FabSwingers.com forum: block users

By *earl_necklaces OP Woman
over a year ago

Doncaster

i have been exchanging messages on here with a guy for a few days, i thought we were getting to know one another and everything was going okay...came on tonight to see if he was online and to send him a message and hes blocked me....do guys have manners still?

Or am I blowing it out of proportion?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *zMaleMan
over a year ago

penzance

HMMMMMMM strange and bizarre!!!!!!!!! without knowing the full extent of the conversations it's hard to tell.

But no not all blokes are the same

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *earl_necklaces OP Woman
over a year ago

Doncaster

hey thanks, it was a very pleasnt few messages,....then we swapped msn address and head photos, then blocked!

oh well, moving on, now that ive got it off my chest.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *zMaleMan
over a year ago

penzance

Good on you.... It takes all sorts to make the world go round, if we were all the same it would be boring.

But all it takes balls to say why you're not compatable rather that take the easy option of blocking

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If all was going well until you sent a face pic the reality is he didn't like what he saw. Rather than say "no thanks" he took the "cowards" way out and blocked you.

We're not going to appeal to everyone and you'll not want to meet everyone that contacts you.

There are loads of lovely men on site to play with. Don't let one rejection knock your confidence: it happens!

Good luck and have fun!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i have been exchanging messages on here with a guy for a few days, i thought we were getting to know one another and everything was going okay...came on tonight to see if he was online and to send him a message and hes blocked me....do guys have manners still?

Or am I blowing it out of proportion?"

Some of us guys have manners yes, but others, you knew there would be a but, take their lead from the couples and females on here. Blocked, deleted messages with no reply and the worst of all.... They wink you, you message them back, taking care and being polite, all going well so far, they message back any pics? And bang! They delete and block, no he's but's or maybe's.

You got further than my example's but its his loss. You're probably better not knowing him if thats his style! Don't you wish you could block him back!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

[Removed by poster at 02/04/10 08:00:08]

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or am I blowing it out of proportion?"

The above message was deleted as I posted it without saying anything.

Exchanging messages with someone for a 'few days' is not a relationship of any sort. You haven't met, seen each other or even spoken on the phone. It truly beats me why you would even be curious about it let alone post in a forum but I do accept we are all different and affected by different things.

The reasons why he blocked you could run into thousands , including accidental so logically you lose more by trying to work things out than you gain.

If you had met him many times, if he was your husband , if you were at the altar wearing a veil or breast feeding his baby whilst sat by his fireplace wondering why he's been so long going for a loaf - THEN maybe wonder where he is.

Internet messaging system for a day or two ??? It's nothing.

I was about to post when it crossed my mind that...... This is an N.S.A site and I don't want to be mean but your message does sound like something from a problem magazine xxx

Truly hope this helps x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

I think the OP's point was basically about the manners aspect - even if blocking was accidental it doesn't explaint he lack of contact unless he presumed she's pursue him

Manners work both ways - there's a lady who I had been speaking to for months who thinks I'm ignoring her but really I'm waiting for an apology for left standing at a train station for over 2 hrs for a pub lunch meet, as had been discussed via text most of the morning (half day, what pub, what for lunch, what drinks to order once there)... only for her to text 2 and half hrs later that she NEVER agreed to meet me ... I later found out she had double booked herself (and the other guy had booked them into a Ritzy hotel for the afternoon, all expenses paid).

I can see why the appeal of a pub lunch wasn't her thing, her choice... but could have at least said "I'm busy.. Can we reschedule...thank but nothanks..." ? Manners

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the OP's point was basically about the manners aspect - even if blocking was accidental it doesn't explaint he lack of contact unless he presumed she's pursue him

I can see why the appeal of a pub lunch wasn't her thing, her choice... but could have at least said "I'm busy.. Can we reschedule...thank but nothanks..." ? Manners

Thanks for a different perspective Ahabs - though your opinion does seem to be formed mainly by the one 'very bad' ( and I do mean that ) experience that you had.

I can't stand bad manners but I don't call blocking someone on here bad manners. Be REASONABLE! Let's imagine you have decided that someone is not for you and you don't want to pursue it further do you phone them up and say ..... Hey .. I know we've text each other three times, I know there was nothing going on , but I feel it's best to break it off ....this thing we don't have.... let's end it.

Do you fuff !! You just don't contact them anymore.

Okay, I concede if you know them a little more or had arranged to meet then it requires a call or a cowardly text to say that you've decided not to contact anymore. We've all had the nutty 'why not' question in response to this too.

Unfortunately, on here , you cannot stop people messaging you unless you block them. You are able to not answer phone texts. You are able not to give out your address or you could even pretend to be out ...... but here you are accessible unless you block or ignore.

Blocking makes much more of a statement than ignoring. Ignoring is actually somewhat cruel and abusive and something I'd get no pleasure out of.

I'm not quite sure how to see the difference between 'waiting' and ignoring. Only you know you are 'waiting' - she doesn't. Quite franky - I'd ignore her full stop. Or get a doormat brand.

Lot's of love n many pub lunches....x Gran x

P.S. I'd fuck a sexy pauper before a hideous king.. ( thought for the day )

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ustyWoman
over a year ago

inverclyde

to pearl..... has happened to me as well chatting and exchanging messages one minute and then getting blocked ...........some do have no manners at all and it does make you mad when that happens.... his loss at the end of the day is what i say

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *earl_necklaces OP Woman
over a year ago

Doncaster

thanks everyone...I wasnt miffed at the blocking, I was miffed at the manners and having the balls to say no thanks.

I genuinely try and say thanks, but no thanks to all Im not interested in. And I thought people would do the same....

After all swinging can still be polite!!!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

As others have said, some people don't like to say no thanks so block . At least you get the message that way instead.

PS when replying to these type of threads can people leave any name calling out of it please, as the other person is a member also.

Thanks

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *uss PussWoman
over a year ago

east cheshire

Annoying when they block ya eh, happened to me the other day...I mean all I said was he was an ugly twat with a deformed cock....some people

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I say get over it, women do it all the time..

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"thanks everyone...I wasnt miffed at the blocking, I was miffed at the manners and having the balls to say no thanks.

I genuinely try and say thanks, but no thanks to all Im not interested in. And I thought people would do the same....

After all swinging can still be polite!!!"

Hun...if this is your first time on a swinging site ...it will help to develop a little hard shell...you will find that things like this happen...its part and parcel...have fun but....swinging is a mindset...and if you are prone to taking things personally or wearing your heart on your sleeve....be careful hun..

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think the OP's point was basically about the manners aspect - even if blocking was accidental it doesn't explaint he lack of contact unless he presumed she's pursue him

I can see why the appeal of a pub lunch wasn't her thing, her choice... but could have at least said "I'm busy.. Can we reschedule...thank but nothanks..." ? Manners

mmmmm...interesting choice...given the choice between a gorgeous hotel...all expenses paid night of luxury...and lavish spoiling..

Or ten minute knee trembler....after a quick pup sarnie.....with this diamond geezer...can confidently say she made the wrong blooming choice...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a bloke, I have to admit when I first started doing this I do what happened to you - and no I'm not proud of it. Many blokes (and some women for that matter) are cowards. I was. I've learnt my lesson now as I've always felt guilty about cutting off contact without any explanation and won't do it again. Put it down to experience and don't worry about it.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or am I blowing it out of proportion?

The above message was deleted as I posted it without saying anything.

The reasons why he blocked you could run into thousands , including accidental so logically you lose more by trying to work things out than you gain.

Internet messaging system for a day or two ??? It's nothing.

I was about to post when it crossed my mind that...... This is an N.S.A site and I don't want to be mean but your message does sound like something from a problem magazine xxx

Truly hope this helps x "

Granny: you can be so harsh but deliciously funny!

Whether it's swinging or dating sites people will block for whatever reason. All part and parcel: if you get miffed you'll soon develop ulcers!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *edhot4blkCouple
over a year ago

York/London/Crantock

i have found in here and more than other sites peeps are always to fast to reach for the block function if they become rejected, or u politely tell them no thanks, they will block u to save face, even if as sometimes happen they lose a argument they block u...i think to be honest the block function is a very good thing to have but ive never had to use it as yet...lol

stella..xxxx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or am I blowing it out of proportion?

The above message was deleted as I posted it without saying anything.

The reasons why he blocked you could run into thousands , including accidental so logically you lose more by trying to work things out than you gain.

Internet messaging system for a day or two ??? It's nothing.

I was about to post when it crossed my mind that...... This is an N.S.A site and I don't want to be mean but your message does sound like something from a problem magazine xxx

Truly hope this helps x

Granny: you can be so harsh but deliciously funny!

Whether it's swinging or dating sites people will block for whatever reason. All part and parcel: if you get miffed you'll soon develop ulcers!

Tell me about it...what with my ulcers...my hives..and my nervous tick...whats next...rocking and drooling...?????

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

I think this site is a microcosm of society. You will get polite and rude people everywhere, this site no exception.

Would I call it cowardice for someone to block another if not interested? I would say it depends on the "blocker".

They may not realise they are doing anything wrong.

All I can say, don't beat yourself about it, if he had no manners to say, "Thanks, but no Thanks", then they were not worth the meet.

The same goes to Ahabs, the Ritz with all its glitz will never beat good manners in a greasy pub. There are plenty of well mannered people on here.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Since when have others been held responsible for ones own inherent manners or lack of them?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ay112Man
over a year ago

northwest

happens i guess, cant understand if you guys were getting along he would block you, some ladies can be ruthless with the block button, i mean i sent a polite welcome hello to someone and got blocked, made me chuckle really

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ickmealloverWoman
over a year ago

a very plush appartment off junt 7 M5

well

maybe it was accidental and he might rectify it

I have to say I use block a lot purely cos if I say no, there's is often the follow up emails requesting why

when I say no, I mean no

so simpler to save myself the bother in future of having to explain myself more than once

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or am I blowing it out of proportion?

The above message was deleted as I posted it without saying anything.

The reasons why he blocked you could run into thousands , including accidental so logically you lose more by trying to work things out than you gain.

Internet messaging system for a day or two ??? It's nothing.

I was about to post when it crossed my mind that...... This is an N.S.A site and I don't want to be mean but your message does sound like something from a problem magazine xxx

Truly hope this helps x

Granny: you can be so harsh but deliciously funny!

Whether it's swinging or dating sites people will block for whatever reason. All part and parcel: if you get miffed you'll soon develop ulcers!

Tell me about it...what with my ulcers...my hives..and my nervous tick...whats next...rocking and drooling...?????"

What's wrong with rockin' and droolin' ? All in a days work for a Gran

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"happens i guess, cant understand if you guys were getting along he would block you, some ladies can be ruthless with the block button, i mean i sent a polite welcome hello to someone and got blocked, made me chuckle really

Oooooooo was it me ?

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think this site is a microcosm of society. You will get polite and rude people everywhere, this site no exception.

Would I call it cowardice for someone to block another if not interested? I would say it depends on the "blocker".

They may not realise they are doing anything wrong.

All I can say, don't beat yourself about it, if he had no manners to say, "Thanks, but no Thanks", then they were not worth the meet.

The same goes to Ahabs, the Ritz with all its glitz will never beat good manners in a greasy pub. There are plenty of well mannered people on here.

Thank you most kindly and yes please.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

"Annoying when they block ya eh, happened to me the other day...I mean all I said was he was an ugly twat with a deformed cock....some people

How did I miss that post when I read this before lol

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ezebelWoman
over a year ago

North of The Wall - youll need your vest

"Annoying when they block ya eh, happened to me the other day...I mean all I said was he was an ugly twat with a deformed cock....some people

How did I miss that post when I read this before lol

She whips in an' out, say no more...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or am I blowing it out of proportion?

The above message was deleted as I posted it without saying anything.

The reasons why he blocked you could run into thousands , including accidental so logically you lose more by trying to work things out than you gain.

Internet messaging system for a day or two ??? It's nothing.

I was about to post when it crossed my mind that...... This is an N.S.A site and I don't want to be mean but your message does sound like something from a problem magazine xxx

Truly hope this helps x

Granny: you can be so harsh but deliciously funny!

Whether it's swinging or dating sites people will block for whatever reason. All part and parcel: if you get miffed you'll soon develop ulcers!

Tell me about it...what with my ulcers...my hives..and my nervous tick...whats next...rocking and drooling...?????

What's wrong with rockin' and droolin' ? All in a days work for a Gran "

What with all my prescription charges..stomach medicine..creams for my rash/hives...therapy for my ticks/twitches...I just cant afford to buy bibs as well...feck me and I thought my swinging expenses would be saucy knickers and petrol...not nerve tablets and adult bibs...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *un4uWoman
over a year ago

grimsby

I had almost the opposite happen today. A couple I have never seen before sent me a message saying 'We would never meet you and you are so far up your own ****' then blocked me. What was that about? Maybe this guy had a good enough reason, like maybe he prefer brunettes or older ladies, whatever, but just didn't have the balls to say sorry love you're not what I'm looking for.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I had almost the opposite happen today. A couple I have never seen before sent me a message saying 'We would never meet you and you are so far up your own ****' then blocked me. What was that about? Maybe this guy had a good enough reason, like maybe he prefer brunettes or older ladies, whatever, but just didn't have the balls to say sorry love you're not what I'm looking for."

I am utterly astounded and baffled...why would any one get that impression...

Gosh...just read your profile.... oooohhh....its spine chilling...but its your profile...your choice.

If the couple didn't like it why mail you...strange..

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *un4uWoman
over a year ago

grimsby

It has to be after the sort of people who often contact me lol

But like you say, my choice. If I see a profile and think whatever about it or the people behind I just move to the next one, no need for them to pass nasty comments.

But there are loads of fab people on here I will say, you just have to dig for them sometimes

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ansue35Couple
over a year ago

yorkshire

We block for a few reasons,

Am sure a few people our blocked list have not been blocked by us, maybe a few mice in the system !

We block if we find they ask for invite and then do not contact us back even to say no thanks.

Or that they are rude.

Or they talk to us for a few days then just before the meet, normally on they day they do answer or message to confirm a meet then next time we put an add out to ask for a meet on meet today they message agaion and the same thing again.

Ian

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ickedWWoman
over a year ago

Chester

Or am I blowing it out of proportion?"

Pearl its his huge loss..

We both know there are some utter planks on here, look what happened to me a month or so back, and they dont deserve being called our friends..

They'll need us before we need them..

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or am I blowing it out of proportion?

The above message was deleted as I posted it without saying anything.

The reasons why he blocked you could run into thousands , including accidental so logically you lose more by trying to work things out than you gain.

Internet messaging system for a day or two ??? It's nothing.

I was about to post when it crossed my mind that...... This is an N.S.A site and I don't want to be mean but your message does sound like something from a problem magazine xxx

Truly hope this helps x

Granny: you can be so harsh but deliciously funny!

Whether it's swinging or dating sites people will block for whatever reason. All part and parcel: if you get miffed you'll soon develop ulcers!

Tell me about it...what with my ulcers...my hives..and my nervous tick...whats next...rocking and drooling...?????

What's wrong with rockin' and droolin' ? All in a days work for a Gran

Look on the bright side though hey: you may need adult bibs but you don't have to try and cram a Tena lady into your French knickers: yet!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *ity Slickers PartiesCouple (MM)
over a year ago

Brighton & Hove

It always helps putting a photo on your profile so as to attract those who find you attractive and keep away from those who dont (although personality is also important too) after all if you chatted with someone in a pub they would be able to see you immediately so why start a conversation in here without a photo on your profile? Thats cheating!

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It always helps putting a photo on your profile so as to attract those who find you attractive and keep away from those who dont (although personality is also important too) after all if you chatted with someone in a pub they would be able to see you immediately so why start a conversation in here without a photo on your profile? Thats cheating!"

if you stand in the pub like what you do in your photo il have a large stiff one please wink wink!!! xx

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Or am I blowing it out of proportion?

The above message was deleted as I posted it without saying anything.

The reasons why he blocked you could run into thousands , including accidental so logically you lose more by trying to work things out than you gain.

Internet messaging system for a day or two ??? It's nothing.

I was about to post when it crossed my mind that...... This is an N.S.A site and I don't want to be mean but your message does sound like something from a problem magazine xxx

Truly hope this helps x

Granny: you can be so harsh but deliciously funny!

Whether it's swinging or dating sites people will block for whatever reason. All part and parcel: if you get miffed you'll soon develop ulcers!

Tell me about it...what with my ulcers...my hives..and my nervous tick...whats next...rocking and drooling...?????

What's wrong with rockin' and droolin' ? All in a days work for a Gran

Look on the bright side though hey: you may need adult bibs but you don't have to try and cram a Tena lady into your French knickers: yet!

Guess my lady garden will be the next thing to disintegrate....cant wait for my first prolapse...

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *lackMetalMan
over a year ago

Centre

These things happen!!

Don't take it too personal. Not everyone is gonna like you and not everyone has manners on here. In any case, you are lucky you didn't meet him in the first place.

I am sure you are a nice person and others on here will see that soon enough...

Ritz hotel or a pub lunch...hmm hard choice! But she still shoulda explained why she preferred silk sheets and a bit of straight action to a pub lunch as a prelude to a possible shag. Manners are expensive to some people.

Damn, I have never had a pub lunch before. Am I missing anything?

And Ritz hotel.. now that's a man who takes his swinging seriously.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is how rumours start

Ahabs said 'Ritzy' ..... not the Ritz

Sheesh

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

NO...I dont think its cheating...no pic...her choice...her scary profile wording...her choice....and just a guess but ..if she put one on...peeps like the ones who mailed her ....would have probably critized her appearance as well....her choice...x

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

By *entadreadMan
over a year ago

Essex

"This is how rumours start

Ahabs said 'Ritzy' ..... not the Ritz

Sheesh "

Compared to the Pub lunch he was offering, it was the Ritz. Used in context as a metaphor.

Reply privately

Reply in forum

Reply +quote

Post new Message to Thread