OP is offended by people not agreeing with him, then he shouldn't post on a public forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I understand that, but it seems a lot of people are too quick to judge

I don't play with married people because I'm selfish and a quick fumble in the daytime does nothing for me. "

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley


"if ur THAT honest like u said....why don't u ask the wife the original question that u posted and see her opinion, as u said u are the honest type"

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lol cheers. I'm not a weasel, just a bloke trying to have some fun with like minded people. And I thought I'd be honest with people on here from the start. If I'm being dishonest with my wife then that's my business. I understand that married men aren't every bodies cup if tea, all I'm asking is why my private life gets judged?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!! "

I tend not to meet married men for the simple fact they don't have the time I require for a meet, having to sneak round the wife, after a quickie here and there while she's out with her mates and always clock watching and nippy off before I have finished

When I meet someone I give them my undivided attention and expect the same not someone who has to rush back before the wife gets home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree that it is each to their own, and that you have your own choices.

You cannot please all of the people all of the time x So women prefer married men (I'm not one of them, I tend to want to leave my mark! lol).

Rather you didn't use the 'h' word tho x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your profile says ur married and couples or singles will only MSG you back if it doesn't bother them.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead


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Lol cheers. I'm not a weasel, just a bloke trying to have some fun with like minded people. And I thought I'd be honest with people on here from the start. If I'm being dishonest with my wife then that's my business. I understand that married men aren't every bodies cup if tea, all I'm asking is why my private life gets judged?"

if you are going to use the word "honest" then I think it is absolutely fair game that people say what they think...

its not people judging.. it people saying there is a certain amount of irony and hypocritical way in the way you use the word.....

if there was any person you would think you would be honest to... it would be the person you profess to love more than any other....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd love to ask the wife & get her involved, just need to find the right time and figure out how to approach it lol

The right time to approach it was probably before you started doing it behind her back.

Strange how a few married guys brag about being "honest" with complete strangers whilst lying to the one person they should always be honest with.

"
my EXwife found my honesty too honest. It seems wives want honest to be a lie. ie: does this dress make me look fat ? It seems you are fat dear is not the honest answer.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Lol cheers. I'm not a weasel, just a bloke trying to have some fun with like minded people. And I thought I'd be honest with people on here from the start. If I'm being dishonest with my wife then that's my business. I understand that married men aren't every bodies cup if tea, all I'm asking is why my private life gets judged?"
look at your profile ,it screams dishonesty and would be better off on a "looking for affairs" type site,9 months no meets seems to sum up how most people feel about people shitting on their other halves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the op is saying he is bein honest on the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Lol cheers. I'm not a weasel, just a bloke trying to have some fun with like minded people. And I thought I'd be honest with people on here from the start. If I'm being dishonest with my wife then that's my business. I understand that married men aren't every bodies cup if tea, all I'm asking is why my private life gets judged?"

You may find you are judged due to people's past experiences. I watched my parents marriage disintegrate due to cheating so understand the pain it causes to children involved. Also anyone that has been cheated on by past or present partners know how devastatingly painful it can be so therefore may not wish to chance inflicting that on another person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, there are other men and women doing exactly the same as you on here. However, honesty is probably not the correct term to use; I would say you are just open about your life outside of this site whereas the majority of the others are not. Many will judge you for this, which is their entitlement, but what you (we) are doing is morally incorrect and unfair on the other half.

Everyone has their reasons, however, it still doesn't make it right. You just have to read profiles carefully as most will state if they do not meet married guys.

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By *orthyorkypairCouple
over a year ago

North Yorkshire


"I'd love to ask the wife & get her involved, just need to find the right time and figure out how to approach it lol

The right time to approach it was probably before you started doing it behind her back.

Strange how a few married guys brag about being "honest" with complete strangers whilst lying to the one person they should always be honest with.

"

this!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd love to ask the wife & get her involved, just need to find the right time and figure out how to approach it lol

The right time to approach it was probably before you started doing it behind her back.

Strange how a few married guys brag about being "honest" with complete strangers whilst lying to the one person they should always be honest with.

my EXwife found my honesty too honest. It seems wives want honest to be a lie. ie: does this dress make me look fat ? It seems you are fat dear is not the honest answer. "

Yes, because the two situations are completely on the same scale

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!! "
..DOES YOUR WIFE KNOW.

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

Yes you are honest about being married .so people will then make up their mind if they wish to meet you or not.you also have to accept most will not want to get evolved in any deceit , complications or shit storms when the cheater is found out . I personally have not desire for any irrate gf or wife bellowing abuse down the phone or worse at my frontdoor. You may wish to play Russian roulette with your relationship and get off on that danger , but most won't .plenty of single guy's with no ties , complications and dramas .life'sccomplicated enough so hardly a shocking people don't wish to go looking to complicate it further .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do wonder what the married couples would have done if their other half had said no to adding other people to their sex life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!! "

I don't play with married/attached men unless they come as a couple, this is nothing to do with being judgemental or morals (well all said and done I am on a swinging site). For me my free time is few and far between so to try and work that free time out around another person as well particularly when my free time tends to be when they play happy familes is near on impossiable. So an ideal FB for me would of been a single one!

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!! "

Honest ? So you've told your wife you're on a swingers site looking for a fuck buddy or two then ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You never know, she could be on here too... "

Haha, that would be soooooo funny. Especially if she had a list or varifications as long as your arm...lol.

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"I'd love to ask the wife & get her involved, just need to find the right time and figure out how to approach it lol"

And that's why you're on here looking for your own sexual gratification then...

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"Exactly what I mean about being judged. You don't know my circumstances or my reasons, so don't question my honesty "

Erm, actually you have questiined your own honesty by decieving your wife....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a married cheat who can't get laid..."

Boo fucking hoo. I can judge who the fuck I want, particularly when I'm choosing who to sleep with.

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


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Lol cheers. I'm not a weasel, just a bloke trying to have some fun with like minded people. And I thought I'd be honest with people on here from the start. If I'm being dishonest with my wife then that's my business. I understand that married men aren't every bodies cup if tea, all I'm asking is why my private life gets judged?"

So first you say you're honest, then here you state openly that you're actually dishonest.

Can you hear all that crashing and banging ? That's your honesty and trustworthyness falling through the floor.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!! "

I'm more likely to judge you for the hypocrisy and stunning lack of self awareness in suggesting we should admire your honesty than I am to judge you for your cheating.

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By *uzzybeWoman
over a year ago

Darlington


"I'd love to ask the wife & get her involved, just need to find the right time and figure out how to approach it lol

The right time to approach it was probably before you started doing it behind her back.

Strange how a few married guys brag about being "honest" with complete strangers whilst lying to the one person they should always be honest with.

"

Totally agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Can you hear all that crashing and banging ? That's your honesty and trustworthyness falling through the floor."

"Taxi for Wibble..."

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I understand that, but it seems a lot of people are too quick to judge"

Including you it would seem judging the rest of us and assuming you know what we're thinking.

We don't care what you do or why you do it we just prefer not to be involved. Honesty us always appreciates even ironically

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By *izz37Couple
over a year ago

stoke on trent


"I do wonder what the married couples would have done if their other half had said no to adding other people to their sex life"

Then it wouldn't have gone any further- we love and respect each other way too much to jeopardise our relationship because in that instance it would be cheating if the one who wanted it had gone ahead behind the other's back. Simple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We don't judge we just choose not to play with attached ppl who's other half have no knowledge! Men or woman!! "

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By *aucy3Couple
over a year ago

glasgow


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!! "

You're right,people don't know your circumstances.

So they can only judge you on what they do know.

So that's, you're cheating on your wife,and lying to your wife,

and now you're having a whinge,cause people are judging you to be a cheat,and a liar.

you really should have given this a bit more thought,

before having a whinge,

about people's,logical,

perfectly justifiable judgement of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do wonder what the married couples would have done if their other half had said no to adding other people to their sex life"

Interesting question...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So your being honest about your dishonesty?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I do wonder what the married couples would have done if their other half had said no to adding other people to their sex life"

It depends in the relationship, there isn't one answer to that. Some would take a refusal as tacit permission to go ahead alone and some would discuss other ways to enrich their sex lives.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!! "

Aren't you judging the other married people by suggesting that most are dishonest and you are honest....?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


""I'm a married cheat who can't get laid..."

Boo fucking hoo. I can judge who the fuck I want, particularly when I'm choosing who to sleep with. "

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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Ok don't start picking on the OP profile...that isn't up for discussion unless he asked for it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cheating is a non-consentual activity hence why I will not knowingly play with anyone who doesn't have the decency or courtesy to give their partner the choice.

crystal

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just tell you're wife the trith, divorce her and then got on with life FFS!

there is no justifiable excuse to be cheating.

If you loved her you wouldn't be on here and are being selfish instead of talking to you're wife.

I wouldn't be surprised if she had a profile on here tbh.

Maybe she still wants sex, just not with you, maybe she doesn't find you attractive and is only staying with you for the sake of the kids or it's too expensive for a divorce.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not case of judging fact your wife has no idea is simply wrong have guts and tell her.

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!


"We don't judge we just choose not to play with attached ppl who's other half have no knowledge! Men or woman!! "
I couldn't have said it better myself! Its not about judging, each to their own, its about preferences and I prefer not to play with married people who's other half hasn't got a clue what theyre doing!

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!


"Just tell you're wife the trith, divorce her and then got on with life FFS!

there is no justifiable excuse to be cheating.

If you loved her you wouldn't be on here and are being selfish instead of talking to you're wife.

I wouldn't be surprised if she had a profile on here tbh.

Maybe she still wants sex, just not with you, maybe she doesn't find you attractive and is only staying with you for the sake of the kids or it's too expensive for a divorce."

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By *uzzybeWoman
over a year ago

Darlington


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!!

I tend not to meet married men for the simple fact they don't have the time I require for a meet, having to sneak round the wife, after a quickie here and there while she's out with her mates and always clock watching and nippy off before I have finished

When I meet someone I give them my undivided attention and expect the same not someone who has to rush back before the wife gets home"

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

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"I do wonder what the married couples would have done if their other half had said no to adding other people to their sex life"

I would imagine anyone with a strong enough relationship to be able to discuss bringing someone else into their sex life is probably strong enough to also respect their Oh's answer if it is a no.

I am not naive to think that some people might think that having sex with others is more important than their relationship and might do it anyway, but I do think there must be something wrong with that relationship anyway if that was the case.

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By *uzzybeWoman
over a year ago

Darlington

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!! "

I think you need to read what you have wrote back to yourself, then ask yourself are you really honest!?

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"Your profile says ur married."

Not any more it doesn't. Can't imagine why....

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By *utterflywingsWoman
over a year ago

Creswell Derbyshire


"I'd love to ask the wife & get her involved, just need to find the right time and figure out how to approach it lol

The right time to approach it was probably before you started doing it behind her back.

Strange how a few married guys brag about being "honest" with complete strangers whilst lying to the one person they should always be honest with.

"

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"Exactly what I mean about being judged. You don't know my circumstances or my reasons, so don't question my honesty "

tbh for a lot of people you have not only questioned your honesty but you have confirmed again to a lot of folk that you are anything but honest..

as to whether its anyone elses business to judge, when your putting yourself out there to join in with other peoples most intimate moments then some will no doubt wonder 'what else is this person not honest about'..

can understand why some folks male and female take this line, better to know etc but you can not expect not to be judged..

its human nature..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do wonder what the married couples would have done if their other half had said no to adding other people to their sex life

I would imagine anyone with a strong enough relationship to be able to discuss bringing someone else into their sex life is probably strong enough to also respect their Oh's answer if it is a no.

I am not naive to think that some people might think that having sex with others is more important than their relationship and might do it anyway, but I do think there must be something wrong with that relationship anyway if that was the case."

I would think anyone in a relationship would discuss having a 3sum or wife swapping? I'm not quite sure what a strong relationship would be

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By *kyhighstilettoCouple
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Well,this has turned out splendidly for the OP

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do wonder what the married couples would have done if their other half had said no to adding other people to their sex life

Then it wouldn't have gone any further- we love and respect each other way too much to jeopardise our relationship because in that instance it would be cheating if the one who wanted it had gone ahead behind the other's back. Simple."

how do you know that for sure? It's not so simple really is it? How many people go to bed every night thinking they have a solid relationship with their partner next to them not knowing that they are being cheated on?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How many strong relationships would fold I wonder if one of them said no more meeting other people for sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do wonder what the married couples would have done if their other half had said no to adding other people to their sex life"

easy answer.

we wouldnt be doing it.

if a married person wants to play away, thats no interest to us as we wont get involved in your extra marital affairs.

however, please dont bandy around the word honesty as its an all encompassing consept.

you cant be honest to people you will never know without being so with the person you have chosen to dedicate your life to.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"I do wonder what the married couples would have done if their other half had said no to adding other people to their sex life

Then it wouldn't have gone any further- we love and respect each other way too much to jeopardise our relationship because in that instance it would be cheating if the one who wanted it had gone ahead behind the other's back. Simple.

how do you know that for sure? It's not so simple really is it? How many people go to bed every night thinking they have a solid relationship with their partner next to them not knowing that they are being cheated on? "

I'm sure a lot of people do but i'm not quite sure what you're implying here. Not all relationships are the same, couples swing for many reasons and the lucky ones have rock solid relationships based on trust and honesty that some people can't understand, some of course are based on fear, jealousy and insecurity and there is a whole range i'm between.

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"I do wonder what the married couples would have done if their other half had said no to adding other people to their sex life

I would imagine anyone with a strong enough relationship to be able to discuss bringing someone else into their sex life is probably strong enough to also respect their Oh's answer if it is a no.

I am not naive to think that some people might think that having sex with others is more important than their relationship and might do it anyway, but I do think there must be something wrong with that relationship anyway if that was the case.

I would think anyone in a relationship would discuss having a 3sum or wife swapping? I'm not quite sure what a strong relationship would be"

I doubt that very much, there are lots of relationships that wouldn't dream of discussing group sex, especially if they don't have sex at all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wibble, go out into to town and find someone or pay someone if you have to but is it fair that you are not only dishonest to your wife but the people on here? I mean you took vows with this woman, at least have the balls to tell her it's not working and you fear you may stray. Remember, this is your soul mate and best friend. I don't doubt you will or even have cheated but the Fab community does not welcome liars and cheats. Sorry if that sounds harsh but I wear my heart on my sleeve.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Honesty isn't admitting on a swingers public forum that they are married... Honesty is telling the wife that they want to swing and being able to tell her that.

Many years ago we met a guy on here he didn't tell us he was married but his wife found texts on his phone from us, he called us and asked us to cover for him I did that and I would never ever do that again.

So OP think hard and long because trust us you will get found out eventually x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"How many strong relationships would fold I wonder if one of them said no more meeting other people for sex"

Strong ones would be less likely to fold than weak ones, the strength in a relationship is built over time and not just dependent on sex.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"How many strong relationships would fold I wonder if one of them said no more meeting other people for sex"

how long is a piece of string..

like any question one might pose about 'what if' or i 'wonder', it deppends on the actual relationships..

and each of us can only speak for our own..

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By *ugby 123Couple
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over a year ago

O o O oo


"I do wonder what the married couples would have done if their other half had said no to adding other people to their sex life

Then it wouldn't have gone any further- we love and respect each other way too much to jeopardise our relationship because in that instance it would be cheating if the one who wanted it had gone ahead behind the other's back. Simple.

how do you know that for sure? It's not so simple really is it? How many people go to bed every night thinking they have a solid relationship with their partner next to them not knowing that they are being cheated on? "

Are you trying to justify what married people cheating are doing by trying to deflect it onto married couples who swing?

If so I don't think any married person has to justify what they do with their lives, it is up to them and their conscience, but the man did ask for opinions so he did get them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many strong relationships would fold I wonder if one of them said no more meeting other people for sex

Strong ones would be less likely to fold than weak ones, the strength in a relationship is built over time and not just dependent on sex."

why do couples in these relationships decide to bring other people in for sexual pleasures? I couldn't bear to see a man I loved take pleasure from another woman. Am I old fashioned?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many strong relationships would fold I wonder if one of them said no more meeting other people for sex

Strong ones would be less likely to fold than weak ones, the strength in a relationship is built over time and not just dependent on sex.

why do couples in these relationships decide to bring other people in for sexual pleasures? I couldn't bear to see a man I loved take pleasure from another woman. Am I old fashioned?"

So your happy to swing but not happy for your potential fella too?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"How many strong relationships would fold I wonder if one of them said no more meeting other people for sex

Strong ones would be less likely to fold than weak ones, the strength in a relationship is built over time and not just dependent on sex.

why do couples in these relationships decide to bring other people in for sexual pleasures? I couldn't bear to see a man I loved take pleasure from another woman. Am I old fashioned?"

No you're just projecting your values on to others. We don't feel the need to justify or explain.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Badnanna. I'm not married but I've played as a couple (although my story is morning compared to the many happily married couples on this site). People don't stop becoming experimental and sexy because they are married (sorry if I sound patronising). I've been completely turned on watching someone I loved with another man and woman. I trusted everyone involved and it added excitement and passion to our lives. Oh and it's very sexy living a secret life, especially when everyone thinks you are innocent

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothing not morning! Oops x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex


"Badnanna. I'm not married but I've played as a couple (although my story is morning compared to the many happily married couples on this site). People don't stop becoming experimental and sexy because they are married (sorry if I sound patronising). I've been completely turned on watching someone I loved with another man and woman. I trusted everyone involved and it added excitement and passion to our lives. Oh and it's very sexy living a secret life, especially when everyone thinks you are innocent "

well said. Also married people don't own each other.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"How many strong relationships would fold I wonder if one of them said no more meeting other people for sex

Strong ones would be less likely to fold than weak ones, the strength in a relationship is built over time and not just dependent on sex.

why do couples in these relationships decide to bring other people in for sexual pleasures? I couldn't bear to see a man I loved take pleasure from another woman. Am I old fashioned?"

the why is again very much down to each individual couple, ultimately its their choice to do so..

ideally both of them are of the same mind but there are no doubt some cpl's where one partner will be less than keen..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No that's what's makes couples so unique. As much as they are a partnership, they are both individuals. But isn't it good when the team are playing on the same field? Or private room in some circumstances

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By *otTheReal01Man
over a year ago

London

I could never have shared my ex with another guy but I can see how people do and I'm envious of their awesome relationships.

Towards the end of my marriage we'd stopped having sex and I had plenty of opportunities to cheat on her but I didn't because she didn't deserve to be treated like that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do wonder what the married couples would have done if their other half had said no to adding other people to their sex life

Then it wouldn't have gone any further- we love and respect each other way too much to jeopardise our relationship because in that instance it would be cheating if the one who wanted it had gone ahead behind the other's back. Simple.

how do you know that for sure? It's not so simple really is it? How many people go to bed every night thinking they have a solid relationship with their partner next to them not knowing that they are being cheated on? "

Simple for us, because when we decided to try swinging we did so for the MUTUAL enjoyment and pleasure.

It was an extra to sex in our relationship not a substitute for it.

Neither of us was bothered about doing it on our own, if we'd wanted to do that we'd have gone down the pub and tried our luck and probably have had more than on a site.

As for cheating behind the others back, we don't know how people find the spare time!

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said NotTheReal01 and you did the right thing. This happened to me over the weekend. It's Saturday and I'm sitting on my sofa, chilling with a freshly brewed cup of coffee and I get a knock on the door. I look though the key hole and a former friend, a teacher, is waiting outside. I welcome her in. Now we have history dating back years but she finally settled with a guy last year and moved into his place with his children just last week. She is wearing stockings under a coat and she says that her sex life is good but not enough. She said she wanted a lover who did not mess about! I almost hit the roof. Not only did she expect sex but she could have brought trouble to my door. I could have had company for all she knew. I invited her in for coffee and encouraged her to talk to him and she confessed all (even the bit about turning up at mine). He has inboxed me on social media thanking me!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do wonder what the married couples would have done if their other half had said no to adding other people to their sex life

Then it wouldn't have gone any further- we love and respect each other way too much to jeopardise our relationship because in that instance it would be cheating if the one who wanted it had gone ahead behind the other's back. Simple.

how do you know that for sure? It's not so simple really is it? How many people go to bed every night thinking they have a solid relationship with their partner next to them not knowing that they are being cheated on?

Simple for us, because when we decided to try swinging we did so for the MUTUAL enjoyment and pleasure.

It was an extra to sex in our relationship not a substitute for it.

Neither of us was bothered about doing it on our own, if we'd wanted to do that we'd have gone down the pub and tried our luck and probably have had more than on a site.

As for cheating behind the others back, we don't know how people find the spare time!

XXXX"

were you together a long time before you decided to do it? Who brought the subject up?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP: posts like this get strong responses and not for the faint hearted...

My advice; don't try this at home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

being in a couple is completely different than doing it separately without the other, simply because its a shared experience.

why do you feel unable to share your sexual experiences with another man that you say you would love?

would you be afraid he wouldnt love you enough not to lose him to someone else?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'd love to ask the wife & get her involved, just need to find the right time and figure out how to approach it lol

The right time to approach it was probably before you started doing it behind her back.

Strange how a few married guys brag about being "honest" with complete strangers whilst lying to the one person they should always be honest with.

Well said!

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many strong relationships would fold I wonder if one of them said no more meeting other people for sex

Strong ones would be less likely to fold than weak ones, the strength in a relationship is built over time and not just dependent on sex.

why do couples in these relationships decide to bring other people in for sexual pleasures? I couldn't bear to see a man I loved take pleasure from another woman. Am I old fashioned?"

We wouldn't say "old fashioned", more hypercritical for being on a swingers site.

We feel this about any single, male or female, who have no qualms about sharing someone else's partner but would never dream of sharing their own.

To us, people who feel this way have no right to be on swingers sites.

Harsh maybe but we reserve the right to this opinion.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"How many strong relationships would fold I wonder if one of them said no more meeting other people for sex

Strong ones would be less likely to fold than weak ones, the strength in a relationship is built over time and not just dependent on sex.

why do couples in these relationships decide to bring other people in for sexual pleasures? I couldn't bear to see a man I loved take pleasure from another woman. Am I old fashioned?

We wouldn't say "old fashioned", more hypercritical for being on a swingers site.

We feel this about any single, male or female, who have no qualms about sharing someone else's partner but would never dream of sharing their own.

To us, people who feel this way have no right to be on swingers sites.

Harsh maybe but we reserve the right to this opinion.

XXXX"

I'm not on here as a couple. I'm looking for single men which isn't be hypocritical at all. I know about opinions and people's rights to them. This is not a site for couples only and the search I just did revealed that the couples all wanted single women,which isn't classed as swinging in it's true sense. I'm not saying you are wrong to do what you do, I'm trying to understand why people do it and I couldn't

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By *arbie and ken 2010Couple
over a year ago

braintree

Well looking at your profile you have had 8 month to think about it and tell the wife your on Fab as a single married guy looking for 2 FB to take the pressure of her lets hope she gets to find out and come into Fab herself for some fun !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love how the OP is calling all of us that refuse to play with married/attached people (regardless of their circumstances)as being judgemental of them, isnt labelling us all that in itself judgemental - just saying!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do wonder what the married couples would have done if their other half had said no to adding other people to their sex life

Then it wouldn't have gone any further- we love and respect each other way too much to jeopardise our relationship because in that instance it would be cheating if the one who wanted it had gone ahead behind the other's back. Simple.

how do you know that for sure? It's not so simple really is it? How many people go to bed every night thinking they have a solid relationship with their partner next to them not knowing that they are being cheated on?

Simple for us, because when we decided to try swinging we did so for the MUTUAL enjoyment and pleasure.

It was an extra to sex in our relationship not a substitute for it.

Neither of us was bothered about doing it on our own, if we'd wanted to do that we'd have gone down the pub and tried our luck and probably have had more than on a site.

As for cheating behind the others back, we don't know how people find the spare time!

XXXX

were you together a long time before you decided to do it? Who brought the subject up? "

We'd been together well into the teens but had never been jealous or possessive with each other because we were secure in our relationship.

It was a mutual decision made while watching a TV programme about swinging.

We'd both had a couple of near misses with the grim reaper and realised you can be here one day and gone the next.

So we gave it a go, scratched that itch, had some great times but moved on.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"being in a couple is completely different than doing it separately without the other, simply because its a shared experience.

why do you feel unable to share your sexual experiences with another man that you say you would love?

would you be afraid he wouldnt love you enough not to lose him to someone else?"

no. If he didn't love me I wouldn't want him. If my husband said yes if I asked him if he wanted another woman he wouldn't have any nuts left to unload into her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do wonder what the married couples would have done if their other half had said no to adding other people to their sex life

Then it wouldn't have gone any further- we love and respect each other way too much to jeopardise our relationship because in that instance it would be cheating if the one who wanted it had gone ahead behind the other's back. Simple.

how do you know that for sure? It's not so simple really is it? How many people go to bed every night thinking they have a solid relationship with their partner next to them not knowing that they are being cheated on?

Simple for us, because when we decided to try swinging we did so for the MUTUAL enjoyment and pleasure.

It was an extra to sex in our relationship not a substitute for it.

Neither of us was bothered about doing it on our own, if we'd wanted to do that we'd have gone down the pub and tried our luck and probably have had more than on a site.

As for cheating behind the others back, we don't know how people find the spare time!

XXXX

were you together a long time before you decided to do it? Who brought the subject up?

We'd been together well into the teens but had never been jealous or possessive with each other because we were secure in our relationship.

It was a mutual decision made while watching a TV programme about swinging.

We'd both had a couple of near misses with the grim reaper and realised you can be here one day and gone the next.

So we gave it a go, scratched that itch, had some great times but moved on.

XXXX"

Death has a way of making you see things in a different light. I would like a relationship where we could be open and trusting enough to have other people involved in our sex life. I'm not sure I could do it though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"being in a couple is completely different than doing it separately without the other, simply because its a shared experience.

why do you feel unable to share your sexual experiences with another man that you say you would love?

would you be afraid he wouldnt love you enough not to lose him to someone else?

no. If he didn't love me I wouldn't want him. If my husband said yes if I asked him if he wanted another woman he wouldn't have any nuts left to unload into her "

But that sounds to be a very insecure attitude.

Sex is just fun, a pleasurable experience but love is something else far stronger and hopefully carries on even if sex is physically possible.

Sometimes it seems people get sex and love mixed up.

XXXX

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"being in a couple is completely different than doing it separately without the other, simply because its a shared experience.

why do you feel unable to share your sexual experiences with another man that you say you would love?

would you be afraid he wouldnt love you enough not to lose him to someone else?

no. If he didn't love me I wouldn't want him. If my husband said yes if I asked him if he wanted another woman he wouldn't have any nuts left to unload into her

But that sounds to be a very insecure attitude.

Sex is just fun, a pleasurable experience but love is something else far stronger and hopefully carries on even if sex is physically possible.

Sometimes it seems people get sex and love mixed up.

XXXX"

which you see in lots of people that have a poor self image, 'they fucks me so they must love me'

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By *otTheReal01Man
over a year ago

London


"So we gave it a go, scratched that itch, had some great times but moved on.

"

So I'm gathering from your hidden profile and the fact that you say that you've "moved on" that you no longer swing?

If that's the case, what gives you the right to be on a swinging site? Surely you should leave as you are no longer swingers?

See what I did there?

Of course you have a right to be on here as does everyone else. You have a right to your opinion too but I thought I'd just point out that in my opinion it's pretty right-wing when I thought members of the swinging community were supposed to be pretty liberal? Surely if nobody is being hurt and we're all having fun then it's all good?

I'm not having a go at you, just having a stimulating debate. I do love these sorts of discussions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"being in a couple is completely different than doing it separately without the other, simply because its a shared experience.

why do you feel unable to share your sexual experiences with another man that you say you would love?

would you be afraid he wouldnt love you enough not to lose him to someone else?

no. If he didn't love me I wouldn't want him. If my husband said yes if I asked him if he wanted another woman he wouldn't have any nuts left to unload into her

But that sounds to be a very insecure attitude.

Sex is just fun, a pleasurable experience but love is something else far stronger and hopefully carries on even if sex is physically possible.

Sometimes it seems people get sex and love mixed up.

XXXX"

I'm not insecure, I just believe if someone asked me to marry him and said forsaking all others I would expect him to stand by his promise. Or don't get married,have an open relationship and fuck whoever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So we gave it a go, scratched that itch, had some great times but moved on.

So I'm gathering from your hidden profile and the fact that you say that you've "moved on" that you no longer swing?

If that's the case, what gives you the right to be on a swinging site? Surely you should leave as you are no longer swingers?

See what I did there?

Of course you have a right to be on here as does everyone else. You have a right to your opinion too but I thought I'd just point out that in my opinion it's pretty right-wing when I thought members of the swinging community were supposed to be pretty liberal? Surely if nobody is being hurt and we're all having fun then it's all good?

I'm not having a go at you, just having a stimulating debate. I do love these sorts of discussions. "

interesting choice f words there, nobody is getting hurt.

of course, you wouldnt add 'at the moment'

until, obviously, lady wibble finds out.

and then kiddy wibbles find out

and the whole wibbly clan finds out, and soon enough mr wibble here finds he only had half of the wibbles he started out with, and the courts have left him without a pot to wibble in.

but, as you say, as long as no one is getting hurt, right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"being in a couple is completely different than doing it separately without the other, simply because its a shared experience.

why do you feel unable to share your sexual experiences with another man that you say you would love?

would you be afraid he wouldnt love you enough not to lose him to someone else?

no. If he didn't love me I wouldn't want him. If my husband said yes if I asked him if he wanted another woman he wouldn't have any nuts left to unload into her

But that sounds to be a very insecure attitude.

Sex is just fun, a pleasurable experience but love is something else far stronger and hopefully carries on even if sex is physically possible.

Sometimes it seems people get sex and love mixed up.

XXXX

I'm not insecure, I just believe if someone asked me to marry him and said forsaking all others I would expect him to stand by his promise. Or don't get married,have an open relationship and fuck whoever "

strange how you are putting all the onus on the male part of a couple asking to swing.

what if you decided that, after you had been into this scene, and found 'love' you would never have an itch to scratch.

you seem to think that its a one sided decision from couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"being in a couple is completely different than doing it separately without the other, simply because its a shared experience.

why do you feel unable to share your sexual experiences with another man that you say you would love?

would you be afraid he wouldnt love you enough not to lose him to someone else?

no. If he didn't love me I wouldn't want him. If my husband said yes if I asked him if he wanted another woman he wouldn't have any nuts left to unload into her

But that sounds to be a very insecure attitude.

Sex is just fun, a pleasurable experience but love is something else far stronger and hopefully carries on even if sex is physically possible.

Sometimes it seems people get sex and love mixed up.

XXXX

I'm not insecure, I just believe if someone asked me to marry him and said forsaking all others I would expect him to stand by his promise. Or don't get married,have an open relationship and fuck whoever

strange how you are putting all the onus on the male part of a couple asking to swing.

what if you decided that, after you had been into this scene, and found 'love' you would never have an itch to scratch.

you seem to think that its a one sided decision from couples"

I'm looking at it from my point of _iew which is female. I wouldn't see it as an itch that had to be scratched, I would look at what I think must be missing from my sex life and try to remedy it. I know, I was with my husband for 30 years

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By *otTheReal01Man
over a year ago

London


"...but, as you say, as long as no one is getting hurt, right?"

Sorry, you've misunderstood. I wasn't referring to the OP, I was commenting on the previous poster's "harsh" opinion.

Also if you'd read my earlier post in the thread you'd see I clearly think the OP is completely in the wrong for cheating.

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By *pplecrunchWoman
over a year ago

Yeovil

Also if meeting married or attached men it has to be when they want fun. What about when we want it? No thank you to married and attached men. Unless their partners are joining in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!!

I tend not to meet married men for the simple fact they don't have the time I require for a meet, having to sneak round the wife, after a quickie here and there while she's out with her mates and always clock watching and nippy off before I have finished

When I meet someone I give them my undivided attention and expect the same not someone who has to rush back before the wife gets home"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!!

I tend not to meet married men for the simple fact they don't have the time I require for a meet, having to sneak round the wife, after a quickie here and there while she's out with her mates and always clock watching and nippy off before I have finished

When I meet someone I give them my undivided attention and expect the same not someone who has to rush back before the wife gets home"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

ok new rules for joining fab. marriage certifcate should be used if not a compulsory retina scan to see if your married.

always makes me laugh when the people come out with morals. i think the percentage of fab is made up by married people on a single profile. who are we to judge. do people ask for authenticity of being single before they have that shag in a club by a bloke. no dont think so. live in let live. dont judge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!! "

Strange post to make, seems you have quickly judged most as dishonest, and judgemental about married cheaters.

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By * times sexyCouple
over a year ago

Staffs


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!! "

You must have a different dictionary from the rest of us then. Cos how can you describe yourself as honest , you say on your profile you want discretion and will give it back, I assume thats so the poor missus (you know the one you are being "honest" with at home dosent find out. What you mean is you are telling everyone on fabs the truth but lying to your poor wife. sorry mate that makes you two faced not honest. To be honest we couldn't give toss if a guy is married or not but don't kid yourself that its based on honesty, If there's any justice in the world she will be on here as well shagging for England lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!! "

Being married is ok x

It's when a meet is supposed to happen at your place when your wife is at work x no thanks

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By * times sexyCouple
over a year ago

Staffs


"I think the op is saying he is bein honest on the site"

Oh as long as he is being honest on the site then thats ok, Anyway why would you beleive a word he says. he is lying to his wife and himself if he beleives he is being honest.How do you know he aint lying about a shitload of other stuff as well !!

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"being in a couple is completely different than doing it separately without the other, simply because its a shared experience.

why do you feel unable to share your sexual experiences with another man that you say you would love?

would you be afraid he wouldnt love you enough not to lose him to someone else?

no. If he didn't love me I wouldn't want him. If my husband said yes if I asked him if he wanted another woman he wouldn't have any nuts left to unload into her

But that sounds to be a very insecure attitude.

Sex is just fun, a pleasurable experience but love is something else far stronger and hopefully carries on even if sex is physically possible.

Sometimes it seems people get sex and love mixed up.

XXXX

I'm not insecure, I just believe if someone asked me to marry him and said forsaking all others I would expect him to stand by his promise. Or don't get married,have an open relationship and fuck whoever "

So you would give up swinging and forsake all others then ?

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"I think the op is saying he is bein honest on the site

Oh as long as he is being honest on the site then thats ok, Anyway why would you beleive a word he says. he is lying to his wife and himself if he beleives he is being honest.How do you know he aint lying about a shitload of other stuff as well !! "

He probably is. He states very clearly on his profile he gets off on taking risks.

Isn't it strange how the OP hasn't been back to defend his honour and honesty ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!! "

Well said buddy. You will be judged though . Its only married women who are allowed to cheat on this site

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!! "

We don't judge but choose not to meet and play with those cheating (male or female)

But are not naive enough to believe we haven't while at parties etc...just that we won't knowingly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!!

Well said buddy. You will be judged though . Its only married women who are allowed to cheat on this site "

you have too tight a grip, son. the blood is being cut off to your brain.

the fact is, everyone is free to cheat, if they so wish.

just dont post up and expect everyone to say its alright, cuz most dont think so.

swinging for most starts with honesty, and lying isnt being honest.

lets not forget, also, who is meeting these cheating females and making it ok??? oh yeah, single blokes innit!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I log on most days and when I pop in my password and username, I am in a non judging mindset...

it is only after reading posts, my mindset changes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!!

Well said buddy. You will be judged though . Its only married women who are allowed to cheat on this site

you have too tight a grip, son. the blood is being cut off to your brain.

the fact is, everyone is free to cheat, if they so wish.

just dont post up and expect everyone to say its alright, cuz most dont think so.

swinging for most starts with honesty, and lying isnt being honest.

lets not forget, also, who is meeting these cheating females and making it ok??? oh yeah, single blokes innit! "

or married men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!!

Well said buddy. You will be judged though . Its only married women who are allowed to cheat on this site

you have too tight a grip, son. the blood is being cut off to your brain.

the fact is, everyone is free to cheat, if they so wish.

just dont post up and expect everyone to say its alright, cuz most dont think so.

swinging for most starts with honesty, and lying isnt being honest.

lets not forget, also, who is meeting these cheating females and making it ok??? oh yeah, single blokes innit!

or married men "

single married men? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!!

Well said buddy. You will be judged though . Its only married women who are allowed to cheat on this site

you have too tight a grip, son. the blood is being cut off to your brain.

the fact is, everyone is free to cheat, if they so wish.

just dont post up and expect everyone to say its alright, cuz most dont think so.

swinging for most starts with honesty, and lying isnt being honest.

lets not forget, also, who is meeting these cheating females and making it ok??? oh yeah, single blokes innit!

or married men

single married men? lol"

lol sometimes

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"I'm a married man looking for a f**k buddy or 2!

Why are people so quick to judge married people? Every bodies circumstances are different and at least I'm one of the very few honest ones!!!

Well said buddy. You will be judged though . Its only married women who are allowed to cheat on this site

you have too tight a grip, son. the blood is being cut off to your brain.

the fact is, everyone is free to cheat, if they so wish.

just dont post up and expect everyone to say its alright, cuz most dont think so.

swinging for most starts with honesty, and lying isnt being honest.

lets not forget, also, who is meeting these cheating females and making it ok??? oh yeah, single blokes innit!

or married men "

Which brings us nicely back to the honest cheating OP.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So your being honest about your dishonesty? "
yes so its up to others if they wish to play or not . What about the ones who never say and you only know When others tell you or you pick them up on there lies . I think people know where they stand if open about things, Then people have a choice .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All the ones who judge him have answered his question ( y do people judge others )

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"All the ones who judge him have answered his question ( y do people judge others ) "

We all judge other people it's human nature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At the end of the day, its human nature to judge others however much we say we don't. Some judge more than others and people will always have an opinion but unless you know all the facts, that's all it will be. On here generally, people are looking for others to share the most intimate act 2 people can do together and perhaps they will judge the people they want to potentially meet. Rightly or wrongly it happens and I think its only fair if you're playing away you are upfront about it then as I did when I was meeting, they can say no thanks, not for me.

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By *0JOMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

People judge. So what!! If you have a clear conscience who cares what others think.

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"People judge. So what!! If you have a clear conscience who cares what others think. "

By the sound of it the OP has no concience whatsoever. Espwcially when it comes to his wife.

And he's still not shown up to defend his dishonest honesty.

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"People judge. So what!! If you have a clear conscience who cares what others think.

By the sound of it the OP has no concience whatsoever. Espwcially when it comes to his wife.

And he's still not shown up to defend his dishonest honesty."

*Especially.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

No one has to come back and comment again if they dont want to, maybe just stick to the discussion instead of attacks on the OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

He should have just put in his write up, married looking to cheat and see what happened, some women might be up for that and then others have the choice! Winner winner, no need for discussion, what a bell sniff!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People judge. So what!! If you have a clear conscience who cares what others think.

By the sound of it the OP has no concience whatsoever. Espwcially when it comes to his wife.

And he's still not shown up to defend his dishonest honesty."

he doesn't have to defend himself from anyone does he? I think enough has been said now don't you?

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By * times sexyCouple
over a year ago

Staffs

here come de judge , here come de judge, everybody knows dat here come de judge.

Ok ok Lets settle this once and for all.

In the Holy Bible, Revelations, Chapter XXV1 its says " And Judas said unto his wife " I shalt love thee until my last breath and there shall be no other that I break bread with"

Later as Jesus walked with his flock past the olive Groves he saw Judas fornicating in the bushes with a woman of ill repute. Upon seeing Jesus , Judas began to cry and the woman fled. Jesus said dont cry Judas the Lord forgives all men that sin. Judas said unto Jesus " But I wasn't sinning Jesus that was my wife and she has hurried home to bake bread for you" Jesus said " You fucking Lying bastard Judas , that was good time Gaynor the well known fuck buddy" and with the almighty crash of thunder, Jesus did smite Judas from the earth with a fucking great Lightning Bolt" "Thatll teach the lying little twat" Jesus murmered softly as he walked of across the Sea of Gallilee . Amen

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"People judge. So what!! If you have a clear conscience who cares what others think.

By the sound of it the OP has no concience whatsoever. Espwcially when it comes to his wife.

And he's still not shown up to defend his dishonest honesty.

he doesn't have to defend himself from anyone does he? I think enough has been said now don't you? "

Oooooh !

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By *RYBBWCouple
over a year ago

Leeds.


"here come de judge , here come de judge, everybody knows dat here come de judge.

Ok ok Lets settle this once and for all.

In the Holy Bible, Revelations, Chapter XXV1 its says " And Judas said unto his wife " I shalt love thee until my last breath and there shall be no other that I break bread with"

Later as Jesus walked with his flock past the olive Groves he saw Judas fornicating in the bushes with a woman of ill repute. Upon seeing Jesus , Judas began to cry and the woman fled. Jesus said dont cry Judas the Lord forgives all men that sin. Judas said unto Jesus " But I wasn't sinning Jesus that was my wife and she has hurried home to bake bread for you" Jesus said " You fucking Lying bastard Judas , that was good time Gaynor the well known fuck buddy" and with the almighty crash of thunder, Jesus did smite Judas from the earth with a fucking great Lightning Bolt" "Thatll teach the lying little twat" Jesus murmered softly as he walked of across the Sea of Gallilee . Amen "

Sshhhhhh. You'll get told off....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"People judge. So what!! If you have a clear conscience who cares what others think.

By the sound of it the OP has no concience whatsoever. Espwcially when it comes to his wife.

And he's still not shown up to defend his dishonest honesty.

he doesn't have to defend himself from anyone does he? I think enough has been said now don't you?

Oooooh !"

ahh Cantona??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do wonder what the married couples would have done if their other half had said no to adding other people to their sex life"

We take our vows very seriously and will not go behind the others back. Besides, we have enough toys in our toy collection, we don't need to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"He should have just put in his write up, married looking to cheat and see what happened, some women might be up for that and then others have the choice! Winner winner, no need for discussion, what a bell sniff!!! "

His original profile did say something along those lines. Since posting he has changed his username and rewritten his profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do wonder what the married couples would have done if their other half had said no to adding other people to their sex life

We take our vows very seriously and will not go behind the others back. Besides, we have enough toys in our toy collection, we don't need to. "

another Lego fan

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