FabSwingers.com forum: Dating Page on Fab Forum

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Ok, so after discussion with a number of other FAB friends it has been brought to my attention that many people on FAB are looking for a partner, as in a proper relationship and not FBs) who would like to carry on their FAB adventures with them rather than stay as a single and have the dilemma of trying to introduce new 'vanilla' partners to the FAB world or to have to give it up instead. Does anyone think there is room for another forum room on fab just for those interested in dating to meet and chat!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is not about finding life partners. This is a swingers site. My thoughts are that it is completely inappropriate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I imagine it couldn't do any harm

you could call introductions

Would be an interesting one tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging is not about finding life partners. This is a swingers site. My thoughts are that it is completely inappropriate."

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

But in order to swing as a couple you first need a partner. There are so many singles on here that may prefer to swing in that more traditional sense of the word. Fab could be helping swinging to be more about couples again for those that want that???

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

"Swinging is not about finding life partners. This is a swingers site. My thoughts are that it is completely inappropriate."

The site is full of married couples. Try telling them the site isn't for life partners.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have utilised fab as a dating site. Positive responses.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am looking for a "text when your horny buddie" thing lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did actually say it is not about FINDING a life partner, not having a life partner.

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

I already avoid the threads 'seeking a fb'

I already avoid the profile 'seeking a fb'

Now you want a whole section of the forums for me to avoid

I already avoid stories & fantasies.

+ many couples won't even play with 'faux couples' or fb couples.

It's obviously a no thanks from me

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I think if I were single and wanted a longterm partner, I'd want one in the lifestyle so we could swing so would look here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging is not about finding life partners. This is a swingers site. My thoughts are that it is completely inappropriate."

I don't agree. Swinging is the sexual element but that doesn't exclude the possibility of people doing that within a relationship that is mutually consenting and with someone who enjoys that too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It will be a niche and not for everyone, but it will defo be the case for some. Simple case of you avoid what you don't like

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Swinging is not about finding life partners. This is a swingers site. My thoughts are that it is completely inappropriate.

I don't agree. Swinging is the sexual element but that doesn't exclude the possibility of people doing that within a relationship that is mutually consenting and with someone who enjoys that too. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been surprised by how many men have told me they would prefer to do this in a relationship or even have a relationship and NOT do it. It is the honesty of swinging (well mostly!!) that seems to attract people to meet potential romantic partners

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By *entaur_UKMan
over a year ago

Cannock

What would stop people who were not seeking dating or looking for a long term partner posting there?

You'd still get the people looking for one off meets reading and posting there, so can't see that it would work really?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Good god no....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like most things it's open to abuse.

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

"I did actually say it is not about FINDING a life partner, not having a life partner."

So where does someone who is a swinger, and wants to remain a swinger, go to find a life partner if they haven't got one?

Is swinging as a couple only ok for people who were already a couple and were lucky enough to find out they had the same desires?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I know people that her met on this site and ended up in relationships...I know of 2 couples who are now engaged to be married after meeting on here.....I think the name of the site doesn't have to dictate what it's primary use should be....People have different opinions on what swinging is, some people want a fuck buddy, some want to meet lots of different people, some want to attend clubs and some use it to find a potential partner as they don't think they will be able to find the right girl on a dating site....I wouldn't see any problem with your suggestion Vivid....I think there is a place for it, and quite simply those that don't want to use it don't have to, those that disagree with it can avoid it and allow it to be beneficial to those who do want to use it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Swinging is not about finding life partners. This is a swingers site. My thoughts are that it is completely inappropriate.

'Swinging or (rarely) partner swapping is a non-monogamous behavior, in which singles or partners in a committed relationship engage in sexual activities with others as a recreational or social activity.'

Just the definition of swinging says that statement is incorrect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok, so after discussion with a number of other FAB friends it has been brought to my attention that many people on FAB are looking for a partner, as in a proper relationship and not FBs) who would like to carry on their FAB adventures with them rather than stay as a single and have the dilemma of trying to introduce new 'vanilla' partners to the FAB world or to have to give it up instead. Does anyone think there is room for another forum room on fab just for those interested in dating to meet and chat!?

You go girl! I utilise the site as a dating site.

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Surely the profile is where to put that you are looking for a relationship. Now, getting others to read the profile is another problem altogether!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"What would stop people who were not seeking dating or looking for a long term partner posting there?

You'd still get the people looking for one off meets reading and posting there, so can't see that it would work really? "

Well yes, but then we through those fakes or those profiles we aren't interested in everyday on here anyway. But at least in that space those who are looking for a committed relationship where swinging can be a lifestyle for them they can post and say that that is what they want and they can then start the chatting process, with those they are interested in, from a different angle. Obviously some will be found out to be fakes etc, but tyou get that on Match.com!

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

"I did actually say it is not about FINDING a life partner, not having a life partner.

So where does someone who is a swinger, and wants to remain a swinger, go to find a life partner if they haven't got one?

Is swinging as a couple only ok for people who were already a couple and were lucky enough to find out they had the same desires?

Er life!!

I introduced my ex husband to swinging. I met my ex at chams.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I did actually say it is not about FINDING a life partner, not having a life partner.

So where does someone who is a swinger, and wants to remain a swinger, go to find a life partner if they haven't got one?

Is swinging as a couple only ok for people who were already a couple and were lucky enough to find out they had the same desires?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It will be a niche and not for everyone, but it will defo be the case for some. Simple case of you avoid what you don't like"

Absolutely! I think its a good idea for those who like the idea and from recent forum threads , there does appear to be quite a few...both men AND women....who say they are looking for this. Also quite a lot tell me they don't state it on their profile as they fear it will scare people away. But people use this to chat too....it might prove popular. Only one way to find out! Those who want NSA only, don’t need to chat on that forum. Simple! Something and someone for everyone!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There are enough forums that don't really get utilised that it could replace.

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By *iewMan
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over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

It would just be another ranty posts of let downs..

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By *rsK69Woman
over a year ago

Neath

Certainly dont see why not. Those who arent looking for such things could just avoid the room in question. Not rocket science really

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By *lfie80Man
over a year ago

salisbury

I fail to see how this is a problem for anyone.. If you don't like it/not into it, don't enter that particular forum.. the abuse (bound to happen) just ignore like everyone does in all the other forums.. and for the lucky few that it introduces together happy days.. a new couple on the scene for all to play with.. win/win/win

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By *rsK69Woman
over a year ago

Neath

Sorry i meant forum not room

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I did actually say it is not about FINDING a life partner, not having a life partner.

So where does someone who is a swinger, and wants to remain a swinger, go to find a life partner if they haven't got one?

Is swinging as a couple only ok for people who were already a couple and were lucky enough to find out they had the same desires?

Er life!!

I introduced my ex husband to swinging. I met my ex at chams. "

On that logic of 'life' why use the website to swing when there's 'life'

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It will be a niche and not for everyone, but it will defo be the case for some. Simple case of you avoid what you don't like

I totally agree with the thing that people thing it will scare meets away - I know someone who said this to me just today. In fact I totally agree with all you said!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The beauty of being on a site of like minded people....is you are more likely to meet someone looking for the same thing as you.

Nothing wrong with saying what you want!

It might be slightly more difficult to mention it to someone you meet off a vanilla dating site! In my experience. ..it was a disastrous experience because they simply didn't understand the scene so jumped to lots of conclusions. It has been much better on here as at least. .on the whole...people have a better understanding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It will be a niche and not for everyone, but it will defo be the case for some. Simple case of you avoid what you don't like

I totally agree with the thing that people thing it will scare meets away - I know someone who said this to me just today. In fact I totally agree with all you said!

We have a Womance starting already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It will be a niche and not for everyone, but it will defo be the case for some. Simple case of you avoid what you don't like

I totally agree with the thing that people thing it will scare meets away - I know someone who said this to me just today. In fact I totally agree with all you said!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It will be a niche and not for everyone, but it will defo be the case for some. Simple case of you avoid what you don't like

I totally agree with the thing that people thing it will scare meets away - I know someone who said this to me just today. In fact I totally agree with all you said!

We have a Womance starting already

pmsl!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It will be a niche and not for everyone, but it will defo be the case for some. Simple case of you avoid what you don't like

I totally agree with the thing that people thing it will scare meets away - I know someone who said this to me just today. In fact I totally agree with all you said!

We have a Womance starting already

Let's just sit in a dark corner and watch this develop!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It will be a niche and not for everyone, but it will defo be the case for some. Simple case of you avoid what you don't like

I totally agree with the thing that people thing it will scare meets away - I know someone who said this to me just today. In fact I totally agree with all you said!

We have a Womance starting already

Awww...one slight problem ....I am as straight as an arrow! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a great idea! Exactly what I'm currently looking for! Saves the moment when you suggest it to your new partner! Who then looks at you in disgust!! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But flattered all the same lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It will be a niche and not for everyone, but it will defo be the case for some. Simple case of you avoid what you don't like

I totally agree with the thing that people thing it will scare meets away - I know someone who said this to me just today. In fact I totally agree with all you said!

We have a Womance starting already

Let's just sit in a dark corner and watch this develop!

Join me, I have popcorn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If folk looking for partners they in wrong place leave fab as it is plenty dating sites.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It will be a niche and not for everyone, but it will defo be the case for some. Simple case of you avoid what you don't like

I totally agree with the thing that people thing it will scare meets away - I know someone who said this to me just today. In fact I totally agree with all you said!

We have a Womance starting already

Let's just sit in a dark corner and watch this develop!

Join me, I have popcorn"

Hi 5! I'll bring the beer and 3D specs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"But flattered all the same lol x"

I could turn lesbian for you both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good idea, I'd like someone for more than just the occasional meet as I was doing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It will be a niche and not for everyone, but it will defo be the case for some. Simple case of you avoid what you don't like

I totally agree with the thing that people thing it will scare meets away - I know someone who said this to me just today. In fact I totally agree with all you said!

We have a Womance starting already

Let's just sit in a dark corner and watch this develop!

Join me, I have popcorn

Hi 5! I'll bring the beer and 3D specs."

Looks like you'll have to find me another lady to watch guys!

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By *lfie80Man
over a year ago

salisbury

"If folk looking for partners they in wrong place leave fab as it is plenty dating sites."

That's ridiculous... if you don't like it, don't enter the forum... It's not like its taking anything away from fabs in any way or form.. If anything it's going to add to the experience.. very narrow minded!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It will be a niche and not for everyone, but it will defo be the case for some. Simple case of you avoid what you don't like

I totally agree with the thing that people thing it will scare meets away - I know someone who said this to me just today. In fact I totally agree with all you said!

We have a Womance starting already

Let's just sit in a dark corner and watch this develop!

Join me, I have popcorn

Hi 5! I'll bring the beer and 3D specs.

Looks like you'll have to find me another lady to watch guys!

I'll take that challenge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally I cant be bothered having one person to 'team' up with..thats the problem I see with many new fb cpls...one half wont normally like the other half having fun elsewhere without them.

my theory? shagemall

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If folk looking for partners they in wrong place leave fab as it is plenty dating sites."

You sound like you are afraid it will ruin things for YOU!'LOL!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It will be a niche and not for everyone, but it will defo be the case for some. Simple case of you avoid what you don't like

I totally agree with the thing that people thing it will scare meets away - I know someone who said this to me just today. In fact I totally agree with all you said!

We have a Womance starting already

Let's just sit in a dark corner and watch this develop!

Join me, I have popcorn

Hi 5! I'll bring the beer and 3D specs.

Looks like you'll have to find me another lady to watch guys!

Awww sorry!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have utilised fab as a dating site. Positive responses. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It will be a niche and not for everyone, but it will defo be the case for some. Simple case of you avoid what you don't like

I totally agree with the thing that people thing it will scare meets away - I know someone who said this to me just today. In fact I totally agree with all you said!

We have a Womance starting already

Let's just sit in a dark corner and watch this develop!

Join me, I have popcorn

Hi 5! I'll bring the beer and 3D specs.

Looks like you'll have to find me another lady to watch guys!

I'll take that challenge"

Let's do this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It will be a niche and not for everyone, but it will defo be the case for some. Simple case of you avoid what you don't like

I totally agree with the thing that people thing it will scare meets away - I know someone who said this to me just today. In fact I totally agree with all you said!

We have a Womance starting already

Let's just sit in a dark corner and watch this develop!

Join me, I have popcorn

Hi 5! I'll bring the beer and 3D specs.

Looks like you'll have to find me another lady to watch guys!

I'll take that challenge

Let's do this."

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By *lfie80Man
over a year ago

salisbury

"If folk looking for partners they in wrong place leave fab as it is plenty dating sites.

You sound like you are afraid it will ruin things for YOU!'LOL!!! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"personally I cant be bothered having one person to 'team' up with..thats the problem I see with many new fb cpls...one half wont normally like the other half having fun elsewhere without them.

my theory? shagemall"

So do that! I dont think the OP is suggesting making this into a dating site! She is only suggesting a separate forum for goodness sake. Its optional to join in!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Call it the milk tray gang

Nette

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If folk looking for partners they in wrong place leave fab as it is plenty dating sites."

If people can use conventional dating sites to seek sex, then people can do the reverse here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Valid point there! Let's put this in to perspective! The OP was talking about adding a section for people looking for someone! This in turn would make them post there looking for someone and not in these forums. Therefore not interacting for this purpose with those who are not. Were talking a section here not the full site. Its optional to post or _iew it. Jeez.

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By *exybee7Woman
over a year ago

Ashbourne

I totally agree this would be a great idea Vivid. I've often wondered whether I could ever have a 'traditional' relationship now I've experienced the freedom that swinging allows. I think that I'm more likely to connect better with another Fabber. Good idea!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"It would just be another ranty posts of let downs.."

Id have to send Ruggers in to check on that one then - would be frightened that I might catch something whilst I was in there.

This romance mallarkey IS catching isnt it??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think that your _iew of the swinging world does seem very narrow to be honest....For some it is about one off NSA meets, others prefer a regular person or few people / FB/ friends with benefits. ..and let us not forget the many very happy swinging couples on here. All of this is fine if everyone is happy!!! So why is it so unreasonable to believe that SOME single men and women might want a relationship with someone like minded as them? I can't see why you think it goes against the ethos of the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

After all it is valentines day soon!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So how would we have to approach this? how do we make this happen then...how do we ask admin?! Etc etc

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry...my response was to tripod willy! Sorry Trippy! But I think you might be put numbered but dont worry...I am sure there will still be plenty of lovely ladies left for you!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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We would avoid and block anyone looking for love,were sure there are about 50 per cent of people on here unsure of what swinging is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would just be another ranty posts of let downs..

Id have to send Ruggers in to check on that one then - would be frightened that I might catch something whilst I was in there.

This romance mallarkey IS catching isnt it??

Lol...its coming up to Valentines fever! We must be getting in the mood!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a good idea too. If I was ever to want another relationship Im pretty sure I would still want to use fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each to their own, one couple down, 20k profiles to go????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To me, it makes eminent sense that people who want to maintain a swinging lifestyle, but find a committed relationship in which to do that, would use this site for that purpose. Faciltating that makes business sense for the site owners. A dating page on the forum seems a great way of enabling that.

Driving those looking for relationships underpinned by swinging values away from the site to vanilla dating sites makes no rational sense to me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would avoid and block anyone looking for love,were sure there are about 50 per cent of people on here unsure of what swinging is

If they are looking for love or a partner specifically I doubt they would contact a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's a great idea. I will know who I don't want to meet then and there won't be so many dating/love related threads in other sections of the forum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's a great idea. I will know who I don't want to meet then and there won't be so many dating/love related threads in other sections of the forum.

Good point, it could clear up other forums

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By *lfie80Man
over a year ago

salisbury

We would avoid and block anyone looking for love,were sure there are about 50 per cent of people on here unsure of what swinging is

but you're a couple.. they/we wouldn't be looking for a relationship with you two... It's not like life stops because people are looking for something more.. the fact that we are all here means we are all looking for a similar thing.. And if people do find love and carry on swinging.. it's more for you guys to choose from.. I don't see why there is such negativity!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If folk looking for partners they in wrong place leave fab as it is plenty dating sites.

not narrow minded end of day this is ultimately a sex site where if lucky you may find someone that develops into more i am all for that but to have someone say they here to find partner its wrong place as far as i am concerned whether you agree or not is not important really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The whole site is about lovin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would just be another ranty posts of let downs..

Id have to send Ruggers in to check on that one then - would be frightened that I might catch something whilst I was in there.

This romance mallarkey IS catching isnt it??

Lol...its coming up to Valentines fever! We must be getting in the mood!"

I think there are a lot on this site who are missing romantic involvement. My _iew is, NSA sex on its own, no matter how good it is, cannot fill that void.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The whole site is about lovin

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well guess what it's a huge thumbs up from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would avoid and block anyone looking for love,were sure there are about 50 per cent of people on here unsure of what swinging is

Seems a bit harsh to block. However that is your perogative. In any case..she is suggesting a forum thread so people who are single and looking for a relationship with a swinging person then they are unlikely to PM a couple!....

The point is that people are free to choose of course! I don't agree that means people are unsure what swinging is about. On the contrary. ..I think that it is often the opposite as they usually understand the scene...and their own sexuality better than many others non scene. Being a swinger doesn't have to mean swinging without love! You are a couple so I am sure you must understand that?

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

"I think it's a great idea. I will know who I don't want to meet then and there won't be so many dating/love related threads in other sections of the forum.

Good point, it could clear up other forums"

Wanna bet.. You will still get running commentaries from one side of the bed to the next

And god forbid they fall out.........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My cousin was "poked" on facebook by a woman who is now his wife and they have 2 lovely kids. As far as I'm aware, facebook isn't a dating site. I've been on dating sites and been offered sex. It all falls under the umbrella of social networking I guess.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If folk looking for partners they in wrong place leave fab as it is plenty dating sites.

There was a time when I would have agreed with you...until I realised how many couples met on this scene...and on this site! Plus how many WERE looking. So we are not talking just a small number....Therefore where there are many mouths to feed......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

people are entitled to use the site, and clubs as how they wish, whether it's to find a fb/fwb or a relationship, we should never judge how someone uses the relationship, whether they are meeting or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"people are entitled to use the site, and clubs as how they wish, whether it's to find a fb/fwb or a relationship, we should never judge how someone uses the relationship, whether they are meeting or not"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's a great idea. I will know who I don't want to meet then and there won't be so many dating/love related threads in other sections of the forum.

Good point, it could clear up other forums

Wanna bet.. You will still get running commentaries from one side of the bed to the next

And god forbid they fall out........."

Do you seriously believe people from this site arent already dating??? Too late to worry about online spats! If they wanted to do that, they would have done so already on one of the other forums anyway!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's a great idea. I will know who I don't want to meet then and there won't be so many dating/love related threads in other sections of the forum.

Good point, it could clear up other forums

Wanna bet.. You will still get running commentaries from one side of the bed to the next

And god forbid they fall out........."

If that happens the moderators should direct them back to their corner of fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If folk looking for partners they in wrong place leave fab as it is plenty dating sites.

does it say anywhere that this is a sex site? No, because it's a swinging site!

at the end of the day, who are you to judge how someone wants to use this site?? If they want to find a partner then let them, we don't have the right to judge anybody!! So yes you are being narrow minded and very judgemental!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's a great idea. I will know who I don't want to meet then and there won't be so many dating/love related threads in other sections of the forum.

Good point, it could clear up other forums

Wanna bet.. You will still get running commentaries from one side of the bed to the next

And god forbid they fall out.........

If that happens the moderators should direct them back to their corner of fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely. ..and personally I would much rather hear of two people being happy together on this scene than some of the unpleasantness that goes on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sorry was mean't to say site not relationship, I think I should go to bed!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Absolutely. ..and personally I would much rather hear of two people being happy together on this scene than some of the unpleasantness that goes on!"

Here, here!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

WOMANCE again

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

The question was asked and people are answering from both sides...

It's cool if you think differently from the people who say No.

I am cool, you say Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Absolutely. ..and personally I would much rather hear of two people being happy together on this scene than some of the unpleasantness that goes on!"

Definitely!

relationships aren't for me personally but if anyone wishes to use the site to find a partner then all the luck in the world to them! I have married relatives (married to each other) on here who have been swinging and been married for nearly 17 years and if I'm half as happy as them if I eventually settle down then I'll count myself as the luckiest person in the world!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would just be another ranty posts of let downs..

Id have to send Ruggers in to check on that one then - would be frightened that I might catch something whilst I was in there.

This romance mallarkey IS catching isnt it??

Lol...its coming up to Valentines fever! We must be getting in the mood!

I think there are a lot on this site who are missing romantic involvement. My _iew is, NSA sex on its own, no matter how good it is, cannot fill that void.

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By *aughtySexualArousalMan
over a year ago

SPALDING

I think it could be good. As a single guy I'm looking for a new partner but I think it would be difficult to get a new partner to swing. As if there was a new room then it would be so much easier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

hmmmm...maybe I'll start up my own "swing-date" website........

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hmmmm...maybe I'll start up my own "swing-date" website........"

I just bought fabdating.co.uk

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"hmmmm...maybe I'll start up my own "swing-date" website........

I just bought fabdating.co.uk"

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By *lfie80Man
over a year ago

salisbury

"If folk looking for partners they in wrong place leave fab as it is plenty dating sites.

does it say anywhere that this is a sex site? No, because it's a swinging site!

well said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would just be another ranty posts of let downs..

Id have to send Ruggers in to check on that one then - would be frightened that I might catch something whilst I was in there.

This romance mallarkey IS catching isnt it??

Lol...its coming up to Valentines fever! We must be getting in the mood!

I think there are a lot on this site who are missing romantic involvement. My _iew is, NSA sex on its own, no matter how good it is, cannot fill that void.

I would be worried if I was using swinging to fill a void.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hmmmm...maybe I'll start up my own "swing-date" website........

I just bought fabdating.co.uk"

Damn you!!!!! Me and my big mouth!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"WOMANCE again"

This is a BIG fantasy for you .right??? Lol! !!!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

Swinging is not sex related

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over a year ago

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thing is...

Only a small number of site users actually use the forum and it has been stated before that the forums are already almost 'incestuous'.

Not really sure how well it would work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hmmmm...maybe I'll start up my own "swing-date" website........

I just bought fabdating.co.uk"

Are you serious?????????? Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would just be another ranty posts of let downs..

Id have to send Ruggers in to check on that one then - would be frightened that I might catch something whilst I was in there.

This romance mallarkey IS catching isnt it??

Lol...its coming up to Valentines fever! We must be getting in the mood!

I think there are a lot on this site who are missing romantic involvement. My _iew is, NSA sex on its own, no matter how good it is, cannot fill that void.

I would be worried if I was using swinging to fill a void....."

No I agree. What I mean is if someone wants romance then swinging won't fill that void.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thing is...

Only a small number of site users actually use the forum and it has been stated before that the forums are already almost 'incestuous'.

Not really sure how well it would work."

I'll do some research if we split it 50/50!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hmmmm...maybe I'll start up my own "swing-date" website........

I just bought fabdating.co.uk"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"WOMANCE again

This is a BIG fantasy for you .right??? Lol! !!!

It's becoming one lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would just be another ranty posts of let downs..

Id have to send Ruggers in to check on that one then - would be frightened that I might catch something whilst I was in there.

This romance mallarkey IS catching isnt it??

Lol...its coming up to Valentines fever! We must be getting in the mood!

I think there are a lot on this site who are missing romantic involvement. My _iew is, NSA sex on its own, no matter how good it is, cannot fill that void.

I would be worried if I was using swinging to fill a void....."

Oh I agree with you there. But then I think sometimes people use vanilla dating sites in the same way sometimes. Its always a mistake to go looking for someone else to 'complete your life'. Makes no difference where you meet....you have to be happy with yourself first.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No this is called fabswingers not fabdate and the two shouldn't be mixed. If your looking for love or a partner use a dating site there are lots to choose from.

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By *ngelbiTVTV/TS
over a year ago

Dyserth, North Wales

"Swinging is not about finding life partners. This is a swingers site. My thoughts are that it is completely inappropriate."

My partner and I met on dogging.co.uk over 3 years ago.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think there are a lot on this site who are missing romantic involvement. My _iew is, NSA sex on its own, no matter how good it is, cannot fill that void.

I would be worried if I was using swinging to fill a void.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this is called fabswingers not fabdate and the two shouldn't be mixed. If your looking for love or a partner use a dating site there are lots to choose from.

And feel like a complete freak when you tell a guy about your sex life if you can find one that actually wants a relation and not just sex , yep dating sites are fan dabby dozy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"WOMANCE again

This is a BIG fantasy for you .right??? Lol! !!!

It's becoming one lol"

You will be suggesting FABlesbian dating next!!!! Just so you can fulfill your dirty filthy dreams!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"WOMANCE again

This is a BIG fantasy for you .right??? Lol! !!!

It's becoming one lol

You will be suggesting FABlesbian dating next!!!! Just so you can fulfill your dirty filthy dreams!

With an audience....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"WOMANCE again

This is a BIG fantasy for you .right??? Lol! !!!

It's becoming one lol

You will be suggesting FABlesbian dating next!!!! Just so you can fulfill your dirty filthy dreams!

NOT that I am suggesting lesbians are dirty or filthy....just YOU!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good save

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would just be another ranty posts of let downs..

Id have to send Ruggers in to check on that one then - would be frightened that I might catch something whilst I was in there.

This romance mallarkey IS catching isnt it??

Lol...its coming up to Valentines fever! We must be getting in the mood!

I think there are a lot on this site who are missing romantic involvement. My _iew is, NSA sex on its own, no matter how good it is, cannot fill that void.

I would be worried if I was using swinging to fill a void.....

I agree with that too. However I think fulfilment as a human being is really only possible in relation to others or something other than yourself. So happiness may only be possible in relationship with others ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would avoid and block anyone looking for love,were sure there are about 50 per cent of people on here unsure of what swinging is

If they were looking for love they wouldn't be wanting a couple!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this is called fabswingers not fabdate and the two shouldn't be mixed. If your looking for love or a partner use a dating site there are lots to choose from.

I wonder if you were single and wanted a relationship but still enjoyed the swinging lifestyle. ...would you still say that?

No disrespect to you but it is easy to say 'go to a dating site' when you are already in a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We would avoid and block anyone looking for love,were sure there are about 50 per cent of people on here unsure of what swinging is

If they were looking for love they wouldn't be wanting a couple!

Agreed...made the same point earlier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they were looking for love they wouldn't be wanting a couple!

I don't know, I'd be quite happy with a bi fem couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this is called fabswingers not fabdate and the two shouldn't be mixed. If your looking for love or a partner use a dating site there are lots to choose from.

I wonder if you were single and wanted a relationship but still enjoyed the swinging lifestyle. ...would you still say that?

No disrespect to you but it is easy to say 'go to a dating site' when you are already in a relationship. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they were looking for love they wouldn't be wanting a couple!

I don't know, I'd be quite happy with a bi fem couple."

Or a couple of bi fem couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have not yet but if i came across a member saying they are looking for love whilst hoping they find it bunny boiler springs to mind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they were looking for love they wouldn't be wanting a couple!

I don't know, I'd be quite happy with a bi fem couple.

Or a couple of bi fem couples"

Oh yes bring them on. Maybe a Fabifem site would create more FF couples looking men

Certainly not enough of them on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would just be another ranty posts of let downs..

Id have to send Ruggers in to check on that one then - would be frightened that I might catch something whilst I was in there.

This romance mallarkey IS catching isnt it??

Lol...its coming up to Valentines fever! We must be getting in the mood!

I think there are a lot on this site who are missing romantic involvement. My _iew is, NSA sex on its own, no matter how good it is, cannot fill that void.

I would be worried if I was using swinging to fill a void.....

Yes and no. I think people sometimes cling to others for security because of fear of being alone....and as a consequence end up with unsuitable partners or stay in unhealthy and unhappy relationships. I think there is a difference between needing and wanting. But being with someone who is RIGHT for you and vice versa....enhancing your life....making it brighter.....etc. But when someone seeks another to fix their unhappy selves....its a recipe for disaster because only WE can do that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they were looking for love they wouldn't be wanting a couple!

I don't know, I'd be quite happy with a bi fem couple.

Or a couple of bi fem couples

Oh yes bring them on. Maybe a Fabifem site would create more FF couples looking men

Certainly not enough of them on here

Fabifem????? That sounds more like a contraceptive device!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging is not about finding life partners. This is a swingers site. My thoughts are that it is completely inappropriate.

The site is full of married couples. Try telling them the site isn't for life partners."

Lol...so single's can't be swingers without a partner (according to other threads) and also now aren't allowed to have/find relationships with fellow swingers and finally be accepted into the club. Gets better and better on here doesn't it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone likes swinging... and they would like to find a partner to share their swinging fun with.... surely a swinging site is the best place to look??!!!

It always seems a bit elitist when couples say that singles can't be swingers. Now the couples say that singles can't become couples either?!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It would just be another ranty posts of let downs..

Id have to send Ruggers in to check on that one then - would be frightened that I might catch something whilst I was in there.

This romance mallarkey IS catching isnt it??

Lol...its coming up to Valentines fever! We must be getting in the mood!

I think there are a lot on this site who are missing romantic involvement. My _iew is, NSA sex on its own, no matter how good it is, cannot fill that void.

I would be worried if I was using swinging to fill a void.....

You just saved me from having to type all that out! In a very unwomance way - i promise - you said it perfectly. It's so important to find what you want in your own life and then maybe you will meet someone who compliments that. Like on FAB!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging is not about finding life partners. This is a swingers site. My thoughts are that it is completely inappropriate.

The site is full of married couples. Try telling them the site isn't for life partners.

Snap!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have not yet but if i came across a member saying they are looking for love whilst hoping they find it bunny boiler springs to mind

Dear god.....I can only wonder at the women you must have met, to believe that women looking for love on a swinging site must be bunny boilers! !!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they were looking for love they wouldn't be wanting a couple!

I don't know, I'd be quite happy with a bi fem couple.

Or a couple of bi fem couples

Oh yes bring them on. Maybe a Fabifem site would create more FF couples looking men

Certainly not enough of them on here

Fabifem????? That sounds more like a contraceptive device!!!!"

Yeah it does.

Mind due a Femidom sounds like a S&M mistress

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this is called fabswingers not fabdate and the two shouldn't be mixed. If your looking for love or a partner use a dating site there are lots to choose from.

And feel like a complete freak when you tell a guy about your sex life if you can find one that actually wants a relation and not just sex , yep dating sites are fan dabby dozy "

if he gets freaked out by your sex life then he isn't for you. Your more likely going to find some one a dating site looking for a relationship than on a swinging site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they were looking for love they wouldn't be wanting a couple!

I don't know, I'd be quite happy with a bi fem couple.

Or a couple of bi fem couples

Oh yes bring them on. Maybe a Fabifem site would create more FF couples looking men

Certainly not enough of them on here

Fabifem????? That sounds more like a contraceptive device!!!!"

Definitely a ladies product of sorts

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By *uzzybeWoman
over a year ago

Darlington

"Like most things it's open to abuse."

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By *ancs MinxWoman
over a year ago

Burnley

"It will be a niche and not for everyone, but it will defo be the case for some. Simple case of you avoid what you don't like

I totally agree with the thing that people thing it will scare meets away - I know someone who said this to me just today. In fact I totally agree with all you said!

Xx"

totally agree!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this is called fabswingers not fabdate and the two shouldn't be mixed. If your looking for love or a partner use a dating site there are lots to choose from.

In addition

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this is called fabswingers not fabdate and the two shouldn't be mixed. If your looking for love or a partner use a dating site there are lots to choose from.

And feel like a complete freak when you tell a guy about your sex life if you can find one that actually wants a relation and not just sex , yep dating sites are fan dabby dozy

if he gets freaked out by your sex life then he isn't for you. Your more likely going to find some one a dating site looking for a relationship than on a swinging site. "

What if the other person is your exact match but sharing is something they can't comprehend, I wouldn't say that person isn't for them, it'll just be another compromise

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would just be another ranty posts of let downs..

Id have to send Ruggers in to check on that one then - would be frightened that I might catch something whilst I was in there.

This romance mallarkey IS catching isnt it??

Lol...its coming up to Valentines fever! We must be getting in the mood!

I think there are a lot on this site who are missing romantic involvement. My _iew is, NSA sex on its own, no matter how good it is, cannot fill that void.

I would be worried if I was using swinging to fill a void.....

Yep!!! Its 'law of attraction' stuff! You attract what you are!

I now await the cheeky comments! !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would just be another ranty posts of let downs..

Id have to send Ruggers in to check on that one then - would be frightened that I might catch something whilst I was in there.

This romance mallarkey IS catching isnt it??

Lol...its coming up to Valentines fever! We must be getting in the mood!

I think there are a lot on this site who are missing romantic involvement. My _iew is, NSA sex on its own, no matter how good it is, cannot fill that void.

I would be worried if I was using swinging to fill a void.....

I am totally in agreement with that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this is called fabswingers not fabdate and the two shouldn't be mixed. If your looking for love or a partner use a dating site there are lots to choose from.

And feel like a complete freak when you tell a guy about your sex life if you can find one that actually wants a relation and not just sex , yep dating sites are fan dabby dozy

if he gets freaked out by your sex life then he isn't for you. Your more likely going to find some one a dating site looking for a relationship than on a swinging site. "

Think we will have to agree to disagree. I know I won't touch a dating site with a shitty stick as I've found them full of guys that should just be on here. At least on here there is no reason to lie or keep stum about anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would just be another ranty posts of let downs..

Id have to send Ruggers in to check on that one then - would be frightened that I might catch something whilst I was in there.

This romance mallarkey IS catching isnt it??

Lol...its coming up to Valentines fever! We must be getting in the mood!

I think there are a lot on this site who are missing romantic involvement. My _iew is, NSA sex on its own, no matter how good it is, cannot fill that void.

I would be worried if I was using swinging to fill a void.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It would just be another ranty posts of let downs..

Id have to send Ruggers in to check on that one then - would be frightened that I might catch something whilst I was in there.

This romance mallarkey IS catching isnt it??

Lol...its coming up to Valentines fever! We must be getting in the mood!

I think there are a lot on this site who are missing romantic involvement. My _iew is, NSA sex on its own, no matter how good it is, cannot fill that void.

I would be worried if I was using swinging to fill a void.....

Yep!!! Its 'law of attraction' stuff! You attract what you are!

I now await the cheeky comments! !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this is called fabswingers not fabdate and the two shouldn't be mixed. If your looking for love or a partner use a dating site there are lots to choose from.

And feel like a complete freak when you tell a guy about your sex life if you can find one that actually wants a relation and not just sex , yep dating sites are fan dabby dozy

if he gets freaked out by your sex life then he isn't for you. Your more likely going to find some one a dating site looking for a relationship than on a swinging site.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have not yet but if i came across a member saying they are looking for love whilst hoping they find it bunny boiler springs to mind

Dear god.....I can only wonder at the women you must have met, to believe that women looking for love on a swinging site must be bunny boilers! !!!!!

Just because someone on here MAY be looking for a relationshi, doesn't mean that they will immediately want to 'cling' (which is not actally part of a relationship incase you didn't know!) to other people that they MAY meet on here in the meantime! Just because someone is looking for a relationship doesn't mean that they will take the first bit of love interest that comes along! Nor does it mean that they will try to trap or force those who do not want relationships into one! They may just enjoy having sex in the meantime!

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

"Swinging is not about finding life partners. This is a swingers site. My thoughts are that it is completely inappropriate.

The site is full of married couples. Try telling them the site isn't for life partners.

I think you may have got the wrong end of the stick as to what I meant there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this is called fabswingers not fabdate and the two shouldn't be mixed. If your looking for love or a partner use a dating site there are lots to choose from.

And feel like a complete freak when you tell a guy about your sex life if you can find one that actually wants a relation and not just sex , yep dating sites are fan dabby dozy

if he gets freaked out by your sex life then he isn't for you. Your more likely going to find some one a dating site looking for a relationship than on a swinging site.

Ah there you go you have discovered a gap in the online dating/swinging world how about singlesswinganddate lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging is not about finding life partners. This is a swingers site. My thoughts are that it is completely inappropriate.

The site is full of married couples. Try telling them the site isn't for life partners.

I think you may have got the wrong end of the stick as to what I meant there."

I think it was aimed at the 1st statement and just back up your point, in a way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If folk looking for partners they in wrong place leave fab as it is plenty dating sites."

Shall I pack my bags now then?

Or are we not allowed to continue enjoying this lifestyle?

People should be free to use the site as they wish - and the day I'm told otherwise will be the day I DO pack my bags!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this is called fabswingers not fabdate and the two shouldn't be mixed. If your looking for love or a partner use a dating site there are lots to choose from.

And feel like a complete freak when you tell a guy about your sex life if you can find one that actually wants a relation and not just sex , yep dating sites are fan dabby dozy

if he gets freaked out by your sex life then he isn't for you. Your more likely going to find some one a dating site looking for a relationship than on a swinging site.

Ah there you go you have discovered a gap in the online dating/swinging world how about singlesswinganddate lol "

Or just a forum room where we can do exactly that

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By *ighland_RoseCouple
over a year ago

Brigadoon

"Swinging is not about finding life partners. This is a swingers site. My thoughts are that it is completely inappropriate.

The site is full of married couples. Try telling them the site isn't for life partners.

I think you may have got the wrong end of the stick as to what I meant there.

I think it was aimed at the 1st statement and just back up your point, in a way"

Well that's ok then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this is called fabswingers not fabdate and the two shouldn't be mixed. If your looking for love or a partner use a dating site there are lots to choose from.

And feel like a complete freak when you tell a guy about your sex life if you can find one that actually wants a relation and not just sex , yep dating sites are fan dabby dozy

if he gets freaked out by your sex life then he isn't for you. Your more likely going to find some one a dating site looking for a relationship than on a swinging site.

What if the other person is your exact match but sharing is something they can't comprehend, I wouldn't say that person isn't for them, it'll just be another compromise"

Your assuming she would want to swing once in a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this is called fabswingers not fabdate and the two shouldn't be mixed. If your looking for love or a partner use a dating site there are lots to choose from.

And feel like a complete freak when you tell a guy about your sex life if you can find one that actually wants a relation and not just sex , yep dating sites are fan dabby dozy

if he gets freaked out by your sex life then he isn't for you. Your more likely going to find some one a dating site looking for a relationship than on a swinging site.

Ah there you go you have discovered a gap in the online dating/swinging world how about singlesswinganddate lol "

But that would exclude couples wanting singles

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this is called fabswingers not fabdate and the two shouldn't be mixed. If your looking for love or a partner use a dating site there are lots to choose from.

And feel like a complete freak when you tell a guy about your sex life if you can find one that actually wants a relation and not just sex , yep dating sites are fan dabby dozy

if he gets freaked out by your sex life then he isn't for you. Your more likely going to find some one a dating site looking for a relationship than on a swinging site.

Ah there you go you have discovered a gap in the online dating/swinging world how about singlesswinganddate lol "

I think you'll find that we already have that covered with fabdating....well it was my idea and the libertine registered the site....so technically I have no claim over it now......damn....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"No this is called fabswingers not fabdate and the two shouldn't be mixed. If your looking for love or a partner use a dating site there are lots to choose from.

And feel like a complete freak when you tell a guy about your sex life if you can find one that actually wants a relation and not just sex , yep dating sites are fan dabby dozy

if he gets freaked out by your sex life then he isn't for you. Your more likely going to find some one a dating site looking for a relationship than on a swinging site.

Ah there you go you have discovered a gap in the online dating/swinging world how about singlesswinganddate lol

Or just a forum room where we can do exactly that

PMSL

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this is called fabswingers not fabdate and the two shouldn't be mixed. If your looking for love or a partner use a dating site there are lots to choose from.

And feel like a complete freak when you tell a guy about your sex life if you can find one that actually wants a relation and not just sex , yep dating sites are fan dabby dozy

if he gets freaked out by your sex life then he isn't for you. Your more likely going to find some one a dating site looking for a relationship than on a swinging site.

Ah there you go you have discovered a gap in the online dating/swinging world how about singlesswinganddate lol

I think you'll find that we already have that covered with fabdating....well it was my idea and the libertine registered the site....so technically I have no claim over it now......damn...."

I'll support your intellectual claims....

For a fee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this is called fabswingers not fabdate and the two shouldn't be mixed. If your looking for love or a partner use a dating site there are lots to choose from.

And feel like a complete freak when you tell a guy about your sex life if you can find one that actually wants a relation and not just sex , yep dating sites are fan dabby dozy

if he gets freaked out by your sex life then he isn't for you. Your more likely going to find some one a dating site looking for a relationship than on a swinging site.

What if the other person is your exact match but sharing is something they can't comprehend, I wouldn't say that person isn't for them, it'll just be another compromise

Your assuming she would want to swing once in a relationship. "

Are you assuming I won't then ?

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over a year ago

"I think you'll find that we already have that covered with fabdating....well it was my idea and the libertine registered the site....so technically I have no claim over it now......damn...."

What's this 'we'?

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By *adyA01Woman
over a year ago

Wellington

I think its a good idea! Go for it! Xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you'll find that we already have that covered with fabdating....well it was my idea and the libertine registered the site....so technically I have no claim over it now......damn....

What's this 'we'?

A match made on Fab dashed on the rocks already

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have not yet but if i came across a member saying they are looking for love whilst hoping they find it bunny boiler springs to mind

Dear god.....I can only wonder at the women you must have met, to believe that women looking for love on a swinging site must be bunny boilers! !!!!!

Good lord yes. There are definitely some guys on here worth fucking, but dating is a whole new ball game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Swinging is not about finding life partners. This is a swingers site. My thoughts are that it is completely inappropriate.

The site is full of married couples. Try telling them the site isn't for life partners.

I think you may have got the wrong end of the stick as to what I meant there.

I think it was aimed at the 1st statement and just back up your point, in a way

Well that's ok then

Yep...that's what I was doing. Sorry, wasn't meant to cause offence, but agree in a way!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this is called fabswingers not fabdate and the two shouldn't be mixed. If your looking for love or a partner use a dating site there are lots to choose from.

And feel like a complete freak when you tell a guy about your sex life if you can find one that actually wants a relation and not just sex , yep dating sites are fan dabby dozy

if he gets freaked out by your sex life then he isn't for you. Your more likely going to find some one a dating site looking for a relationship than on a swinging site.

What if the other person is your exact match but sharing is something they can't comprehend, I wouldn't say that person isn't for them, it'll just be another compromise"

Well noone said finding your "Mr / Miss perfect' was easy!! Its always about communication, negotiation etc!

I think you have to start by knowing yourself well.. and knowing what you want. What is really REALLY important to you and what are you willing to let go of. Only YOU know that. For some people, swinging isnt their top priority if the rest of the relationship was great!

For me, I know that a healthy, happy, fulfilling and HONEST sex life is very important for a healthy, happy, fulfilling and HONEST relationship. ..BECAUSE it is when you are your most intimate with someone....however if I fell deeply in love and 'our' sex life was amazing but he didnt want to swing....personally. ...if the relationship was that good...I would probably be ok with that....but who knows? I might meet someone tomorrow that is sooooo amazing that none of you will ever hear from me again! Lol! But it is a personal thing....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you'll find that we already have that covered with fabdating....well it was my idea and the libertine registered the site....so technically I have no claim over it now......damn....

I'll support your intellectual claims....

For a fee"

oh there's always a fee......can't I make a claim on Forum insurance??? surely there must be some sort of cover for this????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this is called fabswingers not fabdate and the two shouldn't be mixed. If your looking for love or a partner use a dating site there are lots to choose from.

And feel like a complete freak when you tell a guy about your sex life if you can find one that actually wants a relation and not just sex , yep dating sites are fan dabby dozy

if he gets freaked out by your sex life then he isn't for you. Your more likely going to find some one a dating site looking for a relationship than on a swinging site.

What if the other person is your exact match but sharing is something they can't comprehend, I wouldn't say that person isn't for them, it'll just be another compromise

Well noone said finding your "Mr / Miss perfect' was easy!! Its always about communication, negotiation etc!

I think you'd stay for the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this is called fabswingers not fabdate and the two shouldn't be mixed. If your looking for love or a partner use a dating site there are lots to choose from.

And feel like a complete freak when you tell a guy about your sex life if you can find one that actually wants a relation and not just sex , yep dating sites are fan dabby dozy

if he gets freaked out by your sex life then he isn't for you. Your more likely going to find some one a dating site looking for a relationship than on a swinging site.

What if the other person is your exact match but sharing is something they can't comprehend, I wouldn't say that person isn't for them, it'll just be another compromise

Your assuming she would want to swing once in a relationship.

Are you assuming I won't then ? "

Lol I hadn't assumed either I just thought you meant once you had told them your sexual history if you like. as once in a relationship sex habits can change and so do your wants and desires x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think you'll find that we already have that covered with fabdating....well it was my idea and the libertine registered the site....so technically I have no claim over it now......damn....

What's this 'we'?

A match made on Fab dashed on the rocks already

and I thought we had something special too

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By *uckandbunnyCouple
over a year ago

In your bed

I can't see a problem with it so long as it's clearly labelled. So those not wanting to get attached don't mistakenly wander in.

True there are other dating sites. But why not a swingers dating site.

The only thing that you would have to be careful of is people wanting to meet, using the dating as a way into a shag they may otherwise not get.

But I suppose it's a case of buyer beware.

I can't see why swingers can't find love within the swinging community. It will save a whole lot of time for those who wish to continue swinging once attached.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps dating could be added as an interest?

Apart from that, I would expect that if I met a swinger on a swingers site, then if something more was to develop, then it would do so.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No this is called fabswingers not fabdate and the two shouldn't be mixed. If your looking for love or a partner use a dating site there are lots to choose from.

And feel like a complete freak when you tell a guy about your sex life if you can find one that actually wants a relation and not just sex , yep dating sites are fan dabby dozy

if he gets freaked out by your sex life then he isn't for you. Your more likely going to find some one a dating site looking for a relationship than on a swinging site. "

That's kind of the point...I would assume most people on traditional dating site are looking for a monogamous relationship and so it probably isn't an ideal place to find someone a bit more sexually liberated. I'm not looking for a relationship, but if I were to try to find one I would still like to swing in some way...most likely with other couples than single guys as I do now, but still enjoying the lifestyle. Surely I'd be more likely to find someone else who enjoyed swinging on a swinging site than the like of eharmony?

And as for those worrying about those seeking a relationship being bunny boilers...who's to say they'd be remotely interested in your particular bunny?! There are several guys on here I've enjoyed sex with but wouldn't dream of dating as we're just not compatible in that way. Plus, there are many that aren't actively seeking but have fallen upon it..just because I'm not looking for 'the one' it doesn't mean I'd turn him away if he knocked on my door!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If someone likes swinging... and they would like to find a partner to share their swinging fun with.... surely a swinging site is the best place to look??!!!

It always seems a bit elitist when couples say that singles can't be swingers. Now the couples say that singles can't become couples either?!!

does everyone have to be fabulous too??

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