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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston

After being home from a meet for an hour and still being slightly annoyed by it, I wanted to ask how much discussion goes on between couples before first meets? Does the question of 'will I be able to watch my partner with another woman' get asked or is that already answered before joining a swinging site and deciding to call yourselves swingers? Have any couples ever been in the middle of a meet and not been able to handle their partner with another woman? Just want to know if anyone has experienced this...would be great to know if any single men/women have experienced this too...bear in mind, all boundaries and rules were discussed beforehand, followed by both parties and the woman of the couple insisted on her partner being there...was in charge/dominating the whole meet and had talked a hell of a lot of talk but couldn't walk the walk!

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh


"After being home from a meet for an hour and still being slightly annoyed by it, I wanted to ask how much discussion goes on between couples before first meets? Does the question of 'will I be able to watch my partner with another woman' get asked or is that already answered before joining a swinging site and deciding to call yourselves swingers? Have any couples ever been in the middle of a meet and not been able to handle their partner with another woman? Just want to know if anyone has experienced this...would be great to know if any single men/women have experienced this too...bear in mind, all boundaries and rules were discussed beforehand, followed by both parties and the woman of the couple insisted on her partner being there...was in charge/dominating the whole meet and had talked a hell of a lot of talk but couldn't walk the walk!"

That is a shame, I guess if it was a first meet it was probably discussed but the reality was different, that's life. We love watching each other but it is not for everyone and I suppose it can go either way in a live situation. All you can say is you did your bit, you did nothing wrong and perhaps avoid first-timers as you will always have it in your head and this is so supposed to be about the fun! Happy swinging

Master x

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By *its_n_piecesCouple
over a year ago

so pissed off you started 2 threads

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston


"After being home from a meet for an hour and still being slightly annoyed by it, I wanted to ask how much discussion goes on between couples before first meets? Does the question of 'will I be able to watch my partner with another woman' get asked or is that already answered before joining a swinging site and deciding to call yourselves swingers? Have any couples ever been in the middle of a meet and not been able to handle their partner with another woman? Just want to know if anyone has experienced this...would be great to know if any single men/women have experienced this too...bear in mind, all boundaries and rules were discussed beforehand, followed by both parties and the woman of the couple insisted on her partner being there...was in charge/dominating the whole meet and had talked a hell of a lot of talk but couldn't walk the walk!

That is a shame, I guess if it was a first meet it was probably discussed but the reality was different, that's life. We love watching each other but it is not for everyone and I suppose it can go either way in a live situation. All you can say is you did your bit, you did nothing wrong and perhaps avoid first-timers as you will always have it in your head and this is so supposed to be about the fun! Happy swinging

Master x"

The thing is they've already met a TV and said that went really well and when I questioned her on my way out she said with the TV it was more neutral! Don't understand what that means but hey ho, can't even say their loss cos it's not, I'm the one that had a half an hour drive back home without being satisfied!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We have always enjoyed seeing each other with other people and have never been faced with the insecurity mid meet or at any point in all honesty.

We have however, experienced meets where they were perhaps not ready to swing and cause arguements which ended play.

Whilst it can be frustrating, it can not be helped. At the end of the day, know one knows truly how they feel until it happens. I would sooner end play than do something i was not comfortable with.

Sarah xx

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston


"so pissed off you started 2 threads "

Haha! Why? I put it in the wrong place first time round, didn't really think it was something for the lounge! Sorry

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By *heScotandthegirlCouple
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh


"After being home from a meet for an hour and still being slightly annoyed by it, I wanted to ask how much discussion goes on between couples before first meets? Does the question of 'will I be able to watch my partner with another woman' get asked or is that already answered before joining a swinging site and deciding to call yourselves swingers? Have any couples ever been in the middle of a meet and not been able to handle their partner with another woman? Just want to know if anyone has experienced this...would be great to know if any single men/women have experienced this too...bear in mind, all boundaries and rules were discussed beforehand, followed by both parties and the woman of the couple insisted on her partner being there...was in charge/dominating the whole meet and had talked a hell of a lot of talk but couldn't walk the walk!

That is a shame, I guess if it was a first meet it was probably discussed but the reality was different, that's life. We love watching each other but it is not for everyone and I suppose it can go either way in a live situation. All you can say is you did your bit, you did nothing wrong and perhaps avoid first-timers as you will always have it in your head and this is so supposed to be about the fun! Happy swinging

Master x

The thing is they've already met a TV and said that went really well and when I questioned her on my way out she said with the TV it was more neutral! Don't understand what that means but hey ho, can't even say their loss cos it's not, I'm the one that had a half an hour drive back home without being satisfied!"

Damn hot pics btw x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After being home from a meet for an hour and still being slightly annoyed by it, I wanted to ask how much discussion goes on between couples before first meets? Does the question of 'will I be able to watch my partner with another woman' get asked or is that already answered before joining a swinging site and deciding to call yourselves swingers? Have any couples ever been in the middle of a meet and not been able to handle their partner with another woman? Just want to know if anyone has experienced this...would be great to know if any single men/women have experienced this too...bear in mind, all boundaries and rules were discussed beforehand, followed by both parties and the woman of the couple insisted on her partner being there...was in charge/dominating the whole meet and had talked a hell of a lot of talk but couldn't walk the walk!"

Also it could have been that they just were not comfortable with you etc. There may be other reasons. At the end of the day they did what was right for them, something we are all guilty of.

Sarah xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After being home from a meet for an hour and still being slightly annoyed by it, I wanted to ask how much discussion goes on between couples before first meets? Does the question of 'will I be able to watch my partner with another woman' get asked or is that already answered before joining a swinging site and deciding to call yourselves swingers? Have any couples ever been in the middle of a meet and not been able to handle their partner with another woman? Just want to know if anyone has experienced this...would be great to know if any single men/women have experienced this too...bear in mind, all boundaries and rules were discussed beforehand, followed by both parties and the woman of the couple insisted on her partner being there...was in charge/dominating the whole meet and had talked a hell of a lot of talk but couldn't walk the walk!

That is a shame, I guess if it was a first meet it was probably discussed but the reality was different, that's life. We love watching each other but it is not for everyone and I suppose it can go either way in a live situation. All you can say is you did your bit, you did nothing wrong and perhaps avoid first-timers as you will always have it in your head and this is so supposed to be about the fun! Happy swinging

Master x

The thing is they've already met a TV and said that went really well and when I questioned her on my way out she said with the TV it was more neutral! Don't understand what that means but hey ho, can't even say their loss cos it's not, I'm the one that had a half an hour drive back home without being satisfied!

Damn hot pics btw x"

agree

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston


"We have always enjoyed seeing each other with other people and have never been faced with the insecurity mid meet or at any point in all honesty.

We have however, experienced meets where they were perhaps not ready to swing and cause arguements which ended play.

Whilst it can be frustrating, it can not be helped. At the end of the day, know one knows truly how they feel until it happens. I would sooner end play than do something i was not comfortable with.

Sarah xx"

Oh I understand that and if I was uncomfortable I'd stop playing too or not even start but mid play, with everyone following the rules set and the woman dominating both me and her fella and then stopping saying 'I can't do this' after I'd made her wetter than wet just seems odd to me...if she didn't fancy me or want to play she wouldn't have started it surely? I always say to my meets beforehand that I honestly won't be offended if you don't want any fun if you don't feel a connection there or don't find an attraction in person...better not to start the fun and have everyone undressed than to stop midway I say

Just shit on the receiving end!

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston


"After being home from a meet for an hour and still being slightly annoyed by it, I wanted to ask how much discussion goes on between couples before first meets? Does the question of 'will I be able to watch my partner with another woman' get asked or is that already answered before joining a swinging site and deciding to call yourselves swingers? Have any couples ever been in the middle of a meet and not been able to handle their partner with another woman? Just want to know if anyone has experienced this...would be great to know if any single men/women have experienced this too...bear in mind, all boundaries and rules were discussed beforehand, followed by both parties and the woman of the couple insisted on her partner being there...was in charge/dominating the whole meet and had talked a hell of a lot of talk but couldn't walk the walk!

That is a shame, I guess if it was a first meet it was probably discussed but the reality was different, that's life. We love watching each other but it is not for everyone and I suppose it can go either way in a live situation. All you can say is you did your bit, you did nothing wrong and perhaps avoid first-timers as you will always have it in your head and this is so supposed to be about the fun! Happy swinging

Master x

The thing is they've already met a TV and said that went really well and when I questioned her on my way out she said with the TV it was more neutral! Don't understand what that means but hey ho, can't even say their loss cos it's not, I'm the one that had a half an hour drive back home without being satisfied!

Damn hot pics btw x"

Haha! Thank you

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston


"After being home from a meet for an hour and still being slightly annoyed by it, I wanted to ask how much discussion goes on between couples before first meets? Does the question of 'will I be able to watch my partner with another woman' get asked or is that already answered before joining a swinging site and deciding to call yourselves swingers? Have any couples ever been in the middle of a meet and not been able to handle their partner with another woman? Just want to know if anyone has experienced this...would be great to know if any single men/women have experienced this too...bear in mind, all boundaries and rules were discussed beforehand, followed by both parties and the woman of the couple insisted on her partner being there...was in charge/dominating the whole meet and had talked a hell of a lot of talk but couldn't walk the walk!

That is a shame, I guess if it was a first meet it was probably discussed but the reality was different, that's life. We love watching each other but it is not for everyone and I suppose it can go either way in a live situation. All you can say is you did your bit, you did nothing wrong and perhaps avoid first-timers as you will always have it in your head and this is so supposed to be about the fun! Happy swinging

Master x

The thing is they've already met a TV and said that went really well and when I questioned her on my way out she said with the TV it was more neutral! Don't understand what that means but hey ho, can't even say their loss cos it's not, I'm the one that had a half an hour drive back home without being satisfied!

Damn hot pics btw x

agree "

Thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After being home from a meet for an hour and still being slightly annoyed by it, I wanted to ask how much discussion goes on between couples before first meets? Does the question of 'will I be able to watch my partner with another woman' get asked or is that already answered before joining a swinging site and deciding to call yourselves swingers? Have any couples ever been in the middle of a meet and not been able to handle their partner with another woman? Just want to know if anyone has experienced this...would be great to know if any single men/women have experienced this too...bear in mind, all boundaries and rules were discussed beforehand, followed by both parties and the woman of the couple insisted on her partner being there...was in charge/dominating the whole meet and had talked a hell of a lot of talk but couldn't walk the walk!

That is a shame, I guess if it was a first meet it was probably discussed but the reality was different, that's life. We love watching each other but it is not for everyone and I suppose it can go either way in a live situation. All you can say is you did your bit, you did nothing wrong and perhaps avoid first-timers as you will always have it in your head and this is so supposed to be about the fun! Happy swinging

Master x

The thing is they've already met a TV and said that went really well and when I questioned her on my way out she said with the TV it was more neutral! Don't understand what that means but hey ho, can't even say their loss cos it's not, I'm the one that had a half an hour drive back home without being satisfied!

Damn hot pics btw x

agree

Thank you "

Didn't see your reply until after i posted on the other one sorry! I understand how annoying it is, believe me! We were left stranded in another town at one point because of arguements! xx

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston


"After being home from a meet for an hour and still being slightly annoyed by it, I wanted to ask how much discussion goes on between couples before first meets? Does the question of 'will I be able to watch my partner with another woman' get asked or is that already answered before joining a swinging site and deciding to call yourselves swingers? Have any couples ever been in the middle of a meet and not been able to handle their partner with another woman? Just want to know if anyone has experienced this...would be great to know if any single men/women have experienced this too...bear in mind, all boundaries and rules were discussed beforehand, followed by both parties and the woman of the couple insisted on her partner being there...was in charge/dominating the whole meet and had talked a hell of a lot of talk but couldn't walk the walk!

That is a shame, I guess if it was a first meet it was probably discussed but the reality was different, that's life. We love watching each other but it is not for everyone and I suppose it can go either way in a live situation. All you can say is you did your bit, you did nothing wrong and perhaps avoid first-timers as you will always have it in your head and this is so supposed to be about the fun! Happy swinging

Master x

The thing is they've already met a TV and said that went really well and when I questioned her on my way out she said with the TV it was more neutral! Don't understand what that means but hey ho, can't even say their loss cos it's not, I'm the one that had a half an hour drive back home without being satisfied!

Damn hot pics btw x

agree

Thank you

Didn't see your reply until after i posted on the other one sorry! I understand how annoying it is, believe me! We were left stranded in another town at one point because of arguements! xx"

I wouldn't have been so annoyed but I'd turned down two really hot couples for this couple cos of what they said they wanted, the tits on her (I'm a sucker for pierced nipples and nice tits) and the fact that it was too bloody late to get in touch with the others I'd said no to! I'd have preferred an argument but all I got was 'this isn't personal, I just have too many feelings for him!'

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over a year ago


"After being home from a meet for an hour and still being slightly annoyed by it, I wanted to ask how much discussion goes on between couples before first meets? Does the question of 'will I be able to watch my partner with another woman' get asked or is that already answered before joining a swinging site and deciding to call yourselves swingers? Have any couples ever been in the middle of a meet and not been able to handle their partner with another woman? Just want to know if anyone has experienced this...would be great to know if any single men/women have experienced this too...bear in mind, all boundaries and rules were discussed beforehand, followed by both parties and the woman of the couple insisted on her partner being there...was in charge/dominating the whole meet and had talked a hell of a lot of talk but couldn't walk the walk!

That is a shame, I guess if it was a first meet it was probably discussed but the reality was different, that's life. We love watching each other but it is not for everyone and I suppose it can go either way in a live situation. All you can say is you did your bit, you did nothing wrong and perhaps avoid first-timers as you will always have it in your head and this is so supposed to be about the fun! Happy swinging

Master x

The thing is they've already met a TV and said that went really well and when I questioned her on my way out she said with the TV it was more neutral! Don't understand what that means but hey ho, can't even say their loss cos it's not, I'm the one that had a half an hour drive back home without being satisfied!

Damn hot pics btw x

agree

Thank you

Didn't see your reply until after i posted on the other one sorry! I understand how annoying it is, believe me! We were left stranded in another town at one point because of arguements! xx

I wouldn't have been so annoyed but I'd turned down two really hot couples for this couple cos of what they said they wanted, the tits on her (I'm a sucker for pierced nipples and nice tits) and the fact that it was too bloody late to get in touch with the others I'd said no to! I'd have preferred an argument but all I got was 'this isn't personal, I just have too many feelings for him!'"

It does make me ponder whatbon earth they were expecting! Mmm pierced nipples yummy!! Xx

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By *omethingSoGoodAboutSofia OP   Woman
over a year ago

Blackburn/Preston


"After being home from a meet for an hour and still being slightly annoyed by it, I wanted to ask how much discussion goes on between couples before first meets? Does the question of 'will I be able to watch my partner with another woman' get asked or is that already answered before joining a swinging site and deciding to call yourselves swingers? Have any couples ever been in the middle of a meet and not been able to handle their partner with another woman? Just want to know if anyone has experienced this...would be great to know if any single men/women have experienced this too...bear in mind, all boundaries and rules were discussed beforehand, followed by both parties and the woman of the couple insisted on her partner being there...was in charge/dominating the whole meet and had talked a hell of a lot of talk but couldn't walk the walk!

That is a shame, I guess if it was a first meet it was probably discussed but the reality was different, that's life. We love watching each other but it is not for everyone and I suppose it can go either way in a live situation. All you can say is you did your bit, you did nothing wrong and perhaps avoid first-timers as you will always have it in your head and this is so supposed to be about the fun! Happy swinging

Master x

The thing is they've already met a TV and said that went really well and when I questioned her on my way out she said with the TV it was more neutral! Don't understand what that means but hey ho, can't even say their loss cos it's not, I'm the one that had a half an hour drive back home without being satisfied!

Damn hot pics btw x

agree

Thank you

Didn't see your reply until after i posted on the other one sorry! I understand how annoying it is, believe me! We were left stranded in another town at one point because of arguements! xx

I wouldn't have been so annoyed but I'd turned down two really hot couples for this couple cos of what they said they wanted, the tits on her (I'm a sucker for pierced nipples and nice tits) and the fact that it was too bloody late to get in touch with the others I'd said no to! I'd have preferred an argument but all I got was 'this isn't personal, I just have too many feelings for him!'

It does make me ponder whatbon earth they were expecting! Mmm pierced nipples yummy!! Xx"

That is exactly why I've put this on here, I'm still wondering what on earth they were expecting and why the fun stopped hence asking the question of how far discussions go with couples!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a partner( a proper one not a fb),she didnt like seeing me pleasure women, though was happy enough getting fucked/licked etc by the others.

Not going to say it felt good, but at the end of it,all u can say is either its not for them or they have to change how they decide to play.I can see u are frustrated(from the profile status lol),and can only think......fancy a shag!..I like ur tits

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By *andd2Couple
over a year ago

The Dungeon

We've experienced something similar. They were also new to the site but had very specific fantasies. She wanted to be dominated and made to perform in public, he wanted to dominate too but SHE was the dominant in their relationship. So we met at their hotel, discussed and reaffirmed the boundaries and went out "for a drink". So I had her giving me a bj under a table in a pub, fingered her in a McDonald's at the counter etc. He looked lost with what to do so my missus tried to encourage him to copy me (she's very sub and will do anything a Dom says). We went back to the hotel and he just said he couldn't do it, he couldn't see his missus getting shagged and she told him if she couldn't he couldn't.

We were ok with that, so we all went out to have a drink for real and had a dance and laugh etc. It ended up being a real nice social.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps this was the males fantasy scenario who talked his partner into it.

Perhaps she was enjoying herself more than she ever had before and was worried for her relationship.

Perhaps she was jealous of your body.

Perhaps the reality wasn't as hot to her as the fantasy was.

Perhaps she needed a massive fart

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We talk loads before hand and usually have to drive half an hour to get to meets so use that time to have a "pre meet brief" we talk about what we want /don't want. How far we want to take things etc

We'll always ask what the other party want from the meet too.

And on the way home we always "de-brief"

talk talk talk talk !! Communication is the key, we've turned couples down at clubs because when we asked what they wanted/liked. They were difficult to talk to.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We've experienced something similar. They were also new to the site but had very specific fantasies. She wanted to be dominated and made to perform in public, he wanted to dominate too but SHE was the dominant in their relationship. So we met at their hotel, discussed and reaffirmed the boundaries and went out "for a drink". So I had her giving me a bj under a table in a pub, fingered her in a McDonald's at the counter etc. He looked lost with what to do so my missus tried to encourage him to copy me (she's very sub and will do anything a Dom says). We went back to the hotel and he just said he couldn't do it, he couldn't see his missus getting shagged and she told him if she couldn't he couldn't.

We were ok with that, so we all went out to have a drink for real and had a dance and laugh etc. It ended up being a real nice social."

Think that if you go into a new meet with someone who has "specific fantasies" then it's all going to end in tears. Fantasies are often just that and many people can't actually play them out in real life - especially with people you don't know.

As with a couple's relationship, you need trust before moving on to the less vanilla stuff. We've acted out fantasies with other couples, but only after having met and played with them a fwew times, and the progression happens naturally.

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