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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Remembering the thread about the guy who told his meet that she wasn't his type and her boobs were to small , made me wonder.Has anyone actually been blunt and said "your cocks to small","your a lousy Shag" or any other not so nice comment, after the event. Or do you just go, never to return?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I've never had a meet where I thought 'never again' but I wouldn't be so cruel (even if it were true) to say it direct. I'd probably send a message after saying thanks but no thanks. Cowardly maybe, but a bit more sensitive.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

no never. whats the point.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

There's no point insulting someone. Unless they really ask for it.

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

just wouldn't meet again

did have one who was crap but I didn't have the heart to say as he was sooo insecure

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"I've never had a meet where I thought 'never again' but I wouldn't be so cruel (even if it were true) to say it direct. I'd probably send a message after saying thanks but no thanks. Cowardly maybe, but a bit more sensitive. "

Oh I have! But would never say so

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I have declined to give someone a veri and when they persisted in asking why I said that they had obviously had a much nicer time than I did...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No I couldn't be that blunt!

I did wonder whether I should have said something in a nice way but made up a lame excuse not to see him again instead.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we met a guy who said he had a big cock and his user name said this too

he wasn't that big and when he asked me to speak to one of my friends about him and tell her how big he was, I said I couldn't lie to her about it

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"No I couldn't be that blunt!

I did wonder whether I should have said something in a nice way but made up a lame excuse not to see him again instead."

I'm not mean but I am often more honest than people are expecting. Usually only when they've asked and won't let it drop mind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have declined to give someone a veri and when they persisted in asking why I said that they had obviously had a much nicer time than I did... "

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By *uby0000Woman
over a year ago

hertfordshire

knew one whose name indicated he was hard always but I knew he couldn't get a hard on via a friend lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i did tell a man i had seen a few times that he had hurt me when we had sex, i didnt hear from him again after that.

i dont think we were compatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had one meet where after I did ask myself why. I would never tell them though, because what isn't right for me could be for someone else.

I had a meet where next day, he said I was too old for him

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"I have declined to give someone a veri and when they persisted in asking why I said that they had obviously had a much nicer time than I did... "

I might need to 'borrow' this line some time in the future.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i did tell a man i had seen a few times that he had hurt me when we had sex, i didnt hear from him again after that.

i dont think we were compatible."

You didn't tell him during, just after?

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

The one's I hate are the one promising you the world, only to be left thinking was that it???

They just never get invited back!

But then the common dominator is me.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i did tell a man i had seen a few times that he had hurt me when we had sex, i didnt hear from him again after that.

i dont think we were compatible.

You didn't tell him during, just after? "

I told him after when we were chatting online.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i did tell a man i had seen a few times that he had hurt me when we had sex, i didnt hear from him again after that.

i dont think we were compatible.

You didn't tell him during, just after?

I told him after when we were chatting online."

But he HURT you! Why didn't you feel you could tell him there and then?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i did tell a man i had seen a few times that he had hurt me when we had sex, i didnt hear from him again after that.

i dont think we were compatible.

You didn't tell him during, just after?

I told him after when we were chatting online.

But he HURT you! Why didn't you feel you could tell him there and then?"

Because some men want to have sex in a certain position which hurts me, i thought he wouldnt like it if i said something. i always tell then now though, before we have sex.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I have declined to give someone a veri and when they persisted in asking why I said that they had obviously had a much nicer time than I did... "

That's fair enough!

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

In an email yes, this lad was playing stupid so I told him he was ugly, had bad teeth and was a crap shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i did tell a man i had seen a few times that he had hurt me when we had sex, i didnt hear from him again after that.

i dont think we were compatible.

You didn't tell him during, just after?

I told him after when we were chatting online.

But he HURT you! Why didn't you feel you could tell him there and then?

Because some men want to have sex in a certain position which hurts me, i thought he wouldnt like it if i said something. i always tell then now though, before we have sex."

HE wouldn't like it?

I'm sorely tempted to start a thread to discuss the idea that either gender would have to put up with physical or psychological discomfort just because the other(s) wouldn't like negative feedback.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never had a meet where I thought 'never again' but I wouldn't be so cruel (even if it were true) to say it direct. I'd probably send a message after saying thanks but no thanks. Cowardly maybe, but a bit more sensitive. "

I don't think it's cowardly to be sensitive to someone's feelings. Respectfully declining to meet again is enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

yes, ive had, sorry I don't really get this bbw thing, I don't think its for me...after he'd finished....

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen


"

I'm sorely tempted to start a thread to discuss the idea that either gender would have to put up with physical or psychological discomfort just because the other(s) wouldn't like negative feedback."

I stopped a session midway because I wasn't comfortable! I was thinking wtf does he think he is doing, I called a halt to everything!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"yes, ive had, sorry I don't really get this bbw thing, I don't think its for me...after he'd finished...."

!!!! After he finished !!!!! Cheeky fucker !!!!!!

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"yes, ive had, sorry I don't really get this bbw thing, I don't think its for me...after he'd finished....

!!!! After he finished !!!!! Cheeky fucker !!!!!! "

lowlife with no respect also..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I unfortunately has to tell a couple that I wouldn't be playing with them. I met them at their hotel room and could see then their photos where outdated, went for a bite to eat and he was just someone I wouldn't choose to spend time with so when he clapped his hands and rubbed them together whilst saying "back to the hotel for a play then" I had to say no thank you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was not allowed to touch the end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I met a guy who soaked my bed with sweat, he was dripping on me it was gross! As it's something he can't alter I said nothing just stripped the bed and washed the pillows after! I didn't invite him back! Luckily the fact I got a regular boyfriend and I'm not really playing much now solved the question as to when he was getting me again!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a meet when I was in a couple. The woman was fantastic, but the guy smelt musty, cock was tiny and couldn't get it up (after prolonged messages about his prowess in the bedroom!!) I was soooo relieved he didn't get hard, and left them in the bedroom and watched TV instead! Avoided another meet and when pushed for a verification only spoke about her ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hope that anyone meeting me would be honest without being brutally hurtful if I wasnt for them. Would hate to be resented afterwards if wasn't what they wanted.

That said I think meeting socially before at least makes sure we get on and are attracted to each other. Hopefully that minimises the risk.

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By *rencherMan
over a year ago

Derby

Personally I'd much rather know where I stood with someone after a meet even if the truth did hurt

Being left dangling in limbo is not for me

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By *nlyfun3Woman
over a year ago

NEAR Berkhamsted,Herts

Ive had after the odd meet and they say they wanna meet again to say politely that they were not as clean as i had hoped. Some men think washing just their cock is enough cleanliness. They forget that if my face is in their lap i can smell everything! A clean man is a massive turn on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What people have to remember is you chose them. So is it they didn't live up to your expectation or you painted a picture which was far from the truth?

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By *ohohoWoman
over a year ago

Up North

During play I will indicate quite clearly what I like. But not everyone is interested in pleasing their partner. Or we might simply just not be sexually compatible. Then I don't meet them again.

No need to tell them why as they are normally not interested anyhow. No need for unnecessary cruelty. I would rather the same was done to me as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've found the men who talk themselves up before sex are usually a disappointment. My own experiences only, I haven't researched this. Cleanliness you can only find out when you are naked in close proximity. If a man disappoints or doesn't listen I won't verify or have a return meet. I would expect the same treatment from a man. I would hate to be a last resort from someone who didn't enjoy me the first time. I refused to verify one man because I felt he wanted me to say how amazing he was when he wasn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is not mandatory to provide a verification after a meet.

If the gent does not live up to my expectations, I can still give him a verification to confirm his existence without going into gory details about how he has failed in the bedroom department!

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By *riendly foeWoman
over a year ago

In a crisp poke on the A814


"It is not mandatory to provide a verification after a meet.

If the gent does not live up to my expectations, I can still give him a verification to confirm his existence without going into gory details about how he has failed in the bedroom department!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Play the game back.

Insecure people will always knock

Nette

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

We would never be cruel and then insult a meet just for the sake of it or just because they are not our type. To be honest I don't see why anyone would feel good about doing something like that...

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By *nigmatic1Woman
over a year ago

A seaside town near you!


"yes, ive had, sorry I don't really get this bbw thing, I don't think its for me...after he'd finished...."

Oh my god how bloody cheeky! hope you told him where to get off.?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I thought this was a general question, I think someone doing that after a meet, just wicked and cruel,

Nette

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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago

South West London / Surrey


"Personally I'd much rather know where I stood with someone after a meet even if the truth did hurt

Being left dangling in limbo is not for me"

I agree we would rather know where we stand than be strung along. But there is a difference in being truthful about how you feel and in being nasty just for the sake of it. Its not what you say but how you say it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a meet turn up pissed, he kept trying to convince me he was sober & tried to play, he got too bloody rough and hurt so told him to shut up and go to sleep.

He messaged in the next day to say sorry as he thought he could remember being rough. Told him he was and that I'd not meet him again. I can't stand d*unk men. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Compliments should be natural, not forced. Same with disappointment...you don't need to be spiteful for the sake of it. The old cliches of 'honesty is the best policy'. The problem is most people don't like confrontation and blokes, especially don't like you questioning their performance or manhood. I agree with not bigging yourself up before the act but I've encountered women that do the same. A connection helps and sometimes if that's there then average sex can be overlooked....think if your honest with yourself you know when you've been good in bed and you must pick up on the vibe of your partner. If in doubt...block the fuckers! Here endeth the lesson....

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield


"It is not mandatory to provide a verification after a meet.

If the gent does not live up to my expectations, I can still give him a verification to confirm his existence without going into gory details about how he has failed in the bedroom department!

"

I generally have a coffee meet first and write the verification based on that. So after bad play meets I can usually just move on. Unless they pester as per my first response to this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had a couple of "never again meets" and in both cases they were due to erection difficulties.

I felt sorry for the guys and would never make it worse by confronting them about it. Clearly they could tell they had not lived up to my expectations and felt terrible, why make it worse?

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a couple of "never again meets" and in both cases they were due to erection difficulties.

I felt sorry for the guys and would never make it worse by confronting them about it. Clearly they could tell they had not lived up to my expectations and felt terrible, why make it worse?"

Erection difficulties can happen for all kinds of reasons so I'd meet them again if they pleasured me anyway, I don't cum through penetration with most men anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i did tell a man i had seen a few times that he had hurt me when we had sex, i didnt hear from him again after that.

i dont think we were compatible.

You didn't tell him during, just after?

I told him after when we were chatting online.

But he HURT you! Why didn't you feel you could tell him there and then?"

for an obvious reason..SAFETY

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

Waveney Valley

The ratio of women posting to men is interesting. I guess a guy who cums, which is easy enough to achieve, has had a satisfactory meet.

When it comes to women, a man causing you unwanted paid, being d*unk or dirty is just unacceptable. They should know it - though if they're too stupid to realise, being told, however bluntly, is unlikely to help.

But lets face it, sometimes the sex may not be that good. True, there are bullshitters, but hey the trick is not to be taken in by the sales pitch. So what do you do with those who came hoping you'd both/all have fun, but it didn't happen? I guess be honest, but not rude. I've thanked people for their time before now and said simply that we probably won't meet again. Do it there and then.

I've also had a meet where someone told me why it hadn't worked for them. A useful learning experience.

Finally on the subject of veris, if you can't say something nice say nowt. If they were a crop shag, why waste more time? And your warning others to steer clear is unlikely to be the one they publish!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only after he turned up at my mother's house 8 months later did I tell him. But that's a totally different story!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After my first 3 meets I felt cold, and sad, I had to turn things around,

Now I use a meet for my pleasure, always making sure I have an orgasm, or two, before letting the man cum.

This way, I have my own self gratification, whatever happens, men usually feel guilty as soon as they orgasm, thinking about their wives, kids, and the fact they have just fucked another man, when they feel they are straight.

And leave within 2 minutes.

My way, I can keep them as long as I want, have fun, and then empty their balls...Job done

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By *zanyCouple
over a year ago

truro

We always meet socially when possible for the first meet. If it gets to the next stage then what ever happens, it is a compliment to get that far. If it is a disappointing meet you just move on with a thank you and put it down to experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've had a couple of "never again meets" and in both cases they were due to erection difficulties.

I felt sorry for the guys and would never make it worse by confronting them about it. Clearly they could tell they had not lived up to my expectations and felt terrible, why make it worse?

Erection difficulties can happen for all kinds of reasons so I'd meet them again if they pleasured me anyway, I don't cum through penetration with most men anyway."

I think that if these men were given a second chance they would be even more nervous and afraid of failing again and the chances of having another floppy would be very high.

With so many men around it is just easier to move on instead of creating more pressure for them.

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By *umpkinMan
over a year ago

near the sounds of the wimborne quarter jack!

Had someone on here message me me to say they don`t do my type. I wouldn`t have minded if I had initially approached them but this was completely out of the ether! Blocked!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have had guys who could not perform. The worst are the super quick cumers. They cum from a semi after less than a minute of receiving a BJ from Kat. We have in the past asked them directly to leave. No veri, they would never have shown it anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You need to see the veri I got from somebody on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That was my most successful meet too

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By *ikkixxWoman
over a year ago

northampton

I met up with a guy who when he turned up was very camp, on his profile it said straight and had glowing veris, I couldn't get past the campness so made my excuses!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ive had a veri from a meet where i know i did a good job she told me and also from her reaction during the 6houd meet. I left her a veri. Met her.very sexy etc. Next day i get one back saying he showed up. Had better. Her reason= so she will put other girls off and keep me to herself. Shes blocked by the way

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