FabSwingers.com forum: BBM Now on Andriod and iPhone. The ultimate weapon against time wasters?

By *ocoTemptation OP Man
over a year ago

london

Its sad to say but time wasters really ruin it for the rest of us by forcing us to be horribly cynical when we don't want to be.

It can't just be me that doesn't quite trust a person/couple as being genuine or who they say they are until I see them on cam or hear their voice on the phone.

Well with BBM its voice message feature and the lack of the need to give out your number, time wasters have almost nowhere to hide.

What do you think?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tried it didn't like it. The icon sitting in notifications is annoying and it's a resource hog.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My bbm is on my page but people still think I'm fake I think, cos I have no veri's! But I can see your point there's no hiding really, there's so many apps where you can send pics, voice messages or videos with out the need to give out a number.

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By *ngelbiTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Dyserth, North Wales

A lot of the timewasters I've had a re married guys who get turned on by the thought of meeting that when they've had their wank and calmed down they have no intentions to actually meet.

It won't stop that cos the guy is real but just a coward.

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By *ocoTemptation OP Man
over a year ago

london

A resource hog? Haven't noticed an impact but I will check that thanks.

"Tried it didn't like it. The icon sitting in notifications is annoying and it's a resource hog. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer kik or whatsapp. I downloaded bbm on my iphone but have never used it

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By *ocoTemptation OP Man
over a year ago

london

I had my BBM on my page but no one replied through it so I removed it. Got a much better response when I put it on twitter though.

"My bbm is on my page but people still think I'm fake I think, cos I have no veri's! But I can see your point there's no hiding really, there's so many apps where you can send pics, voice messages or videos with out the need to give out a number. "

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

So because someone won't put a piece of software on their phone that is associated with a failed operating system they're a timewaster?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had my BBM on my page but no one replied through it so I removed it. Got a much better response when I put it on twitter though.

I can see how that might work, but I'm not on twitter, I don't really feel the need to follow people. Quite content with Facebook lol, I know that's probably worse than twitter lol.

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By *andytownMan
over a year ago

Gods Own Country

"I prefer kik or whatsapp. I downloaded bbm on my iphone but have never used it"

Well Kik me anytime

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So because someone won't put a piece of software on their phone that is associated with a failed operating system they're a timewaster?"

Not sure that's what he said

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By *ocoTemptation OP Man
over a year ago

london

I prefer whatsapp and KiK too. Whats app being my favourite of the two. My reason for mentioning BBM is that it has a reputation for being the best at hiding you number etc. In theory it takes away the time wasters last line of defence lol

"I prefer kik or whatsapp. I downloaded bbm on my iphone but have never used it"

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By *ocoTemptation OP Man
over a year ago

london

Ahh yes lol

Well for me alarm bells go off as soon as sometime asks me to tell them in detail when I plan to do with them.

"A lot of the timewasters I've had a re married guys who get turned on by the thought of meeting that when they've had their wank and calmed down they have no intentions to actually meet.

It won't stop that cos the guy is real but just a coward."

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By *ocoTemptation OP Man
over a year ago

london

Err if they say that after saying their webcam is broken and they are still too shy to chat on the phone yes after a few conversations a beg YES

"So because someone won't put a piece of software on their phone that is associated with a failed operating system they're a timewaster?"

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By *rsK69Woman
over a year ago

Neath

Move to Wales

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By *ngelbiTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Dyserth, North Wales

I've just downloaded it and will have a little play with BBM

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Its sad to say but time wasters really ruin it for the rest of us by forcing us to be horribly cynical when we don't want to be.

I hate it when people throw out a phrase like this because it too easy to do, and leave the person using it thinking they are blameless.....

oh but it is everyone elses fault but mine... oh woe is me!

if you are doing the selection process, and you are coming up against people who you think are timewasters (again come with a defination of the word, because peoples will be different) then the common denominator is you......

if it is not working.. change the way you choose, change the way about going about selection, change all, change none.. but the site gives you different tools you can use... if you decide to use all or use none... thats on you....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just got bbm have to find out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP, heaven forbid you have to take more time selecting people to meet. But no, insist everyone gets a smartphone and downloads a piece of software to prove they aren't going to stand you up.

The irony being they are still able to stand you up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

BBM has its pros and cons. it's fantastic that it's come out for all platforms of phones, but by doing so has opened it up to fakes and scams. Originally to use bbm, your "pin" was matched with your phone, making it so that you were far less likely to do wrong with it. Now all it takes to get a "pin" is an email. So that is its biggest con, but for pros... It has a secure server! With KIK and Whatsapp, anything and everything you send goes to some server somewhere that MAY not be secure. Meaning that somone can freely just sit there and watch or look or heaven forbid, like a few months back, snapchat got hacked and hundreds of thousands of pics and identities stolen. As well, bbm has groups like the one that I have started, allowing many people to chat on the go and share pics.

Mr. S

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

With all these recent threads knocking site and members and folk wanting bbm chat etc i wonder why they actually on site.

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By *ingjayMan
over a year ago

exeter

"So because someone won't put a piece of software on their phone that is associated with a failed operating system they're a timewaster?"

Ha there's always one that completely misses and doesn't understand such a simple post!! It's almost garenteed, whilst 99% of the people get what someone is saying you just can't get through to everybody sadly, now op stand up and defend yourself!! How very dare you post such an offensive derogatory question!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Its sad to say but time wasters really ruin it for the rest of us by forcing us to be horribly cynical when we don't want to be.

It can't just be me that doesn't quite trust a person/couple as being genuine or who they say they are until I see them on cam or hear their voice on the phone.

Well with BBM its voice message feature and the lack of the need to give out your number, time wasters have almost nowhere to hide.

What do you think?"

We've never really had any problem with time wasters...cue a whole bunch of them coming out of the woodwork!...whether it's luck or good judgement, we're not sure...but as people who are looking for couples won't it just be another medium for people to waste your time? How is potentially talking on bbm to still only one half of a couple as is likely to happen from what we can gather going to help you out the ungenuine? Maybe my techno fuckwittery is missing something obvious?

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

Well label me a timewaster then because i don't cam & i sure as hell ain't downloading bbm onto my phone.

Anyone that thinks Im not real or a timewaster; DON'T contact me

Simples

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By *ngelbiTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Dyserth, North Wales

"Well label me a timewaster then because i don't cam & i sure as hell ain't downloading bbm onto my phone.

Anyone that thinks Im not real or a timewaster; DON'T contact me

Simples

Well said!!!

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

So because someone won't put a piece of software on their phone that is associated with a failed operating system they're a timewaster?

Err if they say that after saying their webcam is broken and they are still too shy to chat on the phone yes after a few conversations a beg YES

Well I guess some people will just keep on making excuses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Serious people have a play phone. It's separate to their everyday phone so noproblems with unwanted attention when yiu off scene.

If there are any problrms, then it's 50p or free for a sim and a new number...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am i missing something i use kik for folk i dont want to give number too and whatsapp for folk i do.

bbm is overrated.

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By *ocoTemptation OP Man
over a year ago

london

Not going to disagree with you Fabio. That's why I said it forces me to be cynical. In my case the common denominator in the past has been me not always following my instincts and giving too many people the benefit of the doubt for fear of offending people.

When I do follow my instincts things go far more smoothly. Not always resulting in a meet but you at least know that no one is messing with your time.

All I am saying is BBM is a great tool for flushing the time wasters out. Not perfect but potentially very useful.

"Its sad to say but time wasters really ruin it for the rest of us by forcing us to be horribly cynical when we don't want to be.

I hate it when people throw out a phrase like this because it too easy to do, and leave the person using it thinking they are blameless.....

oh but it is everyone elses fault but mine... oh woe is me!

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By *ocoTemptation OP Man
over a year ago

london

There is no defence against being still up. You can call just before you set off on your journey but even that is no guarantee lol

"OP, heaven forbid you have to take more time selecting people to meet. But no, insist everyone gets a smartphone and downloads a piece of software to prove they aren't going to stand you up.

The irony being they are still able to stand you up. "

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By *ocoTemptation OP Man
over a year ago

london

The cool bit is the ability to leave a secure voice message without the need to give away your number, both partners can easily say something.

"Its sad to say but time wasters really ruin it for the rest of us by forcing us to be horribly cynical when we don't want to be.

It can't just be me that doesn't quite trust a person/couple as being genuine or who they say they are until I see them on cam or hear their voice on the phone.

Well with BBM its voice message feature and the lack of the need to give out your number, time wasters have almost nowhere to hide.

What do you think?

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By *ocoTemptation OP Man
over a year ago

london

That's what I did. Love my play phone. Now I don't have to worry about people handling my "real life" phone and seeing something I don't want them to see lol

"Serious people have a play phone. It's separate to their everyday phone so noproblems with unwanted attention when yiu off scene.

If there are any problrms, then it's 50p or free for a sim and a new number..."

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By *ocoTemptation OP Man
over a year ago

london

Exactly lol

"So because someone won't put a piece of software on their phone that is associated with a failed operating system they're a timewaster?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lot of the timewasters I've had a re married guys who get turned on by the thought of meeting that when they've had their wank and calmed down they have no intentions to actually meet.

It won't stop that cos the guy is real but just a coward."

Calling someone a coward isn't very nice, people use sex sites for, among other things emptying their balls in a safe way, sitting in front of a computer, is probably the safest sex anyone can have.

He has probably worked hard to pay the bills and raise the kids, which isn't easy, im sure you know, it takes strength to do that.

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

Avoiding timewasters? Check profile thoroughly. Only give out number when you're ready to meet. No swapping of pics on phone or email. A quick chat by phone. Contact just prior to meeting.

I never cam for any reason. It's done me ok so far.

I don't like sexy chat as that always, in my experience at least, ends with no meet. Often the guy is looking for quick thrills - probably married. Same goes for pics swapped via phone or email.

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By *uietlyKinkyUsCouple
over a year ago

midlands

"Serious people have a play phone. It's separate to their everyday phone so noproblems with unwanted attention when yiu off scene.

If there are any problrms, then it's 50p or free for a sim and a new number..."

I don't & won't.

Charging, carrying & getting a signal on this one is enough.

Its not just buying a throw away Sim. Its topping it up, charging it up & then should you have to swap the number, telling those contacts you want to keep you've another new number

I have had no issues with time wasters or fakes, have no need for a 'play phone' & yet manage to get meets & am serious. But i guess Im the exception to the rule. Except all the other gen swingers that manage without ...

Unless 'serious' in this sense is more akin to desperate for sex....

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Well with BBM its voice message feature and the lack of the need to give out your number, time wasters have almost nowhere to hide.

What do you think?"

and for those who dont use bbm or whatever it is..

not everyone chooses to do so for whatever reasons..

does not make them less genuine..

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

"Serious people have a play phone. It's separate to their everyday phone so noproblems with unwanted attention when yiu off scene.

If there are any problrms, then it's 50p or free for a sim and a new number..."

guess were not serious then..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just downloaded BBM how do u get the PIN numbers

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By *B9 QueenWoman
over a year ago

Over the rainbow, under the bridge

"Serious people have a play phone. It's separate to their everyday phone so noproblems with unwanted attention when yiu off scene.

If there are any problrms, then it's 50p or free for a sim and a new number...

guess were not serious then..

Me too! But I can dump numbers in my spam folder so I'm not bothered by either calls or texts from people I don't want contacting me.

I can take them out if I do but so far that's never happened.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I seem to have aquired the gamut of communications software, (kik, viber, whatsapp, skype, bbm, twitter and used to use msn / yahoo) and if you don't get a reply from here the rest are a waste of time.

I've not found any of them to be that much of a resource hog (generally thats the screen and whatever app you're using), plus if you're going to waste people's time you will ve a timewaster anyway.

I think we're all irritated by the rude, crude and wasters amongst us, yes with bbm, kik etc. communications easier, more private, if you're going to be ignored or let down or messed around you will do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Serious people have a play phone. It's separate to their everyday phone so noproblems with unwanted attention when yiu off scene.

If there are any problrms, then it's 50p or free for a sim and a new number...

guess were not serious then..

Nor us. Never seen the need for a swing phone, never do phone or cam verifications, doesn't seem to cause us any problems.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a big fan of bbm and live using to meet people. Any one wants to swap pins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just downloaded BBM how do u get the PIN numbers "

Once you download it, it leads you through the steps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My pin is on my profile if anyone wants to add me for a chat

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