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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

i've never really looked much at the forums before, but they do seem to attract judgemental people who flame others and moralise, declaiming their virtuosity, the anti bareback and bi brigade. Whats happening to the world, this is a swinging site FFS. Are these the same people who have "NO TURNING" and "NO BALL GAMES"signs at their houses? Its fine what they do, just as its fine what I do, but stop damning people for their choices, as it is after all their choice.

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By *ottongue49Man
over a year ago

BARNSLEY

well said,couldnt agree more,power to freedom of speech

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By *eicsbimaleMan
over a year ago

loughborough

Duck........ there is going to be some response to this threadbut i do have to agree with him

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rant over??

From where I'm standing you seem to be expressing double standards here..... you are damning the people, who you say are damning people for their choices!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

no, i say its ok what they do, just as its ok what i do, just don't damn people for their choices, see what i mean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i've never really looked much at the forums before, but they do seem to attract judgemental people who flame others and moralise, declaiming their virtuosity, the anti bareback and bi brigade. Whats happening to the world, this is a swinging site FFS. Are these the same people who have "NO TURNING" and "NO BALL GAMES"signs at their houses? Its fine what they do, just as its fine what I do, but stop damning people for their choices, as it is after all their choice."

How very dare you come on here and says you have got hair like James May...his hair certainly isn't messy...its fecking tousled...

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

oh right, i'm not an expert on hair or hair science, but i stand by the fact that mine is a mess

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

and if ppl are against things thats there choice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i've never really looked much at the forums before, but they do seem to attract judgemental people who flame others and moralise, declaiming their virtuosity, the anti bareback and bi brigade. Whats happening to the world, this is a swinging site FFS. Are these the same people who have "NO TURNING" and "NO BALL GAMES"signs at their houses? Its fine what they do, just as its fine what I do, but stop damning people for their choices, as it is after all their choice."
Well said that man ,,,, i getting to enjoy the forums again ,,, nice to see some frsh points of view

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By *ottongue49Man
over a year ago

BARNSLEY

sure is,couldnt agree more,lifes all about choices

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

yes, but why share them with people who don't want them? there is a thread, about 4 weeks old, where a couple just ask if couples into bareback will message them. there are loads of replies from people saying they never do it, etc etc. was that necessary or relevant to what was asked?????

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

And as the saying goes,

"I will tolerate anything, except intolerance."

Which means you won't tolerate everything.

I'm confused, need more beer.

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By *ottongue49Man
over a year ago

BARNSLEY

more wine my dear

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

well said . i hate intolerence .

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By *edangel_2013Woman
over a year ago

southend

Nah, don't like wine. Makes me d*unk. I have beer.

White beer flavoured with cherry to be totally accurate.

That doesn't make me d*unk. That just makes me silly!!!

And easily confused!!!

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By *ortheastcoupleukCouple
over a year ago

easington were the sun dont shine

ok but you asked a question ie swinging site and you will get all sorts of answers

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

sorry you've lost me there.

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By *i 1 Get 1 FreeCouple (MM)
over a year ago

birmingham


"you are damning the people, who you say are damning people for their choices!!

"

Ooooooooooooooooo my head hurts now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i've never really looked much at the forums before, but they do seem to attract judgemental people who flame others and moralise, declaiming their virtuosity, the anti bareback and bi brigade. Whats happening to the world, this is a swinging site FFS. Are these the same people who have "NO TURNING" and "NO BALL GAMES"signs at their houses? Its fine what they do, just as its fine what I do, but stop damning people for their choices, as it is after all their choice. Well said that man ,,,, i getting to enjoy the forums again ,,, nice to see some frsh points of view "

Seconded - we are really enjoying the forums again and it is lovely to see new faces, fresh opinions and most people just genuinely expressing opinions - it is lovely and refreshing xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suspect a lot of posts and replies are a form of attention seeking, to ge them noticed on the site. ?the have to say something crowd, hence the the yes/no crowd or i think this or that etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suspect a lot of posts and replies are a form of attention seeking, to ge them noticed on the site. ?the have to say something crowd, hence the the yes/no crowd or i think this or that etc.

"

So if you post ..its all attention seeking...???

And if you agree or disagree with an opinion...its crowd pleasing..arse licking...interesting perspective...

You have got my attention...which crowd are you pleasing ..?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suspect a lot of posts and replies are a form of attention seeking, to ge them noticed on the site. ?the have to say something crowd, hence the the yes/no crowd or i think this or that etc.

So if you post ..its all attention seeking...???

And if you agree or disagree with an opinion...its crowd pleasing..arse licking...interesting perspective...

You have got my attention...which crowd are you pleasing ..?????"
It is a bit like a social gathering where some people talk, others prefer to listen and observe. I (female) love to chat and be sociable on forums not to seek attention but to interact with others and hear their opinions. Its greatalso to have a laugh and banter, makes a refreshing change when working on your computer. And with this site. well there is the naughty sexy aspect to keep me entertained .

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5


"yes, but why share them with people who don't want them? there is a thread, about 4 weeks old, where a couple just ask if couples into bareback will message them. there are loads of replies from people saying they never do it, etc etc. was that necessary or relevant to what was asked?????"

its a public forum

people WILL post what they think

oh and for the record

I am anti bareback in swinging

those that do are fools

hows that then, so sue me

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5


"everybody judges

no matter what

some more than others

but but I love pandoras comment

are you judging those that judge

tut

easy done isn't it

besides which

there is a difference between a choice or preference and judgmental but there are those that will label you as being judgemental

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes, but why share them with people who don't want them? there is a thread, about 4 weeks old, where a couple just ask if couples into bareback will message them. there are loads of replies from people saying they never do it, etc etc. was that necessary or relevant to what was asked?????

its a public forum

people WILL post what they think

oh and for the record

I am anti bareback in swinging

those that do are fools

hows that then, so sue me "
Also very true. The difference is between judgment and making assumptions about a whole person. And judgment in itself is not a negative act_ it be comes negate when it is used to label people. Having a preference is ok- Being labelled as a result of that preference is not ok?

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"I suspect a lot of posts and replies are a form of attention seeking, to ge them noticed on the site. ?the have to say something crowd, hence the the yes/no crowd or i think this or that etc.

"

Which camp are you in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes, but why share them with people who don't want them? there is a thread, about 4 weeks old, where a couple just ask if couples into bareback will message them. there are loads of replies from people saying they never do it, etc etc. was that necessary or relevant to what was asked?????

its a public forum

people WILL post what they think

oh and for the record

I am anti bareback in swinging

those that do are fools

hows that then, so sue me Also very true. The difference is between judgment and making assumptions about a whole person. And judgment in itself is not a negative act_ it be comes negate when it is used to label people. Having a preference is ok- Being labelled as a result of that preference is not ok?"
* negative

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life is as diverse on here as in real life lol

People are people

We are all right and all wrong

God it would be so boring if we were not

However it gives you a chance ta see others points of view and ta get yours across too

There are some that wont budge and are not flexible in anyway

These people should be ignored and avoided

Most are decent rational reasonable people just exploring life xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

a public forum is a collection of opinions.

if you don't want a collection of opinions.

DON'T POST A QUESTION.

it really isn't difficult.

good luck in your endeavour for peace and harmony.

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

On a personal note, people that actually have met me say that I am not as harsh sounding as I come across in the forums

some things I bend on

somethings I will never bend on

problem is I am not really a swinger I have here to meet men for random sex

if you dont like me for it, I can live with it, I have lots of friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

some people strive to bring others down rather than raise their game.....

it's life.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Opinions are like arseholes....

everybody's got one!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Opinions are like arseholes....

everybody's got one!"

It must be raining in the beacons again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At some point I am going to get an opinion and when I do I will post it on here. Then you can all have a go at that lol.

Who cares, its supposed to be a bit of fun isn't it ? I think every one is far too busy with their own opinion and view and they all differ depending on your starting view point. Shoot me down someone lol

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By *woBiTwoCouple
over a year ago

north manchester

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple
over a year ago

hexham

if people didnt have opinions forums would be very boring places

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suspect a lot of posts and replies are a form of attention seeking, to ge them noticed on the site. ?the have to say something crowd, hence the the yes/no crowd or i think this or that etc.

So if you post ..its all attention seeking...???

And if you agree or disagree with an opinion...its crowd pleasing..arse licking...interesting perspective...

You have got my attention...which crowd are you pleasing ..?????"

I considered I said something relevant to the thread, so none apply.

If I post a totally irrelevant post then one might apply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I suspect a lot of posts and replies are a form of attention seeking, to ge them noticed on the site. ?the have to say something crowd, hence the the yes/no crowd or i think this or that etc.

Which camp are you in"

Depends what I said. I have to admit, that I have almost given and have started to post irrelevant stuff in some threads, especially to some peoples posts.

That old saying, if you can't train them, beat them

I seek neither love or hate via FAB

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

Ah irrelevant posts and threads you can have a bloody good laugh with.....try it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ah irrelevant posts and threads you can have a bloody good laugh with.....try it "

I have started, just need to make sure the mods also have a sense of humor

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"Ah irrelevant posts and threads you can have a bloody good laugh with.....try it

I have started, just need to make sure the mods also have a sense of humor"

Now you are pushing it

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

By that I meant mods have to have asense of humour bypass when swearing the oath !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"At some point I am going to get an opinion and when I do I will post it on here. Then you can all have a go at that lol.

Who cares, its supposed to be a bit of fun isn't it ? I think every one is far too busy with their own opinion and view and they all differ depending on your starting view point. Shoot me down someone lol"

With a yummy rear like that you must not be shot down... you need promotion...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im confused??

so if you post your attention seeking??

if you dont agree with someone your judgemental??

will someone please explain to me what the forums are for then??

i for one if i dont agree with somethin yeah i will say so and really to be honest if you judge me by it feel free because to be honest i really dont give a shit!!

waitin for someone to explain now!

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does the following help? Definitions of "judgmental"

1. Of, relating to, or dependent on judgment: a judgmental error.

2. Inclined to make judgments, especially moral or personal ones: a marriage counselor who tries not to be judgmental.

Another web based one :

adjective

1. of or having to do with the exercise of judgment

2. making or tending to make judgments as to value, importance, etc., often specif., judgments considered to be lacking in tolerance, compassion, objectivity, etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"im confused??

so if you post your attention seeking??

if you dont agree with someone your judgemental??

will someone please explain to me what the forums are for then??

i for one if i dont agree with somethin yeah i will say so and really to be honest if you judge me by it feel free because to be honest i really dont give a shit!!

waitin for someone to explain now!

xx"

someone puts something up on it and others comment on it as they want. Public forum so i guess you can make judgement on what they say.

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By *ausage and sizzleCouple
over a year ago

Barnstaple


"i've never really looked much at the forums before, but they do seem to attract judgemental people who flame others and moralise, declaiming their virtuosity, the anti bareback and bi brigade. Whats happening to the world, this is a swinging site FFS. Are these the same people who have "NO TURNING" and "NO BALL GAMES"signs at their houses? Its fine what they do, just as its fine what I do, but stop damning people for their choices, as it is after all their choice."

To a certain extent I agree with SOME of what you say, but the post is very judgemental in it's own right, and of people you don't even know. It's a forum after all. And as they say, "if you can't stand the heat, ...", enough said?

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

What's Judgmental?

Well actually there is a perfect example earlier on the thread so let's use that one?


"

its a public forum

"

Statement of fact...


"

people WILL post what they think

"

Statement of fact...


"

oh and for the record

I am anti bareback in swinging

"

Statement of a personal preference...


"

those that do are fools

"

That's just plain judgemental - why need to say it?


"

hows that then, so sue me "

So maybethat's what the OP meant by judgmental folks?

xx

j&r

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I love reading some opinions on here. I thought i was outspoken as Lou says i am but its proof i am normal

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By *ensual temptressWoman
over a year ago

Southampton

how can people be classed as judgemental when often the post will start with the words..... i was wondering what others thought about this or requesting peoples thoughts and input???

if the person who starts the thread is not wanting anysort of feed back on their comments(maybe posative or negative ) then it kinda defeats the who point of posting lol ! i do however maybe think some points could be made alil more constructivly.

everyone has different ideas and points of view and all are valid .certainly be boring as hell if we all agreed on everything lol . at the end of the days we are all adults and should be able to have discussions over subjects even if we dont happen to fully agree with the person . you may find during the conversation a point is made thats youve not considered before . doesnt mean you have agree with it or even like it but if it makes you open ur mind alil then isnt that worth while ?

basically though if you dont want hear someone elses opionion then just dont ask for it ..shimples as the meercats say hehe!!

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

i adore irony

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5


"i adore irony "

got a laundry basket of it here

any ofers?

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"i adore irony

got a laundry basket of it here

any ofers? "
il have to smack that bottom if you persist

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By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5


"i adore irony

got a laundry basket of it here

any ofers? il have to smack that bottom if you persist "

I only say these things so you offer

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"i adore irony

got a laundry basket of it here

any ofers? il have to smack that bottom if you persist

I only say these things so you offer

"

Boo........

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"i adore irony

got a laundry basket of it here

any ofers? il have to smack that bottom if you persist

I only say these things so you offer

Boo........ "
cheek each _adchick?

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By *adchickCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus


"i adore irony

got a laundry basket of it here

any ofers? il have to smack that bottom if you persist

I only say these things so you offer

Boo........ cheek each _adchick? "

You got a paddle....... I got a whip....

Lets party girl

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent


"certainly be boring as hell if we all agreed on everything lol

"

hmmm isn't that a 'glass half empty' perspective?

Us optimists would assume we'd all be shagging everyone else on the site silly in one mass orgy, and having a naked picnic on the worlds largest duvet afterwards lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"certainly be boring as hell if we all agreed on everything lol

hmmm isn't that a 'glass half empty' perspective?

Us optimists would assume we'd all be shagging everyone else on the site silly in one mass orgy, and having a naked picnic on the worlds largest duvet afterwards lol

"

that sounds delightful!!! x

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By *ichNjudyCouple
over a year ago

stoke on trent

we can live in hope.....

xxxxxx

j&r

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By *oe_Steve_NWestCouple
over a year ago

Bolton


"well said,couldnt agree more,power to freedom of speech "

you said it your self - freedom of speech - or does that only apply if they agree with you?

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