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By *etsome OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham

i hate not turning up when ive arranged to meet someone but what do you think of the following situation

i arranged to meet a couple about 70 miles away. After arranging to meet and while chatting i happened to mention my computer was running slow.

they insisted that i go on a website that would give them access to my computer so they could check whats wrong with it. I didnt like the sound of it so i made my excuses and changed the topic of conversation. But the next day while talking again they suggested i bring the computer up on the day we had arranged to meet. i said i had decided to buy a new one so it wasnt worth it

However on the day i was to visit they phoned up to again ask me to bring the computer up with me. I said i wasntnt going to bother doing because i'd decided to buy a new one. The girl sounded very disappointed with this answer and said her partner would have nothing to do if i did not bring ir with me

at that stage i just thought sod this and texted to say i wouldnt be going

was i right to have my doubts and cancel ?

since cancelling they have texted and phoned about 20 times criticising my decision not to go

it all seems quite surreal

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By *rsK69Woman
over a year ago

Neath

Wtf?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes!

Sounds very bizarre... Strange folks..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Send them a message saying 'this is from my new computer - it can say 'fuck off' all by itself'

You did the right thing. Sounds weird.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mmmm sounds strange to me. Why would they want your computer? You have every right to cancel a meet if you dont feel comfortable.

Did you get a new pc/laptop?

Im thinking of investing in a laptop so I can use the chat rooms to be/view cam

xJx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Send them a message saying 'this is from my new computer - it can say 'fuck off' all by itself'

You did the right thing. Sounds weird. "

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

And downloading too much porn m ak e s yoooo uuuuu rrrr c ompuuuuu teeeeerrr sssllooooow

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds very odd! Definitely right decision not to go x

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

if in doubt don't meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Go with your gut feelings xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phishing scam.

You did the right thing.

Or they would use your computer to access really hard ore illegal stuff.

You know the did you pack this yourself question at airport check in..

Well laptops are the same. Don't be stupid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely right to cancel! Very strange behaviour. Maybe he was going to look through it to skim your banking details off it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah defo the right thing to do but if you did go and meet with out it what could be the worst that could happen you get to be happy and her man would have to find something els to do

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By *etsome OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham

thanks

rugby nd slut - no i'll stick with this computer till i get a pay rise. It was just an excuse not to take it

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By *etsome OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham

theyve been sending me texts all day saying they were just being friendly

then when i ignored calls and texts they started ringing on a different phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Defo the right thing not to go they now sounding like stalkers

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By *etsome OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham

they are both facing court cses as well apparently. him for driving while baned - her for attacking an asian busdriver

so maybe i should have cancelled earlier

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"they are both facing court cses as well apparently. him for driving while baned - her for attacking an asian busdriver

so maybe i should have cancelled earlier "

errr yes...!!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sounds to me like you did exactly the right thing Hun far too weird there's some folks that just seem to go from bad to worse seem like you've had a narrow escape

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Freaking odd balls

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i hate not turning up when ive arranged to meet someone but what do you think of the following situation

i arranged to meet a couple about 70 miles away. After arranging to meet and while chatting i happened to mention my computer was running slow.

they insisted that i go on a website that would give them access to my computer so they could check whats wrong with it. I didnt like the sound of it so i made my excuses and changed the topic of conversation. But the next day while talking again they suggested i bring the computer up on the day we had arranged to meet. i said i had decided to buy a new one so it wasnt worth it

However on the day i was to visit they phoned up to again ask me to bring the computer up with me. I said i wasntnt going to bother doing because i'd decided to buy a new one. The girl sounded very disappointed with this answer and said her partner would have nothing to do if i did not bring ir with me

at that stage i just thought sod this and texted to say i wouldnt be going

was i right to have my doubts and cancel ?

since cancelling they have texted and phoned about 20 times criticising my decision not to go

it all seems quite surreal

"

Maybe they or he was a reporter ? and wanted access to all ya private stuff.....

Very weird i must say and like you i would have gone with my gut feelings and not gone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Something entirely different: there are a few avatar pics missing from this thread. Site hiccup?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

perhaps they like fucking computers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All sounds very strange to me. You did right in cancelling although with their criminal record, I probably wouldn't have arranged to meet in the first place. Better luck next time, just remember to leave your laptop at home

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"they are both facing court cses as well apparently. him for driving while baned - her for attacking an asian busdriver

so maybe i should have cancelled earlier "

Did THEY tell you this! If so why blurt out stuff like that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"they are both facing court cses as well apparently. him for driving while baned - her for attacking an asian busdriver

so maybe i should have cancelled earlier

Did THEY tell you this! If so why blurt out stuff like that! "
as in why did they tell you

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By *etsome OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham


"they are both facing court cses as well apparently. him for driving while baned - her for attacking an asian busdriver

so maybe i should have cancelled earlier

Did THEY tell you this! If so why blurt out stuff like that! as in why did they tell you"

not sure - it certainly did put me at ease

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By *etsome OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham

didnt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"they are both facing court cses as well apparently. him for driving while baned - her for attacking an asian busdriver

so maybe i should have cancelled earlier

Did THEY tell you this! If so why blurt out stuff like that! as in why did they tell you

not sure - it certainly did put me at ease "

I would have blocked after I got told that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Freaking odd balls "

I love this site. It makes me feel sane.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

For anyone in doubt if cancelling was a good idea, here's another way to look at it: if the OP was a single female would you still say "too quick to judge - you should have not cancelled"?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"they are both facing court cses as well apparently. him for driving while baned - her for attacking an asian busdriver

so maybe i should have cancelled earlier "

Ive just done a long post as to how to deal with stalkers on another thread. Click the little green arrow beside my name and it will take u there x

Weird city !! X

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By *irtyAndCh33kyCouple
over a year ago

North Wales


"For anyone in doubt if cancelling was a good idea, here's another way to look at it: if the OP was a single female would you still say "too quick to judge - you should have not cancelled"?"

Nobody has said he shouldn't have cancelled?!

Mrs Dirty

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By *lanwoodMan
over a year ago

Alton

Someone I know (female) allowed a male "friend" to check out her computer to make sure it was running OK. Some time later, she became aware that he had installed something on it and was accessing all her emails and reading all her personal texts on her mobile too. I am not a techie and don't know how that is possible, but you absolutely did the right thing to say no. They could have stalked you without you knowing.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"For anyone in doubt if cancelling was a good idea, here's another way to look at it: if the OP was a single female would you still say "too quick to judge - you should have not cancelled"?

Nobody has said he shouldn't have cancelled?!

Mrs Dirty "

Hence why I started with "For anyone in doubt", call it a pre-emptive strike, but with a lot of threads tend to be a pattern where its usually a matter of time before someone posts a gender-biased opinion.

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"Someone I know (female) allowed a male "friend" to check out her computer to make sure it was running OK. Some time later, she became aware that he had installed something on it and was accessing all her emails and reading all her personal texts on her mobile too. I am not a techie and don't know how that is possible, but you absolutely did the right thing to say no. They could have stalked you without you knowing."

There are programs that do this, I've seen it before. My advice is if anyone is doing anything with your computer do any or all of the following:

1) Make sure you have a main user accoutn with a password needed to get in (which ofcourse they don't know).

2) they can only use the guest account with no admin rights so unable to install anything

3) if possible, sit next to them so you can see everything being done.

4) have them walk you through everything they are doing - any website they browse and DEFINITELY if they want to install something: you want to know what it is, what it does, what website they got it from and show you how it works, and when done how to remove it.

5) If using windows, you need to learn how to do a "system restore" (it takes a snapshot of your computer at a moment in time) so you can "go back" to how your computer was before any changes were made.

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By *etsome OP   Man
over a year ago

birmingham

Can anyone offer me a meet where i don't need to bring my computer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sound advice, Ahabs

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