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By *D40 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

I know I'm not alone in being the only one to moan about people wasting time and inappropriate winking but please.....

Read our profile which clearly states no bi tendencies/urges & me (female) won't meet smokers before you send a wink. Especially when your profile says you both smoke & you're looking for a bi female

Rant over

Julie xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see 2 problems here, firstly you are asking people to think, secondly to read profiles lol!! It drives me mad too but nothing we can do about it other than just delete.

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

See profiles are limited...

Just because they are looking for bi females doesn't mean they only play with bi females.

It's hard in text, that you have to show those you;

wish to attract,

wish to deter

and the other randoms, everything about you.

I'm bi, with the right woman.

I'm sexually active, with the right people.

Just because something is stated on my profile, it isn't set in stone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This site is full of winkers

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

I wish they'd think before sending unsolicited friend invites too, although when I get one I know they haven't read my profile so yet another reason to ignore them.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

They are easy to ignore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does noonelse reckon it would be better if the wink, invite, hotlist etc buttons would be at the bottom of a profile?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They are easy to ignore "

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They are easy to ignore "

Partial to a wink myself lol xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still get winks despite the opening line of my profile, and have blocked some gorgeous winkers as a result - still, if they can't be bothered to read my profile then why should I show an interest in them?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They are easy to ignore "

Indeed, no point crying! People act as if thet have just been asked for a kidney lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They are easy to ignore "

Along with random friends requests I just delete now

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"They are easy to ignore

Along with random friends requests I just delete now "

I don't even do that because they can friend again if you do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They are easy to ignore

Along with random friends requests I just delete now

I don't even do that because they can friend again if you do."

Easy enough to block them

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"They are easy to ignore

Along with random friends requests I just delete now

I don't even do that because they can friend again if you do.

Easy enough to block them"

Why would I block them? They haven't been abusive or pestered me. They just haven't read my profile.

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By *lackCherryCouple
over a year ago

Bristol


"I see 2 problems here, firstly you are asking people to think, secondly to read profiles lol!! It drives me mad too but nothing we can do about it other than just delete."

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

PS if anyone ever gets winks or friend request from us it is my fat fingers....I have eveb winked ourselves before now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't read a whole profile before I winked. I wink people I fancy, I wink loads of people. If I want to meet them then I message them. But if someone lives 200 miles away and they are hot then I wink them as I know I can't meet them. I just want them to know i think they are hot. It's a compliment, you only have to read it for a second so winks are not time consuming. I think you can disable the function as well.

X

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

In my view winks are just a small compliment - who knows how the viewer meant them, they may have no desire to meet you anyway, or may be saying 'sorry, I don't fit your criteria so won't write but just wanted to express my attraction'.......

Lighten up everyone!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't read a whole profile before I winked. I wink people I fancy, I wink loads of people. If I want to meet them then I message them. But if someone lives 200 miles away and they are hot then I wink them as I know I can't meet them. I just want them to know i think they are hot. It's a compliment, you only have to read it for a second so winks are not time consuming. I think you can disable the function as well.

X"

Well said, its a great way of showin interest. Sometimes a person may make an exception despite what it says on their profile....its like the countless winks and mails i get off males claiming to be straight on their profile lol

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

I tend to ignore winks. Friend requests and cock avatars do not interest me either.

I don't delete friend request as they can send another request. I leave them. I think I have over 100 requests and similar for winks.

I have probably missed lots of nice people because they have winked to show intetest and I haven't done the same back. Am sure though my profile says no thanks to winks but if they can't be bothered to think of my preferences rather than just theirs then am happy to not meet them x

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land


"They are easy to ignore

Along with random friends requests I just delete now

I don't even do that because they can friend again if you do.

Easy enough to block them

Why would I block them? They haven't been abusive or pestered me. They just haven't read my profile."

I just clear the number off the home page for friends invites/winks.

Otherwise I dont delete either list anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What about having a wank over profiles should I spend more time thinking before I do it ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does noonelse reckon it would be better if the wink, invite, hotlist etc buttons would be at the bottom of a profile?"

I think it would be a very good idea!

Personally there is no harm in a wink. I wouldn't complain if I walked past a building site and got wolf whistled by a bloke who I wouldn't necessarily go to bed with!

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"PS if anyone ever gets winks or friend request from us it is my fat fingers....I have eveb winked ourselves before now "

I did manage to message myself once lol

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By *utzzCouple
over a year ago

wrexham


"I know I'm not alone in being the only one to moan about people wasting time and inappropriate winking but please.....

Read our profile which clearly states no bi tendencies/urges & me (female) won't meet smokers before you send a wink. Especially when your profile says you both smoke & you're looking for a bi female

Rant over

Julie xx"

Just gave you a cheeky wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've ended up meeting a few people who have winked at me, one after I fabbed a pic of his, the others I liked the look of and messaged thanking them for the wink. If I'm not interested then I just delete them. I quite like the feature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Does noonelse reckon it would be better if the wink, invite, hotlist etc buttons would be at the bottom of a profile?

I think it would be a very good idea!

Personally there is no harm in a wink. I wouldn't complain if I walked past a building site and got wolf whistled by a bloke who I wouldn't necessarily go to bed with!"

Finally, someone thinking logically! I dont think theres any harm either, people making out as if they've been asked to donate an organ lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my view winks are just a small compliment - who knows how the viewer meant them, they may have no desire to meet you anyway, or may be saying 'sorry, I don't fit your criteria so won't write but just wanted to express my attraction'.......

Lighten up everyone!!

"

I do like a good wink

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"PS if anyone ever gets winks or friend request from us it is my fat fingers....I have eveb winked ourselves before now

I did manage to message myself once lol "

My profile says I've done that too. Can't for the life of me think how

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn

Some like winks and random friend invites and some don't. I don't pay much attention to them but some do x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh stop moaning.

this timewasting nonsense really gets me, is there any harm looking at someone who might be outwith ur wants?

just dont wink back...simple

making things such a drama is what turns me off people

lighten up ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As for winks, I think it's a shame they have such 'bad press'. I think it's quite a natural way to show interest and reciprocate. However I understand why they dont really work on this site. Naturally, based on this I like receiving them from ladies and couples

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get winks but I don't wink back and the winkers don't send a follow up message so don't quite get that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As for random friend requests I either delete or if I am interested in the requester send a message. I don't accept them without.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get winks but I don't wink back and the winkers don't send a follow up message so don't quite get that "

rocket science lesson one:

I wink at u, u look at me, maybe wink back..I then message

I honestly dont know how hard that is to work out.......

seriously..I do wonder sometimes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get winks but I don't wink back and the winkers don't send a follow up message so don't quite get that "

What's not to get? They wink you, you ignore, they assume you're not interested so don't bother to message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get winks but I don't wink back and the winkers don't send a follow up message so don't quite get that

What's not to get? They wink you, you ignore, they assume you're not interested so don't bother to message."

Makes sense but they are always too far away usually

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By *onny BonesMan
over a year ago

a block away from heaven

Why do people take offence to a wink?

Do people really think of the wink as a two fingered salute?

I don't get enough of em, any body with a few seconds to spare wink away. I'll ignore those that don't interest me and return those that tickle my fancy... Simples!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get winks but I don't wink back and the winkers don't send a follow up message so don't quite get that

What's not to get? They wink you, you ignore, they assume you're not interested so don't bother to message."

thats far too logical for my thinking...

I'm actually in a hangover annoyed head and this whole winking thread already has my head thumping(when it comes up in various posts)....then might hear that someone isnt getting the amounts of meets they want, so they dont look at various site tools (winks,whos looked at u)..however quite happy to complain the sites full of time wasters blahh fucking blahh fucking blah

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As for winks, I think it's a shame they have such 'bad press'. I think it's quite a natural way to show interest and reciprocate. However I understand why they dont really work on this site "

Who says they don't work? I've had many a good meet that started with a wink, both giving and receiving so they work perfectly well thank you!

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"blahh fucking blahh fucking blah"

Have some painkillers and a shower hun.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo


"I get winks but I don't wink back and the winkers don't send a follow up message so don't quite get that "

Maybe they are waiting to see if you wink back , a green light thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Non paying members cant see who has viewed them sending a wink, shows you have viewed a profile so is inofensive, and complimentary, as for reading profiles,

full balls = empty head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As for winks, I think it's a shame they have such 'bad press'. I think it's quite a natural way to show interest and reciprocate. However I understand why they dont really work on this site

Who says they don't work? I've had many a good meet that started with a wink, both giving and receiving so they work perfectly well thank you!"

Glad to hear it. However there are a lot of people who simply ignore or delete them. Probably due to sheer volume of messages as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get winks but I don't wink back and the winkers don't send a follow up message so don't quite get that

rocket science lesson one:

I wink at u, u look at me, maybe wink back..I then message

I honestly dont know how hard that is to work out.......

seriously..I do wonder sometimes"

Yep that approach would work for me. It's a shame that it is seen as unhelpful by so many.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get winks but I don't wink back and the winkers don't send a follow up message so don't quite get that

rocket science lesson one:

I wink at u, u look at me, maybe wink back..I then message

I honestly dont know how hard that is to work out.......

seriously..I do wonder sometimes"

Spot on....that's my approach

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ignore winks.

If I get unsolicited friend requests I leave them in my box.

Senders can't send another! Result.

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By *ruitWoman
over a year ago

near kings lynn


"I ignore winks.

If I get unsolicited friend requests I leave them in my box.

Senders can't send another! Result.

"

Same here x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"PS if anyone ever gets winks or friend request from us it is my fat fingers....I have eveb winked ourselves before now "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why do people take offence to a wink?

Do people really think of the wink as a two fingered salute?

I don't get enough of em, any body with a few seconds to spare wink away. I'll ignore those that don't interest me and return those that tickle my fancy... Simples!!"

Same here and I have even winked first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get winks but I don't wink back and the winkers don't send a follow up message so don't quite get that

rocket science lesson one:

I wink at u, u look at me, maybe wink back..I then message

I honestly dont know how hard that is to work out.......

seriously..I do wonder sometimes

Yep that approach would work for me. It's a shame that it is seen as unhelpful by so many."

You mean those that think they are too good to be winked at?......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you get different kind of winks.

The random winkers who wink at anything that has a pulse.

The ones that wink because your picture has caught their eye & it's a quick way to say ~ 'how you doing'...

and the cheeky winks you get from other forum posters x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ooofffitt we all perv profiles and pics if I see someone that I like on my daily perv send them a wink nice to be nice!

If they don't wink back who cares just keep on pervin lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get winks but I don't wink back and the winkers don't send a follow up message so don't quite get that "

If I get that and I fancy the look of them, I wink back, they either send a message or I do as sometimes......I wink first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get winks but I don't wink back and the winkers don't send a follow up message so don't quite get that

rocket science lesson one:

I wink at u, u look at me, maybe wink back..I then message

I honestly dont know how hard that is to work out.......

seriously..I do wonder sometimes

Yep that approach would work for me. It's a shame that it is seen as unhelpful by so many.

You mean those that think they are too good to be winked at?......"

It's possible to see it that way although Ive met some lovely people who ignore winks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you get different kind of winks.

The random winkers who wink at anything that has a pulse.

The ones that wink because your picture has caught their eye & it's a quick way to say ~ 'how you doing'...

and the cheeky winks you get from other forum posters x"

I like that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

You mean those that think they are too good to be winked at?......

It's possible to see it that way although Ive met some lovely people who ignore winks "

I'm not denying that there are lovely people that ignore winks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

You mean those that think they are too good to be winked at?......

It's possible to see it that way although Ive met some lovely people who ignore winks

I'm not denying that there are lovely people that ignore winks"

The difficulty is knowing whether they systematically ignore winks or selectively, if it is not clear in their profile. As a rule I wouldn't wink someone who's profile I had not read.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"

You mean those that think they are too good to be winked at?......

It's possible to see it that way although Ive met some lovely people who ignore winks

I'm not denying that there are lovely people that ignore winks

The difficulty is knowing whether they systematically ignore winks or selectively, if it is not clear in their profile. As a rule I wouldn't wink someone who's profile I had not read. "
grrr whose

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By *lackshadow7Man
over a year ago

Toronto


"They are easy to ignore "

This

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By *risky_MareWoman
over a year ago

...Up on the Downs


"As for winks, I think it's a shame they have such 'bad press'. I think it's quite a natural way to show interest and reciprocate. However I understand why they dont really work on this site

Who says they don't work? I've had many a good meet that started with a wink, both giving and receiving so they work perfectly well thank you!

Glad to hear it. However there are a lot of people who simply ignore or delete them. Probably due to sheer volume of messages as well."

Yes, I ignore them a lot - I look at them, but there is often not enough for me to decide to wink back - few or no decent pics, little on the profile etc. In that case those people would need to message me to get a response, give me more information, I hope they would realise. If I see a good pic and profile I'm attracted to, I'll wink back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's just a twitch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get winks but I don't wink back and the winkers don't send a follow up message so don't quite get that

rocket science lesson one:

I wink at u, u look at me, maybe wink back..I then message

I honestly dont know how hard that is to work out.......

seriously..I do wonder

sometimes"

I see sarcasm is rife still. I have winked people back and not heard a thing so waste of time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I winked at a guy, after reading his profile and it said he welcomed

unsolicited winks.

He messaged me back, we chatted on here and we met.

It works how you want it to work.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This site is full of winkers"

winkers ,is that spelt with an I or an a

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This site is full of winkers

winkers ,is that spelt with an I or an a"

seriously tho, we wink if we like a profile to let them know were intrested if they don't wink back then we take it they are not simples ,

same the other way we respond to winks we like or don't respond to the ones we don't .

so winks for us are discreet way of introducing yourselves, that's cool with us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well said, it seems like a lot of up tight people around, I thought this was for fun.

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By *D40 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

Don't misinterpret my post as being anti wink. I think it's a great facility & use it occasionally. I appreciate it's the equivalent of a friendly wave or wolf whistle in real life.

Just don't see the point of winking someone who has no boxes you tick. Like going to the butchers for a cabbage....pointless

Julie x

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven


"Don't misinterpret my post as being anti wink. I think it's a great facility & use it occasionally. I appreciate it's the equivalent of a friendly wave or wolf whistle in real life.

Just don't see the point of winking someone who has no boxes you tick. Like going to the butchers for a cabbage....pointless

Julie x"

bit like this thread.

Wonder if you get less winks now because people gave read it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it really that much of a big deal if someone winks at you? Some people on her need to relax a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"oh stop moaning.

this timewasting nonsense really gets me, is there any harm looking at someone who might be outwith ur wants?

just dont wink back...simple

making things such a drama is what turns me off people

lighten up ffs"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is a wink not just because you like look of person not always wanting a meet with that person or am i doing it wrong on here?

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By *abrina59TV/TS
over a year ago

moved to cuckold land

Ive had couples wink me and when then go into their profile to eink back or send message im blocked as not looking for tvs!!!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like the winks I just see it as a compliment like a smile across a room or a whistle from a guy as I walk down the street, smile and be happy someone found you attractive you don't have to respond

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I wink someone ir means I'm interested and if they look at my profile and pics and they are not . Just don't wink back . Where's the drama in that ? .Would love to know what some of these ladies would be saying if the got . No winks .No friends requests . And no messages

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis

I explain on my profile why I might wink at someone and will treat others' wink the same. It really does not bother me on the contrary.

"I may wink to give you a chance to quietly look at my profile. What follows is in your hands..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lol I will be lucky if I get 2 winks a Month!!!!!!!!!!!!.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I explain on my profile why I might wink at someone and will treat others' wink the same. It really does not bother me on the contrary.

"I may wink to give you a chance to quietly look at my profile. What follows is in your hands...""
Have you ever winked me

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By *D40 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"Don't misinterpret my post as being anti wink. I think it's a great facility & use it occasionally. I appreciate it's the equivalent of a friendly wave or wolf whistle in real life.

Just don't see the point of winking someone who has no boxes you tick. Like going to the butchers for a cabbage....pointless

Julie x

bit like this thread.

Wonder if you get less winks now because people gave read it

"

Honestly? I had 2 winks since the thread, both non smokers & probably taking the pee a little but they fit my criteria so I accept them graciously.

The point is 'read profiles'.

As for laid back & chilling...I am. Judith thought I'd share a bitching session. Hope you all enjoyed sharing with me

Julie xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't read a whole profile before I winked. I wink people I fancy, I wink loads of people. If I want to meet them then I message them. But if someone lives 200 miles away and they are hot then I wink them as I know I can't meet them. I just want them to know i think they are hot. It's a compliment, you only have to read it for a second so winks are not time consuming. I think you can disable the function as well.

X

Well said, its a great way of showin interest. Sometimes a person may make an exception despite what it says on their profile....its like the countless winks and mails i get off males claiming to be straight on their profile lol"

I see winks as a friendly gesture. More like smiling at someone in a pub. They are easy to ignore or you can chose to thank the person. Personally I think if you are offended at someone winking at you on here god help the people who message you. Sometime people are just being friendly.

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By *D40 OP   Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton


"I wouldn't read a whole profile before I winked. I wink people I fancy, I wink loads of people. If I want to meet them then I message them. But if someone lives 200 miles away and they are hot then I wink them as I know I can't meet them. I just want them to know i think they are hot. It's a compliment, you only have to read it for a second so winks are not time consuming. I think you can disable the function as well.

X

Well said, its a great way of showin interest. Sometimes a person may make an exception despite what it says on their profile....its like the countless winks and mails i get off males claiming to be straight on their profile lol

I see winks as a friendly gesture. More like smiling at someone in a pub. They are easy to ignore or you can chose to thank the person. Personally I think if you are offended at someone winking at you on here god help the people who message you. Sometime people are just being friendly."

I'm not offended at all. However my time on here is not as much as I'd like to have. I'd rather receive a message even if it said only "hi". At least it's took more effort than pushing the wink key

And for the record I never ignore messages it's rude. I always respond even if it's a no thank you. Way I see it if you can't be arsed to skim our profile to see if we have just one common thing then stuff it

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By *extoysareusCouple
over a year ago

kinky heaven


"I wouldn't read a whole profile before I winked. I wink people I fancy, I wink loads of people. If I want to meet them then I message them. But if someone lives 200 miles away and they are hot then I wink them as I know I can't meet them. I just want them to know i think they are hot. It's a compliment, you only have to read it for a second so winks are not time consuming. I think you can disable the function as well.

X

Well said, its a great way of showin interest. Sometimes a person may make an exception despite what it says on their profile....its like the countless winks and mails i get off males claiming to be straight on their profile lol

I see winks as a friendly gesture. More like smiling at someone in a pub. They are easy to ignore or you can chose to thank the person. Personally I think if you are offended at someone winking at you on here god help the people who message you. Sometime people are just being friendly.

I'm not offended at all. However my time on here is not as much as I'd like to have. I'd rather receive a message even if it said only "hi". At least it's took more effort than pushing the wink key

And for the record I never ignore messages it's rude. I always respond even if it's a no thank you. Way I see it if you can't be arsed to skim our profile to see if we have just one common thing then stuff it"

People aren't mind readers and just like you we all have our own way of doing things.

A wink is a compliment nothing more nothing less in my eyes, you see differently.

Its to show appreciation.

people will wink you netherorless they have seen this thread.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I wouldn't read a whole profile before I winked. I wink people I fancy, I wink loads of people. If I want to meet them then I message them. But if someone lives 200 miles away and they are hot then I wink them as I know I can't meet them. I just want them to know i think they are hot. It's a compliment, you only have to read it for a second so winks are not time consuming. I think you can disable the function as well.

X

Well said, its a great way of showin interest. Sometimes a person may make an exception despite what it says on their profile....its like the countless winks and mails i get off males claiming to be straight on their profile lol

I see winks as a friendly gesture. More like smiling at someone in a pub. They are easy to ignore or you can chose to thank the person. Personally I think if you are offended at someone winking at you on here god help the people who message you. Sometime people are just being friendly.

I'm not offended at all. However my time on here is not as much as I'd like to have. I'd rather receive a message even if it said only "hi". At least it's took more effort than pushing the wink key

And for the record I never ignore messages it's rude. I always respond even if it's a no thank you. Way I see it if you can't be arsed to skim our profile to see if we have just one common thing then stuff it"

Just goes to show you can't please everyone.

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By *renchbambi xWoman
over a year ago

Need to know basis


"I explain on my profile why I might wink at someone and will treat others' wink the same. It really does not bother me on the contrary.

"I may wink to give you a chance to quietly look at my profile. What follows is in your hands..." Have you ever winked me "

On multiple occasions see!!?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone fancy a wink off us?

We feel in a very 'winky' mood right now... x

Anyone???????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone fancy a wink off us?

We feel in a very 'winky' mood right now... x

Anyone???????"

I have even though you are miles from me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get winks but I don't wink back and the winkers don't send a follow up message so don't quite get that

rocket science lesson one:

I wink at u, u look at me, maybe wink back..I then message

I honestly dont know how hard that is to work out.......

seriously..I do wonder

sometimes

I see sarcasm is rife still. I have winked people back and not heard a thing so waste of time "

Not really as it means they are not interested in you, put that on the note facility on their profile, that way you won't contact them again, and if they did contact you in the future, at least you can say get stuffed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"They are easy to ignore "

Easier to rant about... in the forum, a place where the people the rant is aimed at, will never go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I winked at a guy, after reading his profile and it said he welcomed

unsolicited winks.

He messaged me back, we chatted on here and we met.

It works how you want it to work.

"

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

To me a wink is nothing more than an expression of appreciation for a profile, sometimes it will be taken further, sometimes just saying nice profile and as such we use it to say so to those who for geographical or other reasons we know we will never meet, yes kind of pointless if you like but always nice to be appreciated!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I winked at a guy, after reading his profile and it said he welcomed

unsolicited winks.

He messaged me back, we chatted on here and we met.

It works how you want it to work.

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Anyone fancy a wink off us?

We feel in a very 'winky' mood right now... x

Anyone???????

I have even though you are miles from me"

Winked straight back at you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my view winks are just a small compliment - who knows how the viewer meant them, they may have no desire to meet you anyway, or may be saying 'sorry, I don't fit your criteria so won't write but just wanted to express my attraction'.......

Lighten up everyone!!

"

I agree. I don't think it's something to get worked up over really.

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