FabSwingers.com forum: shame my husband isnt game...!

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Posting this tread is alittle into our sex life or should I say what was part of our sex life! ...dont get me wrong our own sex life is still as strong as it was in the begining...even stronger.he has a high sex drive...

But....im all for a meet up & my husbands not!..even with another fem hes still not!...hes no intrest on here says he doesnt know why I have either. So how do I get him intrested again?...has this happend to you?..need some understanding among you guys..bambi x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If one partner doesn't want to do this, personally I think it should be left alone. All or nothing in my book

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By *yphoon1Man
over a year ago

Saw knife play mentioned in your profile. does he think tthat should be kept between you and him?

Although it says average for his body type, has he got a body issue developing for some reason.

You have been swinging before. Anything different in the way you have sex now, were there any bad experiences that he may be withholding from talking to you about.

Best of luck

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

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We are a couple and only 1 of us plays. Works well for us both as we both get something we want. Probably makes no sense lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Saw knife play mentioned in your profile. does he think tthat should be kept between you and him?

Although it says average for his body type, has he got a body issue developing for some reason.

You have been swinging before. Anything different in the way you have sex now, were there any bad experiences that he may be withholding from talking to you about.

Best of luck"
we do keep our knifeplay to ourselfs yes...he has no problems regarding his body..

We have been swinging before 1st time he didnt enjoy it one bit as he said he was remotely turned on with the women..only me!...second time we fully swapped but didnt really comment on it...although the guy was extremely rough with me it was the worst experiance for me..but its not put me off in the slightest!...im lost with it.talking is not getting me anywhere!...

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"We are a couple and only 1 of us plays. Works well for us both as we both get something we want. Probably makes no sense lol"
couples that

Have got that understanding,I think your so lucky!...he would never agree to that though..you have one Iin a million there hun xx

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By *eather_satinCouple
over a year ago

West Sussex

"Posting this tread is alittle into our sex life or should I say what was part of our sex life! ...dont get me wrong our own sex life is still as strong as it was in the begining...even stronger.he has a high sex drive...

My ex husband wasn't into it either. I pointed out that I needed to experiment with another woman and wouldn't feel comfortable without him there. He finally agreed and actually came to meet her with me. Anyway long story short, myself and her had a great session while he just sat downstairs alone (through choice). We're no longer together but I still feel really bad about what I'd done. I shouldn't have forced him into a situation that he wasn't comfortable with. Needless to say he's my ex now.

My partner now took 5 years to come to his own decision that he'd like to do it. With thise two it was all down to insecurity.

Watch a few ffm/mmf/mfmf porn movies and get talking about it, maybe he doesn't know enough about the lifestyle to commit to it.

Good luck and stay sexy fabbers!

Good luck.

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By *adyGardenWoman
over a year ago

LONDON (se)

You shouldn't force it as this lifestyle isn't for everyone. What is more important to you this or your relationship? Leave well alone if you don't want to break what you have.

Best if luck

T xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If for whatever reason one of us wasn't happy with swinging, and we had talked it over and still not happy, then it's simple, we would stop swinging. I wouldn't even dream of trying to convince him to carry trying just incase he did like it.

Your husband has expressed he has no interest and doesn't particularly like Swimging, perhaps you should respect his decision and not push it any further,

Maybe talk about you swinging alone of you still want to swing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It all comes down to if you love ur man enough to respect his wishes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If for whatever reason one of us wasn't happy with swinging, and we had talked it over and still not happy, then it's simple, we would stop swinging. I wouldn't even dream of trying to convince him to carry trying just incase he did like it.

Your husband has expressed he has no interest and doesn't particularly like Swimging, perhaps you should respect his decision and not push it any further,

Maybe talk about you swinging alone of you still want to swing "

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By *teveanddebsCouple
over a year ago

Norwich

I'd say you should get out of the relationship. He deserves better than someone with so little regard to his feelings.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex partner didn't want an open relationship, he worked away a lot.

I was never unfaithful to him, however he was too me, drumming it in my head I wasn't attractive enough to find someone.

If your partner allows you to be open with him, with his consent would that be ok? Or if your sex life is very good why do you want to do it, or is it veriety?

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By *ery curious maleMan
over a year ago

Bishop Auckland

Whatever you do just make sure you agree on it.

My wife and I swing together in clubs but she has. a female FB that she sees without me and I am on here.

The most important thing is to be clear and up front about things

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I'd say you should get out of the relationship. He deserves better than someone with so little regard to his feelings."
maybe you have a point!..but I also have a point..I was honest & open too in the beginning about what I wanted he was all for the same!....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd say you should get out of the relationship. He deserves better than someone with so little regard to his feelings.maybe you have a point!..but I also have a point..I was honest & open too in the beginning about what I wanted he was all for the same!...."

He may have told you that that was what he wanted when you first approached swinging, he's tried it and doesn't like it, so shouldn't you just respect that?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Things change and obviously they have with him. Personally I don't think you should be discussing him on an open forum, very disrespectful...he's said he isn't interested respect his wishes and respect him by not discussing him with strangers and trying to coerce him into sexual activity he isn't happy with.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

Your husband has expressed he has no interest and doesn't particularly like Swimging, perhaps you should respect his decision and not push it any further,

Maybe talk about you swinging alone of you still want to swing

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agreed..

OP, its possibly only going to end in tears at some point if he's not and you are..

equally if the other way around..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We are a couple and only 1 of us plays. Works well for us both as we both get something we want. Probably makes no sense lol"

What is it your both getting that you want?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks for the advice...maybe then its just me being selfish & disrespectful...feeling crap now cheers...yes I know, I did ask for the advice...got me thinking though..x

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By *G CoupleCouple
over a year ago

kent

"We are a couple and only 1 of us plays. Works well for us both as we both get something we want. Probably makes no sense lol

What is it your both getting that you want?"

A likes to see ju enjoy herself, ju likes enjoying herself.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Thanks for the advice...maybe then its just me being selfish & disrespectful...feeling crap now cheers...yes I know, I did ask for the advice...got me thinking though..x"

I wouldn't say selfish, we like what we like sexually and there's no changing that.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Thanks for the advice...maybe then its just me being selfish & disrespectful...feeling crap now cheers...yes I know, I did ask for the advice...got me thinking though..x

I wouldn't say selfish, we like what we like sexually and there's no changing that. "

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