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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Looking to go to my first swingers club soon as a single male, not really knowing what to expect...any advice that you guys can give would be appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah ... Save you're money .

Good luck though

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By *peedypeteMan
over a year ago

derby

dont go with any expectations, if you get someome to talk to you its a positive step and anything else a real bonus. You may well go hoem very frustrated and definately a lot lighter in your wallett/

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't stalk a couple.definate turn off for that couple.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks guys, to be fair I have no idea so what to expect so just going with an open mind and what happens happens, don't know until you try it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't skulk around in the shadows stalking couples. As soon as you arrive go in to the mixing area and chat to as many people as you can. Some will Give you a cold shoulder but most will chat. Let people see that you're relaxed and not desperate. Don't get d*unk and no means no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

just see it as a night out, chat to peeps and socialise. Dont be pushy also. Just be yourself and flirt if you think someone is interested. but just because in a club,dont presume u will get sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be polite and respectful, chat and get familiar with people, if they say no move on. Be patient and don't go with any expectations.

Take a toilet bag, it's ideal when naked for carrying money, condoms and things.

Be yourself, enjoy and good luck!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Don't skulk around in the shadows stalking couples. As soon as you arrive go in to the mixing area and chat to as many people as you can. Some will Give you a cold shoulder but most will chat. Let people see that you're relaxed and not desperate. Don't get d*unk and no means no. "

Couldn't agree more, we were stalked in a club and it's very offputting, better to be relaxed and chilled and chat to people as you would normally.

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By *abioMan
over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

its one of those "basic common sense" things..... I am always tempted to say that if you have to ask people how to act in a social situahtion, then I seriously worry....

smile... chat to people, say hello, and generally don't be an arse....

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

walk in

get your cock out

shout 'get your mouth round this beauty'

have a great night, be yourself, speak to both husband and wife when speaking to couples, read the rules and if sex happens 'it's a bonus'

use it to network

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"walk in

get your cock out

shout 'get your mouth round this beauty'

have a great night, be yourself, speak to both husband and wife when speaking to couples, read the rules and if sex happens 'it's a bonus'

use it to network"

ps.... if you are straight, don't do the above on bi night

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"just see it as a night out, chat to peeps and socialise. Dont be pushy also. Just be yourself and flirt if you think someone is interested. but just because in a club,dont presume u will get sex. "

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By *atasha_DavidCouple
over a year ago

Slough


" Some will Give you a cold shoulder but most will chat. "

Lots of good advice but I would add that just because a couple is not talking to anybody else, that doesn't mean they want to talk to you. They may be just chilling and want some space, or know what they want and will make it clear if that is to engage with you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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Couldn't agree more, we were stalked in a club and it's very offputting, better to be relaxed and chilled and chat to people as you would normally."

we had that last night,he spoke and asked if could join us,we said no thanks.everytime we started to play he would show up and just sit there.happened time after time.youd think the no thanks and previous getting up and moving would say the message but no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"its one of those "basic common sense" things..... I am always tempted to say that if you have to ask people how to act in a social situahtion, then I seriously worry....

smile... chat to people, say hello, and generally don't be an arse...."

This!

Depends on the club - if there's a bar/lounge area then use that to mingle as if you were at any normal party/bar. Don't fall into the common single male trap of linking up with other single guys as 'wingmen' - you'll only find life twice as hard!

Most decent clubs will have staff introduce you to regulars and give you a tour.

Good luck and enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks again guys ill take it comes just enjoy it and see what happens, all the advice is much appreciated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've been to one club only but been about 12 times, only had one dry night and that was my first night when nerves got the better of me, but if ya play it cool and a bit of patter it works

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By *eforfuncplCouple
over a year ago

Morecambe


"Looking to go to my first swingers club soon as a single male, not really knowing what to expect...any advice that you guys can give would be appreciated"

Make conversation with both FM and be non pushy smell nice x good luck xxx

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By *ilthygorgeous1Couple
over a year ago

Oxford


"Don't skulk around in the shadows stalking couples. As soon as you arrive go in to the mixing area and chat to as many people as you can. Some will Give you a cold shoulder but most will chat. Let people see that you're relaxed and not desperate. Don't get d*unk and no means no. "

Best advice ever!! Also remember above all its a swing club not a sex club! Like any other normal club you'll only get lucky if someone fancies you. You pay's your money you takes your chance!!

Be cool,be polite,dress to impress and fingers crossed eh!! Oh yeah keep an eye out for special events these normally draw the most crowds!

Have fun!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't tug away under your towel. If you have to tug do it without the towel.

Just don't do it over someone's head.

Unless invited.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Looking to go to my first swingers club soon as a single male, not really knowing what to expect...any advice that you guys can give would be appreciated"

Go in expecting nothing, treat it like a social, just because you pay to get in does not mean you'll get a shag

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just look at it as a pub with lingerie the hardest part about a club is walking up too and through the door

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