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By *Flackox OP   Couple
over a year ago

London

Hi guys no harm intended just noticed something we would like to share and also hear views of other members here. Prior to us joining the lifestyle we read continuously about the lifestyle before joining the site, actually what did for us was the fact that the lifestyle encouraged like minded Couples of all kind to be able to express themselves sexually and in other ways with fellow married couples. However recently on this site we have noticed that there has been a very high increase in singles and even fuck buddy couples whom we still regard as singles, this has in a way put us off a bit is this the case for other couples as said we would love to hear your thoughts......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

why would it put you off? you can't have a site full of people just to cater for you, lots of couples are looking for singles, there's someone for everyone on here, if you don't like singles just focus on couples, you cant be put off just because you comer across people who aren't for you

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By *razy-CplCouple
over a year ago

and surrounding areas


"Hi guys no harm intended just noticed something we would like to share and also hear views of other members here. Prior to us joining the lifestyle we read continuously about the lifestyle before joining the site, actually what did for us was the fact that the lifestyle encouraged like minded Couples of all kind to be able to express themselves sexually and in other ways with fellow married couples. However recently on this site we have noticed that there has been a very high increase in singles and even fuck buddy couples whom we still regard as singles, this has in a way put us off a bit is this the case for other couples as said we would love to hear your thoughts......"

guys its the same in ireland, over 60 looks at our profile today and all guys . we find it hard to meet cpls also

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

if you dont want to meet singles... block singles....

funny thing the site is the site gives you the tools to do so, you can't complain if you decide not to use them.....

I have more issues with couples who look at you with distain for being single... then will suddenly talk to you if you are then part of a couple....

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By *Flackox OP   Couple
over a year ago

London

we just feel it makes the atmosphere uncomfortable for genuine couples looking to meet other couples as we have had good friends whom we met on here who have left the site due to this...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

None of us are joined at the hip, we come into the world alone and leave alone.

On the swinging/ club scene it is considerably cheaper to be a couple than being single.

Very seldom do any two people want the same thing, I have found with married couples one is either bored or has a higher sex drive than their other half, so swinging fills a need and helps some married couples to stay together.

Marriage is often about compromise, when you love and care for your wife or husband you want to make them happy.

Many relationships are need based, either for financial or family reasons, of course many are based on love, and if you are in the wonderful position of both people in a relationship liking the same thing, that's brilliant.

But at the end of the day each of us is a unique, sentient being on lifes rich journey.

The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own.

No apologies, no excuses,

No one lean on, rely on, or blame.

The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it.

This is the day your life really begins.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

The more members that join the site, the greater the volume of singles will be on it: if the ratio of couples: singles stay the same, then it should mean that is also a bigger volume of couples to get to meet, and that there's a higher chance of you being compatible, with more to choose from.

I like fab and clubs, as it's a mix of this and that, and I can also have the freedom to explore, depending on my interests.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This lifestyle isn't exclusive to just couples, lots of couples meet singles, us included.

Why don't you use your filters so only couples show in your searches?

Can't understand that because there are singles that also swing how it could put you off x

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By *Flackox OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"if you dont want to meet singles... block singles....

funny thing the site is the site gives you the tools to do so, you can't complain if you decide not to use them.....

I have more issues with couples who look at you with distain for being single... then will suddenly talk to you if you are then part of a couple...."

well we dont even like to meet fuckbuddy couples it just doesnt correspond with our fantasy and we aint the type that look at singles with disdain because we beleive everyone has a right to enjoy themselves it just isnt our thing also we make use of the block singles just to avoid the hassle in the first place.

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By *Flackox OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"None of us are joined at the hip, we come into the world alone and leave alone.

On the swinging/ club scene it is considerably cheaper to be a couple than being single.

Very seldom do any two people want the same thing, I have found with married couples one is either bored or has a higher sex drive than their other half, so swinging fills a need and helps some married couples to stay together.

Marriage is often about compromise, when you love and care for your wife or husband you want to make them happy.

Many relationships are need based, either for financial or family reasons, of course many are based on love, and if you are in the wonderful position of both people in a relationship liking the same thing, that's brilliant.

But at the end of the day each of us is a unique, sentient being on lifes rich journey.

The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own.

No apologies, no excuses,

No one lean on, rely on, or blame.

The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it.

This is the day your life really begins."

WONDERFULLLL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we just feel it makes the atmosphere uncomfortable for genuine couples looking to meet other couples as we have had good friends whom we met on here who have left the site due to this..."

How on earth do us singles make the atmosphere uncomfortable for you? Please feel free to block us all if you think we're that bad But when I joined a few years ago now, I don't recall any rule that said I had to be part of a couple to enjoy the benefits of this site!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flackox nothing wrong with voicing your concerns about the singles keep catting your mind might change as you get more opinions and rider as usual always gives great advice pity about the ones who seem to bader you into they way of thinking hope you stay anyway x

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

But it says on your profile your looking to meet women ( bi fem) that would be tough if it was only couples?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"we just feel it makes the atmosphere uncomfortable for genuine couples looking to meet other couples as we have had good friends whom we met on here who have left the site due to this...

How on earth do us singles make the atmosphere uncomfortable for you? Please feel free to block us all if you think we're that bad But when I joined a few years ago now, I don't recall any rule that said I had to be part of a couple to enjoy the benefits of this site!!"

when I joined the site I was married and had a couples profile, we never had problems meeting other couples and never had any problems with singles, even though we didn't meet them, I think like most things in life you get out of it what you put in, if your having problems meeting couples maybe you should look closer to home for the problem and stop putting the blame on other

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By *Flackox OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"But it says on your profile your looking to meet women ( bi fem) that would be tough if it was only couples? "

Well thats the part which appeals to us although we aint met yet and got to understand that a good number of single fems on here would prefer to meet other singles that as it is we clearly understand.

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By *hong loverMan
over a year ago

stoke-on-trent


"we just feel it makes the atmosphere uncomfortable for genuine couples looking to meet other couples as we have had good friends whom we met on here who have left the site due to this...

How on earth do us singles make the atmosphere uncomfortable for you? Please feel free to block us all if you think we're that bad But when I joined a few years ago now, I don't recall any rule that said I had to be part of a couple to enjoy the benefits of this site!!"

This

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By *cottishrichMan
over a year ago

Here and there


"But it says on your profile your looking to meet women ( bi fem) that would be tough if it was only couples? "

It says they would LOVE to meet single ladies!

But an unmarried couple just finding their way in the swinging lifestyle isn't good enough.

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By *Flackox OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"we just feel it makes the atmosphere uncomfortable for genuine couples looking to meet other couples as we have had good friends whom we met on here who have left the site due to this...

How on earth do us singles make the atmosphere uncomfortable for you? Please feel free to block us all if you think we're that bad But when I joined a few years ago now, I don't recall any rule that said I had to be part of a couple to enjoy the benefits of this site!!

when I joined the site I was married and had a couples profile, we never had problems meeting other couples and never had any problems with singles, even though we didn't meet them, I think like most things in life you get out of it what you put in, if your having problems meeting couples maybe you should look closer to home for the problem and stop putting the blame on other "

well there was no place in this text where we said we had a problem meeting couples and honestly we dont our profile would testify to that by the way we meant no harm to anyone but rather hear the views of everyone who care to share....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you dont want to meet singles... block singles....

funny thing the site is the site gives you the tools to do so, you can't complain if you decide not to use them.....

I have more issues with couples who look at you with distain for being single... then will suddenly talk to you if you are then part of a couple....

well we dont even like to meet fuckbuddy couples it just doesnt correspond with our fantasy and we aint the type that look at singles with disdain because we beleive everyone has a right to enjoy themselves it just isnt our thing also we make use of the block singles just to avoid the hassle in the first place."

you do say you will meet singles,?

That's the trouble with fantasies, they are not real, and if you do manage to fulfil a fantasy , that is no longer a fantasy.

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By *Flackox OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"if you dont want to meet singles... block singles....

funny thing the site is the site gives you the tools to do so, you can't complain if you decide not to use them.....

I have more issues with couples who look at you with distain for being single... then will suddenly talk to you if you are then part of a couple....

well we dont even like to meet fuckbuddy couples it just doesnt correspond with our fantasy and we aint the type that look at singles with disdain because we beleive everyone has a right to enjoy themselves it just isnt our thing also we make use of the block singles just to avoid the hassle in the first place.

you do say you will meet singles,?

That's the trouble with fantasies, they are not real, and if you do manage to fulfil a fantasy , that is no longer a fantasy. "

True

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi guys no harm intended just noticed something we would like to share and also hear views of other members here. Prior to us joining the lifestyle we read continuously about the lifestyle before joining the site, actually what did for us was the fact that the lifestyle encouraged like minded Couples of all kind to be able to express themselves sexually and in other ways with fellow married couples. However recently on this site we have noticed that there has been a very high increase in singles and even fuck buddy couples whom we still regard as singles, this has in a way put us off a bit is this the case for other couples as said we would love to hear your thoughts......

guys its the same in ireland, over 60 looks at our profile today and all guys . we find it hard to meet cpls also "

you want to try looking for soft swing couples in ireland then.

if bi single females playing with couples are unicorns, then soft swing couples in ireland are unicorns with bacon sandwiches

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh

Unfortunately I would think that the single bi fems that do meet couples would be put off mailing you if they had read your op that singles make you feel uncomfortable , at the end if the day it's entirely up to you who you want to meet but you can't say it's ok for single women to be here and nor single guys

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Unfortunately I would think that the single bi fems that do meet couples would be put off mailing you if they had read your op that singles make you feel uncomfortable , at the end if the day it's entirely up to you who you want to meet but you can't say it's ok for single women to be here and nor single guys

"

This!

As Fabio said - the site gives you all the tools to engage with others that you will ever need! If something makes you 'uncomfortable' then it's easily avoided. Stating that singles are a negative for you - then stating that single females are fine comes across as hypocritical. And as for what makes a 'proper couple'? There are married couples on here, long term couples that don't live together, FB couples that are as close and stable as many marrieds, and those that just play together. It's your choice and preference as to who you seek and who you play with - but being judgemental about who should be on the site and how they come across to others won't do you any favours!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't mind that there are many different kinds of people on here. There's 20,000+ so someone for everyone. Some I won't like, some won't like me. I like the mix.

Perhaps there are other sites that are couples only.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To bloody many........this is a swingers site not a shag for all site....

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By *ustcutieWoman
over a year ago

edinburgh


"To bloody many........this is a swingers site not a shag for all site....

"

Oh right I see... I was a swinger when I was a couple but now im single I should just stop?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"To bloody many........this is a swingers site not a shag for all site....

"

Because 2 people as a couple shagging strangers is swinging but 2 single people shagging strangers is just shagging?

hahahahhahahahahahhahaaaaaaaassa

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By *y93Man
over a year ago

London

wow, some couples do really have negative feelings about singles! why oh why? can singles not be as legitimate swingers as couples? and fuck bud couples are just as legit also, its all a matter of taste. The filters on here works, set up your filters how you like, no harm done at all, we all have our preferences. I would have thought prejudices wouldn't exist in the swinger community because I thought everyone on here would be more relaxed and open minded, but I constantly read or hear about Singles being the lowest of the low. Get a grip people.

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By *indys loverCouple
over a year ago

Stratford on avon


"None of us are joined at the hip, we come into the world alone and leave alone.

On the swinging/ club scene it is considerably cheaper to be a couple than being single.

Very seldom do any two people want the same thing, I have found with married couples one is either bored or has a higher sex drive than their other half, so swinging fills a need and helps some married couples to stay together.

Marriage is often about compromise, when you love and care for your wife or husband you want to make them happy.

Many relationships are need based, either for financial or family reasons, of course many are based on love, and if you are in the wonderful position of both people in a relationship liking the same thing, that's brilliant.

But at the end of the day each of us is a unique, sentient being on lifes rich journey.

The best day of your life is the one on which you decide your life is your own.

No apologies, no excuses,

No one lean on, rely on, or blame.

The gift is yours - it is an amazing journey - and you alone are responsible for the quality of it.

This is the day your life really begins."

can someone pass me a tissue please

good post tho

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By *Flackox OP   Couple
over a year ago

London

Nice comments so far although some people approach this thread with a biased mindset.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nice comments so far although some people approach this thread with a biased mindset."

Is your opening post not from a biased mindset?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"Nice comments so far although some people approach this thread with a biased mindset."

Can't really blame them when the OP is biased towards couples.

I admit there are probably more singles on here than couples, because of the large amount of single men. But you can't single (hah) them out for blame when you are looking specifically for single women.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nice comments so far although some people approach this thread with a biased mindset.

Is your opening post not from a biased mindset?"

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By *Flackox OP   Couple
over a year ago

London


"Nice comments so far although some people approach this thread with a biased mindset.

Is your opening post not from a biased mindset?"

Well not at all just an observation from a different point of view and will also welcome thoughts and opinions of other people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"wow, some couples do really have negative feelings about singles! why oh why? can singles not be as legitimate swingers as couples? and fuck bud couples are just as legit also, its all a matter of taste. The filters on here works, set up your filters how you like, no harm done at all, we all have our preferences. I would have thought prejudices wouldn't exist in the swinger community because I thought everyone on here would be more relaxed and open minded, but I constantly read or hear about Singles being the lowest of the low. Get a grip people."

well, seeings as the original mindset of swinging was being a wife swapper, and singles dont have anything to swap, then you have to accept that, if things havent moved on, singles arent swingers.

dont feel too hard done by, however, cuz we are a couple, but because we dont fuck everything that moves, we arent proper swingers either lol

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By *y93Man
over a year ago

London


"wow, some couples do really have negative feelings about singles! why oh why? can singles not be as legitimate swingers as couples? and fuck bud couples are just as legit also, its all a matter of taste. The filters on here works, set up your filters how you like, no harm done at all, we all have our preferences. I would have thought prejudices wouldn't exist in the swinger community because I thought everyone on here would be more relaxed and open minded, but I constantly read or hear about Singles being the lowest of the low. Get a grip people.

well, seeings as the original mindset of swinging was being a wife swapper, and singles dont have anything to swap, then you have to accept that, if things havent moved on, singles arent swingers.

dont feel too hard done by, however, cuz we are a couple, but because we dont fuck everything that moves, we arent proper swingers either lol"

very true, well said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My thoughts. You joined the site thinking it would be couples only as the name had swingers in it. I don't know if there are sites that only allow married couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I really dislike the term 'the lifestyle'. Sounds elitist.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nice comments so far although some people approach this thread with a biased mindset.

Is your opening post not from a biased mindset?

Well not at all just an observation from a different point of view and will also welcome thoughts and opinions of other people."

So which comments are biased?

As someone who's been in here as a single for many years, meeting couples and singles, attending clubs and parties - and who's now on as a couple, meeting couples and singles, attending attending clubs and parties - and whose view of singles remains exactly the same now as it was before (they are as welcome as any couple!) the only biased views I've read are those that are 'exclusive' rather than 'inclusive' !

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