FabSwingers.com forum: Disabled couples

By *arthsoul OP Couple
over a year ago

not here

Would anyone out there have sex with a couple where one (or both) have a difference or a dsiability? not for the sympathy shag but actually who would look past a disablement?

Not saying either of us are disabled but we just wondered....

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By *ensualfire88Man
over a year ago

Edinburgh

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I am totally honest it would depend on what the disability was xx

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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

"If I am totally honest it would depend on what the disability was xx"

Same here

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"If I am totally honest it would depend on what the disability was xx"

for us too.

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By *er himWoman
over a year ago

Essex

If its a physical disability then they would still be great people to meet. Chatting stimulating the mind and erotic attitude makes for a great meet with anyone so would look past any disability. and enjoy fun all together

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By *hocksandmissusCouple
over a year ago

Chester-ish

we very much would and have its the person we had the fun with not what ppl see wrong with them and have to say a bloody good time we had too xxxxxxxx

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By *r Mahogany70Man
over a year ago

Leicester

I wouldn't feel comfortable going with a hearing impaired, mute tetraplegic who's partner said it was ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a disabled person, I've had lots of fun on here, but also had people not wanna play as some things are hard

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I am totally honest it would depend on what the disability was xx"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The requirement for attraction and getting along well etc would be the same...a disability would not necessarily affect that. We did try to meet a couple from here some time ago where one of the two had a physical disability but our calenders didn't ever match up - I think they ended up thinking we were time wasters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it depends on the disability. If I'm brutally honest. But I would compromise. I'm not a selfish person sexually and seeing the other person having a good time would turn me on and make me happy just like with an able bodied person.

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By *r_and_MrsxxCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Greetings all

We are new couple to the site, joined a couple of weeks ago.

Husband is disabled from an accident causing spinal damage and uses a wheelchair.

Interesting thread. We mentioned this in our bio as we feel it's best to be totally honest about it.

We thought we wouldn't have much response from other couples because of it.

Quite the opposite infact, lots of winks , messages and we've a fair few meets set up in the new year.

Husband just sees his chair as someone would see a pair of shoes.... Just something he uses to get around.

Certainly no problems in the bedroom

if anything he seems to last alot lot longer since his accident ...

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By *appyfuckerMan
over a year ago

in a happy place north wales coast

i used to go out with a 1 legged girl (biker like me)oh boy no diffrence could fuck foe britten so yea no problem

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By *arthsoul OP Couple
over a year ago

not here

OP here. Thank you all for your encouraging replies. Especially the couple with a wheelchair. Here is the thing, we have been swinging for a few years and have a nice circle of friends that we see for a party 3-4 times a year. They have seen my wife lose weight from a size 14 to a size 8 in the last year due to chronic illness.

Currently she has a NG feeding tube in place, so during the night she can be hooked up to get nourishment as she can not eat. Its a small tube 3mm up her nostril which goes to her stomach. The bit you can see is taped to her cheek and hangs over her ear.

She doesnt want to go an invitation for a new years party (also my birthday) because she feels that either she will be left out of the fun, she will get a sympathy shag (her words) or she will turn people off. I would obviously not push her to go, and she wants me to go alone. I want to be with her on my birthday so am unwilling to go alone as I dont think that would be very fair on her at all. The host is lovely and would like us to go. What do you guys think ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

would depend on the dsiability

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It wouldn't bother me as I like to see the differences in people. If your wife 'looks ill' rather than just the tube then it might make a difference to some people. She might end up having to explain whats wrong with her to different people for most of the night.

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By *r_and_MrsxxCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

If the circle of friends are as nice as you say surely the tube wouldn't bother them at all & they'd be glad to see her.

But can understand , I think if I was in that position I'd just go along with whatever she's comfortable with

Perhaps plan a nice romantic night in for the two of you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have polyathralgia which is joint pain immobility in over 50 percent of my body x maybe because i grew up with disability as my sister has cp and my ex hubby had spina bifida its more about the person for us x i dont care if u have extra parts to ya for example the chair or tube it doesnt change who you are as a person xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can understand where your wife is coming from op as she maybe concious of how she looks as i know i am when i use my walking sticks xx

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By *arthsoul OP Couple
over a year ago

not here

Hi guys. Female here! The tube and my weight loss have knocked my confidence in all honesty.

Thanks for all your answers and your PM's.

I am not really in a place to swing at present. The illness makes me feel sick a lot. I asked my OH to go alone to the party as I used to enjoy swinging but for a number of reasons, don't enjoy it anymore

I really do not think I can take the risk of anyone making comments as my confidence is at an all time low

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Would anyone out there have sex with a couple where one (or both) have a difference or a dsiability? not for the sympathy shag but actually who would look past a disablement?

Not saying either of us are disabled but we just wondered....

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i would,nt have a problem meeting a disabled couple

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi guys. Female here! The tube and my weight loss have knocked my confidence in all honesty.

Thanks for all your answers and your PM's.

I really do not think I can take the risk of anyone making comments as my confidence is at an all time low

Honestly it is between you both but, the beauty of playing with couples (and i have with several) is for me that they ARE a couple, yes your confidence might get knocked but then you need to just remember that other peoples opinions of you and their words mean fuck all, your you so illness and all so people need to just accept or depart, you cant live your life not taking the risk, go both of you and have a great time wether you swing or not.

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By *arthsoul OP Couple
over a year ago

not here

We have chatted about swinging this evening and I feel more comfortable at clubs to be honest.

It is something about the ease and the anonymity.

But not going while I have the tube in. People ask too many questions.

Maybe go to chams Newport once it has gone

or when I can insert it myself so I get a break from it! Either way I need to not be so obviously different!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have chatted about swinging this evening and I feel more comfortable at clubs to be honest.

It is something about the ease and the anonymity.

But not going while I have the tube in. People ask too many questions.

Maybe go to chams Newport once it has gone

or when I can insert it myself so I get a break from it! Either way I need to not be so obviously different!"

being different is not something bad it just IS peoples insecurities about the way you are are THEIR problem not yours , but as i say its your decision

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes i would and have in the past its the person that matters not what they are able or not able to do

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By *andy_tomMan
over a year ago

wolverhampton

"I think it depends on the disability. If I'm brutally honest. But I would compromise. I'm not a selfish person sexually and seeing the other person having a good time would turn me on and make me happy just like with an able bodied person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We have chatted about swinging this evening and I feel more comfortable at clubs to be honest.

It is something about the ease and the anonymity.

But not going while I have the tube in. People ask too many questions.

Maybe go to chams Newport once it has gone

or when I can insert it myself so I get a break from it! Either way I need to not be so obviously different!"

the problem is, no matter what other people think about your condition or situation, it makes you feel more uncomfortable than anyone else ever could, so i would tend to go with your gut feeling and do what you want to most of all.

as for a disabled couple?

we wouldnt say no, but as has been said, depends what disability and the effects thereof.

if its something which stops the male getting an erection, then there doesnt seem much point as V wouldnt get any extra man meat lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

purely depends on what disability they have , physical would not be to much problem, mentaly may have issues but a social first would decide yes or no

no reason they cant enjoy sex just like anyother person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You sound like a lovely couple and you are lucky to have the support around you. Why not take it as an opportunity to celebrate all the people that have supported you through this hard time. We made some great friends through some sites including this one who supported us through some hard times. Whatever decision you make we hope above all you gain confidence and do not give in to excluding yourself from the opportunity to socialise and let people find out how nice you are.

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By *r_and_MrsxxCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Great to read most people wouldn't be that bothered about meeting a couple where one is physically disabled.

I (Mr) can understand OP feeling uncomfortable about the party.

One of the reasons we joined Fab rather than go to a club or swinger hotel was that I thought I'd probably stick out like a sore thumb in my chair ?? Not sure as we've never been to one.

Had to laugh at a message we received saying our pics are hot like "Viagara on legs" .... The spinal injury left me with numb legs.

PS ...My sexual fantasy is sex standing up .....a distant memory.lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

mrs hedo has scoliosis curved spine, her shoulder blades are out of line and one noticeably pronounced, not had any comments at clubs or meets , we don't tell anyone and its not been noticed as far as we know, over the years she has become a lot more comfortable and less conscious of it

however lots do stare at her but that's the front veiw

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By *r_and_MrsxxCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

no reason they cant enjoy sex just like anyother person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would. I have dated a guy with one hand. I was eyeing up a good looking guy in a wheelchair only last week! If the attraction is there, it's there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there is a spark then yes same as anyone else. I had a one night stand with a girl in a chair, we met in a night club, chatted had a laugh and she invited me back to hers. Next morning I gave her my number and she was quite clear it was nothing more than a one night stand, which was a shame as she was great company, stunning and the sex was great

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By *lim_jim1964Man
over a year ago

peterborough

Wonderful thread, restored my faith in fab

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By *lim_jim1964Man
over a year ago

peterborough

Wonderful thread, restored my faith in fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had a wonderful date with a beautiful fit 25 yo guy in a wheelchair - he is one of my veri's - then fab fun at mine x so yes I have and would !!

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Would anyone out there have sex with a couple where one (or both) have a difference or a dsiability? not for the sympathy shag but actually who would look past a disablement?

Not saying either of us are disabled but we just wondered....

Depends on the disability but probably not.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"OP here. Thank you all for your encouraging replies. Especially the couple with a wheelchair. Here is the thing, we have been swinging for a few years and have a nice circle of friends that we see for a party 3-4 times a year. They have seen my wife lose weight from a size 14 to a size 8 in the last year due to chronic illness.

I met a man that had a Hackman line in place. I just couldn't relax, I kept worrying I'd pull it out of his heart, it was a truly disastrous meet.

I think if he'd been up front and I'd time to Google it things may have ended differently.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i havent tried any meets since my hips deteriorated and put me on sticks pending hip teplacement op ...my beautiful wife and i depend on hands relief a lot bcos of MY prob and MY immobility,,Tinas health - and looks - are A1

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By *D40Couple
over a year ago

Wolverhampton

"Hi guys. Female here! The tube and my weight loss have knocked my confidence in all honesty.

Thanks for all your answers and your PM's.

I really do not think I can take the risk of anyone making comments as my confidence is at an all time low

Just a thought but why don't you ask the hostess if shed like some help keeping guests stocked with drinks, putting music on, taking coats. You could ask them to mention it to other guests before so they are not shocked. That way you can enjoy the atmosphere, catch up with old friends & share your mans birthday.

I have a friend on a NGO drip occasionally & as someone looking at it it's not as awful as you imagine.

Go on, put your glad rags on & your lippy and see friends old & new

Julie xx

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By *attykitWoman
over a year ago

leeds

Was chatting with an ex Marine who only had one leg. Christ I would have done him till the views cane home. He was fit as. ......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd judge a disabled person same as anyone else and have had a bf in a previous life who was in a wheelchair. It's the person that counts.

But I'd echo as others have said, we're here for sexual fun, so that would have to be possible

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As long as they have their faculties they have the same rights as everybody else so yes i would have sex with them no probs

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By *arthsoul OP Couple
over a year ago

not here

I have a friend on a NGO drip occasionally & as someone looking at it it's not as awful as you imagine"

I know you were trying to help but actually this is my worst nightmare. I am really very sexually active, and John and I swing together, so the thought of being sat downstairs while hearing him fuck someone else upstairs while I am not able to do anything would be hard. I have been separated at parties before from him and that is fine while we are BOTH playing but if I am sat there being polite and chatting to everyone while he is having an amazing time, it would not do it for me, sorry

I will put a private picture on my profile though so people can see if they can cope with it if we do arrange a meet, thank you for the idea as it would break the ice x

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By *rnortholtMan
over a year ago

E Suffolk

Earth and Soul, I'm not meet material for you or close enough, but you seem a cple any sane person would be delighted to meet.

Believe it or not, some people do seem to see past the things that are worrying you.

Different scenario, but one that makes the point.

Few years ago, I went to a party where several women who had dressed to the nines, were getting all the attention.

A lady in reg jeans snd jumper caught my eye and I got talking to her and her husband and pretty soon we were upstairs having a fab time.

As soon as others saw what was happening, they were falling over trying to join us.

I guess the moral is, it only takes one person to see past the tube and the party will be on, so go enjoy yourselves and let somebody else collect the coats!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mental impairment - no.

Physical impairment - yes.

If it was such that I found them unattractive as a result then no, but in that sense the impairment would be no different to any other aspect of someone's appearance.

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By *isalikesitWoman
over a year ago

nottingham

I have and would again, if there is an attraction, there is a will and a way

I also went to the Night of the Senses Ball the other year and there were many people there with different disabilities and it certainly didn't stop them having fun.

As to the op, do whatever is comfortable for you. I can understand that having the tube in and the questions could make you feel uncomfortable but you may find you have a great time and it may help get your confidence back.

Good luck in whatever you decide.

Lisa

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By *mo-amas-amatMan
over a year ago

brighton

People are people, and that's life.

The ones who matter? No strife.

Off you go to the ball

Nothing matters. At all.

Enjoy it. And your very beautiful wife.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would depend on the disability to be honest.

I could have a relationship with someone with a disability as a relationship is about the person.

however (and I know this may not go down well ) swinging is about fullfilling the fantasy for us, and so if the disability detracts from that, then most likely it would stop me playing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im presently disabled due to mobility problems. It can stop my fun due to not being able to do some things but those ive played with know all about it and make allowances. I used to love going to chams but wouldnt manage the stairs. Meeting others with a disability wouldnt bother me because i like to get to know them first and the same rule applys to all.......if there is that "spark" and connection then its all go....and the "disability" dont matter

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By *rs dinglesCouple
over a year ago

lybster

I am classed as disabled i got a cochlear implant too help my hearing loss ,but i like too tell people before hand of any parties .because it only attached by a magnet too my head it does fall off at times and then i cant hear a thing at all

it nice hear about disablement tho in this forum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would defo fuck one mmmmm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would have no problem with it at all intact I had an old fb who was an amputee. Was quite a turn on doing something different for a change.

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By *hermin1Man
over a year ago

Nottingham

Without being offensive but i would love to have sex with a disabled person. It isn't out of some sick fetish or something but i am a compassionate and giving person who would love to bring a little bit of joy into someone's life (or for however long we spend together). I would see the intimacy as me fulfilling their needs just the way they like it and the thought of me doing that is internally very rewarding.

Again, i dont mean to be offensive with this post

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By *uited staffs guyMan
over a year ago

staffordshire

If I was attracted and our interests matched then absolutely, why not?

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By *arthsoul OP Couple
over a year ago

not here

Thank you everybody for commenting either yes you would or no you wouldn't, its your choice and your opinion. Two things stand out in this thread, firstly people have been honest about an emotive subject, secondly nobody has been ridiculed flamed or shouted at for having a differing opinion.

Even the trolls stayed away!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thank you everybody for commenting either yes you would or no you wouldn't, its your choice and your opinion. Two things stand out in this thread, firstly people have been honest about an emotive subject, secondly nobody has been ridiculed flamed or shouted at for having a differing opinion.

Even the trolls stayed away!"

being a troll is a disability in itself lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Define what is disabled.

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By *iss_tressWoman
over a year ago

London

"Would depend on the disability to be honest.

I could have a relationship with someone with a disability as a relationship is about the person.

however (and I know this may not go down well ) swinging is about fullfilling the fantasy for us, and so if the disability detracts from that, then most likely it would stop me playing."

I think that's what some people miss at times. There is a marked difference for some of us between who we'd have a relationship with and our fantasy playmate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Being honest as others say would depend on the disability. I doubt owt would put me off initially meeting but if for any reason i felt no attraction there would be no play and would do utmost to let person know its down to attraction not the disability but whether the person would assume its disability is another matter as would never intentionally make anyone either with disability or not feel bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest I think it depends on the disabilities. But as long as the person involved new what was happening and can enjoy the fun then I dont see a problem.

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